FabSwingers.com forum: Accommodate

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is it that when a man cannot accommodate women seam to think you are married. But the majority of women on her dont seam to be able to accommodate either. So am I right to jump to conclusions that they must be married?

Yes I know us men will preety much do and say anything to get our dicks wet, but maybe just some of us have a valid reason for not accommodating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure there are many reasons for why people can't, or don't feel comfortable accommodating.

Perhaps their Mother lives next door and they don't want her to see a string of visitors traipsing up the drive.

Perhaps they have kids at home.

Perhaps they have a particularly volatile chihuahua they don't want to subject you to.

Perhaps they just don't like the idea of inviting a virtual stranger into their home.

There could be a myriad of reasons and one should not assume they are hiding something. Here's a thought - just ask them?

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I am not letting anyone I don't know very well into the place where I lay my head

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I am not letting anyone I don't know very well into the place where I lay my head"

Exactly!

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By *yclindaveMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Good question, I think because there is some men and it is some that will say or do anything to get their dicks wet, generally all men get tarred with the same brush, and in fairness men are far more likely to cheat than women.

Personally at the moment I can't but I put an explanation on my profile and have had ladies I've been speaking to comment on it and say it's nice I'm close to my parents. Roll on January though when my house is built and finished!!!!

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"I am not letting anyone I don't know very well into the place where I lay my head"

Fact

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It does seem to be a fab double standard.

I don't accom as it's mine and my partners home (he's here too).

Not accommodating alone doesn't mean someone is a cheat, they may have kids, flat share or not want strangers in their home.

There are usually other red flags if someone's sneaking around on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swings and roundabouts, no matter how genuine your reason for not accommodating, one of you has to, unless you’re into bushes hotels or cars.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

As you said it's all just

Jumping To Conclusions to assume..

My family home is not for filthy fuckery antics... hotels are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swings and roundabouts, no matter how genuine your reason for not accommodating, one of you has to, unless you’re into bushes hotels or cars. "

In which case this is easy to add to your bio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask.

Usually it's cause of shared accommodation or back with mum after seperation

I accommodate but only after knowing someone a while X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not letting anyone I don't know very well into the place where I lay my head"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh every guy who I’ve met who said he couldn’t accommodate has ended up being in a relationship. Now lots put they can even when they can’t…..

And yeah I guess double standards but a lot of woman don’t accommodate because of children at home

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Yes I know us men will preety much do and say anything to get our dicks wet, but maybe just some of us have a valid reason for not accommodating "

They might but if you want to avoid meeting married men rejecting those that can't accommodate gets rid of a very high proportion of them.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Now lots put they can even when they can’t…..

That's a major red flag for us.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I pay no heed to the assumptions people make about many different aspects of fab. Whats the old line to assume makes an ass of u and me.

I can accommodate, that fact alone doesn't mean to say I will, its still my choice whether I do or do not.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It is double standards, I think I’ve only been asked once why not.

Personally, everyone has their reasons why they don’t and I never assume, just ask the question if an issue.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Loads of reasons a man can’t accommodate. Doesn’t mean he’s married. Loads have their kids there sometimes. I wouldn’t have anyone coming to my kids home either. No chance.

Those assumptions piss me off.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I am married, but I live in a gated community and I cba to go through the faf with security to allow someone in.

So I dont accomodate.

And yes my husband knows

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It's typical fab double standards men are expected to explain why they can't and women are seen as being cautious when they can't.

I don't assume that someone is married when I see it I just think they are like me and wouldn't want to bring strangers to home straight away. I can accommodate I choose not to until I know someone well and have met them a few times .There is no way o would give a stranger my address on here. I also would not go to a guys house on a first meet I made that mistake once when we were meant to have coffee at his and never will again .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the can’t accommodate or travel people that amuse me. So where are you meeting, exactly?!

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I don't accommodate because I float between my mums house and my caravan where I work, neither of these places would be appropriate for me to invite people to.

