FabSwingers.com forum: Do men not like yo smile?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Men of Fab...and woman too if you know the answer.

Why don't you smile?...now obviously im generalising here, but this morning ive had multiple face pics sent to me by different guys, none of which were smiling.

Some looked half a sleep, others angry and one looked like he wanted to murder me!

Is it meant to be sexy? The not smiling look!

Pllleeaaseeerd SMILE

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By *ussy licker99Man
over a year ago

smethwick

I just sent you a message

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

I think someone are very self conscious about their smile and their teeth

but I know what you mean I love smiles they absolutely melt me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we have to give them something to smile about.. send boobies and you shall receive.

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By *untime5Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

Always smile in your face pics! If you’re not a fun person who’s going to say yes?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because we have to give them something to smile about.. send boobies and you shall receive."

Lol...they are on full display already!!

...should be no reason not to smile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always smile in your face pics! If you’re not a fun person who’s going to say yes?! "

Exactly!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably because a forced grin for a selfie looks naff

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Feel so awkward smiling for a selfie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a smiler

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By *orthernGinge-93Man
over a year ago

Northeast

It's the awkwardness of taking a smiling selfie, like I feel its not my true smile If you get me? Looks staged haha

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

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"Men of Fab...and woman too if you know the answer.

Why don't you smile?...now obviously im generalising here, but this morning ive had multiple face pics sent to me by different guys, none of which were smiling.

Some looked half a sleep, others angry and one looked like he wanted to murder me!

Is it meant to be sexy? The not smiling look!

Pllleeaaseeerd SMILE

The lack of smiles here and on regular dating sites has always mused me. I think chaps think they look far sexier in a psychotic stare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men do like to smile. But we are not good at forced smiling. Of course, there are exceptions. But forget selfies. Even if you look at family photos, women are more smiling compared to men.

Fun fact - Do you know that smile is an expression that is hardest to fake? A real smile involves so many facial muscles most of which do not work when you are forcing it. So when I am forcing a smile, anyone can naturally figure out that it's a forced smile.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Sometimes you can look kinda goofy trying to force a smile for a photo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes you can look kinda goofy trying to force a smile for a photo

Exactly. It looks particularly goofy for men. Women can get away with "that looks cute" even if the smile os goofy. But men will get roasted by their mates for the same thing.

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By *untime5Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

"Feel so awkward smiling for a selfie. "

The longer you try to smile the weirder it looks. Look away, think happy thoughts and 3,2,1, go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smiling happens naturally for me, but when I take a picture it looks out on if I smile so I don’t smile in posed pictures.

If a random picture is taken there is a good chance I will be smiling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Smiling happens naturally for me, but when I take a picture it looks out on if I smile so I don’t smile in posed pictures.

If a random picture is taken there is a good chance I will be smiling "

Put on*

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

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OK I get the fake smiling is awkward thing... but staring emptily into the mid distance is also frickin awkward.

We have phones, take 5 take 10, move your face around until you're like, yeah look good on that

And remember, your mates aren't here to laugh at you us girls would just like you to look human please

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By *andyblokeMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"Because we have to give them something to smile about.. send boobies and you shall receive."

that will do it for sure

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OK I get the fake smiling is awkward thing... but staring emptily into the mid distance is also frickin awkward.

We have phones, take 5 take 10, move your face around until you're like, yeah look good on that

And remember, your mates aren't here to laugh at you us girls would just like you to look human please "

..this!! I to get the awkward selfie thing, but messing about with the camera and picking a good shot surely isnt that difficult.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because we have to give them something to smile about.. send boobies and you shall receive.

that will do it for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a smiley pic! I have good teeth though.

If someone asked for a flat tummy pic, I’d be in trouble

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a smiley pic! I have good teeth though.

If someone asked for a flat tummy pic, I’d be in trouble

Me too!! But virtually everyone has the ability to smile, even if they're not keen on their smile. Id rather goofy than murderous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the Zoolander faces best

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"I love the Zoolander faces best

Mr"

I give some good blue steel.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I absolutely hate taking selfies. I feel all self conscious and that makes it hard to have a natural smile.

I just stick to looking like a grumpy git.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men of Fab...and woman too if you know the answer.

Why don't you smile?...now obviously im generalising here, but this morning ive had multiple face pics sent to me by different guys, none of which were smiling.

Some looked half a sleep, others angry and one looked like he wanted to murder me!

Is it meant to be sexy? The not smiling look!

Pllleeaaseeerd SMILE

Absolutely agree! Always with the description of 'I have a good sense of humour'

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I've been told I have a nice smile but personally I hate my teeth so...

LvM

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"I've been told I have a nice smile but personally I hate my teeth so...

LvM"

You do have a lovely smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I absolutely hate taking selfies. I feel all self conscious and that makes it hard to have a natural smile.

I just stick to looking like a grumpy git. "

But you have cake, so all is forgiven.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Feel so awkward smiling for a selfie.

