FabSwingers.com forum: So you think someone is single

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You chat away to them, get on like a house on fire have met them in person. Not dated but talked about it, even conversation has got a little risqué on multiple occasions and dates are talked about as well as meets etc and temperatures are high as there is obviously an attraction and you both lust after each other. But eventually the other person tells you they are with someone that you were unaware of and feel horrible for it but want to continue talking even in this lusty manner etc.

What do you do?

Carry on as there is no doubt it will escalate to other things, or nip it in the bud?

The choice is yours?

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Any deception walk away

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

I'd be gone...zamoosh..byeee

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Depends whether their partner is aware. If not then I'd reluctantly step away - I've been the dirty secret and it didn't suit me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they lied at any point walk, if they didn’t lie that puts credit in the bank with regards to their character towards you.

It’s all depends on the connection you have imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met someone from here several times before reading in a newspaper article that he had a wife. That was pretty gutting. I didn't want to date him, but I absolutely hated being any part in treating someone else so shoddily. I cut ties straight away but it was very annoyingly as I'd have very much liked to continue meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't happen. I'm upfront about what I'm about and looking for. If down the line they reveal something different I've no qualms about walking away.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Walk away

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd be blocking them, I despise liars.

It especially riles me when they are not upfront about it, had it in the past, so it's one of the 1st things I ask now. Some do still try and lie, but I can generally work it out.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

What do you mean by escalate to other things?

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By *heekyminx101Couple
over a year ago

basingstoke

"I'd be blocking them, I despise liars.

It especially riles me when they are not upfront about it, had it in the past, so it's one of the 1st things I ask now. Some do still try and lie, but I can generally work it out. "

Yep this block and delete. Once a liar always a liar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You chat away to them, get on like a house on fire have met them in person. Not dated but talked about it, even conversation has got a little risqué on multiple occasions and dates are talked about as well as meets etc and temperatures are high as there is obviously an attraction and you both lust after each other. But eventually the other person tells you they are with someone that you were unaware of and feel horrible for it but want to continue talking even in this lusty manner etc.

What do you do?

Carry on as there is no doubt it will escalate to other things, or nip it in the bud?

The choice is yours?"

I'd nip it in the bud straight away , well it's not straight away tbh is it ? You've been strung along big time ,that should have been said to you from the very start that they were with someone...but if you're happy to fuck someone else knowing full well she's with someone else ,work away ,but not my scene tbh

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

My profile says ‘ please be up front and declare before we get several messages in’ … I find most do or I’m usually able to tell they are attached and I ask.

Sometimes I will carry on chatting if I’m enjoying their virtual company but I make it clear there will be no meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What do you mean by escalate to other things? "

Fucking etc

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Does the this other person know what is going on. If they do then they join the group even if they don't play. If they are not aware then walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd wonder why I hadn't already sussed that out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they haven't been upfront about it from the start, I'd be walking away.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Walk away immediately

I always ask before meeting and liars are not tolerated

However unless he confesses how do we ever truly know the truth, many seperated men have turned out to be still 'happily' Married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been here a few times before. Had it where I found out just before meeting he was married, I still went ahead and carried on for a long time - I know it’s on me that I carried on, but there was never any trust from the start so I should have nipped it in the bud straight away.

Another where I had been seeing him around a month or two and there was always excuses why he couldn’t keep our plans etc, turned out he had a girlfriend - I only found out when he broke his arm or I would have still been in the dark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Game over. Happened to me. If they can't be honest from the word go then they will never be honest..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't tell pretty much earlier on , there's always something that gives it away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much of the answer depends on how you actually feel about it. Does it bother you they are attached? Or does it bother you they lied? Why did they lie? Does it change things.

For me I think it would but that said I’ve not been in that position. It’s the lie that would be an issue not the fact they were attached as such…depends on the connection you have and what you wanted from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

na, straight block for me ta. Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be blocking them, I despise liars.

It especially riles me when they are not upfront about it, had it in the past, so it's one of the 1st things I ask now. Some do still try and lie, but I can generally work it out. "

I'm very open about being married and any meets would have been confirmed with Danish before happening.

I could be really attracted to a woman had the lusty talking but if Danish says no then its a no and a meet with never happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be able to trust them so I'd probably try and move on. I don't have an issue with those who are cheating, but lying to me about it so I don't have that choice to get involved isn't something I'd be happy about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least they are honest and giving you the choice. Me? *as I stare into the distance and stroke my beard…..friend zone.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Nip it in the bud

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Delete and block. If they can lie about something as important as that, what else have they lied about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I detest liars so I’d block and move on

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Fuck them off immediately and block them everywhere

If I know they're talking with other people I know, I'd give them a heads up too.

LvM

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Block immediately

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It really isn’t a great start is it?

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