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"Alright slutes, so I am kind of hungover today and I was thinking a lot on the whole situation when it comes to (girl) friends and their love/sex interest …or your love/sex interests and your own girl friends Do you have a strict girl code? And what rules u got? Also Do you like to lift each other up? OR have you been that kind of super shady friend who has been in a situation where you WENT THERE with full knowledge that your bestie or your good friend had her hands in there first?! Have you ever regretted it to have behaved a certain way for a guy/dick?? and what were the consequences, if that blew up in your face? Have you lost your friend because of it? Personally… this is a HUGE NO-NO for me , no matter how good that dick is/could be!! I’ve never betrayed a girl friend this way, and I’d be kinda put off by a guy if I know he was involved with her in the first place! And I think it’s a very shitty thing to do (like I’d hate it if it was my bestie trying to sleep or snatching the guys I’m interested in.) And guys, have you made a chick break her girl code? Or did she come onto you breaking it herself? Did you care? If the first option…please reel in ur horny dicks!! cos that shit ruins friendship! (I know it takes two to tango) " In my experience, woman have no code, shame or remorse when they want a guy. Nothing will stop them | |||
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"My friends being with a man makes him automatically off limits as far as I'm concerned. If their relationship finished then it's a different matter." What about if it’s someone your friend likes but they for example are in a hook up only situation. And that person comes onto you but you know your friend really likes him? | |||
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"Alright slutes, so I am kind of hungover today and I was thinking a lot on the whole situation when it comes to (girl) friends and their love/sex interest …or your love/sex interests and your own girl friends Do you have a strict girl code? And what rules u got? Also Do you like to lift each other up? OR have you been that kind of super shady friend who has been in a situation where you WENT THERE with full knowledge that your bestie or your good friend had her hands in there first?! Have you ever regretted it to have behaved a certain way for a guy/dick?? and what were the consequences, if that blew up in your face? Have you lost your friend because of it? Personally… this is a HUGE NO-NO for me , no matter how good that dick is/could be!! I’ve never betrayed a girl friend this way, and I’d be kinda put off by a guy if I know he was involved with her in the first place! And I think it’s a very shitty thing to do (like I’d hate it if it was my bestie trying to sleep or snatching the guys I’m interested in.) And guys, have you made a chick break her girl code? Or did she come onto you breaking it herself? Did you care? If the first option…please reel in ur horny dicks!! cos that shit ruins friendship! (I know it takes two to tango) In my experience, woman have no code, shame or remorse when they want a guy. Nothing will stop them " I don’t think I’d want to lose my bestie or another really good friend over a dude. Betraying a friendship like that is never worth it. I don’t think anyway | |||
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"Alright slutes, so I am kind of hungover today and I was thinking a lot on the whole situation when it comes to (girl) friends and their love/sex interest …or your love/sex interests and your own girl friends Do you have a strict girl code? And what rules u got? Also Do you like to lift each other up? OR have you been that kind of super shady friend who has been in a situation where you WENT THERE with full knowledge that your bestie or your good friend had her hands in there first?! Have you ever regretted it to have behaved a certain way for a guy/dick?? and what were the consequences, if that blew up in your face? Have you lost your friend because of it? Personally… this is a HUGE NO-NO for me , no matter how good that dick is/could be!! I’ve never betrayed a girl friend this way, and I’d be kinda put off by a guy if I know he was involved with her in the first place! And I think it’s a very shitty thing to do (like I’d hate it if it was my bestie trying to sleep or snatching the guys I’m interested in.) And guys, have you made a chick break her girl code? Or did she come onto you breaking it herself? Did you care? If the first option…please reel in ur horny dicks!! cos that shit ruins friendship! (I know it takes two to tango) In my experience, woman have no code, shame or remorse when they want a guy. Nothing will stop them " This. Some women will stamp all over you to get what they want friend or not... | |||
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"My friends being with a man makes him automatically off limits as far as I'm concerned. If their relationship finished then it's a different matter. What about if it’s someone your friend likes but they for example are in a hook up only situation. And that person comes onto you but you know your friend really likes him? " It doesn't really apply to me. If I were single and I knew a friend was interested in a man but he wasn't interested in her I'd think it was ok to start seeing him. If they had a hook up arrangement I wouldn't be interested in him anyway. I like my men to be genuinely single no complications thanks. I'm waaay too old for the "I saw him first" attitude though | |||
