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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all I got 30 days left on subs as gold membership and I have to say, if your not included or noticed this site can be a bit boring.

I’ve been on the forums and tried the web cams ( they didn’t work on I phone) and commented on posts, winked at people and sent messages only for them to be deleted unread most times.

I have chatted with some ladies on here and even that fizzled out. People just aren’t up for discreet fun on Guernsey.

I have my choices on my profile which I made reading los of other profiles.

I’m not a man boy or a player but yet I feel ignored.

Maybe it’s just me and I sincerely apologize if I have offended anyone here who are genuinely fun to be with and around.

I will see how things go but it’s looking likely I’ll be making a move. Once again I apologies for any offense.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

If you want profile advice you'll have to specifically ask for it so I don't get sent to the naughty step...

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you want profile advice you'll have to specifically ask for it so I don't get sent to the naughty step...

LvM"

I’d love to be put on the naughty step.

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

You're not asking for profile advice so we can't give you specific pointers but generalising, profiles that suggest the types of meets you describe are going to only attract people who want nothing other than bang and go. Which usually implies locals. Why would anyone travel to Guernsey for a quick fuck in a car park? Enlighten me op?

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"You're not asking for profile advice so we can't give you specific pointers but generalising, profiles that suggest the types of meets you describe are going to only attract people who want nothing other than bang and go. Which usually implies locals. Why would anyone travel to Guernsey for a quick fuck in a car park? Enlighten me op?"

It's a nice car?

LvM

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there


"You're not asking for profile advice so we can't give you specific pointers but generalising, profiles that suggest the types of meets you describe are going to only attract people who want nothing other than bang and go. Which usually implies locals. Why would anyone travel to Guernsey for a quick fuck in a car park? Enlighten me op?

It's a nice car?

LvM"

With a great view from the car park, tempting...

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"You're not asking for profile advice so we can't give you specific pointers but generalising, profiles that suggest the types of meets you describe are going to only attract people who want nothing other than bang and go. Which usually implies locals. Why would anyone travel to Guernsey for a quick fuck in a car park? Enlighten me op?

It's a nice car?

LvM

With a great view from the car park, tempting... "

I'll fire up the Fiesta and meet you in Guernsey

LvM

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there


"You're not asking for profile advice so we can't give you specific pointers but generalising, profiles that suggest the types of meets you describe are going to only attract people who want nothing other than bang and go. Which usually implies locals. Why would anyone travel to Guernsey for a quick fuck in a car park? Enlighten me op?

It's a nice car?

LvM

With a great view from the car park, tempting...

I'll fire up the Fiesta and meet you in Guernsey

LvM"

Pop a new jelly belly air freshener in and you're on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not clear, OP, what the purpose of your post is.

Are you just venting and getting it off your chest? (which is fine)

Or are you looking for advise and guidance? If so, you need to specifically ask for it, as per site rules.

LvM - you assume the car park fucking involves a car

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By *heonix_flamesWoman
over a year ago

Midlands

You have a very specific list of criteria so it’s not surprising there aren’t many people for you to interact with.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

o/p just join in with forum and cam chat. I see fab as a social club with anything else a bonus. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the input everyone.

I’m not sure what I’m asking for as I thought I was doing ok to begin with.

Yes living on an island limits the amount of interaction with other members but most of my messages are ignored or deleted instantly. Not offensive but polite and commenting on something or a status.

Sadly car park fucking is getting harder to come by ( excuse the pun) and if caught can be very public very quickly. Small island, lots of gossip.

I do prefer my van as it’s got a comfy double bed, a tv/dvd player and mini fridge for the small bottles of Lambrini. Plus it’s getting colder here now so tend to move indoors.

Yes my profile is basic, I’m straight talking and brutally honest, some people don’t get that but some find it appealing, constantly fed up with the male patter and bs that comes with it. It has worked a few times and I’ve had some great nights out.

To be honest, I’m kinda jealous in a way I’m not living in UK because you guys get to meet. For me to come over it’s a 13 hour boat trip overnight or 2 hours fast ferry or even a 1 or 2 hour flight. It’s also bloody expensive. Like £400 plus for me and my van.

So, I’m don’t know if I am asking for profile advice or just venting. I guess it’s just a bit of both. I’m polite, I have photos and I’ve supported the site. I’m not offensive and not instantly rude.

