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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been told that I have quite masculine energy and I need to step into my feminine energy more. I try to but my kinks and things I like to do can be quite emasculating.

Example I like to put guys in the bath and wash them in like an inappropriate carer role play kind of way, washing their willy and balls and wanking them and they say things like, you shouldn’t be doing that blah blah blah.

Anyhow guy I was meeting last year WhatsApp’s me earlier saying he’s been ill and it’s like it triggered my nurturing side, I was like aww are you better now and be was like a little I just feel a bit sleepy, again I was almost talking to him in baby talk. Like what the fuck is that about!?

I got a bit of a thing for ANR as well (apart from the fact there’s no milk in my boobs) but like the idea of a guy just laying across my lap and having a suck on my nipples whilst I put a blanket over him.

How could I get the balance between wanting to do the nurturing stuff without making the guy feel emasculated?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have Frank discussions and set boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a sub bloke that enjoys that side sexually but can also be masculine the rest of the time.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

None of what you’ve written would be emasculating to a guy. Not from what you say anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't that the point? To give up the masculinity?

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

Sounds more like a mothering role than masculine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you have to change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's no help at I know but your are a beautiful women that has kinks so be it I'd let you do all the above for a night of fun

Charlie

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By *0astMan
over a year ago

Discovering

Personally I think your just a caring person, who wants to explore certain kinks with the right person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds more like a mothering role than masculine"

But it’s like taking a role that is more dominant while the guy takes the role of a more submissive.

So yeah, it is quite an emasculisation (is this even a fucking word??) role play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds more like a mothering role than masculine

But it’s like taking a role that is more dominant while the guy takes the role of a more submissive.

So yeah, it is quite an emasculisation (is this even a fucking word??) role play "

It's a word now

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I am also told that I give off male vibes.

Are you seriously going to fall for that Annie ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been told that I have quite masculine energy and I need to step into my feminine energy more. I try to but my kinks and things I like to do can be quite emasculating.

Example I like to put guys in the bath and wash them in like an inappropriate carer role play kind of way, washing their willy and balls and wanking them and they say things like, you shouldn’t be doing that blah blah blah.

Anyhow guy I was meeting last year WhatsApp’s me earlier saying he’s been ill and it’s like it triggered my nurturing side, I was like aww are you better now and be was like a little I just feel a bit sleepy, again I was almost talking to him in baby talk. Like what the fuck is that about!?

I got a bit of a thing for ANR as well (apart from the fact there’s no milk in my boobs) but like the idea of a guy just laying across my lap and having a suck on my nipples whilst I put a blanket over him.

How could I get the balance between wanting to do the nurturing stuff without making the guy feel emasculated? "

Fuck them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck that. You sound totally feminine to me. But strong. Don’t try and conform to how you think you should be, if that makes sense.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway


"I have been told that I have quite masculine energy and I need to step into my feminine energy more. I try to but my kinks and things I like to do can be quite emasculating.

Example I like to put guys in the bath and wash them in like an inappropriate carer role play kind of way, washing their willy and balls and wanking them and they say things like, you shouldn’t be doing that blah blah blah.

Anyhow guy I was meeting last year WhatsApp’s me earlier saying he’s been ill and it’s like it triggered my nurturing side, I was like aww are you better now and be was like a little I just feel a bit sleepy, again I was almost talking to him in baby talk. Like what the fuck is that about!?

I got a bit of a thing for ANR as well (apart from the fact there’s no milk in my boobs) but like the idea of a guy just laying across my lap and having a suck on my nipples whilst I put a blanket over him.

How could I get the balance between wanting to do the nurturing stuff without making the guy feel emasculated? "

Fucking hell, you sound great!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Find a man who has occasional cuck tendencies

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Find a guy who likes to be mothered. There's plenty out there.

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By *untime5Man
over a year ago

Cornwall


"Example I like to put guys in the bath and wash them in like an inappropriate carer role play kind of way, washing their willy and balls and wanking them and they say things like, you shouldn’t be doing that blah blah blah.

How could I get the balance between wanting to do the nurturing stuff without making the guy feel emasculated? "

Amazing! (lol emoji) My ex used to get really cross when I played the Stephen Hawkin game and go all paralysed during sexy time. Apparently doing the voice didn’t help matters

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Honestly, guys who are into those kind of things won't care. You be you and concentrate on those you're compatible with rather than the uber over macho guys compensating for fragile masculinity. It's not your fault they feel outmaned by a woman.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Only you know that , I would imagine sone guys might feel emasculated, but on here it’s just words on a screen . If a woman bathed me like a inappropriate carer , I’d be amused and possibly go along with it , pretend to disabled maybe.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"Fuck that. You sound totally feminine to me. But strong. Don’t try and conform to how you think you should be, if that makes sense."