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"Alright slutes, so I am kind of hungover today and I was thinking a lot on the whole situation when it comes to (girl) friends and their love/sex interest …or your love/sex interests and your own girl friends Do you have a strict girl code? And what rules u got? Also Do you like to lift each other up? OR have you been that kind of super shady friend who has been in a situation where you WENT THERE with full knowledge that your bestie or your good friend had her hands in there first?! Have you ever regretted it to have behaved a certain way for a guy/dick?? and what were the consequences, if that blew up in your face? Have you lost your friend because of it? Personally… this is a HUGE NO-NO for me , no matter how good that dick is/could be!! I’ve never betrayed a girl friend this way, and I’d be kinda put off by a guy if I know he was involved with her in the first place! And I think it’s a very shitty thing to do (like I’d hate it if it was my bestie trying to sleep or snatching the guys I’m interested in.) And guys, have you made a chick break her girl code? Or did she come onto you breaking it herself? Did you care? If the first option…please reel in ur horny dicks!! cos that shit ruins friendship! (I know it takes two to tango) In my experience, woman have no code, shame or remorse when they want a guy. Nothing will stop them This. Some women will stamp all over you to get what they want friend or not... " Did u have any bad experiences u wanted to share? X I’m in nosey rosey mode. Btw I’m talking strictly FRIENDS. not women in general. Like throw a piece of good dick in here and we’d be all over it like hungry pigeons | |||
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"My friends being with a man makes him automatically off limits as far as I'm concerned. If their relationship finished then it's a different matter. What about if it’s someone your friend likes but they for example are in a hook up only situation. And that person comes onto you but you know your friend really likes him? It doesn't really apply to me. If I were single and I knew a friend was interested in a man but he wasn't interested in her I'd think it was ok to start seeing him. If they had a hook up arrangement I wouldn't be interested in him anyway. I like my men to be genuinely single no complications thanks. I'm waaay too old for the "I saw him first" attitude though" Yeah I understand what you mean. I still think I’d regard her feelings anyway and think there’s more men to choose from anyway . Wouldn’t want to ruin a friendship that is important to me over it but that’s just me (Sometimes u get blessings and that’s okay) | |||
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"Full disclosure; I've been the shitty friend who has let her quim be in control and not thought about how a good friend would feel. Was it worth it? No. So now, I wouldn't say it's girl code but I have a very strict Meli code where I don't even begin to entertain it. It's a hard boundary for me, one that people do sometimes like to try and push for some reason but whatever. Zero interest in meeting anyone a close/good friend is seeing/fucking/wants to/whatever. Won't even entertain a bit of flirting. I can respect that others do things differently but I know that for me, friendship and fucking a) doesn't mix well and b) the former is more important than the latter. I just remove myself from the equation. Unless it was Cumbersnatch and the rule book is thrown out." Meli, you are precious and you need to be protected! Thanks for sharing your story even if you had a shady experience. Hope you managed to mend things with ur girl friend x I totally agree with what u said at the end x just not worth it plenty more (and bigger) dicks in the sea | |||
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"My friends being with a man makes him automatically off limits as far as I'm concerned. If their relationship finished then it's a different matter. What about if it’s someone your friend likes but they for example are in a hook up only situation. And that person comes onto you but you know your friend really likes him? It doesn't really apply to me. If I were single and I knew a friend was interested in a man but he wasn't interested in her I'd think it was ok to start seeing him. If they had a hook up arrangement I wouldn't be interested in him anyway. I like my men to be genuinely single no complications thanks. I'm waaay too old for the "I saw him first" attitude though Yeah I understand what you mean. I still think I’d regard her feelings anyway and think there’s more men to choose from anyway . Wouldn’t want to ruin a friendship that is important to me over it but that’s just me (Sometimes u get blessings and that’s okay)" What if a man was your perfect partner and there was a very real possibility that you could be in a happy, long term relationship with him? Should the fact that your friend likes him stop that? Would a true friend even want you to sacrifice a relationship for them? The plenty more men rule applies to her too. | |||
