FabSwingers.com forum: why do guys mind

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Being called cute, sweet, etc.

It’s not always meant in a friend zone way. Sometimes you are cute or sweet etc.

Every guy I’ve met has always hated that. Weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well intentioned pet names are great, anything’s better than being called a cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind.....better than the antonyms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get called all sorts of cute names and I find them flattering to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's how you speak to small and wimpy women and children, not big and burly men

In all seriousness, lots of guys will take it as you being cheeky because it's not how they're used to being spoken to. Some really will have such fragile egos that they can't handle it though.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Being called cute, sweet, etc.

It’s not always meant in a friend zone way. Sometimes you are cute or sweet etc.

Every guy I’ve met has always hated that. Weird. "

Some don’t some some do , do women mind as well ?

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Call me anything you want I’ll take it haha

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Not how men , I'll say traditionally, might have changed now, want to be perceived.

Can you imagine Dirty Harry being called cute and sweet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Call me anything you want I’ll take it haha"

I bet you would

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Call me anything you want I’ll take it haha

I bet you would

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I guess it's because they're not perceived as being masculine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But if a guy does something to warrant those kinds of terms/names etc surely it shouldn’t dent their ego?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not how I would see myself but if it was said in a compliment I have no issues with it at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just call people what they want to be called, and don't call people what they don't want to be called

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate being called cute/ sweet. That isn't the language I'd use when I'm talking to someone with a view to getting sexy. I guess that's why they wouldn't like it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate being called cute/ sweet. That isn't the language I'd use when I'm talking to someone with a view to getting sexy. I guess that's why they wouldn't like it. "

I get where you’re coming from but if they do or say something which warrants that as a reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A baby is cute. A puppy is cute.

I don't want to be cute, I want to be sexy dammit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A baby is cute. A puppy is cute.

I don't want to be cute, I want to be sexy dammit

In many circles the obvious compliment is over used, and the lesser ones are often the ones with most impact. In motor racing they are all fast, but when one does something amazing the compliment for those in the know isn’t that they were fucking fast, it’s downgraded to being quick. That’s the ultimate compliment. They’re expected to be fast. Likewise if it’s obvious you’re sexy, adding additional qualifying superlatives is pointless, we know you’re sexy and that’s cute.

Sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like cute guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A baby is cute. A puppy is cute.

I don't want to be cute, I want to be sexy dammit

Oh you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A baby is cute. A puppy is cute.

I don't want to be cute, I want to be sexy dammit

I bet you still want your tummy tickled though

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

Generally I have been called ”sweet” just before being dumped or turned down.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

When I met Lorenzo his username was The_Cute_One. Women he sent his face picture to kept saying he's cute so used it as his username for years.

I still call him Cutie Pie on occasion and he doesn't seem to mind.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Beauty and cuteness is in the eyes of the beholder, so it's fine to share what you perceive. Some men have been pushed too much to portray a 1 dimensional 'man', that's got limited emotional depth.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I wouldn't have a problem with it. If a lady finds me attractive, that's very nice, and I'd be quite happy with her expressing it like that. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A baby is cute. A puppy is cute.

I don't want to be cute, I want to be sexy dammit

Cute is super sexy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind.

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

I don't care how you describe me, as long as it's not derogatory.

The fact you're talking about me in the first place is good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some don't have an allergic reaction to these words and I like that. It's sort of affectionate and there is a time and place for that too!

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

I have no problem being called any of those ...

I just wish it was more often

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Shouldn’t you just respect that they don’t like it and not do it?

Very entitled to think you have the right to call someone a pet name. Kinda sexist too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s not how I would see myself but if it was said in a compliment I have no issues with it at all"

You can be sweet at times though.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

You can call me cute...you can call me anything.... just call me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shouldn’t you just respect that they don’t like it and not do it?

Very entitled to think you have the right to call someone a pet name. Kinda sexist too. "

Shouldn’t you not assume that I am thinking I’m entitled. You shouldn’t make assumptions , assume makes an ass out of you and me …

I was having a conversation with a male friend and I said aww you’re cute and he implied he hates when woman say that and it sparked curiosity in me as to why!?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Shouldn’t you just respect that they don’t like it and not do it?

Very entitled to think you have the right to call someone a pet name. Kinda sexist too.

Shouldn’t you not assume that I am thinking I’m entitled. You shouldn’t make assumptions , assume makes an ass out of you and me …

I was having a conversation with a male friend and I said aww you’re cute and he implied he hates when woman say that and it sparked curiosity in me as to why!?

I call it as I see it. The thread reeks of “aww why can’t I call people names they don’t like? I like them!”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im cute af

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I say these things to my partners and they don't seem to mind. I also call them sick fucks, perverts and bastards. Life is about balance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care what you call me as long as you call me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think I'd dislike that its always nice to receive a compliment.

If we already had an existing relationship the context of it would also be clear enough and the look on your face as you said it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I say these things to my partners and they don't seem to mind. I also call them sick fucks, perverts and bastards. Life is about balance

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Haha I love calling someone I’m close to a dickhead or other terms of endearment. If I insult you I like you. I sent my ex a birthday card saying happy birthday to my favourite dickhead.