The longer you try to smile the weirder it looks. Look away, think happy thoughts and 3,2,1, go for it."

*thinks - Boobs boobs boobs

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

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By *heArrowsCouple
over a year ago

"Men of Fab...and woman too if you know the answer.

Why don't you smile?...now obviously im generalising here, but this morning ive had multiple face pics sent to me by different guys, none of which were smiling.

Some looked half a sleep, others angry and one looked like he wanted to murder me!

Is it meant to be sexy? The not smiling look!

Pllleeaaseeerd SMILE

There is a very good book called the male brain. It explains why men smile less. (Hiding emotions makes you less vulnerable to others, and makes it easier to bluff when pretending to be tough to avoid fights)

Basically teenage boys learn to "act like men" and not smile. Stern faces are more "manly"

It's only 5 hours long on audible.

I learned a lot about myself from it and I would recommend it to everyone.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I hate my teeth, I do smile in photos

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

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I'm actually genuinely surprised how much resistance there is to smiling.

Virtually every woman on the thread has gone ooooh yes please. Virtually every guy moans about being unanswered.

Just saying...

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"I'm actually genuinely surprised how much resistance there is to smiling.

Virtually every woman on the thread has gone ooooh yes please. Virtually every guy moans about being unanswered.

Just saying..."

Your advice has been taken on board.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I've been told I have a nice smile but personally I hate my teeth so...

LvM

You do have a lovely smile

Would you say... cute?

LvM

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"I've been told I have a nice smile but personally I hate my teeth so...

LvM

You do have a lovely smile

Would you say... cute?

LvM"

Such a cutie

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I absolutely hate taking selfies. I feel all self conscious and that makes it hard to have a natural smile.

I just stick to looking like a grumpy git.

But you have cake, so all is forgiven."

Ha thank you. I’ll draw a smiley face on the cake

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I feel very self conscious having my photo taken and generally hate them. Can't remember the last time I actually liked a photo with my face in it, and it's even worse when I'm smiling as in my opinion I look so goofy.

So smiling for a photo doesn't come naturally and I have to force it. This ends up looking fake and even worse.

Plus, if you look at male models and their photos on adverts or magazines they also never smile, they just smoulder, so it's what we have been brought up believing looks good.

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over a year ago

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Men of Fab...and woman too if you know the answer.

Why don't you smile?...now obviously im generalising here, but this morning ive had multiple face pics sent to me by different guys, none of which were smiling.

Some looked half a sleep, others angry and one looked like he wanted to murder me!

Is it meant to be sexy? The not smiling look!

Pllleeaaseeerd SMILE

Give me something to smile about.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"I feel very self conscious having my photo taken and generally hate them. Can't remember the last time I actually liked a photo with my face in it, and it's even worse when I'm smiling as in my opinion I look so goofy.

So smiling for a photo doesn't come naturally and I have to force it. This ends up looking fake and even worse.

Plus, if you look at male models and their photos on adverts or magazines they also never smile, they just smoulder, so it's what we have been brought up believing looks good. "

The odd thing is, I 'am' a little goofy and smile loads when I'm out with people. Just can't on a photo and being told someone wants me to actually makes it worse.

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

A spot you want me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My smile is terrifying. Small downward turning lips and weird teeth. I did my clown make up yesterday and painted on a smile and I thought "my life would have gone in a whole nuther direction if I just was born with a killer smile.

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

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So smiling for a photo doesn't come naturally and I have to force it. This ends up looking fake and even worse.

Plus, if you look at male models and their photos on adverts or magazines they also never smile, they just smoulder, so it's what we have been brought up believing looks good.

The odd thing is, I 'am' a little goofy and smile loads when I'm out with people. Just can't on a photo and being told someone wants me to actually makes it worse.

Oh gosh, stop reading this thread then lol

But also not about weird model shots, just a candid friendly pic. Maybe it is less important on here, but on dating sites which ultimately completely lead on face you have no idea how many empty starey topless mirror selfies there are. It's intense, everyone please stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So smiling for a photo doesn't come naturally and I have to force it. This ends up looking fake and even worse.

Plus, if you look at male models and their photos on adverts or magazines they also never smile, they just smoulder, so it's what we have been brought up believing looks good.

The odd thing is, I 'am' a little goofy and smile loads when I'm out with people. Just can't on a photo and being told someone wants me to actually makes it worse.

Oh gosh, stop reading this thread then lol

Yep, a pic caught by mates while you're doing something is always better than a selfie - for men and women.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Like most things in life guys, fake it till you make it. Force a big smile. The more you do it, the more you begin to accept, and eventually enjoy it.

I used to never smile. Now I find myself smiling all the time and you’d be surprised how often it gets complimented. Ladies notice it.

Just do it

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Melt

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

So smiling for a photo doesn't come naturally and I have to force it. This ends up looking fake and even worse.

