FabSwingers.com forum: Best way to end a long term relationship

By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

So how have you found the time and way to end a relationship.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Surely they just end if they are supposed to, finding ways to end it is confusing to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how have you found the time and way to end a relationship. "

Carrier pigeon!

It’s bringing bad news but there pretty cute so it softens the blow

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"Surely they just end if they are supposed to, finding ways to end it is confusing to me"

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"So how have you found the time and way to end a relationship.

Carrier pigeon!

It’s bringing bad news but there pretty cute so it softens the blow"

Like that idea

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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Sit down face to face and tell them xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sit down with no distractions and just be honest about the reasons why.

There is no nice way to do this especially if both feel like it hasn’t run it’s full course.

Hopefully there will have been discussions previously about what isn’t working within the relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how have you found the time and way to end a relationship.

Carrier pigeon!

It’s bringing bad news but there pretty cute so it softens the blow

Like that idea "

not sure who’s worse me writing it or you liking it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plan what you are going to say first so you don't wonder off topic or allow him to cut in and divert the conversation.

Then sit him down and say you have something to tell him and just go through with it.

He will likely do the but ill change and are you sure it's what you want routine but if you have thought it through just stick to your guns and best of luck its a very hard thing to do under any circumstance xx

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"Sit down with no distractions and just be honest about the reasons why.

There is no nice way to do this especially if both feel like it hasn’t run it’s full course.

Hopefully there will have been discussions previously about what isn’t working within the

relationship. "

Yes and all I get is he needs Time

I asked if he was coming to London in January as we always do for an even plus its his birthday and I got no . So he not even going to try and I can't keep this up its killing me living like this with him I just hate hurting or the feeling of yet another failure but I've tried

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sit down with each other and talk.

He sounds like he isn't much of a talker so just make sure you don't beat around the bush, but give an explanation as to why it's come to this point and if anything has accelerated it.

If you're got interests (children, house, cars etc) make sure you know what you want and see if his wants also align.

Sending love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ended my marriage by letter it was the only way he wouldn’t try to change my mind and he had all my reasons in black and white. The guilt is horrible but it does get easier, sort of.

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

"Sit down with no distractions and just be honest about the reasons why.

There is no nice way to do this especially if both feel like it hasn’t run it’s full course.

Hopefully there will have been discussions previously about what isn’t working within the

relationship.

Yes and all I get is he needs Time

I think you need to agree how long this "time" is. And then sit down at the end of the time and see if things have changed. If not you both must agree on a path forwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simon and Garfunkel have some ideas

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Sit down and talk. I ended my marriage and it was the hardest conversation I’ve ever had. But I loved him enough to try to explain as far as I could and we remain friends. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how have you found the time and way to end a relationship. "

Don’t get in one

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Take them somewhere public and just do it.

Have all the stuff they’ve left at yours packed up ahead of time so you can just throw it in their car

If you live together it’s tougher, I’d just have my stuff packed up and ready to go

It’s like pulling a plaster. Be quick. Get it over with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take them somewhere public and just do it.

Have all the stuff they’ve left at yours packed up ahead of time so you can just throw it in their car

If you live together it’s tougher, I’d just have my stuff packed up and ready to go

It’s like pulling a plaster. Be quick. Get it over with "

Somewhere public - thats rough. I couldnt do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take them somewhere public and just do it.

Have all the stuff they’ve left at yours packed up ahead of time so you can just throw it in their car

If you live together it’s tougher, I’d just have my stuff packed up and ready to go

It’s like pulling a plaster. Be quick. Get it over with "

This approach would work if you where talking about an escort that overstayed her welcome and left some shit behind !!!

That’s cold

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Take them somewhere public and just do it.

Have all the stuff they’ve left at yours packed up ahead of time so you can just throw it in their car

If you live together it’s tougher, I’d just have my stuff packed up and ready to go

It’s like pulling a plaster. Be quick. Get it over with

This approach would work if you where talking about an escort that overstayed her welcome and left some shit behind !!!

