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By *teve of Pinner OP   Man
over a year ago

Pinner

Have other members noticed that during lockdown there were lots of members wanting to meet and were very happy to exchange photographs and details of their various fantasies.

When lockdown ended these members still wanted to meet so arrangements were made but then they didn’t turn up and not inform you !

I call this the Covic Syndrome !

When I arrange something ! A meet or maybe a cam session I will always honour that commitment and hate letting anyone down .

It’s not just me it appears widespread friends in Ireland say it’s happening more frequently over there too !

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By *heDesiCandiTV/TS
over a year ago

Leicester

There has been an increase in wank chatters - who are too lazy to get in the shower and drive over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are a lot of people on here who use fab while wanking. They just want to fantasise about doing all those things. Once they've cum, they'll quickly stop chatting.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

My question is how these guys get meets planned to not show up?

You’ll notice the forums is constantly full of 2 narratives

Guys saying they can even get a message back, let alone a social or a meet

Couples/women complaining about how many timewasters and no shows there are.

Maybe it’s just me, but isn’t there a disconnect between these 2 statements?

What are the fakes/timewasters/no shows doing that the rest of us aren’t to actually get these meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My question is how these guys get meets planned to not show up?

You’ll notice the forums is constantly full of 2 narratives

Guys saying they can even get a message back, let alone a social or a meet

Couples/women complaining about how many timewasters and no shows there are.

Maybe it’s just me, but isn’t there a disconnect between these 2 statements?

What are the fakes/timewasters/no shows doing that the rest of us aren’t to actually get these meets? "

What people will complain about is the extremes of the scale. No one will ever post that they had planned a meet and everyone showed up etc, that is the normal level of expectation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My question is how these guys get meets planned to not show up?

You’ll notice the forums is constantly full of 2 narratives

Guys saying they can even get a message back, let alone a social or a meet

Couples/women complaining about how many timewasters and no shows there are.

Maybe it’s just me, but isn’t there a disconnect between these 2 statements?

What are the fakes/timewasters/no shows doing that the rest of us aren’t to actually get these meets? "

Probably using fake pictures of very attractive men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably using fake pictures of very attractive men. "

This is what I do and it works like a charm

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"My question is how these guys get meets planned to not show up?

You’ll notice the forums is constantly full of 2 narratives

Guys saying they can even get a message back, let alone a social or a meet

Couples/women complaining about how many timewasters and no shows there are.

Maybe it’s just me, but isn’t there a disconnect between these 2 statements?

What are the fakes/timewasters/no shows doing that the rest of us aren’t to actually get these meets?

Probably using fake pictures of very attractive men. "

I guess the old advice on here of reading the profile and sending a good message isn’t what we need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole site is full of keyboard wankers and attention seekers. Always was. The only people i ever approach are those on the meet today list, so pretty limited. When people message me a quick look at their verifications will show whether they actually meet or just wank. Patience is the answer.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Have other members noticed that during lockdown there were lots of members wanting to meet and were very happy to exchange photographs and details of their various fantasies.

When lockdown ended these members still wanted to meet so arrangements were made but then they didn’t turn up and not inform you !

I call this the Covic Syndrome !

When I arrange something ! A meet or maybe a cam session I will always honour that commitment and hate letting anyone down .

It’s not just me it appears widespread friends in Ireland say it’s happening more frequently over there too !"

No shows are common here; as are last minute duck outs.

Several reasons I guess:

1. Some are fake

2. Some are here merely for fantasy and exhibition and never had any intention of meeting.

3. Some change their mind (legitimately)

4. Some are here merely for wank fodder and thus once the purpose is served they move onto another.

5. Some get a better offer.

I'm sure others could contribute to this list. Indeed, perhaps there's should be a FAQ, hints and tips, thread ..for those that don't read that section of the site.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"Probably using fake pictures of very attractive men.

This is what I do and it works like a charm "

Excellent... when we meeting?!