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"Alright slutes, so I am kind of hungover today and I was thinking a lot on the whole situation when it comes to (girl) friends and their love/sex interest …or your love/sex interests and your own girl friends Do you have a strict girl code? And what rules u got? Also Do you like to lift each other up? OR have you been that kind of super shady friend who has been in a situation where you WENT THERE with full knowledge that your bestie or your good friend had her hands in there first?! Have you ever regretted it to have behaved a certain way for a guy/dick?? and what were the consequences, if that blew up in your face? Have you lost your friend because of it? Personally… this is a HUGE NO-NO for me , no matter how good that dick is/could be!! I’ve never betrayed a girl friend this way, and I’d be kinda put off by a guy if I know he was involved with her in the first place! And I think it’s a very shitty thing to do (like I’d hate it if it was my bestie trying to sleep or snatching the guys I’m interested in.) And guys, have you made a chick break her girl code? Or did she come onto you breaking it herself? Did you care? If the first option…please reel in ur horny dicks!! cos that shit ruins friendship! (I know it takes two to tango) In my experience, woman have no code, shame or remorse when they want a guy. Nothing will stop them " False jesus where do you hang out | |||
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"Alright slutes, so I am kind of hungover today and I was thinking a lot on the whole situation when it comes to (girl) friends and their love/sex interest …or your love/sex interests and your own girl friends Do you have a strict girl code? And what rules u got? Also Do you like to lift each other up? OR have you been that kind of super shady friend who has been in a situation where you WENT THERE with full knowledge that your bestie or your good friend had her hands in there first?! Have you ever regretted it to have behaved a certain way for a guy/dick?? and what were the consequences, if that blew up in your face? Have you lost your friend because of it? Personally… this is a HUGE NO-NO for me , no matter how good that dick is/could be!! I’ve never betrayed a girl friend this way, and I’d be kinda put off by a guy if I know he was involved with her in the first place! And I think it’s a very shitty thing to do (like I’d hate it if it was my bestie trying to sleep or snatching the guys I’m interested in.) And guys, have you made a chick break her girl code? Or did she come onto you breaking it herself? Did you care? If the first option…please reel in ur horny dicks!! cos that shit ruins friendship! (I know it takes two to tango) In my experience, woman have no code, shame or remorse when they want a guy. Nothing will stop them False jesus where do you hang out" You’ll find me outside yours with a boombox playing careless whisper most evenings | |||
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"Alright slutes, so I am kind of hungover today and I was thinking a lot on the whole situation when it comes to (girl) friends and their love/sex interest …or your love/sex interests and your own girl friends Do you have a strict girl code? And what rules u got? Also Do you like to lift each other up? OR have you been that kind of super shady friend who has been in a situation where you WENT THERE with full knowledge that your bestie or your good friend had her hands in there first?! Have you ever regretted it to have behaved a certain way for a guy/dick?? and what were the consequences, if that blew up in your face? Have you lost your friend because of it? Personally… this is a HUGE NO-NO for me , no matter how good that dick is/could be!! I’ve never betrayed a girl friend this way, and I’d be kinda put off by a guy if I know he was involved with her in the first place! And I think it’s a very shitty thing to do (like I’d hate it if it was my bestie trying to sleep or snatching the guys I’m interested in.) And guys, have you made a chick break her girl code? Or did she come onto you breaking it herself? Did you care? If the first option…please reel in ur horny dicks!! cos that shit ruins friendship! (I know it takes two to tango) In my experience, woman have no code, shame or remorse when they want a guy. Nothing will stop them False jesus where do you hang out You’ll find me outside yours with a boombox playing careless whisper most evenings" Now that's Romantic | |||
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"Also does a woman liking a guy make him off limits to all her friends? She doesn't own him " I wonder this. What’s to stop a friend from making claims on guys to effectively cock block friends? Doesn’t this kind of girl code put different groups in direct conflict with each other and treats guys kind of like material possessions? Just a few thoughts and questions | |||
