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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been on here for a long time now, I'm still waiting to loose my fab virginity I have had no luck at all, I don't know what I'm doing wrong can anyone give me any ideas on loosing my fab virginity please

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Normally I would say patience and effort but you've already covered the patience part.

Effort in pics, profile details, messages and forum engagement.

It's not a one size fits all so you have to stand out.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think in two years you should have managed to write more than a line and a half on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't win. If you write loads people will says it's like a long boring book, not enough and they will say you aren't putting the effort in. Stay true to yourself, and hopefully someone will come along soon. Good luck

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe try taking some pics which show your athletic body ?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

What are your messages like when you first approach somebody? Most of the ones we get are dreadful. Can you give us an example and we'll give you some feedback.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Please keep it on the forum, OP.

The example message you sent is extremely generic. You could copy and paste exactly that message to tens of thousands of people without changing a single letter. It shows no originality, no personality, no ability to hold a conversation, no humour, no nothing.

Imagine printing lots of leaflets saying "I'm a man and I'm looking for a woman to have sex with" and putting them through lots of letterboxes. That's basically what you have done with that message. How many positive replies do you think you would get? Probably none. So why would it be different here?

Combine that with photos that don't really show what you look like and text that doesn't say much more than your message, and are you really surprised you are not getting very far?

I know this all sounds a bit mean. I don't mean to be. I'm just being honest. You want to understand how to do better so I'm answering your question as best I can.

This is not Instashag. Most women on here want to actually engage with somebody. They want to click. They want some chemistry. Without that they won't jump into bed with somebody. They won't do do it on the basis of a cock photo and a request for a shag. There are thousands of men on here who think that's all it takes. Those are the ones that will be ignored, over and over again, because they show no understanding of how to make themselves appealing to women. Don't be one of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your just looking to get laid you’d have far more chance via the usual routes ie socialising, dating websites and apps etc . Are you single ? If so get yourself out there !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How can I put it, I tell it like it is in a polite way,

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Hi OP.

If you're genuinely athletic and have a good personality to go with it, you have a decent chance of success at a club.

Have a look at those in your area.

If you're determined to meet only via Fab, that's a bigger challenge.

Think of your profile as your shop window to entice in the ladies. At the moment it's just another single guy profile in a sea of others...

Look at one of the profile advice threads and profiles of successful men for inspiration.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"How can I put it, I tell it like it is in a polite way,"

Are you requesting profile advice?

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

If you'd like advice on your profile, you'll need to specifically ask for it or we risk getting forum banned... for some reason

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I'm looking for some advice

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"How can I put it, I tell it like it is in a polite way,"

Well it's up to you change your approach. I would if I were you. There are thousands of guys who will look exactly the same as you in the way you come across so the chances of you being the one any given woman picks is very low. If you are happy with that then feel free, but personally don't see it as a recipe for success.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so what kind of approach should I use can you give me some examples please

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Yes I'm looking for some advice"

- Take some pictures that aren't focused on your dick - everyone knows what one looks like and if an interested party wants to see yours, they'll ask for it at some point. Show off your body, maybe some topless, put a suit on for one.

- Write something on your profile. One sentence doesnt sell you at all, there are literally thousands of other profiles with the exact same setup. You have to think "what makes me stand out from the others?"

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Mmmmmm ok thanks for the advice it's well appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try Jamie Hants.

She’s been on loose women.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Have you read and taken on board any of the advice given to other struggling single men in the forum OP? That would suggest that you're making some good effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please keep it on the forum, OP.

The example message you sent is extremely generic. You could copy and paste exactly that message to tens of thousands of people without changing a single letter. It shows no originality, no personality, no ability to hold a conversation, no humour, no nothing.

Imagine printing lots of leaflets saying "I'm a man and I'm looking for a woman to have sex with" and putting them through lots of letterboxes. That's basically what you have done with that message. How many positive replies do you think you would get? Probably none. So why would it be different here?

Combine that with photos that don't really show what you look like and text that doesn't say much more than your message, and are you really surprised you are not getting very far?

I know this all sounds a bit mean. I don't mean to be. I'm just being honest. You want to understand how to do better so I'm answering your question as best I can.

This is not Instashag. Most women on here want to actually engage with somebody. They want to click. They want some chemistry. Without that they won't jump into bed with somebody. They won't do do it on the basis of a cock photo and a request for a shag. There are thousands of men on here who think that's all it takes. Those are the ones that will be ignored, over and over again, because they show no understanding of how to make themselves appealing to women. Don't be one of them. "

Exactly this.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occasionally switch your pics about

Post regular status updates that are funny or topical or enticing

Always attach a clear face pic to an initial message

Don’t be pushy and expect a reply, certainly never follow up if you don’t get one

Put some personality in your profile text

Tell people what you are not just what you want, or how do they know if they want you?

Join in the forums for a few weeks and just get yourself familiar with how people chat on here

Actually listen to the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really struggle to explain this - mostly because I cannot understand the mindset of someone who needs it explaining so don't know what words to use but ...

So many guys on here seem to think that simply being available is all it takes and eventually they'll get picked. Unless you're incredibly lucky this simply won't happen.

For us (and, from what I read here, for the majority) there needs to be a connection. No one wants to be a glorified sex doll for a random stranger to nut in. It might be a swinging site but swinging isn't just about sex. People want to feel sexy, desirable, that the person they're with is interested in them - if only for the time they're interacting.

Far too many men write messages that show they have absolutely no interest in us, what we like or want or indeed even if we like them, they simply want a hole to shove their dick in and don't much care whose hole it is.

Sadly, having to explain this to someone instantly puts us off them as we just know that any change in behaviour won't be due to a sudden personality improvement but rather just like a performing animal learning a new trick to get its treat.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hiding your profile when asking for help doesn’t help either

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's not hidden any more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you should mix it up and put insane instead of sane

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By *untime5Man
over a year ago

Cornwall


"Try Jamie Hants.

She’s been on loose women."

Copy Sam’s profile! Makes me wanna go on an adventure holiday with him!

We’re going hiking in Albania in three weeks if you want to come!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Ok so what kind of approach should I use can you give me some examples please"

How would you seem interesting to somebody in real life? Presumably you would take an interest in what they say about themselves and talk about interests you share. Think about what goes into an ordinary conversation.

So on Fab, look at things somebody says on their profile and respond. Say why you have chosen to write to them as opposed to anybody else. Ask yourself how you are compatible with them and talk about that. If you don't know how you might be compatible, then ask yourself why you are writing to them in the first place and consider writing to somebody else instead.

You have to demonstrate you can have a conversation in most cases. If somebody can't have a conversation with you, why would you expect them to jump into bed with you?

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