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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry to all the decent profile respecting men out there, but the disrespectful little shits have finally worn me down and I've blocked all men from messaging me. I think if I've talked to you in the past we can continue.

Tbh I think if I was a woman getting this hundreds of times a day I'd have left this site long ago. Respect to all the women that stick around!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have taken those steps in the past too but then I felt like I was missing out on some decent conversations. We’ve blocked single guys on our couples account for now as I feel your pain with the messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve done the same. Bored of it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be something in the air. Noone seems to read my profile about not currently meeting so I've had to lay it down abit thicker. And the single guys who aren't photo veried updating their status as "Appletree.. Message me". No cheers love. One bore after another

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

Messages you don’t want to read are easily skipped past. Never sure why people get so wound up about the messages they receive. Just pick out the ones that interest you. It’s like going to Waitrose and saying you won’t shop there as they sell hundreds of products you never buy.

However it would be nice if there was a way of segregating friends messages from The others

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I done this straight away because I'm not looking for guys, it saves unwanted messages and you can interact on forums anyway if choose to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Messages you don’t want to read are easily skipped past. Never sure why people get so wound up about the messages they receive. Just pick out the ones that interest you. It’s like going to Waitrose and saying you won’t shop there as they sell hundreds of products you never buy.

However it would be nice if there was a way of segregating friends messages from The others "

They aren’t easily skipped past, because interesting/important ones get lost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve put my filters back on to everyone I’m sick of the same boring messages

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Awww... I was just about to send you a dick pic as well

Blocking guys was probably the first thing we did when we set up this couples profile

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Messages you don’t want to read are easily skipped past. Never sure why people get so wound up about the messages they receive. Just pick out the ones that interest you. It’s like going to Waitrose and saying you won’t shop there as they sell hundreds of products you never buy.

However it would be nice if there was a way of segregating friends messages from The others "

The last time I checked, tubs of marmite didn’t jump of the shelves and start abusing me when I didn’t take what they had to offer lol

Isn’t always easy to just skip past when you get a barrage of abuse for not responding to a message… some idiots like to take it to a personal level because they can’t handle the rejection, yes there is a block button and yes it gets used, but equally it shouldn’t be the case of constantly having to block people because they feel there entitled and that everyone they message should immediately go and jump on there penis

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By *lofeldMan
over a year ago

Redhill

Do you think if the site moved to a pay model for blokes with some additional verification process it would cut down on some of the morons?

Currently anyone can sign up and message without even proper verification. Surely if you to some extent had to identify yourself to the admins and even pay a more significant fee it might help? Though I realise muppets will always be muppets..

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln


"Messages you don’t want to read are easily skipped past. Never sure why people get so wound up about the messages they receive. Just pick out the ones that interest you. It’s like going to Waitrose and saying you won’t shop there as they sell hundreds of products you never buy.

However it would be nice if there was a way of segregating friends messages from The others

The last time I checked, tubs of marmite didn’t jump of the shelves and start abusing me when I didn’t take what they had to offer lol

Isn’t always easy to just skip past when you get a barrage of abuse for not responding to a message… some idiots like to take it to a personal level because they can’t handle the rejection, yes there is a block button and yes it gets used, but equally it shouldn’t be the case of constantly having to block people because they feel there entitled and that everyone they message should immediately go and jump on there penis "

We must be lucky on our couples profile as we very rarely get any nasty messages. Loads of boring ones yes we just click the red x or leave unread. We get hundreds of messages every day/week depending on if our photos are showing or we update our stays and never struggle to miss any important ones. And there’s probably less than 10 people in our block list having been here several years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to all the decent profile respecting men out there, but the disrespectful little shits have finally worn me down and I've blocked all men from messaging me. I think if I've talked to you in the past we can continue.

Tbh I think if I was a woman getting this hundreds of times a day I'd have left this site long ago. Respect to all the women that stick around!"

Mate I know that feeling and I’ve come close a few times myself. We’ve never chatted apart from the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think if the site moved to a pay model for blokes with some additional verification process it would cut down on some of the morons?