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"Meli, you are precious and you need to be protected! Thanks for sharing your story even if you had a shady experience. Hope you managed to mend things with ur girl friend x I totally agree with what u said at the end x just not worth it plenty more (and bigger) dicks in the sea " Aww Super Slute! I was the shady one, thankfully things are really good with my friend even with my shady bitch behaviour. Not my finest hour. For me it's not about laying claim to every penis within a 100 miles radius, it's more... I can tell if there's "something" between a good friend and a man. I don't want to damage/potentially ruin a friendship over that. It's not even about treating men like material possessions, they're their own agents and I can respect whatever decision it is they make and likewise, I hope the same respect is afforded to me. I don't stop close friends/cockblock them, I just... take myself out of the equation. I'd rather see them happy than things turn out messy. And I'm hot enough to get attention elsewhere. It's not about acquaintances, it's about the friends that I talk with frequently, the ones who I'll invite to my wedding. The ones whose feelings might be hurt. It doesn't mean that a man can't flirt or do whatever with a friend. If they turn out to be soul mates I'd be delighted for them. It also doesn't mean a man is off limits because a friend sent him a wink. | |||
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"Alright slutes, so I am kind of hungover today and I was thinking a lot on the whole situation when it comes to (girl) friends and their love/sex interest …or your love/sex interests and your own girl friends Do you have a strict girl code? And what rules u got? Also Do you like to lift each other up? OR have you been that kind of super shady friend who has been in a situation where you WENT THERE with full knowledge that your bestie or your good friend had her hands in there first?! Have you ever regretted it to have behaved a certain way for a guy/dick?? and what were the consequences, if that blew up in your face? Have you lost your friend because of it? Personally… this is a HUGE NO-NO for me , no matter how good that dick is/could be!! I’ve never betrayed a girl friend this way, and I’d be kinda put off by a guy if I know he was involved with her in the first place! And I think it’s a very shitty thing to do (like I’d hate it if it was my bestie trying to sleep or snatching the guys I’m interested in.) And guys, have you made a chick break her girl code? Or did she come onto you breaking it herself? Did you care? If the first option…please reel in ur horny dicks!! cos that shit ruins friendship! (I know it takes two to tango) " I think this can be pretty ambiguous Kylie - particularly when it comes to a site like this. I’ve known girls/women in the past who’ve claimed first dibs on every hot guy from miles around - it’s far from uncommon - so unless it’s someone they’re actually dating (or mutually interested in dating each other) - then in all honesty they’re fair game. On here if also come across MANY women who strongly feel that you shouldn’t chat to or meet anyone they’ve ever met or anyone they might possibly ever meet - which means half the guys in the north west are out of bounds. I stay away from friends close fb’s FWB’s whether I’m asked to or not as i have what I consider to be pretty strong morals - but conversely I’m pretty chilled about who my fb’s meet - I’ve even recommended them to friends if I think there’d be a mutual attraction. The only time I’ve ever really been hurt was when a ‘friend’ went behind my back and persuaded a close fb to start a couples profile on here. As I’d actually introduced them and she knew his friendship was important to me I felt somewhat kicked in the teeth. The couples profile was soon dissolved but the damage was done. These days I’m a little more guarded - but still very trusting. | |||
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"Does girl code exist in the swinging/fab world or is it just a free for all since there's no strings. " I personally would back off if one girl I think of as a friend and she took interest in him We not gonna compare dicks! Unless blessing has been given But that’s only for the ones I made friends with x | |||
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"Meli, you are precious and you need to be protected! Thanks for sharing your story even if you had a shady experience. Hope you managed to mend things with ur girl friend x I totally agree with what u said at the end x just not worth it plenty more (and bigger) dicks in the sea Aww Super Slute! I was the shady one, thankfully things are really good with my friend even with my shady bitch behaviour. Not my finest hour. For me it's not about laying claim to every penis within a 100 miles radius, it's more... I can tell if there's "something" between a good friend and a man. I don't want to damage/potentially ruin a friendship over that. It's not even about treating men like material possessions, they're their own agents and I can respect whatever decision it is they make and likewise, I hope the same respect is afforded to me. I don't stop close friends/cockblock them, I just... take myself out of the equation. I'd rather see them happy than things turn out messy. And I'm hot enough to get attention elsewhere. It's not about acquaintances, it's about the friends that I talk with frequently, the ones who I'll invite to my wedding. The ones whose feelings might be hurt. It doesn't mean that a man can't flirt or do whatever with a friend. If they turn out to be soul mates I'd be delighted for them. It also doesn't mean a man is off limits because a friend sent him a wink. " I’m so glad u are a reformed shady slute and that’s no more you and learnt from it! That’s what matters No need to be the hot dog bun kinda girl haha plenty of hot dogs about for sure Also friends exes are pretty off limit for me and to be honest I wouldn’t wish mine on ANY girl cos they were toxic fuck boys!!! | |||
