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By *oftyandhislover OP   Couple
over a year ago

surrey

Fat shaming…I’m seeing this quite often and one profile in particular sadly bangs on about it. If you don’t like what you see please just scroll on by

Would be very boring if we all looked the same, personally I’m a bbw and I’ve lost 4 stone and feel fabulous!! It’s all about positive mental attitude

Think we should all love our bods regardless of size

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By *..FirstMan
over a year ago

london

You are right, very boring if we are all the same.

Polite and respectful is what I look for, if you don’t like what you see… move along with a “No Thanks”

There is the perfect fit for everyone here, dare I say more than one perfect fit.

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By *oftyandhislover OP   Couple
over a year ago

surrey

Thanks for replying, wasn’t sure if anyone felt the same when reading updates etc

Absolutely believe there’s someone for everyone on here

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By *eandher4and9Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I am a big BBW and love my body if people don't like the way I am then don't look simple!!!!

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Congratulations on the 4st loss OP!

I’m a proper hefty bird and in all my years here I don’t think I’ve seen much body shaming on status’/messages. I have been lucky for sure. Best course of action is possibly to block the offenders for your sanity. Report if they’re violating site rules.

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By *oftyandhislover OP   Couple
over a year ago

surrey


"I am a big BBW and love my body if people don't like the way I am then don't look simple!!!! "

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who do this are either very insecure or so far up their own arse they think they are fantastic. Either way, whatever they say can't take away the person you are. Don't let someone else's preference dictate your self esteem

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs

I’ve seen a few comments here and there and they usually get a block from me. No time for it.

The overwhelming majority of Fabbers are accepting of all shapes and sizes and I was pleased to find that my local club is as well. It’s done wonders for my body confidence

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By *oftyandhislover OP   Couple
over a year ago

surrey


"Congratulations on the 4st loss OP!

I’m a proper hefty bird and in all my years here I don’t think I’ve seen much body shaming on status’/messages. I have been lucky for sure. Best course of action is possibly to block the offenders for your sanity. Report if they’re violating site rules.

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Thank you, still got some way to go before I’m happy but doing for myself

It’s just so sad to read, why does someone else’s body bother them so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most body Shamers have body issues of their own. Best to ignore, and don’t engage, same with any other form of bullying. It’s rarely about you.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway


"I’ve seen a few comments here and there and they usually get a block from me. No time for it.

The overwhelming majority of Fabbers are accepting of all shapes and sizes and I was pleased to find that my local club is as well. It’s done wonders for my body confidence "

Strut your stuff B!

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By *oftyandhislover OP   Couple
over a year ago

surrey


"Most body Shamers have body issues of their own. Best to ignore, and don’t engage, same with any other form of bullying. It’s rarely about you.

"

I’m not experiencing it but I want to jump on and shut it down tho. Just so unnecessary

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By *oftyandhislover OP   Couple
over a year ago

surrey


"I’ve seen a few comments here and there and they usually get a block from me. No time for it.

The overwhelming majority of Fabbers are accepting of all shapes and sizes and I was pleased to find that my local club is as well. It’s done wonders for my body confidence "

Yayyyyyy love this reply!!! Glad you’re feeling fabulous x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If everyone was the same life would be incredibly dull be that in size, style or taste.

I always wonder at posts commenting about people's sizes of body parts , everyone is totally different and that is what makes them special. You will either be attracted to someone or not and its not all about measurements but personality plays a part too.

Well done with your personal achievement OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that this site is pretty inclusive and accepting There really is something for everyone.

Congrats on your weight loss, OP. Looking fabulous! X

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

It's so wrong! Everyone is different and no one should not feel good enough in their own skin. People are attracted to different things which is fine, But it's not fine to mock others appearance or belittle them. Isn't a pretty face destroyed by an ugly personality anyway? Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless there are psychological or physical illnesses to blame I really don’t understand how people can get so overweight.

That’s not body shaming that’s genuinely not understanding how it happens.

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By *oftyandhislover OP   Couple
over a year ago

surrey


"People who do this are either very insecure or so far up their own arse they think they are fantastic. Either way, whatever they say can't take away the person you are. Don't let someone else's preference dictate your self esteem "

Absolutely!! I’ve embraced my thick thighs and tum, turns out quite a few chaps like also

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By *nto the LouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

That’s an amazing weight loss achievement, so glad you’re feeling lovely and positive about yourself, there’s no better feeling!