Currently anyone can sign up and message without even proper verification. Surely if you to some extent had to identify yourself to the admins and even pay a more significant fee it might help? Though I realise muppets will always be muppets.."

I think charging more wouldn’t be fair on the the genuine nice people on here,

Personally I think you should have to be photo verified and maybe ID verified before you can message anyone, that way if you get banned for being a dick, it will stop people just making new accounts as there ID will be banned

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Prefer to reach out myself rather than receiving random messages ... don't feel like I'm missing out on things?!

... thankful for the age filter setting indeed

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By *lofeldMan
over a year ago

Redhill


"Do you think if the site moved to a pay model for blokes with some additional verification process it would cut down on some of the morons?

Currently anyone can sign up and message without even proper verification. Surely if you to some extent had to identify yourself to the admins and even pay a more significant fee it might help? Though I realise muppets will always be muppets..

I think charging more wouldn’t be fair on the the genuine nice people on here,

Personally I think you should have to be photo verified and maybe ID verified before you can message anyone, that way if you get banned for being a dick, it will stop people just making new accounts as there ID will be banned "

Very true. There's even one freak in my area who every few weeks creates a new profile using the same woman's pictures, and within a few hours after you raise a complaint they are gone. Verification stops all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think if the site moved to a pay model for blokes with some additional verification process it would cut down on some of the morons?

Currently anyone can sign up and message without even proper verification. Surely if you to some extent had to identify yourself to the admins and even pay a more significant fee it might help? Though I realise muppets will always be muppets.."

It would also exclude genuine people, who couldn’t afford to pay a higher fee?

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By *lofeldMan
over a year ago

Redhill


"

Prefer to reach out myself rather than receiving random messages ... don't feel like I'm missing out on things?!

... thankful for the age filter setting indeed "

Yes you do like the more mature gentleman

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"

Prefer to reach out myself rather than receiving random messages ... don't feel like I'm missing out on things?!

... thankful for the age filter setting indeed

Yes you do like the more mature gentleman "

Funnily enough no one's changed their age to match it

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By *lofeldMan
over a year ago

Redhill


"

Prefer to reach out myself rather than receiving random messages ... don't feel like I'm missing out on things?!

... thankful for the age filter setting indeed

Yes you do like the more mature gentleman

Funnily enough no one's changed their age to match it "

When they do, you know its true love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup it's not easy OP to stay at times...I've deleted my profiles several times cos of some so called mens depraved behaviours...But there's many lovely kind genuine legit men here too which make it worthwhile to return to fab

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"

Prefer to reach out myself rather than receiving random messages ... don't feel like I'm missing out on things?!

... thankful for the age filter setting indeed

Yes you do like the more mature gentleman

Funnily enough no one's changed their age to match it

When they do, you know its true love. "

...or maybe insanity

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By *lofeldMan
over a year ago

Redhill


"

Prefer to reach out myself rather than receiving random messages ... don't feel like I'm missing out on things?!

... thankful for the age filter setting indeed

Yes you do like the more mature gentleman

Funnily enough no one's changed their age to match it

When they do, you know its true love.

...or maybe insanity "

More Dementia at 98-99

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to all the decent profile respecting men out there, but the disrespectful little shits have finally worn me down and I've blocked all men from messaging me. I think if I've talked to you in the past we can continue.

Tbh I think if I was a woman getting this hundreds of times a day I'd have left this site long ago. Respect to all the women that stick around!"

shit men, make genuine women leave this site every single day, its a shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its getting worse thats for sure and its sad to see i/we only meet guys so rather than block all men i'we do a lot of pre blocking guy i wont meet, rude guys bad status guys racist sexist trolls and on and on but i know its getting worse as im blocking every single day now with what friends are telling me too guys who let them down or rude abusive go on my block list too ....

something has to happen or fab will go pop but i really dont know what the answer is i hide the profile more and more too..

well over half my messages are child like or full on desperation or a porn script

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"

Prefer to reach out myself rather than receiving random messages ... don't feel like I'm missing out on things?!

... thankful for the age filter setting indeed

Yes you do like the more mature gentleman

Funnily enough no one's changed their age to match it

When they do, you know its true love.

