FabSwingers.com forum: Reason for Divorce?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What was your reason? And could you not have avoided it, touchy subject but many relationships have ended without both trying to reach a compromise

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

We didn't love each other and in fact preferred to be apart.

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being married was reason enough

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By *hunderace...Man
over a year ago

Dudley

They were both cows, each one was as bad as the udder...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They were both cows, each one was as bad as the udder...

Ahh see what you did there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We didn't love each other and in fact preferred to be apart.

Gbat "

Does that happen naturally then? I take it nothing else held you both back?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Ask

Rex holes

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

She gave me the elbow because ...

I've been working on a cocktail called grounds for divorce ...

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By *hunderace...Man
over a year ago

Dudley

"They were both cows, each one was as bad as the udder...

Ahh see what you did there

Well I don't want to milk it but they were...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A drug addict son and how we dealt with him . Me he gets no money from us but the ex here's lots of money everytime he made up an excuse for something he said he needed that never appeared and depression on my part . Very much wise I was still with her but he's still at home with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deceit has to be up there...!

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

He cheated on me

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By *ooliganMan
over a year ago

Preston

The grass was greener... Much greener! Never looked back

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I left my marriage 5 years ago because of abuse

My decree absolute came through around 6 weeks ago

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By *ooliganMan
over a year ago

Preston

"My decree absolute came through around 6 weeks ago "

Congratulations... It's a weird feeling but in my case drew a big fat line under all that had gone before. Life started that day!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I was divorced over 40 years ago.

The main reasons were his compulsive lying and addiction to gambling. Secondary reason was cultural differences.

The only thing that could have saved that relationship was complete personality change by both of us. Disastrous mistake from which I learned many useful lessons.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Lying.

She caught me lying with her sister.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I left my marriage 5 years ago because of abuse

My decree absolute came through around 6 weeks ago "

Thank goodness you got out and got rid!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The grass was greener... Much greener! Never looked back

Yeah but why?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was divorced over 40 years ago.

The main reasons were his compulsive lying and addiction to gambling. Secondary reason was cultural differences.

The only thing that could have saved that relationship was complete personality change by both of us. Disastrous mistake from which I learned many useful lessons. "

Wow really? It sounds like you were very incompatible, I can compromise but can't completely change who you are

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

"She gave me the elbow because ...

I've been working on a cocktail called grounds for divorce ...

That’s a seldom seen reason

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By *ustcurious1000Couple
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Domestic abuse sadly

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By *eandher4and9Couple
over a year ago

leeds

My ex was a big fat lazy tw**.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I fell out of lust with him. I was gutted but divorce was the right thing.

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

my ex wife wanted a divorce, I did not but as usual she got her way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I left him because he was abusive to me

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I was divorced over 40 years ago.

The main reasons were his compulsive lying and addiction to gambling. Secondary reason was cultural differences.

The only thing that could have saved that relationship was complete personality change by both of us. Disastrous mistake from which I learned many useful lessons.

Wow really? It sounds like you were very incompatible, I can compromise but can't completely change who you are"

The main incompatibility was my refusal to accept his lies or him putting his entire month's salary on the back of a horse

. There was also the occasion when he told me that he lied to test how far I would go to support him. It's funny to look back on

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I just didn’t like the bitch

The ONLY thing we had in common was we got married on the same day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She gave me the elbow because ...

I've been working on a cocktail called grounds for divorce ...

Bloody good tune that.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"Does that happen naturally then? I take it nothing else held you both back?"

We were separated for a few years before we bothered to get divorced.

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Domestic abuse, lies, the constant other women. Stealing from me. So much more that I won’t go into. Got my decree nisi last November x

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

"I left my marriage 5 years ago because of abuse

My decree absolute came through around 6 weeks ago "

Well done for getting out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah avoided it by never getting married don't believe in marriage so definitely swerved it just kicked her out changed the locks never talked again easy.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No one needs a reason.

If you are not fulfilled ( and I don't just mean sex ) then get out.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Yeah avoided it by never getting married don't believe in marriage so definitely swerved it just kicked her out changed the locks never talked again easy."

Story made in heaven.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

We grew apart but his anger was an issue.

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By *inkyeroticaCouple
over a year ago

Ampthill

Her DV towards me (C) … myself and kids still have injunctions against her. She is the purest incarnation of evil. Some other poor sod is enjoying the truth of discovery now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah avoided it by never getting married don't believe in marriage so definitely swerved it just kicked her out changed the locks never talked again easy.