But seriously it has gotten worse but not entirely sure it's Covids fault, just life in general with 80% of those that fantasize about what 20% of us are doing... as swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My question is how these guys get meets planned to not show up?

You’ll notice the forums is constantly full of 2 narratives

Guys saying they can even get a message back, let alone a social or a meet

Couples/women complaining about how many timewasters and no shows there are.

Maybe it’s just me, but isn’t there a disconnect between these 2 statements?

What are the fakes/timewasters/no shows doing that the rest of us aren’t to actually get these meets?

Probably using fake pictures of very attractive men.

I guess the old advice on here of reading the profile and sending a good message isn’t what we need "

Advice can only go so far to give people the best chance but also limit the damage to someone’s self esteem.

There’s a huge amount of people using pictures that aren’t of themselves. We’re talking about men here so these men are using fake pictures and contacting women who believe they are genuine. These women are then ignoring real profiles of real men in favour of these very attractive fake profiles and then moaning that they get let down or ghosted.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Probably using fake pictures of very attractive men.

This is what I do and it works like a charm

Excellent... when we meeting?!

But seriously it has gotten worse but not entirely sure it's Covids fault, just life in general with 80% of those that fantasize about what 20% of us are doing... as swingers "

I’ve had meets and heard terrible stories

Met a couple for a gangbang and I was the only guy out of 8 others confirmed that showed up

Met a couple last month and when I txt on their street they asked for 15 minutes, I was thinking they were messing me about.

Turns out they’d been trying to organise a meet for weeks and had like 10 no shows every weekend for so long, they gave up. They weren’t even ready because they just assumed I was another no show

It’s crazy out there

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"My question is how these guys get meets planned to not show up?

You’ll notice the forums is constantly full of 2 narratives

Guys saying they can even get a message back, let alone a social or a meet

Couples/women complaining about how many timewasters and no shows there are.

Maybe it’s just me, but isn’t there a disconnect between these 2 statements?

What are the fakes/timewasters/no shows doing that the rest of us aren’t to actually get these meets?

Probably using fake pictures of very attractive men.

I guess the old advice on here of reading the profile and sending a good message isn’t what we need

Advice can only go so far to give people the best chance but also limit the damage to someone’s self esteem.

There’s a huge amount of people using pictures that aren’t of themselves. We’re talking about men here so these men are using fake pictures and contacting women who believe they are genuine. These women are then ignoring real profiles of real men in favour of these very attractive fake profiles and then moaning that they get let down or ghosted. "

And the sad thing is can you blame them? “Go for the less attractive ones so there’s a better chance they’re genuine” - just not fair on anyone really

Rule 1 be attractive

Rule 2 don’t be unattractive

Rule 3 be hung

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading


"My question is how these guys get meets planned to not show up?

You’ll notice the forums is constantly full of 2 narratives

Guys saying they can even get a message back, let alone a social or a meet

Couples/women complaining about how many timewasters and no shows there are.

Maybe it’s just me, but isn’t there a disconnect between these 2 statements?

What are the fakes/timewasters/no shows doing that the rest of us aren’t to actually get these meets?

Probably using fake pictures of very attractive men.

I guess the old advice on here of reading the profile and sending a good message isn’t what we need

Advice can only go so far to give people the best chance but also limit the damage to someone’s self esteem.

There’s a huge amount of people using pictures that aren’t of themselves. We’re talking about men here so these men are using fake pictures and contacting women who believe they are genuine. These women are then ignoring real profiles of real men in favour of these very attractive fake profiles and then moaning that they get let down or ghosted.

And the sad thing is can you blame them? “Go for the less attractive ones so there’s a better chance they’re genuine” - just not fair on anyone really

Rule 1 be attractive

Rule 2 don’t be unattractive

Rule 3 be hung "

If I read this last comment correct ?

If your average , not well hung etc . Then you have no chance of a meet ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I arrange a meet with someone, I see it through. It if for any reason I couldn’t, I’d always let them know. It’s the decent thing to do, regardless of the meet-up or dating platform you’re on.