...or maybe insanity

More Dementia at 98-99 "

Oh heck, the same FAF message on a daily basis then

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By *lofeldMan
over a year ago

Redhill


"

Prefer to reach out myself rather than receiving random messages ... don't feel like I'm missing out on things?!

... thankful for the age filter setting indeed

Yes you do like the more mature gentleman

Funnily enough no one's changed their age to match it

When they do, you know its true love.

...or maybe insanity

More Dementia at 98-99

Oh heck, the same FAF message on a daily basis then "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually made it so that guys can message me for bit of banter...but I'm convinced that they are can make a straight guy gay. .

I'll be turning on my filter again.

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By *lofeldMan
over a year ago

Redhill


"Do you think if the site moved to a pay model for blokes with some additional verification process it would cut down on some of the morons?

Currently anyone can sign up and message without even proper verification. Surely if you to some extent had to identify yourself to the admins and even pay a more significant fee it might help? Though I realise muppets will always be muppets..

It would also exclude genuine people, who couldn’t afford to pay a higher fee? "

Fair comment. At least tighten up on the verification process though.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"I actually made it so that guys can message me for bit of banter...but I'm convinced that they are can make a straight guy gay. .

I'll be turning on my filter again. "

Wait what?...You mean that doesn't actually happen?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ikAshCouple
over a year ago

London

We blocked men within a week of joining Fab… It was the amount of messages received, plus some of the content was just crude.

It’s a shame as I’m sure there are lots of lovely men on the site.

Ash x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

All this moaning and

Telling everyone

Oh iv changed my filters etc

Just do it

Why need to tell everyone

Most guys I chat with are great

And its not just guys who can be silly just saying

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

The best thing we ever did was to insist on a face pic with the first message. It reduces the number of messages received and guys are a bit more considered when they've attached their face to their message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like I live a sheltered life, I never had such problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think i have any filters up no point, all those awesome compliments i'd miss out on from the gay guys

To be fair if i was gay i'd happily take some of you girls on at who can pull the most handsome man.

our couples account is mainly for her i wouldn't bother though the chocolate intake has increased, plus she can be a fussy little madam.

and she reads my posts... hi nosey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All this moaning and

Telling everyone

Oh iv changed my filters etc

Just do it

Why need to tell everyone

Most guys I chat with are great

And its not just guys who can be silly just saying "

because we want too ...nobody moans at all your postings do they ????

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"All this moaning and

Telling everyone

Oh iv changed my filters etc

Just do it

Why need to tell everyone

Most guys I chat with are great

And its not just guys who can be silly just saying

because we want too ...nobody moans at all about your postings do they ????"

Your welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All this moaning and

Telling everyone

Oh iv changed my filters etc

Just do it

Why need to tell everyone

Most guys I chat with are great

And its not just guys who can be silly just saying

because we want too ...nobody moans at all about your postings do they ????

Your welcome "

thought so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done you

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"All this moaning and

Telling everyone

Oh iv changed my filters etc

Just do it

Why need to tell everyone

Most guys I chat with are great

And its not just guys who can be silly just saying

because we want too ...nobody moans at all about your postings do they ????

Your welcome

thought so "

Thought what? people do moan about my posts

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All this moaning and

Telling everyone

Oh iv changed my filters etc

Just do it

Why need to tell everyone

Most guys I chat with are great

And its not just guys who can be silly just saying "

I wasn't moaning. I've received some very nice messages from guys on forums before, so I am in advance notifying and apologising to those that may try to contact me in the future (and somehow see this) and showing my respect to those that stay on fab after getting abuse for not wanting to fuck a guy.

Most of the time I am a bit silly on here, which is maybe why when in in a light-hearted mood I don't take too kindly to getting called all sorts for not replying or sending a reply to say no.

You're free to message me anytime, I like your dark humour x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All this moaning and

Telling everyone

Oh iv changed my filters etc

Just do it

Why need to tell everyone

Most guys I chat with are great

And its not just guys who can be silly just saying

I wasn't moaning. I've received some very nice messages from guys on forums before, so I am in advance notifying and apologising to those that may try to contact me in the future (and somehow see this) and showing my respect to those that stay on fab after getting abuse for not wanting to fuck a guy.