Story made in heaven."
she wasn't no angel

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By *ornyfuckers66Couple
over a year ago

fife

First one couldn’t give me kids then the second time bloody kids. Drinker actually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He was a serial cheater..

Gaslighted me

Worst present buyer as he was a tight arse…bottle of Radox & CD presented to me in a Morrisons bag one Xmas day (the same year he bought himself a convertible Audi)

The list is endless…

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By *hunderace...Man
over a year ago

Dudley

"Domestic abuse, lies, the constant other women. Stealing from me. So much more that I won’t go into. Got my decree nisi last November x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took 9+ years to file for divorce after that length of separation.

The marriage came to an end due to what's now known as "coercive abuse" for myself and 3 kids. I snapped one day and made a choice to end the marriage and change my life around the age of 40.

I woke up one day feeling that I didn't recognise my previously bubbly self, his negativity rubbing off in me, after putting up with so much shit, neglect, no affection, being constantly undermined, watched my kids be treated differently to each other, the eldest manhandled and thrown out of her home for something very stupid, they all suffered bar one who was close to her dad. She then grew up and realised differently. The coercion happens all so very subtly and no one sees it happening however certain behaviours were obvious like his temper and the fear we sometimes felt.

Yeah. It's been a hard 10 years but I've survived and enjoying life very much now!

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

Some people don’t want to compromise, they are perfect wonderful beings who do nothing wrong, all the other persons fault! Narcissism at its finest! Miss pc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It took 9+ years to file for divorce after that length of separation.

The marriage came to an end due to what's now known as "coercive abuse" for myself and 3 kids. I snapped one day and made a choice to end the marriage and change my life around the age of 40.

Yeah. It's been a hard 10 years but I've survived and enjoying life very much now!

Good for you, my ex was very much the same. I just feel guilty for the years I spent putting up with it and what I put the kids through by staying. X

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By *nowknightMan
over a year ago

BRADFORD

"I left my marriage 5 years ago because of abuse

My decree absolute came through around 6 weeks ago "

Can feel for you my deceased wife her ex was verbally and physically abusive. The divorce was her "fault" according to her strict Irish/English Catholic family not that he had gone off with a 10 year younger version if her.

It did not stop until I confronted him on doorstep and in a very pleasant manner informed him, that if he threatened her ever again and left "a blank open ending".

He understood within seconds, then did same for her abusive parents ( her father bashed her )

I hope you find all the lucky in the world and peace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good for you, my ex was very much the same. I just feel guilty for the years I spent putting up with it and what I put the kids through by staying. X "

21 years married at that point and I too felt guilty for not ending it sooner because some of the damage to the kids would have been much less than it was. I wasn't ready and couldn't leave for fear that he would have had us homeless etc. Needless to say my 2 eldest kids don't want anything to do with their father not that he's interested anyways (thankfully!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good for you, my ex was very much the same. I just feel guilty for the years I spent putting up with it and what I put the kids through by staying. X "

I should have said "thank you and glad to hear you also got out and survived" x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dodged that bullet thankfully…

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Because he was a controlling psychopath bully x

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"They were both cows, each one was as bad as the udder...

Time to moove on to pastures new and stop crying over spilt milk. When sweet turns sour: the sweet life is over.

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By *astlincscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Tinsel Town

He hit me several times in front of my son, then tried to throw me down the stairs.

It was a very easy decision to make.

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

We grew apart and divorced because it was the fair thing to do for both of us...we remained amicable and friends and he got remarried to a lovely woman..my kids at the time didn't even realise we were going through a divorce it was so amicable...a lovely guy just fell out of love ...

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Good for you, my ex was very much the same. I just feel guilty for the years I spent putting up with it and what I put the kids through by staying. X

Similar story here, I thought I was protecting my kids by staying with him but he was doing the same to them, didn’t recognise myself, crying walking to work and decided to end it - still supported him financially and emotionally for 5 years after separation until someone told me about narcissistic personality disorder a d I then went on a road to recovery. 10 years now since we first split and I’m loving life, he has remarried but our boys have no contact with him and he controls his new wife very well

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

"What was your reason? And could you not have avoided it, touchy subject but many relationships have ended without both trying to reach a compromise

I very much doubt the decision to divorce is taken lightly ie nothing that a simple bit of compromising wouldn't sort out

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

If only schools taught about divorce. In the same way that police and fire brigade, explain to school kids the dangers of drink driving and the damage it causes.