It’s a great word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say these things to my partners and they don't seem to mind. I also call them sick fucks, perverts and bastards. Life is about balance

Haha I love calling someone I’m close to a dickhead or other terms of endearment. If I insult you I like you. I sent my ex a birthday card saying happy birthday to my favourite dickhead.

It’s a great word "

I like that too. Haha, dickhead.

I don't mind being called sweet or cute (yes it has happened before) but I don't like it when people say I'm nice. But that's because of other stuff I think.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

I'd like 2 b called hot but not sure I will lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care. Tho will play like I'm offended.

I get the impression that men believe gals don't fuck cute. I'm sure some do, and some don't.

I suspect this comes from some guys not holding a sexual frame and get called called cute. So cute = unsexyal = friendzone.

But I'm cute as a button but also a deviant... All part of the disguise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say these things to my partners and they don't seem to mind. I also call them sick fucks, perverts and bastards. Life is about balance

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This I can work with. Tbh, it doesn't bother me..

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Well if I send a face pic and get called cute which happens a bit then I totally take that as a I've been marched to the friend zone.. I'm nearly 30 ffs

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Well if I send a face pic and get called cute which happens a bit then I totally take that as a I've been marched to the friend zone.. I'm nearly 30 ffs

Aw but you are a cutie

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'd like 2 b called hot but not sure I will lol x "

Hot knobhead...does that work??

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Well if I send a face pic and get called cute which happens a bit then I totally take that as a I've been marched to the friend zone.. I'm nearly 30 ffs

Aw but you are a cutie

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how dare you

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

"I'd like 2 b called hot but not sure I will lol x

Hot knobhead...does that work??

Any compliment will do wen u get 2 my age lol x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'd like 2 b called hot but not sure I will lol x

Hot knobhead...does that work??

Any compliment will do wen u get 2 my age lol x "

Join the club

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By *enm83Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Seriously, I love it

It's just people being kind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do ladies mind to be called babe, sweetie, cutie?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Why do ladies mind to be called babe, sweetie, cutie? "

The only thing I mind being called is a "good girl"....for some reason the gives me the creeps x

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Why do ladies mind to be called babe, sweetie, cutie?

The only thing I mind being called is a "good girl"....for some reason the gives me the creeps x"
yes that is weird

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Why do ladies mind to be called babe, sweetie, cutie?

The only thing I mind being called is a "good girl"....for some reason the gives me the creeps x yes that is weird

Instant turn off for me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do ladies mind to be called babe, sweetie, cutie?

The only thing I mind being called is a "good girl"....for some reason the gives me the creeps x yes that is weird

Instant turn off for me x"

I’m trying to think of situations where it might work but can’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do ladies mind to be called babe, sweetie, cutie?

The only thing I mind being called is a "good girl"....for some reason the gives me the creeps x"

That's because you are a bad girl, of course you don't like it

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Why do ladies mind to be called babe, sweetie, cutie?

The only thing I mind being called is a "good girl"....for some reason the gives me the creeps x

That's because you are a bad girl, of course you don't like it

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"A baby is cute. A puppy is cute.

I don't want to be cute, I want to be sexy dammit

Cute to me is good looking but then I spent 17 years in the states.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being called cute, sweet, etc.

It’s not always meant in a friend zone way. Sometimes you are cute or sweet etc.

Every guy I’ve met has always hated that. Weird. "

Imo I think it's not a very masculine thing to be called. If you see a guy a say to yourself "phwoar! He is fit! He is sexy af!" or something similar. Tell a guy that and it's makes them feel sexier. Calling a guy cute, it's something your mother, grandmother or auntie calls you lol

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By *ieandteaseMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire

"Being called cute, sweet, etc.

It’s not always meant in a friend zone way. Sometimes you are cute or sweet etc.

Every guy I’ve met has always hated that. Weird. "

You're meeting the wrong kind of guys?

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By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago

quite close to you

Some guys like it/don’t mind

Some guys hate it

I think there are two different meanings to the word ‘cute’ and how it’s used:

“Awww you’re cute” translates to “You remind me of my baby brother/puppy/child…awww I see you as a sexless friend”

“X is cute” translates as “X is good-looking/sexy…let’s see how this goes”

For me calling me cute is akin to calling something ‘nice’ - I’m not offended but it’s a Luke-warm compliment that just sounds like you don’t want to offend but you’re keeping it standard and safe.

Affectionate insults are much better in my mind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do ladies mind to be called babe, sweetie, cutie?

The only thing I mind being called is a "good girl"....for some reason the gives me the creeps x"

Total opposite for me haha they’re magic words to me. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shouldn’t you just respect that they don’t like it and not do it?

Very entitled to think you have the right to call someone a pet name. Kinda sexist too. "

It's not a pet name, it's a descriptive term

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"Well intentioned pet names are great, anything’s better than being called a cock

My friend from Bolton calls me a cock - but that’s a term of endearment

Lol took me a while to get it

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