FabSwingers.com forum: Which really is the most 'needy' gender?

By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Is one gender more needy than the other?

Does the neediness swtich genders at different life stages... for example great in younger women, but then greater in middle aged men?

Are people just born needy and needy for life... or does what's happening in our lives make us more or less needy at different time?

I need to know.... ha ha, see what I did there

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

At least 5 needy's

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to think youngsters are more needy than more mature ages. I'd say both sexes are the same sub 25

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hmm, I'm not sure if it's a gender thing or a personal thing, however I do think that perhaps media and suchlike may have some influence on some people.

We kinda get bombarded constantly on what we 'should' have and what the 'perfect' life 'should' be, and what WE should be. So I think lots of people feel inadequate when they don't have those things or those perfect relationships or perfect figures....

How these things are offered to us also changes due to trends. I think to a person lacking in self awareness and/or confidense it can caue them to seek some justification in their existence.

Also how people have been brought up and treated by their peers, when yer young it can take just one person saying the wrong thing to make ya feel pretty feck'n worthless, unfortunately that can require a whole lot of the right people doing and saying the right things to 'undo'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I believe neediness goes hand in hand with lack of self-confidence.

I have come across more needy women than needy men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always thought women are more needy than men, they are more interested in getting married and having kids, where as most men would prefer to have their freedom. of course i may be wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more needy I am the better my bread rises I find.........

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By *uby In StockingsTV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

androgynes, xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think being emotionally needy depends on your personal circumstances and confidence.

One could become more need after a certain situation.

There's a whole array of different needs but personally I've came across more needed females than males.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I think being emotionally needy depends on your personal circumstances and confidence.

One could become more need after a certain situation.

There's a whole array of different needs but personally I've came across more needed females than males."
I agree with your _iew on neediness being dependent on personal history, life experience, upbringing etc.

I am not genuinely not sure whether it is gender specific. Maybe women are just more open in their neediness whereas with men it does not show as quickly?

Neediness can present in many different ways, for example feeling "got at" when clearly one has not been, feeling rejected when another person only states a preference, feeling bullied when the other person only voiced an opinion diffferent from one's one and so on.

I also think neediness depends on timing, when we had a good day, been successful and generally happy we wont feel as needy as when things have gone wrong - in other words sensitivity can be related to neediness.

When I sense somebody is needy, I try to take that into consideration when formulating my response - when somebody is needy, upset etc they are really asking for support not further rejection and feeling listened to and heard is the door to improving things.

I know I have gone off the theme a bit, not intentionally hijacking the thread but I feel that "neediness" alone can sound a bit negative when really most of us can be needy of something at some point in our lives.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I meant ... "I am genuinely not sure "

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By *uby In StockingsTV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

Actually I just think human beings as a species are needy, i don't think any gender within the species has any claim to more needy than the other, it might just be that the neediness shows itself in different ways, xxx

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Actually I just think human beings as a species are needy, i don't think any gender within the species has any claim to more needy than the other, it might just be that the neediness shows itself in different ways, xxx

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especially in the run up to christmas it seems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men before intercourse and women post intercourse.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

some people need to leave their baggage where it belongs in the past. some are chasing an impossible dream. i think it applies to men and women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"some people need to leave their baggage where it belongs in the past. some are chasing an impossible dream. i think it applies to men and women"

Impossible dreams keep a lot of people going though don't they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"some people need to leave their baggage where it belongs in the past. some are chasing an impossible dream. i think it applies to men and women

Impossible dreams keep a lot of people going though don't they?

False hope though and it ends in tears usually.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"some people need to leave their baggage where it belongs in the past. some are chasing an impossible dream. i think it applies to men and women

Impossible dreams keep a lot of people going though don't they?

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until they ard 90 and realize they never found it. like looking for the holy grail

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I see little difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"some people need to leave their baggage where it belongs in the past. some are chasing an impossible dream. i think it applies to men and women

Impossible dreams keep a lot of people going though don't they?

until they ard 90 and realize they never found it. like looking for the holy grail"

Maybe I guess that's why so many 90yr olds are grumpy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here sadly its us women

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I'm not needy I'm wanty!

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

Who's most needy?

If shoes and bags are on the menu women!

If its football then I think I can safely the men win hands down!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I used to think it men but on here I think its women, unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have simple needs.

So, blondes it is then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we're talking on here I'd say women, by a smidge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put it this way, have you seen the length of some of the profiles on here?

