FabSwingers.com forum: How bothered are you about a partners opinions?

By *ack688 OP Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

In terms of religion, politics, Brexit, covid etc?

Does it vary based on how much time you’re likely to spend with them? Does it vary a lot between a long term partner, a FB and a ONS?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my partner have very very different political views.

It's never got in the way of our relationship but watching question time can get heated at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sexual partner these topics are best left out the bedroom and have less importance. Someone I'm in a long term relationship with, I think it's important to be on the same wavelength about the majority of things as opinions on certain subjects can reflect your character as a whole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say me and my husband have pretty similar views. Or at least on the same path.

The only difference is he used to take the news as gospel. I liked to do my own research. He's finally come round to the idea that most things the news reports are often manipulated and biased and just to take it with a pinch of salt.

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By *heArrowsCouple
over a year ago

We have very different political positions.

My wife is very naturally Conservative. She is pro management, pro business. She hasn't got particularly conservative opinions. Just an outlook.

I'm a traditional political anarchist. I don't believe in governments or nobility. We should all look after ourselves at a local level.

I have infected her with some of my intellectual contagion and she's tempered out some of my extreme beliefs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say a lot but, we got friendly with a couple we met at a club and got on really well with them and met several times before finding out they voted the opposite to us on Brexit. It didn't matter because they were nice people.

I think it's important to remember that none of us are perfect, we all have good and bad in us and different life experiences. So often we will take a person's political view as proof that they are a bad person when in reality we often have far more in common than we assume. Even where we disagree it is often that we all see the situation from a different viewpoint - much like the blind men with an elephant.

That said, for a partner it would be important that we had enough empathy to be able to at least understand each others views and let's be honest that's unlikely from a self serving Tory bigot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife has so many different interests and views to me, as a result it helps me to mature and grow as a person as my views may not always be the right one.

The best example I can give is child discipline, I had old fashioned views till she explained other methods, which we now incorporate.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Opinions are like orgasms: mine are incredibly important and I don't give a shit if my partner has one.

I chat a lot before meeting and if we have very different beliefs and views then it would make it difficult to continue a conversation. If it's just an opinion that is fine, but if it's an opinion that shows a huge chasm in values then I don't think I'd want to continue.

For example:

If it was something like "Mrs Brown's Boys is actually really important social commentary" then it wouldn't stop me meeting them, even though they'd be completely wrong.

If it was a political view which showed they held a group of people in complete contempt and would be happy to see them die ("yes, we should absolutely prosecute the RNLI if they attempt to save drowning refugees in the channel") then I don't think my soft leftie heart would want further conversation because that shows a huge difference in our absolute core values.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

If I ever had a semi permanent partner again rather than just fuck buddys if for instance they were for brexit and a Tory it wouldn't be happening! X

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It matters a great deal.

A GREAT deal.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Been on dating apps and regularly stopped conversations because of their views on some subjects that are close to my heart. Not a great animal lover, never had a pet in my life, but if you’re pro fox hunting we’ll not get on.

My Politics are left leaning as well, so far right politics is your thing, it’s a goodbye from me.

If you have terrible taste in music, film or tv that can be rectified though, so no issues with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In terms of religion, politics, Brexit, covid etc?

Does it vary based on how much time you’re likely to spend with them? Does it vary a lot between a long term partner, a FB and a ONS? "

To be honest, it has no basis on what I feel towards another person unless they aren't open minded and don't appreciate that everyone has different opinions in life.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I like to spend time talking so it's very important to me but I only do fwb so can't answer for the other types.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be aligned in outlook /principles and have found that i tend to naturally gravitate to similar minded people, but that is probably because i spend time getting to know them

I find people who insist on forcing their opinions on others very tiresome and definitely try to avoid them! (even if i agree with them lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to be aligned in outlook /principles and have found that i tend to naturally gravitate to similar minded people, but that is probably because i spend time getting to know them

I find people who insist on forcing their opinions on others very tiresome and definitely try to avoid them! (even if i agree with them lol) "

I agree with this totally.

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By *heArrowsCouple
over a year ago

If you are talking about strangers. We recently hung around with a nice couple when we were in the canaries. They were approaching 60 but were fit. She was lovely, less so when I was sober and it was daylight but still lovely. They were well travelled. They had the bungalow opposite. We chatted the first night. Off my recommendation they went to the yumbo center. The center of the lgbtq community in GC.

Next day I was looking forward to drinks and another chat with them.

Off the bat the husband told me he "didn't mind the gays but didn't like it when they rubbed it in his face. Like this holding hands thing. Disgusting." My mouth genuinely hung open. He thought I was stunned at the idea of "the gays" but I was stunned at him.

And it got worse for him. He went back and got stuck in the middle of a kink pride march. "There were wearing collars and masks and looked like goes and they had them harnesses it were proper orrible" he was legit traumatised.

After that I sent him to a swinger pub in the cita center where he couldn't believe that decent normal people would just go mad and cheat on their wives in front of them (his wife wasn't as horrified as him I noticed)

Turns out he didn't like the gays, the French, the Germans, fetishists or the Dutch. Or the Spanish. Or Londoners.

I couldn't bring myself to hang out with them after his first round of homophobia.

His politics were left leaning and he should have been easy to get along with but I couldn't. I can't deal with people who are closed minded

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

I wouldn’t be too fussed. But if those opinions start causing harm to others either through misinformation, wilful ignorance or deliberate intent, then I’ll start thinking about moving on.

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