This stupid Princess-for-a-day, doesn't always end well.

Ask the Spencers.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Dave was actually the reason for Caroline's divorce!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good for you, my ex was very much the same. I just feel guilty for the years I spent putting up with it and what I put the kids through by staying. X

I should have said "thank you and glad to hear you also got out and survived" x"

You’re welcome, I served 22 years. We’re definitely survivors x

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

She cheated on me. First thing I knew about it was when she said she needed some time apart. Said she wasn't cheating just needed a break. I few odd things started to add up and I discovered she was cheating when I dug a bit. I confronted her and she manipulated things to make me believe despite the evidence I had gone completely mad and paranoid. Made me think I'm the bad guy who needed my head looking at. Turns outs now I see in the clear of day she was a very maniputive woman. Put me in the darkest place I've ever been before. I offered her a way back, to save our marriage. But I set boundaries that she continued break. I think arrogantly she thought she could do what she wanted and walk back in when things got shit for her like me and the kids were some kind of plan B. As hard as it was for me I said no more and started divorce proceedings based on adultery and got divorced. When the smoke cleared it was me, an infant boy and young girl starting a new life. It was a scary and uncertain time. I was left in the end literally holding the baby.

Now I couldn't be a happier. De-programmed from her mind games, self aware/assured and engaged to the beautiful and amazing woman you see with me here.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Didn't love each other.

Both decided we were miserable and felt each other deserved to be happy.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

He was a d*ug taking, alcoholic, who had an affair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got married far too young (both 20). Had 3 kids, for the first 9 years we were plodding along, then I turned 30 and had a wild year, we had another 5 good years after my then husband forgave me, he then went and did the same thing and we both realised we were better off apart.

There wasn't much shouting as we wanted to maintain a good relationship for our boys, which we have to this day (it will be 7 years next Wednesday that we split).

Sometimes your first loves are not always your lasts. I am glad I had that time as I have my boys but I am so much happier in this marriage, for so many different reasons and I can't thank Fab enough for being around!

Danish x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She preferred to find comfort in other peoples beds through our rough patches then to work on our marriage together. I took her back the first time for the kids sake but not the second

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By *mizhereMan
over a year ago

Thame Area

She got into drugs and secret debt

Came to a head when a couple of blokes turned up and kicked the doors in

Bitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a married person living a single life, but with the benefits of neither

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I didn't actually love him. He was an ok bloke but I wasn't happy.

And then he had an affair and I genuinely didn't care.... so figured I should probably cut him loose. Still took 2 years to find the courage though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She wanted the divorce, citing some petty things that had happened in the past. Though initially shocked it gave me the distance to see how manipulative and controlling she'd been throughout the marriage. I'm much happier on my own.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

He lied, about everything even what he'd eaten for dinner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dave was actually the reason for Caroline's divorce!

Affair?

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By *ue and robCouple
over a year ago

ware

She wanted new cars nice house nice clothes newest designer gear for the kids best of everything I didn't mind because I loved her and my kids but I had to work hard long days overtime at weekends to pay for it all but it was worth it coming home to my family.

Then she ran off with my best mate because I was never at home !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because he was an emotionally abusive twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because he was an emotionally abusive twat"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She wanted new cars nice house nice clothes newest designer gear for the kids best of everything I didn't mind because I loved her and my kids but I had to work hard long days overtime at weekends to pay for it all but it was worth it coming home to my family.

Then she ran off with my best mate because I was never at home !!

I can sympathise there mate. She was happy to splash the cash but never happy that I was busy working so she could spend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because he was an emotionally abusive twat"

Atleast you saw it and got outta there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Religious differences..... He thought he was God, I disagreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I realised he isn't right for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because he was an emotionally abusive twat

Atleast you saw it and got outta there"

The most scared I’ve ever been

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because he was an emotionally abusive twat

Atleast you saw it and got outta there

The most scared I’ve ever been "

I bet! But you're in a better position without him. Nobody needs that kind of person in their lives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because he was an emotionally abusive twat

Atleast you saw it and got outta there

The most scared I’ve ever been

I bet! But you're in a better position without him. Nobody needs that kind of person in their lives"

Too right

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Abuse, both kinds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grew apart and fell out of love, more so on my part, I divorced him but he agreed we were better off as friends in the end.

