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"After a significant life event a few years ago I realised that I needed to change my priorities about who,and what, were important in my life and possibly become a little more selfish. Although it was a bumpy journey at times I am now far happier and much more confident as an individual than I was then and tend to worry less about the opinions of others. I have become less forgiving of ignorance and intolerance, but will give everything I can as a friend or family member to those that can accept me warts and all." That is a such a good way of looking at things I believe. If you learn to accept yourself whatever you are, then that makes it more easy for others to accept you - and if they do not... well they (and you) have the choice of not interacting with each other! | |||
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"Im learning that I shouldnt put myself down before other people do it and if people put me down then they've got a fight on there hands. its a long journey! ." I like the concept of it being a journey whcih means it is a continuing process. I also like the sound of emerging confidence which grows as we get older. | |||
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"how important my son and husband is to me even though we have had our ups and downs. they are the two people who i am closest to." So what you are saying is that in a life of possibly changing priorities... your family has stayed a top priority? I would agree with that statement | |||
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"After a significant life event a few years ago I realised that I needed to change my priorities about who,and what, were important in my life and possibly become a little more selfish. Although it was a bumpy journey at times I am now far happier and much more confident as an individual than I was then and tend to worry less about the opinions of others. I have become less forgiving of ignorance and intolerance, but will give everything I can as a friend or family member to those that can accept me warts and all.That is a such a good way of looking at things I believe. If you learn to accept yourself whatever you are, then that makes it more easy for others to accept you - and if they do not... well they (and you) have the choice of not interacting with each other! " Don't get me wrong, I still have my moments of self doubt and I'm sure most people do..but the balance of how much that is influenced by the opinions of others has changed a lot for the better. | |||
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"A friend of mine died then a good friend of K's died 2 days before her 50th (she was 5 weeks older than K) from then on we decided we will never know when it's our turn so we made the decision to enjoy life to the full. As long as we have enough to live on we now do exactly what we fancy when we fancy it rather than think what might be the sensible thing to do." | |||
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"A friend of mine died then a good friend of K's died 2 days before her 50th (she was 5 weeks older than K) from then on we decided we will never know when it's our turn so we made the decision to enjoy life to the full. As long as we have enough to live on we now do exactly what we fancy when we fancy it rather than think what might be the sensible thing to do." Same here, my best friend of 30 years died 3 years ago , he was the same age as me and it suddenly makes you want to do more and live for the moment now rather than in the future that might not happen....... hence being on here | |||
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"Thanks to everybody who has been contributing so far - I guess the gist for most is to enjoy life wherever possible as nobody knows just how much time we have got but we do know that we only have that one shot. Also it sounds like some have been evalutating work/ leisure balance in favour of working with less pressure and more time for enjoyment - something which I have decided for myself, too by changing careers a couple of years ago (for the 4th time lol) Some feel a greater appreciation of family values as they get older and while I have always had family as a top priority, I certainly live my time with them in a more conscious way.... meaning the ironing may suffer in favour of a board game, the cooking may be reduced to sandwiches in favour or a family walk. " | |||
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"Thanks to everybody who has been contributing so far - I guess the gist for most is to enjoy life wherever possible as nobody knows just how much time we have got but we do know that we only have that one shot. Also it sounds like some have been evalutating work/ leisure balance in favour of working with less pressure and more time for enjoyment - something which I have decided for myself, too by changing careers a couple of years ago (for the 4th time lol) Some feel a greater appreciation of family values as they get older and while I have always had family as a top priority, I certainly live my time with them in a more conscious way.... meaning the ironing may suffer in favour of a board game, the cooking may be reduced to sandwiches in favour or a family walk. " You know this is so funny - I had to read my OP again to remember what I was thinking this morning... oh heck old age setting in | |||
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"Thanks to everybody who has been contributing so far - I guess the gist for most is to enjoy life wherever possible as nobody knows just how much time we have got but we do know that we only have that one shot. Also it sounds like some have been evalutating work/ leisure balance in favour of working with less pressure and more time for enjoyment - something which I have decided for myself, too by changing careers a couple of years ago (for the 4th time lol) Some feel a greater appreciation of family values as they get older and while I have always had family as a top priority, I certainly live my time with them in a more conscious way.... meaning the ironing may suffer in favour of a board game, the cooking may be reduced to sandwiches in favour or a family walk. You know this is so funny - I had to read my OP again to remember what I was thinking this morning... oh heck old age setting in " Now you tread carefully, it was 10 hours ago you know | |||
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