I don’t understand shady behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My question is how these guys get meets planned to not show up?

You’ll notice the forums is constantly full of 2 narratives

Guys saying they can even get a message back, let alone a social or a meet

Couples/women complaining about how many timewasters and no shows there are.

Maybe it’s just me, but isn’t there a disconnect between these 2 statements?

What are the fakes/timewasters/no shows doing that the rest of us aren’t to actually get these meets?

Probably using fake pictures of very attractive men.

I guess the old advice on here of reading the profile and sending a good message isn’t what we need

Advice can only go so far to give people the best chance but also limit the damage to someone’s self esteem.

There’s a huge amount of people using pictures that aren’t of themselves. We’re talking about men here so these men are using fake pictures and contacting women who believe they are genuine. These women are then ignoring real profiles of real men in favour of these very attractive fake profiles and then moaning that they get let down or ghosted.

And the sad thing is can you blame them? “Go for the less attractive ones so there’s a better chance they’re genuine” - just not fair on anyone really

Rule 1 be attractive

Rule 2 don’t be unattractive

Rule 3 be hung "

It’s why I state on my profile that fab is not a reflection of the real world.

Take height for example. It’s a stupid rule that a lot of women have that hight must be over 6ft and they disregard anyone that isn’t over that height. In the real world there could be a guy that’s 5’9 or 5’8 who is still taller than them and they’d be attracted to them.

I saw a woman here who said she likes to wear 5 inch heels which took her up to almost 6ft so only meets guys over that. I said yeah but you’re artificially adding 5 inches to your height. Just wear docs or trainers if you want the guy to tower over you.

On here it’s all superficial bull shit.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I have formed the opinion over the years that timewasters build up expectations to a point where it is impossible for them to live up to their own hype.

For example, a beautiful, shapely 32 year old woman agrees to meet this guy after loads of sex chat. He is her dream man. A 35 year old, single, professional, 6ft 3" hairless body gym bunny with a 6 pack stomach. He is blessed with a 9.5" thick hard cock and is a heavy cummer. He says he is a stayer and can fuck for hours without a break. He loves to give head and knows how to please a woman.

So when she finally says she will meet him and sets a date and time the 46 year old dad bod married guy hits reality and runs away leaving the 50 year old male scammer disappointed that he could not fuck up yet another sad stranger's life.

Ce la Fab vie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have formed the opinion over the years that timewasters build up expectations to a point where it is impossible for them to live up to their own hype.

For example, a beautiful, shapely 32 year old woman agrees to meet this guy after loads of sex chat. He is her dream man. A 35 year old, single, professional, 6ft 3" hairless body gym bunny with a 6 pack stomach. He is blessed with a 9.5" thick hard cock and is a heavy cummer. He says he is a stayer and can fuck for hours without a break. He loves to give head and knows how to please a woman.

So when she finally says she will meet him and sets a date and time the 46 year old dad bod married guy hits reality and runs away leaving the 50 year old male scammer disappointed that he could not fuck up yet another sad stranger's life.

Ce la Fab vie! "

First rule of fab don’t do sex chat with someone you’re only just messaging.

You make small talk then straight into a social meet so you can give each other the once over in the flesh.

Back when I was meeting I used to only meet super attractive guys. Very few messages exchanged. Either me or the guy would suggest a quick social so we can see each other in the flesh, after we’d both confirmed we are the people in our pictures, only them would we do sexy/flirty chat.

If anyone tries to engage in hardcore sex chat male or female just shut it down. Say I ain’t here to chat shit I want to actually meet and do things. Hesitations to have a quick social and I’d be like yeah off you fuck mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have formed the opinion over the years that timewasters build up expectations to a point where it is impossible for them to live up to their own hype.

For example, a beautiful, shapely 32 year old woman agrees to meet this guy after loads of sex chat. He is her dream man. A 35 year old, single, professional, 6ft 3" hairless body gym bunny with a 6 pack stomach. He is blessed with a 9.5" thick hard cock and is a heavy cummer. He says he is a stayer and can fuck for hours without a break. He loves to give head and knows how to please a woman.