That’s cold "

Aww why would you send flowers???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take them somewhere public and just do it.

Have all the stuff they’ve left at yours packed up ahead of time so you can just throw it in their car

If you live together it’s tougher, I’d just have my stuff packed up and ready to go

It’s like pulling a plaster. Be quick. Get it over with

This approach would work if you where talking about an escort that overstayed her welcome and left some shit behind !!!

That’s cold

Aww why would you send flowers???"

I bought you some didn’t I ?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Take them somewhere public and just do it.

Have all the stuff they’ve left at yours packed up ahead of time so you can just throw it in their car

If you live together it’s tougher, I’d just have my stuff packed up and ready to go

It’s like pulling a plaster. Be quick. Get it over with

This approach would work if you where talking about an escort that overstayed her welcome and left some shit behind !!!

That’s cold "

Why do escorts keep leaving stuff at your house

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Take them somewhere public and just do it.

Have all the stuff they’ve left at yours packed up ahead of time so you can just throw it in their car

If you live together it’s tougher, I’d just have my stuff packed up and ready to go

It’s like pulling a plaster. Be quick. Get it over with

Somewhere public - thats rough. I couldnt do that"

That's what he tried doing to me

I didn't leave

I have his Egg

Inside me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unsolicited text message best way

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

Send him the link to this thread

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Just tell 'em to f**k off... simple...innit

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"So how have you found the time and way to end a relationship.

Carrier pigeon!

It’s bringing bad news but there pretty cute so it softens the blow

Like that idea

not sure who’s worse me writing it or you liking it

Well put a smile on my face

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By *hatterbox 2Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

op why does it say on your profile your just friends and in relationships with others hmmm

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"So how have you found the time and way to end a relationship.

Don’t get in one

I'm not again lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sit down with no distractions and just be honest about the reasons why.

There is no nice way to do this especially if both feel like it hasn’t run it’s full course.

Hopefully there will have been discussions previously about what isn’t working within the

relationship.

Yes and all I get is he needs Time

We all have failures in life it’s how we deal and learn from this failures that matter.

You have to take care of you first and remember his actions are his to own. You do not need to be constantly giving time. You have given enough already.

The hardest conversations are always the ones worth having

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"Sit down and talk. I ended my marriage and it was the hardest conversation I’ve ever had. But I loved him enough to try to explain as far as I could and we remain friends. Good luck

We talked he told me he had fallen out of love and didn't love me anymore he left for a week and came back , I keep telling him I want to try but I get I know but I need time but he not trying in any way.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Not easy but once u take the bull by the horns and do it feel so much better x

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Honesty. No bull shit. As swiftly as possible.

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"Sit down with no distractions and just be honest about the reasons why.

There is no nice way to do this especially if both feel like it hasn’t run it’s full course.

Hopefully there will have been discussions previously about what isn’t working within the

Thank you x

relationship.

Yes and all I get is he needs Time

We all have failures in life it’s how we deal and learn from this failures that matter.

You have to take care of you first and remember his actions are his to own. You do not need to be constantly giving time. You have given enough already.

The hardest conversations are always the ones worth having "

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Slip out the back, Jack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After 20 years,he died. That worked really well

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"OP do you want to end your

Relationship with someone?"

Been in a relationship for 16 years for past 6 years there been not sex .. that I could deal with ref occasionally meet for a bit .. but psst 4 years not a kiss or a hug of him we had words end of July he told me he wasn't in love with me but talked him into taking a week away to think it over he came back and still nothing even said no to going away together I can't do it any longer rather go bk to.being on my own. So yes trying to pluck the nerve up

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Barbershop quartet….. can’t be mad at that

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"Barbershop quartet….. can’t be mad at that

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like that

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Sit down with no distractions and just be honest about the reasons why.

There is no nice way to do this especially if both feel like it hasn’t run it’s full course.

Hopefully there will have been discussions previously about what isn’t working within the

relationship.

