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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Leading on from a conversation with my hubby about playing (and why I'm not really any more) I was wondering....

When you play at clubs or parties, or basically anywhere that isn't pre-arranged in a bajillion messages beforehand to get to know each other, do you ever ask (or have you been asked) what your partner in play actually likes or do you just dive in with what you enjoy and hope it's well received?

Personally I have always tried to have an eye to eye moment to find out what makes them feel good... Can't remember the last time I was afforded the same courtesy though

Oh and "yeah, you like that don't ya!" doesn't count as asking!

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I think it would take the fun and spontaneity out of the encounter if your every move had to be vetted by the other party beforehand.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I would, can only see it leading to a better experience

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

I would, always. As more interested in the ladies needs. As opposed to my own.

Certain questions such as positions that give the most pleasure to the lady. Also does she like oral. Etc. should imho be asked. Also, I would always state that if you tell me or even guide my tongue or cock. Then all's good. I'm a bloke and I can't think straight while I multi task.

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

We always like a conversation first, whether that be formally or casual, especially if there’s any hard no’s like feet or bum etc.

Why would you want to potentially turn someone off all because you didn’t ask.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"Leading on from a conversation with my hubby about playing (and why I'm not really any more) I was wondering....

When you play at clubs or parties, or basically anywhere that isn't pre-arranged in a bajillion messages beforehand to get to know each other, do you ever ask (or have you been asked) what your partner in play actually likes or do you just dive in with what you enjoy and hope it's well received?

Personally I have always tried to have an eye to eye moment to find out what makes them feel good... Can't remember the last time I was afforded the same courtesy though

Oh and "yeah, you like that don't ya!" doesn't count as asking! "

In short yes.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"I think it would take the fun and spontaneity out of the encounter if your every move had to be vetted by the other party beforehand."
this for me. I rarely talk to my play partners before playing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely.

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