I’ve not seen any fat shaming as yet but I wouldn’t be very impressed if I did x

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs


"I’ve seen a few comments here and there and they usually get a block from me. No time for it.

The overwhelming majority of Fabbers are accepting of all shapes and sizes and I was pleased to find that my local club is as well. It’s done wonders for my body confidence

Strut your stuff B! "

You know you’ll be seeing that again soon

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By *he Knight is YoungMan
over a year ago

22 Acacia Ave, Preston-for now

Some people on here think that we should be all models and look like the stereotypical porn stars.

It's time to wake up and smell the coffee as we all have jobs,work and even kids that control our lives away from fab and that means basically that we have a life,we all can't go to the gym or let alone have the spare time/energy to go to fitness training to get the buff look.

We all unique in our own special way,every imperfection is your perfection and you should wear it with pride...

I love Curvy women as I see it as normal and I've found that they are happier with themselves more than a woman who is pissed off because she's on here 5th diet and has lettuce while I tuck into a steak.

I'd rather have that woman likes to take her afters home

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs


"I’ve seen a few comments here and there and they usually get a block from me. No time for it.

The overwhelming majority of Fabbers are accepting of all shapes and sizes and I was pleased to find that my local club is as well. It’s done wonders for my body confidence

Yayyyyyy love this reply!!! Glad you’re feeling fabulous x"

Thank you Well done on the 4st loss too. I’m working to lose a few stone as well, but I’m going to try and rock what I’ve got in the meantime

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By *oftyandhislover OP   Couple
over a year ago

surrey


"Unless there are psychological or physical illnesses to blame I really don’t understand how people can get so overweight.

That’s not body shaming that’s genuinely not understanding how it happens. "

Folk find mental comfort in food, sometimes it’s your background. I was brought up to eat everything on your plate or go without

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island


"Unless there are psychological or physical illnesses to blame I really don’t understand how people can get so overweight.

That’s not body shaming that’s genuinely not understanding how it happens. "

Depression is often cited as the reason why someone overeats etc.

I say that having gone through the cycle and started losing weight.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Well done op, that's amazing! People can just move onto a profile that suits them, if they don't like mine.

I agree no need to go on about it, it doesn't reflect well on them.

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"I am a big BBW and love my body if people don't like the way I am then don't look simple!!!! "
This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no need for fat shaming or any type of body shaming.

Unfortunately it’s more common than it used to be and it’s sad that other project they’re own body insecurities onto others, which can cause more harm.

We’re all different and that’s beautiful. As long as you’re happy it’s no one else’s business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are so rude aren't they.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Fat shaming…I’m seeing this quite often and one profile in particular sadly bangs on about it. If you don’t like what you see please just scroll on by

Would be very boring if we all looked the same, personally I’m a bbw and I’ve lost 4 stone and feel fabulous!! It’s all about positive mental attitude

Think we should all love our bods regardless of size "

Couldn't agree more, there's also quite a bit of thin shaming on here to which is no less of a crime but tends to go unnoticed. I think commenting on anyone's weight on here is just nasty. Like you say if it isn't to someone's taste then they can look elsewhere, no need for vile comments

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Imagine the carnage if everybody fancied the one body type. Variety is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never mind "fat shaming" its just the trying to shame others that is not on.

if its not your size/hape its you colour, religion, culture, job or not status, if you live in rented or not the car you drive, your friends you have if diivorced/single/virgin and so on - many inbreeds dont need an excuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless there are psychological or physical illnesses to blame I really don’t understand how people can get so overweight.

That’s not body shaming that’s genuinely not understanding how it happens. "

For me personally it's a mix of growing up with unhealthy eating habits (finish everything on plate so body no longer recognises when it's full, food was given as reward/treat etc), self harm after sexual assault in teens (I believed the uglier/fatter I am the less likely I am to be attacked again),3 difficult pregnancies very close together which left me with chronic pain and poor mobility, addiction to sugar (which is more addictive and harder to kick than cocaine apparently) and most recently diagnosed with binge eating disorder stemming from trauma, depression and anxiety.