Yes and all I get is he needs Time

I don't think you should see it as a failure, it's something that has run it's course. If he has said he doesn't love you anymore then it should be easier than finishing with someone who will try to cling on to the relationship. I don't know if this is true with others, but my relationships have each time been better, so don't think of it as a failure, or an ending, think of it as an exciting new beginning, good luck OP

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Make a new plan, Stan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how have you found the time and way to end a relationship. "

You'll just have to sit him down, have a clear mental script and avoid any of his digressions as to why you should stay together.

I went through something similar with my last long term relationship of 6 years except he was a narcissist and flipped every thing back to me.

So, even when I knew it was over, he had me hanging on as to whether we were together or not and I had to just wait and wait on him tell me it was over. Was such a relief when he eventually did. As we had our own places, most discussions happened via texting

and I didn't have to see him in person.

I do hope you you get to the point where you can be free and true to yourself. (((hugs)))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take them to the cemetery and when they ask who died say our relationship. Leave them there to grieve.

Job done.

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

ending the relationship is the easy bit, sorting out the finance where to live etc is difficult & gets really nasty in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sit down and talk. I ended my marriage and it was the hardest conversation I’ve ever had. But I loved him enough to try to explain as far as I could and we remain friends. Good luck

Decision has already been made then. Just discuss who gets the house etc. Online divorce sites are only about £500 and very easy if you've already agreed the split. Then you can live again.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

"Just tell 'em to f**k off... simple...innit

Simple comes to mind alright

What? ..

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

A Instagram post

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By *urvytreatWoman
over a year ago

somewhere nice

When my ex hubby and I split we sat down and talked. I told him that he knew he wasn’t trapped and was free to go. I asked him if he wanted to leave and he said yes, and with in 10 minutes he’d packed a bag and was gone. Hurt like hell, but at least it was done nice and quick. Things were uneasy until after the divorce, but we’ve now got a good friendship which is what we’d promised each other, that we’d stay friends.

Just sit him down, be honest and very straight to the point. Then ask him to leave or you leave. Very painful but makes it clear that it’s over.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"OP do you want to end your

Relationship with someone?

So tell him xxx and be happy x

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Talk it through with them with honesty and respect. Don’t be a coward. Answer their questions if you can.

Parting with kindness is testament to the kind of person that you are and will be the lasting memory of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Talk it through with them with honesty and respect. Don’t be a coward. Answer their questions if you can.

Parting with kindness is testament to the kind of person that you are and will be the lasting memory of you"

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

"Talk it through with them with honesty and respect. Don’t be a coward. Answer their questions if you can.

Parting with kindness is testament to the kind of person that you are and will be the lasting memory of you"

This! Couldn’t have put it better x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Morse code

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By *elsh-guyMan
over a year ago

The land of the Dragon and loads of sheep

As I've said on my profile I'm in one we have spoken and waited till after Christmas for the kids we both think it's time to end it after a long talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amicably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get on the bus?

Make a new plan?

Drop off the key?

Get yourself free

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I’m in the same boat op so was hoping this would help but it didn’t he must be mad not wanting you. Does he know your on here?

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By *azylivingMan
over a year ago

random location

"So how have you found the time and way to end a relationship. "

Like ripping off a plaster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let’s try not to derail this thread from the OP who is asking for advice on a serious matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take them to the cemetery and when they ask who died say our relationship. Leave them there to grieve.

Job done."

Love your style

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Not by text! Lol on a serious note theirs no easy way really? Just sit down and tell them. Just be polite and try to end it on good terms! At the end of the day you loved them at one point. Unless they are an ass, Well i don't see why it can't be done in a healthy and civilised way. Good luck OP x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Sit them down and just be honest x

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Surely they just end if they are supposed to, finding ways to end it is confusing to me

I just don't know how to tell him it's over .. bit of a coward he's told me I August he didn't love me anymore hasn't touched me in 5 yrs that incudes kisses n cuddles I've hoped he would change bk but he not even trying ."
Wow really? You deserve better. Why stay with someone who clearly doesn't give you affection or attention? It sounds really unhealthy. x

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By *enny PR9TV/TS
over a year ago

Southport

As the dolphins said just before the Earth is destroyed and they left for their new home planet; 'So long and thanks for all the fish'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kill her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plan what you are going to say first so you don't wonder off topic or allow him to cut in and divert the conversation.

