FabSwingers.com forum: Meet ups

By *ver the hill for fab OP Man
over a year ago

LONDON

Right people who thought by joining this site they would have unlimited sex with their chosen gender be it male/female/gay/Tvs/ts/crossdress/couples have i missed any one be truthful also have you ever refused a female who wanted to meet you i thought the site would be better i usually only get messages from guys

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I send a few first messages. Sometimes they're deleted, sometimes I get a thanks but no thanks message, sometimes I have a chat but it doesn't go anywhere.

Clearly some guys do turn down women to whom they're not attracted, it would be a bit weird if they didn't!

I didn't sign up imagining unlimited sex on tap (not quite that naive), so that aspect wasn't a huge shock to me.

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By *ver the hill for fab OP Man
over a year ago

LONDON

"I send a few first messages. Sometimes they're deleted, sometimes I get a thanks but no thanks message, sometimes I have a chat but it doesn't go anywhere.

Clearly some guys do turn down women to whom they're not attracted, it would be a bit weird if they didn't!

I didn't sign up imagining unlimited sex on tap (not quite that naive), so that aspect wasn't a huge shock to me."
i must admit i did think it would be a bit easier

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

"I send a few first messages. Sometimes they're deleted, sometimes I get a thanks but no thanks message, sometimes I have a chat but it doesn't go anywhere.

Clearly some guys do turn down women to whom they're not attracted, it would be a bit weird if they didn't!

I send a few and get abuse then blocked b4 even can reply bk

I didn't sign up imagining unlimited sex on tap (not quite that naive), so that aspect wasn't a huge shock to me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had no expectations joining this other than to get in touch with the people that I had met at a club. I was told by them it’s how we all keep in touch…

I’ve turned people down I’m not attracted or no connection.

If you want my honest outlook I think when you have expectations of it being easy then I think you are setting yourself for disappointment…

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By *ver the hill for fab OP Man
over a year ago

LONDON

"I had no expectations joining this other than to get in touch with the people that I had met at a club. I was told by them it’s how we all keep in touch…

I’ve turned people down I’m not attracted or no connection.

If you want my honest outlook I think when you have expectations of it being easy then I think you are setting yourself for disappointment…

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I've had some good meets with Tvs ts no females unfortunately most of the meets I've had were on fabguys and another site

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

It's very rare that someone will make the first move and contact me but I have been on this site so long that it has happened. Those few times it has happened, they have never been my type so I never let it go any further than a response via the fab messaging system

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

I came here for a nose and found the banter on the forums and in chat was so much fun - way before I even thought about meeting.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I have had no thank you's, but usually they quietly fade out and stop replying.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I send a few first messages. Sometimes they're deleted, sometimes I get a thanks but no thanks message, sometimes I have a chat but it doesn't go anywhere.

Clearly some guys do turn down women to whom they're not attracted, it would be a bit weird if they didn't!

I didn't sign up imagining unlimited sex on tap (not quite that naive), so that aspect wasn't a huge shock to me.i must admit i did think it would be a bit easier "

Why? (I don't mean this in a dickish way) Why would you think it easier to meet women here? They're still people with preferences and attractions so you still have to take the time to find that mix of two-way attraction, and especially distance with Fab.

LvM

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By *ver the hill for fab OP Man
over a year ago

LONDON

Age seems to play a huge part on here and cock size of course all of us average dicks must stay home and insert appropriate word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've gave up trying/looking.. so no expectations or disappointment for me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have turned women down in the past for various reasons OP mostly due to the connection not being right.

When you set expectations that it what you then measure against.

I’m not sure why you thought it would be easier on ‘here’ though this seems to be a common misconception from a majority of men.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I joined with zero expectations.

I've had replies of no thanks or my messages deleted after being read (anyone who says they haven't had some sort of rejection on here are lying) we can't be everyone's cup of tea.

It's not #sexontap!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

The longer you are swinging and on fab , you more you understand it , the more contacts you make, and the more sex you will get. What that means is that most people here for a few years are established, have multiple partners, fwb’s etc and have more than enough people available to them for sex when they want it.

So new people will struggle unless they are exceptional, male and female, only difference with female is they will get all kinds of weirdo attention because there’s more male freaks !

You have to deal with the reality not your assumptions, so if you just want sex quickly it’s the wrong place for most.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I joined with zero expectations.

I've had replies of no thanks or my messages deleted after being read (anyone who says they haven't had some sort of rejection on here are lying) we can't be everyone's cup of tea.