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester


"Fat shaming…I’m seeing this quite often and one profile in particular sadly bangs on about it. If you don’t like what you see please just scroll on by

Would be very boring if we all looked the same, personally I’m a bbw and I’ve lost 4 stone and feel fabulous!! It’s all about positive mental attitude

Think we should all love our bods regardless of size

Couldn't agree more, there's also quite a bit of thin shaming on here to which is no less of a crime but tends to go unnoticed. I think commenting on anyone's weight on here is just nasty. Like you say if it isn't to someone's taste then they can look elsewhere, no need for vile comments"

I agree with this completely!! I’ve seen a lot of comments that have caused me to think my size is holding our profile back. I just don’t understand the mindset of some people! Well done op for your weight loss, that’s fantastic. Miss pc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fat shaming…I’m seeing this quite often and one profile in particular sadly bangs on about it. If you don’t like what you see please just scroll on by

Would be very boring if we all looked the same, personally I’m a bbw and I’ve lost 4 stone and feel fabulous!! It’s all about positive mental attitude

Think we should all love our bods regardless of size

Couldn't agree more, there's also quite a bit of thin shaming on here to which is no less of a crime but tends to go unnoticed. I think commenting on anyone's weight on here is just nasty. Like you say if it isn't to someone's taste then they can look elsewhere, no need for vile comments"

It's the white knights who demean other peoples body types in order to try and compliment you. You can say you like curvy/bbw/larger women without resorting to calling them "real bodies" or the vile saying that only dogs like bones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never mind "fat shaming" its just the trying to shame others that is not on.

if its not your size/hape its you colour, religion, culture, job or not status, if you live in rented or not the car you drive, your friends you have if diivorced/single/virgin and so on - many inbreeds dont need an excuse.

"

Inbreeds? WTF? This thread is about fat shaming others.

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By *oftyandhislover OP   Couple
over a year ago

surrey


"Unless there are psychological or physical illnesses to blame I really don’t understand how people can get so overweight.

That’s not body shaming that’s genuinely not understanding how it happens.

For me personally it's a mix of growing up with unhealthy eating habits (finish everything on plate so body no longer recognises when it's full, food was given as reward/treat etc), self harm after sexual assault in teens (I believed the uglier/fatter I am the less likely I am to be attacked again),3 difficult pregnancies very close together which left me with chronic pain and poor mobility, addiction to sugar (which is more addictive and harder to kick than cocaine apparently) and most recently diagnosed with binge eating disorder stemming from trauma, depression and anxiety.

"

If I could give you a hug I would!!!

I really hope you have an amazing network around you keeping you strong and positive. Those folk are like gold dust xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fat shaming…I’m seeing this quite often and one profile in particular sadly bangs on about it. If you don’t like what you see please just scroll on by

Would be very boring if we all looked the same, personally I’m a bbw and I’ve lost 4 stone and feel fabulous!! It’s all about positive mental attitude

Think we should all love our bods regardless of size

Couldn't agree more, there's also quite a bit of thin shaming on here to which is no less of a crime but tends to go unnoticed. I think commenting on anyone's weight on here is just nasty. Like you say if it isn't to someone's taste then they can look elsewhere, no need for vile comments

It's the white knights who demean other peoples body types in order to try and compliment you. You can say you like curvy/bbw/larger women without resorting to calling them "real bodies" or the vile saying that only dogs like bones. "

White Knighting is rife on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who do this are either very insecure or so far up their own arse they think they are fantastic. Either way, whatever they say can't take away the person you are. Don't let someone else's preference dictate your self esteem

Absolutely!! I’ve embraced my thick thighs and tum, turns out quite a few chaps like also"

You look gorgeous and I'm sure lots of guys find you sexy.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Body shaming at either end of the scale (and all shapes inbetween) is unnecessary and unacceptable.

We all have our preferences, but lets express them positively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are so mean ??

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

Tbh its a shame there isn't more fat people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was fat shamed the other day. How dare that doctor tell me if I didn't lose weight I might get heart problems!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

All you really need to understand is that being fat isn't a conscious choice.

I'm amazed by folk who don't put weight on.

As someone who 14 years ago was almost 21 stones and has spent all those years and the rest of my life considering every mouthful I eat, I'd like their secret.

Food addiction is a powerful thing to overcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless there are psychological or physical illnesses to blame I really don’t understand how people can get so overweight.