No regrets at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just at the beginning of this journey, not because he is an awful person or husband (quite the opposite) but because after many years together we have become very different in our views and outlook.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What was your reason? And could you not have avoided it, touchy subject but many relationships have ended without both trying to reach a compromise

Basically - he broke his vows (to love and cherish me)

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"What was your reason? And could you not have avoided it, touchy subject but many relationships have ended without both trying to reach a compromise

Years of being, beaten, gaslighted and general abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Emotional abuse, controlling, stole from me, was very lazy. The way he has cut all contact from our son has proved I did right divorcing him. He is a sad low life.

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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago

Nearer than you think

Domestic violence.

Shout out to all on this thread who've freed themselves from similarly fucked-up individuals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She was a liar and a cheat so 7 years ago I walked out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She was a liar and a cheat so 7 years ago I walked out "

Oh and 4 year ago got divorced

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By *yantico86Man
over a year ago

drumchapel

We and my ex got married to young

Turned out we wanted completely different things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then she ran off with my best mate because I was never at home !!

Ex best mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My childhood sweetheart turned into an alcoholic, a gambling addict and a monster who broke my arm in two places right before my England trials. He ruined my life and all my aspirations. Divorce was the only option.

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By *evil-AngelWoman
over a year ago

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He cheated, we tried to work it out but he decided he needed her in his life as a friend so I ended it.

I always knew how manipulative he was but being so happy since we broke up has made me realise how much of an effect it had on me.

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

My husband was great at mental n physiological abuse. Brought me down as far as anyone could , I still wanted to try get the person I fell for bk but was never going to happen without destroying me so no divorce ended up the only option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re both straight and both women.

It was never going to last.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Engaged but never tied the knot. I stopped loving him. Didn't realise it at the time but it was because he gaslighted me for nearly 20 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Engaged but never tied the knot. I stopped loving him. Didn't realise it at the time but it was because he gaslighted me for nearly 20 years. "

At the time, why did you think you had stopped loving him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Engaged but never tied the knot. I stopped loving him. Didn't realise it at the time but it was because he gaslighted me for nearly 20 years.

At the time, why did you think you had stopped loving him?"

I think the sex played a big part, he was quite selfish. And I'd realised I was kinky. I blamed myself. He was quite selfish in lots of ways, but I didn't see the full picture until later.

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

My ex was a cheating, narcissistic, abusive asshole. The marriage wasn’t salvageable and lasted longer than it should have.

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By *rthur WrightusMan
over a year ago

Round the Bend

Married young, we both worked very hard, had three children, she was very controlling, I made decision to sell my family business, within 6 months she was having affair and moved out. Expensive divorce settlement, solicitors made a fortune, consolation in that three late teenage kids stayed with me and kept me sane, 15 years on, two refuse to have anything to do with her to this day, and I've had time of my life

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

He had an affair. I was working evenings. He used to invite her to the house, while my young children in bed.

He also had " addictions" diugs and drinking.

I found out the affair and chucked him out.

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

So sad to read so many people in abusive relationships, physical or otherwise. Nobody should ever have to suffer in that way and well done everyone who got out and moved on with their lives. Sadly of course there are still so many who are probably still suffering abusive relationships.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"He was a serial cheater..

Gaslighted me

Worst present buyer as he was a tight arse…bottle of Radox & CD presented to me in a Morrisons bag one Xmas day (the same year he bought himself a convertible Audi)

The list is endless…"

Look on the bright side ... it could have been a Poundstretcher's bag.

and a proper car.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Many reasons. He had an angry management issue - luckily nothing abusive but just wearing. I was never in love with him. I met someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Left the washing up for me to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lying.

She caught me lying with her sister......."

Ultimate betrayal

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By *aptain OrgMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"She cheated on me. First thing I knew about it was when she said she needed some time apart. Said she wasn't cheating just needed a break. I few odd things started to add up and I discovered she was cheating when I dug a bit. I confronted her and she manipulated things to make me believe despite the evidence I had gone completely mad and paranoid. Made me think I'm the bad guy who needed my head looking at. Turns outs now I see in the clear of day she was a very maniputive woman. Put me in the darkest place I've ever been before. I offered her a way back, to save our marriage. But I set boundaries that she continued break. I think arrogantly she thought she could do what she wanted and walk back in when things got shit for her like me and the kids were some kind of plan B. As hard as it was for me I said no more and started divorce proceedings based on adultery and got divorced. When the smoke cleared it was me, an infant boy and young girl starting a new life. It was a scary and uncertain time. I was left in the end literally holding the baby.