The one potential meet I was looking forward to turned out to be a wind up fake profile.

Disheartened…. Yes. But hey, it happens I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have a very specific list of criteria so it’s not surprising there aren’t many people for you to interact with."

I do but then I do know what I like and I like what I know. That and my kink side needs to be used.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have a very specific list of criteria so it’s not surprising there aren’t many people for you to interact with."

Living on an island does that….

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I realise I am not in your stated criteria, but I personally wouldn't consider meeting or engaging in any form with such a negative profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I realise I am not in your stated criteria, but I personally wouldn't consider meeting or engaging in any form with such a negative profile."

Thank you for your input. Appreciated.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"I realise I am not in your stated criteria, but I personally wouldn't consider meeting or engaging in any form with such a negative profile.

Thank you for your input. Appreciated. "

You could always consider trying new text and seeing if it increases your profile views, replies etc ?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Thanks for the input everyone.

I’m not sure what I’m asking for as I thought I was doing ok to begin with.

Yes living on an island limits the amount of interaction with other members but most of my messages are ignored or deleted instantly. Not offensive but polite and commenting on something or a status.

Sadly car park fucking is getting harder to come by ( excuse the pun) and if caught can be very public very quickly. Small island, lots of gossip.

I do prefer my van as it’s got a comfy double bed, a tv/dvd player and mini fridge for the small bottles of Lambrini. Plus it’s getting colder here now so tend to move indoors.

Yes my profile is basic, I’m straight talking and brutally honest, some people don’t get that but some find it appealing, constantly fed up with the male patter and bs that comes with it. It has worked a few times and I’ve had some great nights out.

To be honest, I’m kinda jealous in a way I’m not living in UK because you guys get to meet. For me to come over it’s a 13 hour boat trip overnight or 2 hours fast ferry or even a 1 or 2 hour flight. It’s also bloody expensive. Like £400 plus for me and my van.

So, I’m don’t know if I am asking for profile advice or just venting. I guess it’s just a bit of both. I’m polite, I have photos and I’ve supported the site. I’m not offensive and not instantly rude.

The one potential meet I was looking forward to turned out to be a wind up fake profile.

Disheartened…. Yes. But hey, it happens I guess. "

If it’s any consolation; I’ve had fakers and people waste my time, arranging meets then just ghosting me too. Just take it on the chin and move on, slightly wiser and more cautious than before. Geography bites here in the mainland also; I live in one of the largest counties in England, but it also feels like an island at times, with few people genuinely wanting to play. They are out there though, so keep heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I realise I am not in your stated criteria, but I personally wouldn't consider meeting or engaging in any form with such a negative profile."

Same for me. There’s blunt and honest, and there’s out for yourself, which is kind of how it comes across.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the input everyone.

I’m not sure what I’m asking for as I thought I was doing ok to begin with.

Yes living on an island limits the amount of interaction with other members but most of my messages are ignored or deleted instantly. Not offensive but polite and commenting on something or a status.

Sadly car park fucking is getting harder to come by ( excuse the pun) and if caught can be very public very quickly. Small island, lots of gossip.

I do prefer my van as it’s got a comfy double bed, a tv/dvd player and mini fridge for the small bottles of Lambrini. Plus it’s getting colder here now so tend to move indoors.

Yes my profile is basic, I’m straight talking and brutally honest, some people don’t get that but some find it appealing, constantly fed up with the male patter and bs that comes with it. It has worked a few times and I’ve had some great nights out.

To be honest, I’m kinda jealous in a way I’m not living in UK because you guys get to meet. For me to come over it’s a 13 hour boat trip overnight or 2 hours fast ferry or even a 1 or 2 hour flight. It’s also bloody expensive. Like £400 plus for me and my van.

So, I’m don’t know if I am asking for profile advice or just venting. I guess it’s just a bit of both. I’m polite, I have photos and I’ve supported the site. I’m not offensive and not instantly rude.

The one potential meet I was looking forward to turned out to be a wind up fake profile.

Disheartened…. Yes. But hey, it happens I guess.

If it’s any consolation; I’ve had fakers and people waste my time, arranging meets then just ghosting me too. Just take it on the chin and move on, slightly wiser and more cautious than before. Geography bites here in the mainland also; I live in one of the largest counties in England, but it also feels like an island at times, with few people genuinely wanting to play. They are out there though, so keep heart "

Thanks for your words, not taken to heart but it does pee me off somewhat.