That’s not body shaming that’s genuinely not understanding how it happens. "

Same here and was/am kinda curious to know the answer but I didn’t want to come across as disrespectful

Like is there a point that women realise it or are some conscious all the way but just picked up bad habits that can’t be/are difficult to be broken?

Hope none is offended by my questions x

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Unless there are psychological or physical illnesses to blame I really don’t understand how people can get so overweight.

That’s not body shaming that’s genuinely not understanding how it happens.

Same here and was/am kinda curious to know the answer but I didn’t want to come across as disrespectful

Like is there a point that women realise it or are some conscious all the way but just picked up bad habits that can’t be/are difficult to be broken?

Hope none is offended by my questions x "

I’ve wondered it too, but as someone that’s battled addiction I can say there’s times I knew I was on the verge of financial failure, social failure, losing my job, even death, and I just didn’t care.

Sometimes you dig a hole so deep the only way you can see to go is down. What’s the point kinda attitude

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By *he Knight is YoungMan
over a year ago

22 Acacia Ave, Preston-for now


"All you really need to understand is that being fat isn't a conscious choice.

I'm amazed by folk who don't put weight on.

As someone who 14 years ago was almost 21 stones and has spent all those years and the rest of my life considering every mouthful I eat, I'd like their secret.

Food addiction is a powerful thing to overcome."

I am one of those annoying people who can eat and eat and not put on weight.

It's not as good as you think ,I find it very hard to put on weight and then when I do,I can sneeze and lose half a stone

I've always said, be happy with how you are and the rest of the happiness follows

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there's a difference between expressing a preference and body shaming. You can say you like big cocks without calling small ones nasty names. You can say you like slim people without calling fat people nasty names.

There are some nasty assumptions though by both sides. A common request for slim people is someone "who looks after themselves" I will likely end up with knackered knees, I already have a dodgy back and routinely struggle to walk down the stairs after running hard. I also regularly feel hunger pains and ignore them because I know I'll put weight on if I don't. Not sure how any of that counts as "looking after myself" similarly there are comments about slim people not being real "I like a real woman" etc - presumably slim people are made in factories.

Re the eat everything on your plate way of being raised, I was also brought up like that. When I go back to my mums, her 50 year old dinner plates are not much bigger than our side plates. We ate everything on them because that was all there was.

I have gone from being a person who never put on weight whatever I ate to one who gets fat looking at food - despite a very high level of exercise. I have found that my appetite grows the more I feed it, I'll feel hungry a while before a meal whether my last meal was huge or small and once I'm used to a certain size there is no difference at all to how I feel before or after. I've just learnt that I can cope with feeling hungry

None of this is said to shame anyone, just an explanation of how I feel as often on here you can be judged harshly for being slim. People with athletic figures are called gym bunnies, self obsessed, considered thick and/or shallow (especially men carrying a lot of muscle). In return, these people who know just how hard it is to maintain their size/physique have a tendency to view those who don't make that effort as lazy or at the least are very intolerant of excuses.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

I'm 5ft 5in was 7st till I was 40. Could eat anything. Buying clothes to fit especially trousers and jeans was horrendous as they didn't do 26 inch waist then for men so it was 28 for me. Now I've put weight on can't take it off lol 32-34 inch waist lol now wish I could be 28-30 lol

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Unless there are psychological or physical illnesses to blame I really don’t understand how people can get so overweight.

That’s not body shaming that’s genuinely not understanding how it happens.

Same here and was/am kinda curious to know the answer but I didn’t want to come across as disrespectful

Like is there a point that women realise it or are some conscious all the way but just picked up bad habits that can’t be/are difficult to be broken?

Hope none is offended by my questions x "

Women and men. Some people develop habits from childhood or are fat children and it's just how they are.

I was stick thin a lot of my life through natural eating habits. I didn't eat much because I rarely felt hungry, and we weren't fed sweets to shut us up or as a treat.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"Body shaming at either end of the scale (and all shapes inbetween) is unnecessary and unacceptable.

We all have our preferences, but lets express them positively."
Well said! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was fat shamed the other day. How dare that doctor tell me if I didn't lose weight I might get heart problems!"

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I was fat shamed the other day. How dare that doctor tell me if I didn't lose weight I might get heart problems!

