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Are you a proactive or passive lover?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When having sex with someone new or even with someone regular do you give them pointers as to how they should please you?

How you liked to be kissed or licked etc, what are your erogonous zones etc.

Or do you stay silent and just not meet them again ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After years of faking I’m definitely one to give pointers otherwise you might as well just stop and have a wank lol I like to give a chance to improve and then if it’s not for me I won’t meet again. Life’s too short for shit sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Proactive, I would like to be told if I could improve something as well!

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I guide, even if it's just positive affirmations when something feels good. And I fully expect to be guided, although I like to think that I'm fairly adept at reading body language and sex noises...we all like different things, and even as regular partners we have different moods where we would like things a certain way (and perhaps not exactly the same way that we wanted it yesterday).

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Guided hands, just there said or don't stop tend to be the easiest way for me to communicate.

And I don't mind being guided by someone to tell me what they like

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines


"Guided hands, just there said or don't stop tend to be the easiest way for me to communicate.

And I don't mind being guided by someone to tell me what they like "
exactly this xx

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By *ylonlover87Man
over a year ago

upchurch


"When having sex with someone new or even with someone regular do you give them pointers as to how they should please you?

How you liked to be kissed or licked etc, what are your erogonous zones etc.

Or do you stay silent and just not meet them again ever "

Proactive love to be in control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Passive but I usually get what I want with gestures x x sometimes the body can tell more than a lot of words.

Also hate the “do this, do that.. u aren’t doing it correctly”

Its not an assignment x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I definitely give pointers, either subtlety or not so

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I definitely give pointers, either subtlety or not so "

Sorry just imagining you saying,

Geezus! stop licking it and fuck it already you wanker!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I definitely give pointers, either subtlety or not so "

Just sit on my face where you want me to lick.

Simples.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I definitely give pointers, either subtlety or not so

Just sit on my face where you want me to lick.

Simples. "

I have a cane which doubles up as a pointer

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I definitely give pointers, either subtlety or not so

Just sit on my face where you want me to lick.

Simples.

I have a cane which doubles up as a pointer "

Bring that too.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Neither.

If that man cannot read my body's reactions to his touch then we should not be meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very good with instructions, clear instructions though….with pictures…

This is the problem with sex and expectations I find. If your expecting something specific, or for something to happen naturally, it might not unless someone speaks up. And why not say ‘ try this’ (as a pointer) chances are, that’s a clearer indication of what’s good for you than staying silent about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

back in the day, i'd have stayed quiet for fear of ruining the mood. then faked it and left

but now im older, and a little less naive, ive realised the communication side of things is important - from both sides.

thankfully that's lead to the best sex of my life! Px

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath


"When having sex with someone new or even with someone regular do you give them pointers as to how they should please you?

How you liked to be kissed or licked etc, what are your erogonous zones etc.

Or do you stay silent and just not meet them again ever "

Someone new I normally leave them to it and get a feel for how they do things. Although if I’m meeting someone Iv probably already mentioned things I liked in conversation before.

A regular I give more direction.

I love my neck being kissed

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By *ove2Lick!Man
over a year ago

Banbury

Love to learn, plus see reactions to what I’m doing. Listening is so important too !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the person, if you vibe well it's easy to guide each other towards what you like and don't like.

Some people you can give a instruction book and map, they still won't be sexually compatible so those are best for one offs

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