Then sit him down and say you have something to tell him and just go through with it.

I agree with this….good luck hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone here ever been told by a text ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m

Sure I replied with a sensible reply to this but it’s not there. Now I’m

Thinking there must be a serious supportive reply in another thread that is totally unrelated and ill probably look a little nuts

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"Not by text! Lol on a serious note theirs no easy way really? Just sit down and tell them. Just be polite and try to end it on good terms! At the end of the day you loved them at one point. Unless they are an ass, Well i don't see why it can't be done in a healthy and civilised way. Good luck OP x

Stupid things is i still do love him but can't go on like this anymore .

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"Take them to the cemetery and when they ask who died say our relationship. Leave them there to grieve.

Job done.

Love your style

That made me smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how have you found the time and way to end a relationship.

Carrier pigeon!

It’s bringing bad news but there pretty cute so it softens the blow"

It didn't help Speckled Jim!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sit them down and just be honest x"

You'd better take a seat....

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"I’m in the same boat op so was hoping this would help but it didn’t he must be mad not wanting you. Does he know your on here?"

No he doesn't know he not touched me in 6 years but played away, as wrong as it is I needed some affection and excitement.

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"When my ex hubby and I split we sat down and talked. I told him that he knew he wasn’t trapped and was free to go. I asked him if he wanted to leave and he said yes, and with in 10 minutes he’d packed a bag and was gone. Hurt like hell, but at least it was done nice and quick. Things were uneasy until after the divorce, but we’ve now got a good friendship which is what we’d promised each other, that we’d stay friends.

Just sit him down, be honest and very straight to the point. Then ask him to leave or you leave. Very painful but makes it clear that it’s over."

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you decided what you will do about living etc. If you have a clear plan in your head about your next steps just sit down and explain what you are going to do and how you feel.

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

Dear John by the time you read this letter I will be gone.....

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

You just have to do it. You owe the other person a face to face conversation. Unless they are abusive in which case go quietly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP - have you considered private counselling - sometimes the last thing we need is hundreds of opinions, although we would really like to know, the best thing to do! Relate might be worth a look. Do what feels right for you, be it a letter, a phone call or a conversation face to face. Having left a long term sexless relationship, one thing I can tell you is, it gets a whole lot sexier after

Good luck!

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"Have you decided what you will do about living etc. If you have a clear plan in your head about your next steps just sit down and explain what you are going to do and how you feel. "

When he told me end of July he didn't love me anymore he said I could have the house as I do own alot of it as i sold my house to buy it with him as he didn't own anything. But I'd have to sell.as I can't afford mortgage on my own .

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"Hi OP - have you considered private counselling - sometimes the last thing we need is hundreds of opinions, although we would really like to know, the best thing to do! Relate might be worth a look. Do what feels right for you, be it a letter, a phone call or a conversation face to face. Having left a long term sexless relationship, one thing I can tell you is, it gets a whole lot sexier after

Good luck!"

I've asked him about counciling he said no..he just needs time but it's how much time with being treated this way . I said I wanted to do counciling but he adamant no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck!

I've asked him about counciling he said no..he just needs time but it's how much time with being treated this way . I said I wanted to do counciling but he adamant no

You’re allowed to put yourself first and if you want it, you can try it. Message me if you want to chat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Text message

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Stupid things is i still do love him but can't go on like this anymore . "
Aww sorry! It must be horrible if you still love him. But do you love yourself enough to deserve better? It's your life hun so you do what is best for you, But being happy is the most important thing. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone here ever been told by a text ?

Aye, me! After almost 6 years together!

