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“I wasn’t born to be subtle”

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

*taking someone else’s quote from somewhere got me thinking how my veins have changed on this. I think being wiser has made me learn to just get to the point. Being subtle or hinting can sometimes be missed or misread. That doesn’t help anyone.

So answer me this, do you like to be a straight shooting arrow on fab or do you find yourself flirting more and being subtle, hopefully someone can read your intentions instead?

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

I think I fail to be subtle when I ought to. But am too direct when some diplomacy would be appropriate. In short, I have bad people skills

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

If I said what was on my mind I'd be in arguments every single day. It's better to moderate and realise people are slightly thick.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I’m about as subtle as a sledgehammer - always straight to the point, no bullshit, drama or anything of the likes don’t have time for it x

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

I'm very subtle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't hold back, if I think it needs saying I say it. Too old and too impatient to be putting up with people's shit

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I'm subtle depending on the situation. If I'm interested in someone it's normally quite obvious in my mind, perhaps not. It's difficult to find the balance between being straight and coming off too strong, I know I get put off by people if they're too... direct.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If we want to meet someone we'll say so.

When it comes to other areas of life I think unambiguous communication is a good thing. I don't think speaking your mind regardless of how it makes the other person feels is.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm very straight shooting in my profile, yet the 'wanna fuck' messages keep on coming.

If I want to meet someone, I'll ask directly. Nothing to lose at all.

I'd LOVE to be straight shooting on the forums but either other posters or admin don't like it.

For example 'yep, there are women who love small cocks/bulls/sissies/big cocks/dad bods/ripped abs/bald/bearded/hairy/etc, doesn't mean they want to meet you though' and 'the reason you rarely get an answer is you are over 60/under 25/married/large/a smoker/entitled/rude/horrible pics/no pics/bad pics/negative attitude/too tall/too short/poor expectation/etc'

We often skirt around being painfully honest as we don't know the person behind the post and how they would react.

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By *heron212Man
over a year ago

London

I'm very direct and to the point in person and on here. If I feel that my profile has not been read/respected, I don't even bother to respond.

It's that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very direct and straight to the point

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I said what was on my mind I'd be in arguments every single day. It's better to moderate and realise people are slightly thick. "

I never meant being blunt or calling someone a c*nt when you think they are.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t flirt. I send out carrier pigeons with notes of intention.

Little buggers get distracted by bird seed though and 9/10 my notes go awol.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"If I said what was on my mind I'd be in arguments every single day. It's better to moderate and realise people are slightly thick.

I never meant being blunt or calling someone a c*nt when you think they are."

Didn't mean to be blunt.

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

I think subtlety is the key for pretty much all social interactions.

Employed adroitly, it allows room for manoeuvre, is genteel in its approach, is less demanding or threatening, and allows all parties "breathing space", with no one being put "on the spot".

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I personally dislike very explicit messages about what exactly they why to do to me or me to them. So if that's what you mean then no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you talking subtlety in general or just when 'asking someone out'?

I think subtlety is vital in a more general sense. Tread lightly on others I say. If you're after snogging someone just come out and tell them straight. Isn't that what the Oi I fancy you threads are for?

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I was born to rock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight to the point!

Glad to be too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can touch my toes, touch my nose with my big toe. I am extremely supple?

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’m about as subtle as a brick. However, I don’t flirt so that’s not an issue. I like to think I’m pretty straight forward and I say what I think so I rarely get areas of confusion. Although I do assume everyone’s a mate until they’re blatantly not.. so it’s more reading I’m bad at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m about as subtle as a brick. However, I don’t flirt so that’s not an issue. I like to think I’m pretty straight forward and I say what I think so I rarely get areas of confusion. Although I do assume everyone’s a mate until they’re blatantly not.. so it’s more reading I’m bad at. "

Great to know there are still romantic souls on fab!

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