"

When I put on a lot of weight really quickly my GP said you're too fat, stop eating.

Great advice Doc

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Unless there are psychological or physical illnesses to blame I really don’t understand how people can get so overweight.

That’s not body shaming that’s genuinely not understanding how it happens.

Same here and was/am kinda curious to know the answer but I didn’t want to come across as disrespectful

Like is there a point that women realise it or are some conscious all the way but just picked up bad habits that can’t be/are difficult to be broken?

Hope none is offended by my questions x "

I did notice it, hard not too when you have to buy bugger sized clothing. I've had eating disorders since my teenage years. Where I didn't eat because thin was good according to my dad in particular. He was abusive I finally walked away and went completely the other way and was bigger than I am now. I had finally got it under control a year or so ago. And lost several stone and was keeping it off. I then had an ectopic pregnancy and other medical issues felt my life get out of control again. So my disordered eating started again, starting again to get it under control, but it takes time. I will get there again but I take my time and do it slowly. It's a very much mental as much as physical process for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless there are psychological or physical illnesses to blame I really don’t understand how people can get so overweight.

That’s not body shaming that’s genuinely not understanding how it happens.

Same here and was/am kinda curious to know the answer but I didn’t want to come across as disrespectful

Like is there a point that women realise it or are some conscious all the way but just picked up bad habits that can’t be/are difficult to be broken?

Hope none is offended by my questions x

I did notice it, hard not too when you have to buy bugger sized clothing. I've had eating disorders since my teenage years. Where I didn't eat because thin was good according to my dad in particular. He was abusive I finally walked away and went completely the other way and was bigger than I am now. I had finally got it under control a year or so ago. And lost several stone and was keeping it off. I then had an ectopic pregnancy and other medical issues felt my life get out of control again. So my disordered eating started again, starting again to get it under control, but it takes time. I will get there again but I take my time and do it slowly. It's a very much mental as much as physical process for me. "

I'm very sorry, I know it was a typo, but "bugger sized clothing" made me lose coffee.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Unless there are psychological or physical illnesses to blame I really don’t understand how people can get so overweight.

That’s not body shaming that’s genuinely not understanding how it happens.

Same here and was/am kinda curious to know the answer but I didn’t want to come across as disrespectful

Like is there a point that women realise it or are some conscious all the way but just picked up bad habits that can’t be/are difficult to be broken?

Hope none is offended by my questions x

I did notice it, hard not too when you have to buy bugger sized clothing. I've had eating disorders since my teenage years. Where I didn't eat because thin was good according to my dad in particular. He was abusive I finally walked away and went completely the other way and was bigger than I am now. I had finally got it under control a year or so ago. And lost several stone and was keeping it off. I then had an ectopic pregnancy and other medical issues felt my life get out of control again. So my disordered eating started again, starting again to get it under control, but it takes time. I will get there again but I take my time and do it slowly. It's a very much mental as much as physical process for me.

I'm very sorry, I know it was a typo, but "bugger sized clothing" made me lose coffee. "

Waa, sorry about the coffee

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Unless there are psychological or physical illnesses to blame I really don’t understand how people can get so overweight.

That’s not body shaming that’s genuinely not understanding how it happens.

Same here and was/am kinda curious to know the answer but I didn’t want to come across as disrespectful

Like is there a point that women realise it or are some conscious all the way but just picked up bad habits that can’t be/are difficult to be broken?

Hope none is offended by my questions x "

It's not only women who can be overweight.

I've been overweight for as long as I can remember. It's hard to work out from childhood pictures but I know I was overweight from the start of secondary school. Probably earlier. I was brought up in a household where food was home cooked. I was not allowed sweets, fizzy drinks, sugary cereal etc. We did not eat out, have takeaways or similar. However, I think portion sizes were big and we were told to finish everything on our plate. I was once served the remnants (cold and congealed) of the roast dinner I'd left on a Sunday evening, for breakfast on a Monday morning. I'd been told that if I didn't eat all the Sunday dinner, I'd be getting for breakfast. And I did. I remember protesting against eating it for breakfast and ended up feeding it to our dog. I had no other breakfast that day.

I eat the same foods as Mr KC and our adult son (when he was at home) and our daughter. I am the only overweight one.