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

Stupid things is i still do love him but can't go on like this anymore . Aww sorry! It must be horrible if you still love him. But do you love yourself enough to deserve better? It's your life hun so you do what is best for you, But being happy is the most important thing. x

I know life too short not to be happy xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come home after a double shift to find her ex husband sitting in the lounge, drinking coffee and chatting. She had eaten but not left anything for me but dirty dishes in the sink, been home all day but nothing done. No dogs walked, no food for me, no washing done, piss and dog shit in the kitchen etc etc…. That was it. Had shower went to bed and packed bags in the morning, left everything else behind. Suddenly she realized how much I did for her and asked me back… of course I said no to which I was called all the c@@@s under the sun and then the rumors started. funny how that works innit?

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"Come home after a double shift to find her ex husband sitting in the lounge, drinking coffee and chatting. She had eaten but not left anything for me but dirty dishes in the sink, been home all day but nothing done. No dogs walked, no food for me, no washing done, piss and dog shit in the kitchen etc etc…. That was it. Had shower went to bed and packed bags in the morning, left everything else behind. Suddenly she realized how much I did for her and asked me back… of course I said no to which I was called all the c@@@s under the sun and then the rumors started. funny how that works innit? "

Got the opposite leave here at 5.30am get home 9pm.i do myself something to eat he never cleans up or do DIY if I'm off the next day he leaves the washing up for me to do the next day says its my day off what's wrong with that. Not that I get day off because I've worked 12.5 hour shift rather than normal 9 to 5

In do the weekly shop and sort the finances out

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Be clear and be firm op

I've seen your comments on other threads.

If he doesn't love you, why would he want you to stay.

Make sure you have somewhere to go if you're leaving the home and be brave

Good luck

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By *ingerJezabelWoman
over a year ago

ilminster

It's easy. Get out usually works for me. Or straight up I don't love you anymore. But I'm a bit of a bitch.

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By *KMaxMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Slip out the back Jack

Make a new plan Stan

There must be 50 ways

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

He's already made the decision for you.

Tell him it's time for him to leave and start a new life.

It seems to me you're the one hanging on to the relationship.

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By *he Cram-BetweensCouple
over a year ago

A Club or Your Bedroom!

"Take them somewhere public and just do it.

Have all the stuff they’ve left at yours packed up ahead of time so you can just throw it in their car

If you live together it’s tougher, I’d just have my stuff packed up and ready to go

It’s like pulling a plaster. Be quick. Get it over with "

Wow in public, that's harsh lol

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By *he Cram-BetweensCouple
over a year ago

A Club or Your Bedroom!

It's such a hard call to make, I feel for you xxx but you have the right to be happy and dosnt sound like he's making you happy. Have a private chat but like most have said have it written down so it dosnt go off track. Bless you lovley, sending you cuddles xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest you take a break from Fab, ditch the swinging friend and have a serious conversation with the partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely they just end if they are supposed to, finding ways to end it is confusing to me

Just got to be honest, tell him, unfortunately that's the only way.

Mrs

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Sit down and talk. I ended my marriage and it was the hardest conversation I’ve ever had. But I loved him enough to try to explain as far as I could and we remain friends. Good luck

Decision has already been made then. Just discuss who gets the house etc. Online divorce sites are only about £500 and very easy if you've already agreed the split. Then you can live again.

I was thinking the same, sounds like he’s already ended it and you just need to move on / move out etc

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

I know life too short not to be happy xxx"
So true! Well you know what you have to do. hugs xox

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

It sounds like your relationship has been over for a long time and it seems like you both know it deep down.

You need to have an honest talk and find a way how you can both get through this with as little bitterness as possible. Yes it will hurt but you are both hurting now anyway. Sounds like you will both be happier apart in the long run.

Good luck with it all.

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By *not123 OP Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"I would suggest you take a break from Fab, ditch the swinging friend and have a serious conversation with the partner.

Not been meeting anyone off fab for a long time and p we meet for coffee and chats and been my rock. My partner is the one buggering off every other weekend saying he gone fishing and other funny business.