I'm not in a relationship, I've never cheated and never will and when I have been in one I have always hidden my profile.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"It’s the can’t accommodate or travel people that amuse me. So where are you meeting, exactly?!"

Hotels? Clubs?

We don't accommodate because we have young children at home and our young adult son will be moving back soon.

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By *yclindaveMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"It’s the can’t accommodate or travel people that amuse me. So where are you meeting, exactly?!"

I wonder that as well? Genuinely confuses me. Though met a girl on tinder few weeks back couldn't accommodate lived with her sisters and didn't drive, asked me to arrange an Uber for her!

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I wouldn’t let a stranger into my house ever so will never accommodate

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"It’s the can’t accommodate or travel people that amuse me. So where are you meeting, exactly?!"

I used to say that just to annoy folks

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Tbh every guy who I’ve met who said he couldn’t accommodate has ended up being in a relationship. Now lots put they can even when they can’t…..

And yeah I guess double standards but a lot of woman don’t accommodate because of children at home "
it's not just women who have children

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s the can’t accommodate or travel people that amuse me. So where are you meeting, exactly?!

Hotels? Clubs?

We don't accommodate because we have young children at home and our young adult son will be moving back soon. "

To me, going to a hotel is travelling. Just me?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"It’s the can’t accommodate or travel people that amuse me. So where are you meeting, exactly?!

Hotels? Clubs?

We don't accommodate because we have young children at home and our young adult son will be moving back soon.

To me, going to a hotel is travelling. Just me?"

I agree but they might feel that a hotel in their home town doesn't constitute travel? Dunno.

Anyway, we don't accommodate either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My house mate wouldn’t appreciate me accommodating

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t accommodate, I live with my mum, two kids and two dogs.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

"It’s the can’t accommodate or travel people that amuse me. So where are you meeting, exactly?!"

Some people take 'can travel' to mean you will go hundreds of miles for a meet and you end up with messages from people from all over the place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s the can’t accommodate or travel people that amuse me. So where are you meeting, exactly?!

Some people take 'can travel' to mean you will go hundreds of miles for a meet and you end up with messages from people from all over the place. "

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loads of reasons a man can’t accommodate. Doesn’t mean he’s married. Loads have their kids there sometimes. I wouldn’t have anyone coming to my kids home either. No chance.

Those assumptions piss me off. "

Why thank you. I've had to explain this exact point on my profile. I can accommodate, but not until I know and trust someone as this is my family home half the week

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By *olymalelincsMan
over a year ago

southend

Same here I have 4 staffies and a mother who I care for and wouldn't want to subject a lovely woman to the four idiot dogs or the mother for that matter even though she knows I am on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that when a man cannot accommodate women seam to think you are married. But the majority of women on her dont seam to be able to accommodate either. So am I right to jump to conclusions that they must be married?

Yes I know us men will preety much do and say anything to get our dicks wet, but maybe just some of us have a valid reason for not accommodating "

Get are dicks wet ???wtf

See I like this sense of honesty cause you seem like one of the lads that in two days time will be asking for profile advice cause you get no attention!!??

And wonder why

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

Not every woman makes that assumption of men, just saying

Miss pc

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

Maybe women are more cautious for many reasons and guys are so happy to have a person wanting to hook up are more open… who knows I’m just chucking it out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbh every guy who I’ve met who said he couldn’t accommodate has ended up being in a relationship. Now lots put they can even when they can’t…..

And yeah I guess double standards but a lot of woman don’t accommodate because of children at home "

This!

I’m a single mum with a nasty little ankle biting dog…

so I don’t accommodate. But I do sometimes think it’s suspish when a guy (who doesn’t have kids) doesn’t accommodate (I know, I know double standards) and mostly it turns out they are married/in a relationship. Not tarring everyone with the same brush but so far that’s what I came across so far!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe women are more cautious for many reasons and guys are so happy to have a person wanting to hook up are more open… who knows I’m just chucking it out there

Ah sure we’r all just spit balling opinions

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