I gave up looking for the piccies on one of them and went back to War and Peace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women easily. They need good looks, fit bodies, sense of humour, good personal hygiene etc etc, the list goes on. Most men need 1 x vagina. The easier the better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot on here after complements, assurance and flattery I must say and its not the geezers.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"There are a lot on here after complements, assurance and flattery I must say and its not the geezers.

You think not?? Look again.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are a lot on here after complements, assurance and flattery I must say and its not the geezers.

You think not?? Look again....."

I don't think I know! 100% no doubt on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are a lot on here after complements, assurance and flattery I must say and its not the geezers.

You think not?? Look again....."

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"There are a lot on here after complements, assurance and flattery I must say and its not the geezers.

You think not?? Look again.....

I don't think I know! 100% no doubt on that. "

There are plenty of men seeking the same - maybe you just failed to notice them.

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's the person not the gender.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the person not the gender."

Agreed

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

It has to be women, so sensitive about everything! Not all but a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need a cup of tea, any offers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ps i can bring cake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are a lot on here after complements, assurance and flattery I must say and its not the geezers.

You think not?? Look again.....

I don't think I know! 100% no doubt on that.

There are plenty of men seeking the same - maybe you just failed to notice them."

Nothing to fail to notice the thread is about most not if there are any of one gender or the other.you only have to look on here there are many more men than women but strangely the needy threads and comments are in the main women. Like I said there is no confusion at all woman are the 'most needy' gender by far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Needy is what another person makes the other person into, or wishes them to be, part of control.

Insecure people normally deal the insecure card.

If your not ( either sex) don't listen.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see many women asking for Big Beautiful Men, maybe "going ugly early" doesn't work for women?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"There are a lot on here after complements, assurance and flattery I must say and its not the geezers.

You think not?? Look again.....

I don't think I know! 100% no doubt on that.

There are plenty of men seeking the same - maybe you just failed to notice them.

Nothing to fail to notice the thread is about most not if there are any of one gender or the other. "

But that's not what you stated nor what I commented on, reread what you wrote and I replied. I repeat, there are plenty of men on here seeking assurance etc as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are a lot on here after complements, assurance and flattery I must say and its not the geezers.

You think not?? Look again.....

I don't think I know! 100% no doubt on that.

There are plenty of men seeking the same - maybe you just failed to notice them.

Nothing to fail to notice the thread is about most not if there are any of one gender or the other.

But that's not what you stated nor what I commented on, reread what you wrote and I replied. I repeat, there are plenty of men on here seeking assurance etc as well."

I'll pass you are far too needy here on this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair there are a lot more men that do the "look at me" thread than anyone else and that could be seen as needy.

Maybe the ladies here are more demanding but that's not the same thing

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"There are a lot on here after complements, assurance and flattery I must say and its not the geezers.

You think not?? Look again.....

I don't think I know! 100% no doubt on that.

There are plenty of men seeking the same - maybe you just failed to notice them.

Nothing to fail to notice the thread is about most not if there are any of one gender or the other.

But that's not what you stated nor what I commented on, reread what you wrote and I replied. I repeat, there are plenty of men on here seeking assurance etc as well.

I'll pass you are far too needy here on this!

Lol, yea right!!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"To be fair there are a lot more men that do the "look at me" thread than anyone else and that could be seen as needy.

Maybe the ladies here are more demanding but that's not the same thing

They are more overt too - it is more acceptable for a women to express their neediness, men have to dress it up as something else generally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair there are a lot more men that do the "look at me" thread than anyone else and that could be seen as needy.

Maybe the ladies here are more demanding but that's not the same thing

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"If we're talking on here I'd say women, by a smidge."

From what I see: women by a landslide...it's embarrassing!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"There are a lot on here after complements, assurance and flattery I must say and its not the geezers.

Agreed, just look at the best bod/tits type threads to see them vying for attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men before intercourse and women post intercourse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are a lot on here after complements, assurance and flattery I must say and its not the geezers.

Agreed, just look at the best bod/tits type threads to see them vying for attention."

whilst that's very true ^^ could be said for a lot of threads in the forum ~ looking for attention / affirmation / flattery / getting your profile noticed etc.

I don't think any women start the 'who has has got the best boob/body threads' or the 'would you date me' ones.

I'm not sure if it's all neediness or whether it's just playing the game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

women are more needy than men on here, so desperate to be liked and admired.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

TG - unless you've been on a TG night out, you'd not believe how we hoover up compliments about our look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"women are more needy than men on here, so desperate to be liked and admired.

I get the same opinion reading things here at times too it makes me cringe reading some of it.

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