Despite being overweight at school, I played most sports competitively and represented my school, town and county. Despite my disability now, I still play sports and go to the gym. Yesterday, I pushed 5k on the track in a racing wheelchair. Tomorrow, gym. Thursday, wheelchair basketball.

I remain overweight. I've been much the same "grade" of overweight all my adult life. My weight and dress size hasn't changed much or at all in the past 10-15yrs.

If anyone wants to judge me or whatever about my weight, then they can do one.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"All you really need to understand is that being fat isn't a conscious choice.

I'm amazed by folk who don't put weight on.

As someone who 14 years ago was almost 21 stones and has spent all those years and the rest of my life considering every mouthful I eat, I'd like their secret.

Food addiction is a powerful thing to overcome.

I am one of those annoying people who can eat and eat and not put on weight.

It's not as good as you think ,I find it very hard to put on weight and then when I do,I can sneeze and lose half a stone

I've always said, be happy with how you are and the rest of the happiness follows "

Indeed. Mr KC is 6ft 4 and weighs around 72kg/just over 11st. He has incredibly low body fat. He cannot gain much weight no matter what he eats (and he has a very healthy appetite). He's been as much as about 75kg in my memory, maybe 78, but no more. If he's ill even for a day or two, he loses a bit of weight and struggles to regain it. He is "officially" underweight by the BMI measure. He has never done any form of formal exercise.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I’m not going to apologise for being fat. I live my life for me, not anybody else. They don’t like my attitude or habits regarding my health, great chances are I won’t like theirs.

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over a year ago


"Unless there are psychological or physical illnesses to blame I really don’t understand how people can get so overweight.

That’s not body shaming that’s genuinely not understanding how it happens.

Same here and was/am kinda curious to know the answer but I didn’t want to come across as disrespectful

Like is there a point that women realise it or are some conscious all the way but just picked up bad habits that can’t be/are difficult to be broken?

Hope none is offended by my questions x "

Not offended at all

I realise it, from the moment I wake up until the moment I go to bed. All day. Constantly questioning my worth because of my weight. "That person doesn't talk to me because of my weight", "I don't excel in my career because of my weight". My thoughts day in day out.

I grew up where money was tight, and we ate whatever we were given. I was then overweight by a teen-ager.

I was bullied through year 7-9 where I was in the middle of the playground and everyone threw their lunch at me which ended up me walking home covered in food and comforting myself with food. It made me feel better.

I then had a sezuire in front of my bullies and found out I was epileptic. I was put on a medication Sodium valproate which now has a hefty amount of warnings. Leads to weight gain, leads to polycystic ovaries syndrome. Which I then developed. More weight gain.

My school thought because I was epileptic I needed learning support, which just made everything worse.

I also have hypothyroidism which makes it a little harder to lose weight.

I can't even begin to tell you how many times I have sat in the doctor's crying asking for some sort of help. I swim 3-4 times a week, I calorie count and my intake is 1750 a day. My weight never changes unless it's going up.

So mine was depression based and just spiralled from there. Whilst I am not blaming my weight on medical reasons, it just contributed.

Christ I'm going to stop now, hope that's a bit of help

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By *he Knight is YoungMan
over a year ago

22 Acacia Ave, Preston-for now


"All you really need to understand is that being fat isn't a conscious choice.

I'm amazed by folk who don't put weight on.

As someone who 14 years ago was almost 21 stones and has spent all those years and the rest of my life considering every mouthful I eat, I'd like their secret.

Food addiction is a powerful thing to overcome.

I am one of those annoying people who can eat and eat and not put on weight.

It's not as good as you think ,I find it very hard to put on weight and then when I do,I can sneeze and lose half a stone

I've always said, be happy with how you are and the rest of the happiness follows

Indeed. Mr KC is 6ft 4 and weighs around 72kg/just over 11st. He has incredibly low body fat. He cannot gain much weight no matter what he eats (and he has a very healthy appetite). He's been as much as about 75kg in my memory, maybe 78, but no more. If he's ill even for a day or two, he loses a bit of weight and struggles to regain it. He is "officially" underweight by the BMI measure. He has never done any form of formal exercise. "

You both look very fit

What's 75kg in old money ?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"All you really need to understand is that being fat isn't a conscious choice.

I'm amazed by folk who don't put weight on.

As someone who 14 years ago was almost 21 stones and has spent all those years and the rest of my life considering every mouthful I eat, I'd like their secret.