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By *urvytreatWoman
over a year ago

somewhere nice

I know I’m definitely not your type OP, and that’s fine by me. Tbh if I was an you messages, you’d get ignored as your profile is so darn rude! As to be fair, would you know the difference between an 8 and a 10, or a 16 and 18? No you couldn’t because each woman’s body is different and taller woman carry weight different to shorter woman!

Maybe it’s time for a rethink on your profile!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know I’m definitely not your type OP, and that’s fine by me. Tbh if I was an you messages, you’d get ignored as your profile is so darn rude! As to be fair, would you know the difference between an 8 and a 10, or a 16 and 18? No you couldn’t because each woman’s body is different and taller woman carry weight different to shorter woman!

Maybe it’s time for a rethink on your profile!!!"

I would because I worked as a dressmaker for 7 years. It’s funny when you are chatting to a lady in a pub and you can tell her her dress size complete with bust and waist.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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Op if you honestly don't understand why you aren't having much luck on here then you may be beyond help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op if you honestly don't understand why you aren't having much luck on here then you may be beyond help."

I thought that too, glad it’s not just me.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Most people look at a profile before they answer any new messages and I know if the profile doesn't appeal to me I won't bother answering the message anymore.

I wouldn't suggest you change anything about what you have on yours tho because if that is what you are looking for then it's perfect just as it is.

A lot of men find it tough going in here but plenty of men do well on here as well .

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

The one thing that I do find wrong on here is people giving advice on profiles so a person's true personality is hidden under a fake persona . Personally I prefer to see someone's true personality so I can choose if I want to interact with them at the beginning.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

First thing - site supporter is optional and buys added features.

Secondly - your expectations are under your own control.

As you note, Guernsey is a small place, so the available swinging population is correspondingly small. Covid limited travel this year, cutting potential travellers for action too.

There are people in the mainland UK who live in very remote places, far from many people of any type and very long distance from clubs. They may have lifestyle ideas you could adopt.

But overall, if you are in such a situation, it's not the responsibility of the site or others to change anything, it's just an unfortunate circumstance and only we ourselves can make changes, including our decisions.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"First thing - site supporter is optional and buys added features.

Secondly - your expectations are under your own control.

As you note, Guernsey is a small place, so the available swinging population is correspondingly small. Covid limited travel this year, cutting potential travellers for action too.

There are people in the mainland UK who live in very remote places, far from many people of any type and very long distance from clubs. They may have lifestyle ideas you could adopt.

But overall, if you are in such a situation, it's not the responsibility of the site or others to change anything, it's just an unfortunate circumstance and only we ourselves can make changes, including our decisions. "

Most people will just not be reciprocally matched with most other people. Hence deleted, unread messages etc. Guernsey is a very friendly place and even the police left a few of us naked on a beach one time that I was there, as we were just playing about, rather than having sex, I assume. They certainly got a good look at some great bodies and left us to it. This friendliness contrasts with the fab style and terms that those who are not matched get messages ignored, to indicate no further interest.

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

You speak of the cost and time consuming of you visiting the mainland.... that works both ways, why would people spend that amount of time and money to meet you if you won't??

Also, silver membership is the same price and you get 3 months on silver

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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago

Terra Firma

You say word gets out easily on a small island so I imagine the trust levels are turned up to 11.

Having said that, Guernsey has more members than I thought there would be. Why not try setting up a social and see who is interested in meeting that way first, it could open up a whole new world of possibilities with less risk of island gossip.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You say word gets out easily on a small island so I imagine the trust levels are turned up to 11.

Having said that, Guernsey has more members than I thought there would be. Why not try setting up a social and see who is interested in meeting that way first, it could open up a whole new world of possibilities with less risk of island gossip.

"
unfortunately there will always be one or two strays that find out and can’t be discreet. It’s happened in the past

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By *heonix_flamesWoman
over a year ago

Midlands


"You have a very specific list of criteria so it’s not surprising there aren’t many people for you to interact with.

Living on an island does that…."

It’s not living on an island that means you only prefer certain dress sizes or people who have subscriptions on here- it’s your choice.

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