So when she finally says she will meet him and sets a date and time the 46 year old dad bod married guy hits reality and runs away leaving the 50 year old male scammer disappointed that he could not fuck up yet another sad stranger's life.

Ce la Fab vie!

First rule of fab don’t do sex chat with someone you’re only just messaging.

You make small talk then straight into a social meet so you can give each other the once over in the flesh.

Back when I was meeting I used to only meet super attractive guys. Very few messages exchanged. Either me or the guy would suggest a quick social so we can see each other in the flesh, after we’d both confirmed we are the people in our pictures, only them would we do sexy/flirty chat.

If anyone tries to engage in hardcore sex chat male or female just shut it down. Say I ain’t here to chat shit I want to actually meet and do things. Hesitations to have a quick social and I’d be like yeah off you fuck mate.

"

I've never had a no show in 12 years. Meeting as a single and as a couple.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

What Annie said... Don't spend weeks chatting, don't indulge in sex chat/fantasies.

Do your due diligence! I usually switch to Snapchat so we can swap photos.

I'll only ever cancel if I'm poorly, and always let people know well in advance.

Last week I had 6 socials pencilled in and only 2 actually went ahead. 4 just disappeared/ghosted/ignored msgs.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"I have formed the opinion over the years that timewasters build up expectations to a point where it is impossible for them to live up to their own hype.

For example, a beautiful, shapely 32 year old woman agrees to meet this guy after loads of sex chat. He is her dream man. A 35 year old, single, professional, 6ft 3" hairless body gym bunny with a 6 pack stomach. He is blessed with a 9.5" thick hard cock and is a heavy cummer. He says he is a stayer and can fuck for hours without a break. He loves to give head and knows how to please a woman.

So when she finally says she will meet him and sets a date and time the 46 year old dad bod married guy hits reality and runs away leaving the 50 year old male scammer disappointed that he could not fuck up yet another sad stranger's life.

Ce la Fab vie!

First rule of fab don’t do sex chat with someone you’re only just messaging.

You make small talk then straight into a social meet so you can give each other the once over in the flesh.

Back when I was meeting I used to only meet super attractive guys. Very few messages exchanged. Either me or the guy would suggest a quick social so we can see each other in the flesh, after we’d both confirmed we are the people in our pictures, only them would we do sexy/flirty chat.

If anyone tries to engage in hardcore sex chat male or female just shut it down. Say I ain’t here to chat shit I want to actually meet and do things. Hesitations to have a quick social and I’d be like yeah off you fuck mate.

"

Couldn’t agree more

Plus, sex chat with someone I haven’t met or even know if I like? What am I 15? Fuck that.

Sex chat is reserved for special people. Not random people online

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood


"There has been an increase in wank chatters - who are too lazy to get in the shower and drive over "

I don't think they're too lazy, I think they had no intention of meeting

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By *ames2602Man
over a year ago

whittle

I've had 1 no show, same guy has changed his profile 4 times, asking for meets, Finally met up with him, and I just turned round and told him to f/o as he was nothing like he said he was.

I find it so hard at moment to even find bi couples who are willing to chat never mind meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have formed the opinion over the years that timewasters build up expectations to a point where it is impossible for them to live up to their own hype.

For example, a beautiful, shapely 32 year old woman agrees to meet this guy after loads of sex chat. He is her dream man. A 35 year old, single, professional, 6ft 3" hairless body gym bunny with a 6 pack stomach. He is blessed with a 9.5" thick hard cock and is a heavy cummer. He says he is a stayer and can fuck for hours without a break. He loves to give head and knows how to please a woman.

So when she finally says she will meet him and sets a date and time the 46 year old dad bod married guy hits reality and runs away leaving the 50 year old male scammer disappointed that he could not fuck up yet another sad stranger's life.