Talking I've tried talking I've tried to get him to do counciling I've told him how much I'm hurting and so need to be cuddled abd kissed .. he isn't interested Vs just shouts at me

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

I'm sure Paul Simon had the answer to this...50 ways to leave your lover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

According to Paul Simon there are are 50 ways to leave your lover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by partner at 03/11/21 23:13:06]"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure Paul Simon had the answer to this...50 ways to leave your lover."

Great minds PT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure Paul Simon had the answer to this...50 ways to leave your lover.

Great minds PT"

Personally I’d like to slip out the back jack................if push came to shove

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

On a serious note. Write it down, then hand it too him. Stay in the room when he reads it. That way your message gets across, whilst the lump grows in your throat. The silence will be deafening, but the message will get through.

Hope that helps.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"I'm sure Paul Simon had the answer to this...50 ways to leave your lover.

Great minds PT"

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sit down face to face and tell them xx"

Maybe sit down on his face and tell him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely they just end if they are supposed to, finding ways to end it is confusing to me

I’ve always found that telling my partner I don’t love her and not touching her for 5 years is an effective way to end a relationship. I’m being cruel to be kind by saying this....it sounds like your relationship was over a long time ago but neither of you want to admit it or face up to it.

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By *ick1962Man
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Be kind, be honest and be gentle. Take your time, let them speak, let them get used to it and talk some more. It's the most hurtful thing you can go through and I know this, it's impossible to do this without hurt but get it right and it will be better for both in the long run, don't forget it was good at some point and you don't want to destroy that. Good luck.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

"I’m in the same boat op so was hoping this would help but it didn’t he must be mad not wanting you. Does he know your on here?

No he doesn't know he not touched me in 6 years but played away, as wrong as it is I needed some affection and excitement.

I wasn’t meaning it in a judging way I my misses doesn’t know I’m here either it was just if he did then it may have been easier to tell him. I would love to touch you. As you say it’s hard when you love somebody and they don’t want to touch you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP do you want to end your

Relationship with someone?

So tell him xxx and be happy x"

It’s been a while

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

My last relationship ended by text message. I was 38 with a 6 month old child at the time and was finished because I'd "let myself go"

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By *he Cram-BetweensCouple
over a year ago

A Club or Your Bedroom!

"My last relationship ended by text message. I was 38 with a 6 month old child at the time and was finished because I'd "let myself go""

That's awful to read xxx and I hope the knob gets all the luck in the world NOT...selfish twat. Hope you're OK now and happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My last relationship ended by text message. I was 38 with a 6 month old child at the time and was finished because I'd "let myself go""

Be great if you could bang up a photo of this gods gift to women !!!

If anything you got a lucky escape any man that can be that low what else is he capable of !!

All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best way is quickly! Make any arrangements necessary before you have the discussion... face to face! In a private place! Expect strong emotions on both sides and be strong! But the quicker the process the better for all parties! Imho

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

Got to fake your own death and move to Brazil, it’s the only way

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

There's never a best time, place or way. Just do it with as much compassion as you can and don't drag it out.

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

You can go over and over it in your mind but the only way to do it is to be honest, sit down and just explain...

X Storm X

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By *evoncream2017Couple
over a year ago

exeter

"Surely they just end if they are supposed to, finding ways to end it is confusing to me

But what about Your verification last year in 2020 ?

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By *ikAshCouple
over a year ago

London

It takes both of you to make a relationship work. Seek couples counselling, but if he’s not interested, why don’t you just have counselling yourself. It might help to give you a different perspective.

Life is short, and you deserve to be happy. Sometimes relationships aren’t meant to be forever.

Ash xx

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By *ikAshCouple
over a year ago

London

When I ended a long-term relationship in the past, I wrote him a letter, and asked him to read it… then we spoke and had a long conversation with tears… a year later I realised it was the best thing I ever did!

Make sure you have a support network, and have a plan in place… living arrangements, finances, etc.

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheat on them and let them find the hidden pair of cum stained socks from your secret lover.

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