Food addiction is a powerful thing to overcome.

I am one of those annoying people who can eat and eat and not put on weight.

It's not as good as you think ,I find it very hard to put on weight and then when I do,I can sneeze and lose half a stone

I've always said, be happy with how you are and the rest of the happiness follows

Indeed. Mr KC is 6ft 4 and weighs around 72kg/just over 11st. He has incredibly low body fat. He cannot gain much weight no matter what he eats (and he has a very healthy appetite). He's been as much as about 75kg in my memory, maybe 78, but no more. If he's ill even for a day or two, he loses a bit of weight and struggles to regain it. He is "officially" underweight by the BMI measure. He has never done any form of formal exercise.

You both look very fit

What's 75kg in old money ? "

About 11st, 11lbs, I think? In terms of aerobic fitness, ironically I'm probably the fitter of the two of us. If terms of fit in the sense of to look at, he's stereotypically "fit", I'm plain fat! I'm a lot more than 70-anything kilos, by the way! It's Mr 6ft 4 indoors who is at that end of the spectrum.

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By *he Knight is YoungMan
over a year ago

22 Acacia Ave, Preston-for now


"All you really need to understand is that being fat isn't a conscious choice.

I'm amazed by folk who don't put weight on.

As someone who 14 years ago was almost 21 stones and has spent all those years and the rest of my life considering every mouthful I eat, I'd like their secret.

Food addiction is a powerful thing to overcome.

I am one of those annoying people who can eat and eat and not put on weight.

It's not as good as you think ,I find it very hard to put on weight and then when I do,I can sneeze and lose half a stone

I've always said, be happy with how you are and the rest of the happiness follows

Indeed. Mr KC is 6ft 4 and weighs around 72kg/just over 11st. He has incredibly low body fat. He cannot gain much weight no matter what he eats (and he has a very healthy appetite). He's been as much as about 75kg in my memory, maybe 78, but no more. If he's ill even for a day or two, he loses a bit of weight and struggles to regain it. He is "officially" underweight by the BMI measure. He has never done any form of formal exercise.

You both look very fit

What's 75kg in old money ?

About 11st, 11lbs, I think? In terms of aerobic fitness, ironically I'm probably the fitter of the two of us. If terms of fit in the sense of to look at, he's stereotypically "fit", I'm plain fat! I'm a lot more than 70-anything kilos, by the way! It's Mr 6ft 4 indoors who is at that end of the spectrum. "

I see height usually takes a factor in weight but I wouldn't say that you are "plain fat".

I see it as normal people and never seen an issue with it.

All that said,I am on the other side of the fence looking like a POW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless there are psychological or physical illnesses to blame I really don’t understand how people can get so overweight.

That’s not body shaming that’s genuinely not understanding how it happens.

Same here and was/am kinda curious to know the answer but I didn’t want to come across as disrespectful

Like is there a point that women realise it or are some conscious all the way but just picked up bad habits that can’t be/are difficult to be broken?

Hope none is offended by my questions x

Not offended at all

I realise it, from the moment I wake up until the moment I go to bed. All day. Constantly questioning my worth because of my weight. "That person doesn't talk to me because of my weight", "I don't excel in my career because of my weight". My thoughts day in day out.

I grew up where money was tight, and we ate whatever we were given. I was then overweight by a teen-ager.

I was bullied through year 7-9 where I was in the middle of the playground and everyone threw their lunch at me which ended up me walking home covered in food and comforting myself with food. It made me feel better.

I then had a sezuire in front of my bullies and found out I was epileptic. I was put on a medication Sodium valproate which now has a hefty amount of warnings. Leads to weight gain, leads to polycystic ovaries syndrome. Which I then developed. More weight gain.

My school thought because I was epileptic I needed learning support, which just made everything worse.

I also have hypothyroidism which makes it a little harder to lose weight.

I can't even begin to tell you how many times I have sat in the doctor's crying asking for some sort of help. I swim 3-4 times a week, I calorie count and my intake is 1750 a day. My weight never changes unless it's going up.

So mine was depression based and just spiralled from there. Whilst I am not blaming my weight on medical reasons, it just contributed.