Ce la Fab vie!

First rule of fab don’t do sex chat with someone you’re only just messaging.

You make small talk then straight into a social meet so you can give each other the once over in the flesh.

Back when I was meeting I used to only meet super attractive guys. Very few messages exchanged. Either me or the guy would suggest a quick social so we can see each other in the flesh, after we’d both confirmed we are the people in our pictures, only them would we do sexy/flirty chat.

If anyone tries to engage in hardcore sex chat male or female just shut it down. Say I ain’t here to chat shit I want to actually meet and do things. Hesitations to have a quick social and I’d be like yeah off you fuck mate.

"

Maybe this is where I've been going wrong. Not necessarily the sex chat bit but haven't really been forthright in asking to meet straight away as I don't want to come off as too pushy but as a result, the chat kind of fizzles out. Very interesting

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By *ames2602Man
over a year ago

whittle

I've also tried to ask for meets with bi couples after just a few messages, then I ethier get don't be too pushy or not replying to my messages. So where I'm I going wrong.

Any ideas why pm me if you like

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Lots of Instant gratification or chat only with the pretense of meeting, this is why I've backed off this year and only gone for friendzone cuppas as they always turn up or fab party socials

My meet time is better spent on the playmates I know

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

It's not really about Covid. The world is full of flakes who say they'll be somewhere and then don't come. I've known it for decades. It's here now, both on and off Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i had the chance i would always turn up it's only polite to

i message ladies and couples but don't always get a reply

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BAE

Ahh. I am using fake pics of an unattractive guy. Is that where I am going wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not had a no show yet or done it to anyone else. In fact in one arranged social I pulled out my road turned in to next one and my car broke. So I rang the guy and explained and changed the plans just slightly to another location and walked to it. I did not him down.

If someone wants to meet they will, if they don't all they explanations in the world won't change the fact. I think the wankers and the ones that get too nervous and bottle it are the no shows. Surely you talk to someone enough to start with to know if they are they are the flaky type? I'd like to think I do but it could happen to me and I'll have to eat my words. I think pushing for a social too quickly can mean it doesn't happen too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of Instant gratification or chat only with the pretense of meeting, this is why I've backed off this year and only gone for friendzone cuppas as they always turn up or fab party socials

My meet time is better spent on the playmates I know "

Validation seeking, replacing real life with fab illusions, pic collecting, pseudo therapy for their issues via sex chat, etc. Let them carry on. As you said - time can be spent in so many more productive ways. Bring on more group socials too.. real people, real fun, where you get to see if they are capable of being social and friendly rather than just sex y and needy.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I think the sex chat / instant gratification points are valid. It's not something I engage in with anyone until I'm met them. I prefer to build a genuine raport

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By *un beforeMan
over a year ago

london colney

Just rude , when arrange time safe place meet and not show up

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I've had a couple of socials lately where I've been messed around a little bit or I've had a message half an hour after we should have met to say they can't make it.

I've not been as cautious as I used to be, arranging socials with less chatting than usual, so I'm trying to get back to the way I was screening previously because it did prevent a lot of these issues.

There are always people out there who will mess you around, but if it's happening a lot it is always worth looking at possible ways of identifying them before you find yourself sitting in a bar waiting for someone who has no intention of turning up.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

No shows are just a part of the game on here. I had a few as a single guy. Sometimes outside factors happen (especially as a single parent). Sometimes just a change of heart or maybe another offer. Its just life and people are free to change their mind. Unfortunately as I am a single parent back then kid free arrangements where difficult so a no show/last minute cancellation is gutting (and expensive if you booked a room or babysitter). So I hated that, especially no show/last minute cancellation. At the end of the day if it is an actual case of change of mind that's OK, I wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't want to be there. I just hope that people are careful before they make arrangements with others because it does suck when it falls though, especially last minute. And could give as much notice as possible rather than go to ground.

We generally avoid this by do are meeting in clubs or chance encounters when out.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Are you a no show, Jim?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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^ no show

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