Most of the time I am a bit silly on here, which is maybe why when in in a light-hearted mood I don't take too kindly to getting called all sorts for not replying or sending a reply to say no.

You're free to message me anytime, I like your dark humour x"

So when this thread disappears down the pages, who will have been notified in advance? Or are you going to bump it now and then for those that haven't seen it?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"All this moaning and

Telling everyone

Oh iv changed my filters etc

Just do it

Why need to tell everyone

Most guys I chat with are great

And its not just guys who can be silly just saying

I wasn't moaning. I've received some very nice messages from guys on forums before, so I am in advance notifying and apologising to those that may try to contact me in the future (and somehow see this) and showing my respect to those that stay on fab after getting abuse for not wanting to fuck a guy.

Most of the time I am a bit silly on here, which is maybe why when in in a light-hearted mood I don't take too kindly to getting called all sorts for not replying or sending a reply to say no.

You're free to message me anytime, I like your dark humour x"

Ahhh I understand now xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't blame you OP, It's one of the many reasons my profile is hidden and will stay that way for the forseeable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone fancy a fuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All this moaning and

Telling everyone

Oh iv changed my filters etc

Just do it

Why need to tell everyone

Most guys I chat with are great

And its not just guys who can be silly just saying "

Moaning about others moaning... Lmao... Love it...

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Fortunately or unfortunately I don't seem to have this problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't win on here.

Block them and then you end up lifting filters again for forum stuff.

And as said above the important ones get lost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies pop along to Bumble, at least you control who messages you.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I wonder what the motivation is, surely there are enough men who want another man to suck their dick?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to all the decent profile respecting men out there, but the disrespectful little shits have finally worn me down and I've blocked all men from messaging me. I think if I've talked to you in the past we can continue.

Tbh I think if I was a woman getting this hundreds of times a day I'd have left this site long ago. Respect to all the women that stick around!"

You're just too god damn shexy....they can't control themselves.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Sorry to all the decent profile respecting men out there, but the disrespectful little shits have finally worn me down and I've blocked all men from messaging me. I think if I've talked to you in the past we can continue.

Tbh I think if I was a woman getting this hundreds of times a day I'd have left this site long ago. Respect to all the women that stick around!

You're just too god damn shexy....they can't control themselves."

How does that work for me then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to all the decent profile respecting men out there, but the disrespectful little shits have finally worn me down and I've blocked all men from messaging me. I think if I've talked to you in the past we can continue.

Tbh I think if I was a woman getting this hundreds of times a day I'd have left this site long ago. Respect to all the women that stick around!

You're just too god damn shexy....they can't control themselves.

How does that work for me then? "

Can I phone a friend?

Ask the audience?

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Messages you don’t want to read are easily skipped past. Never sure why people get so wound up about the messages they receive. Just pick out the ones that interest you. It’s like going to Waitrose and saying you won’t shop there as they sell hundreds of products you never buy.

However it would be nice if there was a way of segregating friends messages from The others "

I love this analogy. We have Asda up north. Lol.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Sorry to all the decent profile respecting men out there, but the disrespectful little shits have finally worn me down and I've blocked all men from messaging me. I think if I've talked to you in the past we can continue.

Tbh I think if I was a woman getting this hundreds of times a day I'd have left this site long ago. Respect to all the women that stick around!

You're just too god damn shexy....they can't control themselves.

How does that work for me then?

Can I phone a friend?

Ask the audience?

"

If *sniff you *sniff must

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Since adding information to my bio at the top mine stopped but I'm not one quick to judge is why I left my mail option open because it's about respect and shouldn't have to be forced to have to change my mail option...

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"All this moaning and

Telling everyone

Oh iv changed my filters etc

Just do it

Why need to tell everyone

Most guys I chat with are great

And its not just guys who can be silly just saying

Moaning about others moaning... Lmao... Love it... "

More of a statement

Look it up

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By *edheadjMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Another vote here for only being able to send messages of you're photo verified.

Since my wife joined here, the amount of messages has been crazy and they're all along the similar vein. Surely nobody is being successful here sending messages with 'hi. Wanna fuck?'

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