It's not #sexontap! "

If you were my tap you’d be turned on full all the time!! See what I did? Not bad for Friday morning!! Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm starting to give up on Fab entirely.. some on here have their standards set too high and then some simply don't reply..

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By *ver the hill for fab OP Man
over a year ago

LONDON

"I joined with zero expectations.

I've had replies of no thanks or my messages deleted after being read (anyone who says they haven't had some sort of rejection on here are lying) we can't be everyone's cup of tea.

It's not #sexontap! "
i honestly can't see why you would be rejected it's silly some of the standards some people set on this site you are a very attractive woman

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

"Right people who thought by joining this site they would have unlimited sex with their chosen gender be it male/female/gay/Tvs/ts/crossdress/couples have i missed any one be truthful also have you ever refused a female who wanted to meet you i thought the site would be better i usually only get messages from guys "

Yep we have politely said no to many genders & persuasions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm starting to give up on Fab entirely.. some on here have their standards set too high and then some simply don't reply.."

I personally don’t see the issue with a no reply. It’s to be took as not interested/no (in the FAQs) and a softer blow than being told no.

Don’t give up

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I joined with zero expectations.

I've had replies of no thanks or my messages deleted after being read (anyone who says they haven't had some sort of rejection on here are lying) we can't be everyone's cup of tea.

It's not #sexontap! i honestly can't see why you would be rejected it's silly some of the standards some people set on this site you are a very attractive woman "

It's not about standards at all but attraction/preferences etc. I know I won't appeal to all and that's absolutely fine with me. You will get there OP but it will take time.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I joined with zero expectations.

I've had replies of no thanks or my messages deleted after being read (anyone who says they haven't had some sort of rejection on here are lying) we can't be everyone's cup of tea.

It's not #sexontap!

If you were my tap you’d be turned on full all the time!! See what I did? Not bad for Friday morning!! Xxx"

Very witty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often had rejections and given a fair few of my own, it's part of the game of fab, you win sometimes and other times you just want to walk away.

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By *ver the hill for fab OP Man
over a year ago

LONDON

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy who suggested this site to me said I'd be able to fuck as many men as I wanted. He was right. I get loads of offers even with no pics and no profile text.

I could shag a few men every day if I wanted to. And still have more asking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guy who suggested this site to me said I'd be able to fuck as many men as I wanted. He was right. I get loads of offers even with no pics and no profile text.

I could shag a few men every day if I wanted to. And still have more asking. "

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"The guy who suggested this site to me said I'd be able to fuck as many men as I wanted. He was right. I get loads of offers even with no pics and no profile text.

I could shag a few men every day if I wanted to. And still have more asking. "

Now see the lass who suggested I join was dead wrong

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"The guy who suggested this site to me said I'd be able to fuck as many men as I wanted. He was right. I get loads of offers even with no pics and no profile text.

I could shag a few men every day if I wanted to. And still have more asking. "

Would you ever consider any of them knowing that they don't even care what you look like that is the question. Some People moan about people's being too high, but it's also nice to meet someone with at least some standards isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guy who suggested this site to me said I'd be able to fuck as many men as I wanted. He was right. I get loads of offers even with no pics and no profile text.

I could shag a few men every day if I wanted to. And still have more asking.

Some say they find the lack of info intriguing. They seem the type who would chat and then give an honest answer if they were attracted to me or not.

Others would just fuck anything warm and wet. That works for some people.

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By *assie101Woman
over a year ago

Kent

It's all about connection and attraction.

Male or female, if someone is willing to meet and have sex on the strength of one thumbnail picture of my cleavage, I'm just going to pass as it says to me they aren't fussy. Literally anyone will do.

The most successful guys I have previously had the pleasure of coming across have been articulate, funny,engaging and interested. All before even meeting. My mind has to be switched in before my body will cooperate.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"The guy who suggested this site to me said I'd be able to fuck as many men as I wanted. He was right. I get loads of offers even with no pics and no profile text.

I could shag a few men every day if I wanted to. And still have more asking.

Some say they find the lack of info intriguing. They seem the type who would chat and then give an honest answer if they were attracted to me or not.

Others would just fuck anything warm and wet. That works for some people. "

Ha ha I'd pass them a cup of tea and say stick your dick in this and knock yourself out

But then I am a grumpy old git

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

This is a warning to all you happy singled this is you one day...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d imagine 99.9% of people who’ve sent a first message on here have either been blanked, message deleted or had a polite no thanks. Shit happens, don’t let it get to you and move on. If it’s happening constantly maybe try and change your approach

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"I joined with zero expectations.