Christ I'm going to stop now, hope that's a bit of help "

I would answer similarly to you. I am aware every waking moment and question my worth at times. I wonder if everyone is disgusted by me and it most definitely puts me off meeting people. Or even leaving the house at all sometimes.

All bodies are beautiful to someone, we can’t all like them all. But we should all be kind and try not to make assumptions or judge.

You look absolutely beautiful, I hope you feel it too. G xxx

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"All you really need to understand is that being fat isn't a conscious choice.

I'm amazed by folk who don't put weight on.

As someone who 14 years ago was almost 21 stones and has spent all those years and the rest of my life considering every mouthful I eat, I'd like their secret.

Food addiction is a powerful thing to overcome.

I am one of those annoying people who can eat and eat and not put on weight.

It's not as good as you think ,I find it very hard to put on weight and then when I do,I can sneeze and lose half a stone

I've always said, be happy with how you are and the rest of the happiness follows

Indeed. Mr KC is 6ft 4 and weighs around 72kg/just over 11st. He has incredibly low body fat. He cannot gain much weight no matter what he eats (and he has a very healthy appetite). He's been as much as about 75kg in my memory, maybe 78, but no more. If he's ill even for a day or two, he loses a bit of weight and struggles to regain it. He is "officially" underweight by the BMI measure. He has never done any form of formal exercise.

You both look very fit

What's 75kg in old money ?

About 11st, 11lbs, I think? In terms of aerobic fitness, ironically I'm probably the fitter of the two of us. If terms of fit in the sense of to look at, he's stereotypically "fit", I'm plain fat! I'm a lot more than 70-anything kilos, by the way! It's Mr 6ft 4 indoors who is at that end of the spectrum.

I see height usually takes a factor in weight but I wouldn't say that you are "plain fat".

I see it as normal people and never seen an issue with it.

All that said,I am on the other side of the fence looking like a POW "

See, because I lift weights and do lots of wheelchair sports, my upper body is very toned and muscular. Once you get below the bra band, I AM fat. It cannot be denied. But, as I explained in an earlier post, I've been fat for as long as I can remember. I've also been sporty for as long as I can remember (including my pre-disability days). I'm about 5ft 5.5in I think. Maybe 5ft 6. Nowt special height wise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine having an addiction and your choice of drug/vice was everywhere. You had to partake in order to survive but there was no restrictions on your usage.

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"Fat shaming…I’m seeing this quite often and one profile in particular sadly bangs on about it. If you don’t like what you see please just scroll on by

Would be very boring if we all looked the same, personally I’m a bbw and I’ve lost 4 stone and feel fabulous!! It’s all about positive mental attitude

Think we should all love our bods regardless of size

Couldn't agree more, there's also quite a bit of thin shaming on here to which is no less of a crime but tends to go unnoticed. I think commenting on anyone's weight on here is just nasty. Like you say if it isn't to someone's taste then they can look elsewhere, no need for vile comments

It's the white knights who demean other peoples body types in order to try and compliment you. You can say you like curvy/bbw/larger women without resorting to calling them "real bodies" or the vile saying that only dogs like bones. "

Am interesting take on things, and well put. I agree. Positive body image is one thing, but when it comes to being big, it quite often comes with a dog at slim or skinny ladies. Eg that large ladies have “real” bodies, like you say, Megan traynor taking a swipe at “skinny bitches”, beautiful south referring to “anorexic chicks” etc.

I asked a few days back what the slim/skinny equivalent of the term BBW is ... there doesn’t slower to be one. Increasingly, slim women appear to be vilified or made out to be false, vain etc

Like you say, you don’t have to insult or vilify others in order to celebrate your own body shape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my take is its not just fat shaming going on there are plenty of post calling slim women bags of bones and other horrible things its all shameful but im afraid there are those whio spend all there time putting certin body types on pedastals with post dedicated to them the white knights as they are called they are the worse of the worse on fab they are creepy at best ....

all women are beautiful and should be treated so any body shaming should be jumped on and shut down .... i block all that bodyshame even if its nothing to do with me on fab but then i feel it is to do with me as im a woman ...

nothing wrong to say you like something but try to like something without knocking something at the same time preference is fine being rude is not

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By *he Knight is YoungMan
over a year ago

22 Acacia Ave, Preston-for now

I've had the "I've seen more fat on chip" comment in my messages once before.

And that's why we have a block button

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