Now I couldn't be a happier. De-programmed from her mind games, self aware/assured and engaged to the beautiful and amazing woman you see with me here. "

Absolutely fantastic, mate. Well done to you. Must have been a really tough road but we’ll worth it.

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By *asygoingcouple2022Couple
over a year ago

The moon

Domestic violence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was deployed he had no job. He used my finances to fuel his " Needs" while I was gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Transvesisism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave my husband a list to take to his solicitor. It was all my unreasonable behaviour and the reasons we could no longer stay together.

It was the only way to get the divorce. He had to make me the villain.

It kinda shows how spectacularly bad our marriage was really.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Never had a divorce. I feel like I've missed out on a life experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They were both cows, each one was as bad as the udder...

I hear that, they were milking it for sure

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By *asygoingcouple2022Couple
over a year ago

The moon

"Never had a divorce. I feel like I've missed out on a life experience."

It cost me thousands to get divorced as he couldn’t know where I was (I was living in a different country to get away from him) your not missing anything x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a common thing, I’m going through a similar situation, I just feel it’s sad that people forget the good so easily and do the opposite of what’s right

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Looks like it's number three for me.

Isn't life fab.

#thinkimdefinitelyovermyweddingcakeaddiction

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By *asygoingcouple2022Couple
over a year ago

The moon

"Looks like it's number three for me.

Isn't life fab.

#thinkimdefinitelyovermyweddingcakeaddiction"

I will make you wedding cake without the wedding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks like it's number three for me.

Isn't life fab.

#thinkimdefinitelyovermyweddingcakeaddiction"

Hope you are ok. Xx

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By *achel SmythTV/TS
over a year ago

Farnborough

"Transvesisism"

This!

R x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Constant gaslighting, to the point that I thought I was actually going crazy.

I tried really hard but it takes two people. Did I make mistake, yes of course I did but he made it impossible to trust him.

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

Not dealing with our problems started the downward spiral, in the end we felt more like house mates than hubby n wife,I don't regret it one bit, he's had a personality transplant several times since, I'm alot happier n it's been 11 yrs of happiness

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

No matter what I did how hard I worked and she never had to want for anything. It was still not enough everything was my fault. The best thing that came out of my marriage are my 4 beautiful kiss love them so much

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Typo lol four beautiful kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Emotional abuse

Gaslighting

Sexual coercion

Refusing to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leaving the toilet seat down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I.left and never went back. Never got divorced as i will.never marry again. He now has someone who refers to him as her husband. Not sure if he remarried but on the data base he has not divorced me.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Manipulation but the ship sailed before it was anchored

ie unfaithful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I.left and never went back. Never got divorced as i will.never marry again. He now has someone who refers to him as her husband. Not sure if he remarried but on the data base he has not divorced me. "

Perhaps look into the financial implications of still being married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been married and don't think I will ever want to.

It's so sad that people we once cared very deeply for can sometimes end so bitterly.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

I caught her cheating a couple of months after my Mother died… no way back from that

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I've never been married and don't think I will ever want to.

It's so sad that people we once cared very deeply for can sometimes end so bitterly. "

One lovely day things will suddenly change obviously for the better and you'll think totally different it's a scary world so hanging in there

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

The sign in the window saying "half price divorces this Black Friday"

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands

We were never close if the truth were told.

All we ever shared was a taste in clothes.

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

Ive never been married , but have had long term relationship, i left him after he told me I wasn’t good enough for him, 3 months after i left he wanted me back , i never did go back

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Wasn’t married but together 15 year with 2 kids, the end started way back in 2014 when she cheated then ran off with someone else then asked me to come back after she realised it was a mistake, I never forgave her for it as there was no real apology or remorse and she actually rubbed it in what she did a few times. There were happy times since then but was always up and down, the end came in 2021 when a lass I never thought would look twice at me talked to me in a bar and made her interest clear while I was down Kent I politely declined but it stirred up loads of different emotions had I made a mistake ect as pathetic as it sounds I fell for her a bit once home it all just caused more a aggravation and eventually she moved out

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By *ony 2016Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield /derby cinemas

She accused me of thinking more about football than I did of her , I was quite hurt by her saying that , bearing in mind we had been married for 7 seasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He cheated after 22years and wanted out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Domestic violence throughout the ten years we were together, I started committing adultery which I have no shame over the bastard deserved it. Before anyone feels sympathy for the scum bag he abandoned his kids left me to raise them and proud to say I did a fantastic job. In case you’re wondering it was a forced arranged marriage a practice common in the south Asian community.

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