I've had replies of no thanks or my messages deleted after being read (anyone who says they haven't had some sort of rejection on here are lying) we can't be everyone's cup of tea.

It's not #sexontap! "

Precisely. I just go with the flow, enjoy the forums, be devoid of any agenda or preconceived expectations.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

A few years ago when I moved from the barren lands of a single man profile to a couple profile with my FWB I thought the sex drout would be over. Yeah!!! Let me at it!!

I soon found circa 75% of men on here are wankers who have no intention of meeting. 20% of those who agree to meet actually turn up. 25% of those who turn up are actually worth having.

So the grass may be greener but there is precious little of it.

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

"Age seems to play a huge part on here and cock size of course all of us average dicks must stay home and insert appropriate word"

Yes, OP, people have preferences. Like they have preferences on every social media platform designed to bring people together and like they have preferences out there in the world.

If you walked into a pub would you expect every woman to want to shag you? I'm guessing not. This is no different. Just because we like sex doesn't mean we like sex with everyone.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I'm starting to give up on Fab entirely.. some on here have their standards set too high and then some simply don't reply.."

Who are you to decide if someone's standards are "too high"? My standards are my standards. Yours are yours. That's it.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I had no expectations joining here but I certainly had no illusions about how it all worked.

I haven't sent a first contact message in almost 2 years so every conversation in that time has been initiated by others.

I have turned down numerous couples asking to meet in their first or second message and numerous women who have obviously not read my profile or assumed that it is just for appearance sake and feel they only have to offer and I will come running.

If someone is prepared to take the time to get to know me and in turn allow me to know them rather than have one way conversations then anything is possible.

Patience is a virtue and that applies equally to those getting in touch.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Try again fucked up last one. I only get abusive messages or just straight blokes not sure what I have done but there is a few that are ok still won’t meet but ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More hope than expectation

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

No we didn't expect unlimited sex, but we didn't want that anyway.

Yes we have turned down people (men, women and couples) who were interested in meeting us because we weren't what we were looking for, despite some of them being physically very attractive.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Not us as we aren’t just looking for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm starting to give up on Fab entirely.. some on here have their standards set too high and then some simply don't reply.."

I’m not sure what you mean by they have their standards set too high?

Are you saying that they should lower them just because you can’t raise yourself to theirs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t believe it was possible to have sex with so many people until I joined this site. If I wanted to, I could have sex with 10 or more new men every day.

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By *ver the hill for fab OP Man
over a year ago

LONDON

"I didn’t believe it was possible to have sex with so many people until I joined this site. If I wanted to, I could have sex with 10 or more new men every day. "
and the rest

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Age seems to play a huge part on here and cock size of course all of us average dicks must stay home and insert appropriate word"

You can look at it that way but I will guarantee you there are guys older than you having great fun on here. There are guys with smaller cocks having great fun on here.

It's not an easy experience if you're expecting instant access to all the sex you could possibly desire, but if you're socially adept, willing to join in, and able to start the sort of interesting and engaging conversations that make people want to chat to you then over time you will create the sort of connections that might lead to more.

In complete honesty I expected it to be easier to find FWB/FB arrangements with people I liked on here. I based that on how easily I'd found them on hookup sites. BUT... They almost always ended badly on hookup sites, which is why I'm on here. I am happy to spend the time and effort involved here to find the sort of arrangements I really want. Along the way I'm having a great time and a very good laugh.

Only you can decide whether that payoff is worthwhile for you or if you're better off on one of the sites you find easier. If it's causing you stress or it's dragging you down, maybe it's time to reassess what it is you want and what is the best way to go about finding it.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I had no expectations when I joined , on the contrary being in my early 40’s back then I thought I was way past it and was surprised to get any attention.

On here like in all walks of life people have preference though, and we can’t be everyone’s cuppa.

We all get knocks back, men probably more than women but I get my fair share of no thank you or other variations of rebuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your first question. No, I didn’t expect unlimited sex

Your second question. Yes, I have declined sexual advances from women.

I don’t know what people expect from a ‘website’. It’s the people I expect something from - friendliness, a little banter and some respect. If I didn’t find or see this here, I would leave the ‘website’.

Don’t expect anything and you might find something you didn’t expect.

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