Plus, if you look at male models and their photos on adverts or magazines they also never smile, they just smoulder, so it's what we have been brought up believing looks good.

The odd thing is, I 'am' a little goofy and smile loads when I'm out with people. Just can't on a photo and being told someone wants me to actually makes it worse.

Oh gosh, stop reading this thread then lol

I totally get that.

But if you show me two photos of me, almost identical, but one smiling and one not I'm pretty certain I will always prefer the not smiling one. I'm assuming it's the same for most men.

I think as someone said above, it's ingrained into us at an early age that we shouldn't smile as it shows emotion and emotion is a weakness.

We know you want to see them, but it's really hard to post a photo that you feel uncomfortable with and truely dislike.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I so agree with this. Smile guys! Even if you think your smile is goofy we like to see happy faces.

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

A spot you want me

So smiling for a photo doesn't come naturally and I have to force it. This ends up looking fake and even worse.

Plus, if you look at male models and their photos on adverts or magazines they also never smile, they just smoulder, so it's what we have been brought up believing looks good.

The odd thing is, I 'am' a little goofy and smile loads when I'm out with people. Just can't on a photo and being told someone wants me to actually makes it worse.

Oh gosh, stop reading this thread then lol

I totally get that.

But if you show me two photos of me, almost identical, but one smiling and one not I'm pretty certain I will always prefer the not smiling one. I'm assuming it's the same for most men.

I think as someone said above, it's ingrained into us at an early age that we shouldn't smile as it shows emotion and emotion is a weakness.

We know you want to see them, but it's really hard to post a photo that you feel uncomfortable with and truely dislike. "

Yeah I get you're never gonna upload a photo that doesn't make you feel good. But I think it feels like it's a "norm" worth challenging. People naturally warm more to those they can get a sense of, and that requires expression x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I absolutely hate taking selfies. I feel all self conscious and that makes it hard to have a natural smile.

I just stick to looking like a grumpy git. "

Some people can pull it off, not saying your grumpy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

perfect

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I absolutely hate taking selfies. I feel all self conscious and that makes it hard to have a natural smile.

I just stick to looking like a grumpy git.

Some people can pull it off, not saying your grumpy

No comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feel so awkward smiling for a selfie. "

This for me too, I'm like Chandler Bing everytime I point the camera at me.. I look best natural smiling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't smile in mine. For a while I did use a pic of me smiling and I got deleted or blocked every single time.

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

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"I don't smile in mine. For a while I did use a pic of me smiling and I got deleted or blocked every single time. "

Wot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't smile in mine. For a while I did use a pic of me smiling and I got deleted or blocked every single time.

Wot

Seriously. I did far better with the non smiling face.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I don't smile in mine. For a while I did use a pic of me smiling and I got deleted or blocked every single time. "

If I remember from previous FPFs correctly, you've got a lovely smie

LvM

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By *heArrowsCouple
over a year ago

"I don't smile in mine. For a while I did use a pic of me smiling and I got deleted or blocked every single time.

Wot

Seriously. I did far better with the non smiling face. "

You were on our hotlist for a long time and i never ever thought... shit she's hot cos she's not smiling.

You are hot regardless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate my smile, especially when it feels forced for a photo. I prefer it to feel natural when I have something to smile or laugh about x

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

To be fair; most women are guilty of this, and even worse; those duckbill pouts…….

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Smiling just makes my face look weird, in pics at least, probably in real life too but thankfully I don’t have to look at that

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Last time I smile, I scared the village children haha

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

When guys are taking a selfie, do you take loads to get one good one? I get the impression a lot of men just take one or two where women take dozens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When guys are taking a selfie, do you take loads to get one good one? I get the impression a lot of men just take one or two where women take dozens "

This was the 99th.

I couldn’t quite get the I’m still in bed and I haven’t shaved for two weeks look quite right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men of Fab...and woman too if you know the answer.

Why don't you smile?...now obviously im generalising here, but this morning ive had multiple face pics sent to me by different guys, none of which were smiling.

Some looked half a sleep, others angry and one looked like he wanted to murder me!

Is it meant to be sexy? The not smiling look!

Pllleeaaseeerd SMILE

Madness! Every guys likes a good smoulder, but I love a cheeky grin. Happpy to be the exception that proves the rule though, wouldn't want to go blending in!

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

"When guys are taking a selfie, do you take loads to get one good one? I get the impression a lot of men just take one or two where women take dozens "

I normally take one, hate it, try again, hate it, try again, hate it and think, fuck it I will do it some other time and be in a mood for ages.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I have resting smiley face. I send photos not smiling but somehow they still look smiley.

If I sent an actual smiling pic I'd probably look like the Joker and my podgy hamster cheeks would mean that my eyes would vanish. Not a good look for a photo so I don't take actual proper smiling ones.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"When guys are taking a selfie, do you take loads to get one good one? I get the impression a lot of men just take one or two where women take dozens "

I take loads! Delete them all, then take loads more. Then give up and try again the next day

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