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"I was in a relationship with a girl and her best friend always had a thing for me, and I always wanted to fuck her but I never admitted it. My girlfriend went away for the weekend so I went out with some mates. I bumped into her ‘best friend’ in town and just said a polite hello and then carried on with my evening. She then came and sat with us and started flirting with one of my mates. We all had a few more drinks until we could hardly walk and headed back. We got in the back of a taxi and my mate in the front. Turned out she wanted to take advantage that night, as when we got in the taxi her hand went down my trousers. I didn’t stop her I just let her do it - next thing I know we get back to mine and she’s riding me. Next morning I woke up with a sore head and there she was laying next to me, both of us in the nude. I decided that the damage had already been done so I fucked her again before ending it with my girlfriend. I was never going to explain myself out of that one, which is why I still ended it - but I still see her friend every now and again for another round and her (now husband) has no idea. People can try and stick to a code as much as they like - we can’t trust each other to stick to it properly (in my experience). " Jeez… did ur gf ever find out the reason why u guys broke up or did u come up with some BS excuse? She didn’t sound like a good friend to ur ex to me btw… | |||
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"I have a close knit group of friends, a small circle of those who have been there for me through everything if I were to like someone a friend was into (or vice versa) I’d hope after 30 odd years of friendship we would have the balls to talk about it. A lot of this is circumstantial, it could be fancying the same guy that neither of you have been with or it could be wanting to get with a friends current or ex partner…there completely different in my eyes. You can’t stake claim on someone you have never been with, and just because you like them doesn’t necessarily mean its reciprocated. Some woman can convince themselves that a particular infatuation is going to happen, you need to be honest, open and trust those around you it’s all about conversation- that said if my friend had been with someone long term or was married to said person it be a complete no go for me xx" I think if it’s like a situation of potential interest with no involvement then it can be discussed openly x | |||
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"Yes I told her what happened - she doesn’t speak to either of us anymore. I was gutted at the time but I had to just take ownership of what I’d done . No point in saying “but I was d*unk” - girls hear that all the time! Yeah she was never that great a friend to her x" Was it worth it for you? And wondering how the girl you slept with feels about losing ur ex as a friend over it x No judging x | |||
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"A close friend? Nope, even an ex of theirs would feel weird. An acquaintance? It would always have depended on the situation - if they were in a relationship then no, I'm not about that. But if it was just someone they fancied and hadn't done anything about it then game on. " Yeah I’d agree with that. I was talking strictly people you deem as friends/good friends | |||
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"A close friend? Nope, even an ex of theirs would feel weird. An acquaintance? It would always have depended on the situation - if they were in a relationship then no, I'm not about that. But if it was just someone they fancied and hadn't done anything about it then game on. Yeah I’d agree with that. I was talking strictly people you deem as friends/good friends " You look so pretttttyyyyyyyy!! | |||
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"A close friend? Nope, even an ex of theirs would feel weird. An acquaintance? It would always have depended on the situation - if they were in a relationship then no, I'm not about that. But if it was just someone they fancied and hadn't done anything about it then game on. Yeah I’d agree with that. I was talking strictly people you deem as friends/good friends You look so pretttttyyyyyyyy!! " Thanks x x | |||
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"Good friends are hard to find. Always mates before dates (don't like bros before hoes or chicks before dicks) " True x U make sense every now and then u x | |||
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"My friends being with a man makes him automatically off limits as far as I'm concerned. If their relationship finished then it's a different matter. What about if it’s someone your friend likes but they for example are in a hook up only situation. And that person comes onto you but you know your friend really likes him? " Playground stuff. I've never understood this, what about the person they are lusting over, don't they have a say? How about the crushed feelings of two people who don't get together because of some daft code? Fucking around with someone's partner is one thing, leaving someone alone because a mate likes them is some form of negative control. | |||
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"Good friends are hard to find. Always mates before dates (don't like bros before hoes or chicks before dicks) " | |||
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