That's what I thought, sounds like a mommy fetish, the mother would be female not with a masculine energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly nothing sounds wrong with what you are doing apart from wanting to breast feed the guy!

You should carry on being you and not let anyone change you into anything that you are not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say that was emasculating but too much of it can be a bit overbearing. I know the last I want when I'm ill is being constantly cared for. Just give me my Lemsip, Strepsils, Paracetamol and tissues so I can just power through it. But that's just me though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"None of what you’ve written would be emasculating to a guy. Not from what you say anyway"

But like this guy isn’t from here he’s actually one of the control and restraint, riot and self defence instructors from the prison so quite a hard nut so saying stuff like aww do you want me to look after you? I shouldn’t really do that cos like he can look after himself. He offered to do something the other day with my Halloween decs and I knew I could do it myself and didn’t want to burden him (I’m saving him for Xmas lights cos I can’t do them) but I thought I was doing a favour by saying no it’s fine I can do it myself, when I should be just said yeah okay thank you.

I done something similar before with the guy I fancied in the gym when I bought him a brake light cos his was out, he was out there for ages trying to do it, I went out and caught him almost about to unscrew his entire back bumper o was like woah you only need to do this, zip zip and o put the bulb in for him.

I always do things like this as well like I problem solve like a man does instead of just listening.

My mum was moaning about this new girl that started in her works that was taking her shifts and just general being a menace and I turned up at her works and put her in her place and then my mum has a go at me, it’s like well don’t fucking tell me that someone’s doing something to upset you cos I’ll have them upside down.

It’s all masculine energy stuff.

With regards to finding a sub what would signs be in real world guys who probably won’t openly declare it the way they would on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the guy's up for that kind of treatment, and enjoys it, then it's all good.

I guess if it's forced upon them with discussing it. and they feel threatened by it, therein lies some kind of emasculation...

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

As posted already. Not masculine or emasculating. Mothering and caring which has its time and place. Nothing to change. Nor should it be something anyone should ask you to change if you’re happy in that place.

Currently exploring a dd/lg dynamic which might be considered the reverse. I’m liking it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty independent, and won't allow bpeople to help me , even when I clearly could do with it , as I don't like to show weakness.

I don't feel thats masculine energy though.

I also don't think turning up at your mums work having a go is masculine energy either.

The kinks you've described are just that, kinks. Find someone who enjoys them too.

Doesn't mean you exude masculine energy.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"None of what you’ve written would be emasculating to a guy. Not from what you say anyway

But like this guy isn’t from here he’s actually one of the control and restraint, riot and self defence instructors from the prison so quite a hard nut so saying stuff like aww do you want me to look after you? I shouldn’t really do that cos like he can look after himself. He offered to do something the other day with my Halloween decs and I knew I could do it myself and didn’t want to burden him (I’m saving him for Xmas lights cos I can’t do them) but I thought I was doing a favour by saying no it’s fine I can do it myself, when I should be just said yeah okay thank you.

I done something similar before with the guy I fancied in the gym when I bought him a brake light cos his was out, he was out there for ages trying to do it, I went out and caught him almost about to unscrew his entire back bumper o was like woah you only need to do this, zip zip and o put the bulb in for him.

I always do things like this as well like I problem solve like a man does instead of just listening.

My mum was moaning about this new girl that started in her works that was taking her shifts and just general being a menace and I turned up at her works and put her in her place and then my mum has a go at me, it’s like well don’t fucking tell me that someone’s doing something to upset you cos I’ll have them upside down.

It’s all masculine energy stuff.

With regards to finding a sub what would signs be in real world guys who probably won’t openly declare it the way they would on here? "

The 1st few examples are just cute but turning up at not your place of work to intimidate other workers? That’s messed up

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Annie. Have you thought that you just might not be hetero ?

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

Find guys who like what you like without, who are secure in themselves.

Strict gender roles are silly, and men feeling emasculated by a woman not confirming to those gender roles are also silly.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Find guys who like what you like without, who are secure in themselves.

Strict gender roles are silly, and men feeling emasculated by a woman not confirming to those gender roles are also silly. "

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

I've seen a few of your posts I think your just no nonsense nothing wrong with that I do feel you might have higher expectations than some here not that there's anything wrong with that

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London


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I done something similar before with the guy I fancied in the gym when I bought him a brake light cos his was out, he was out there for ages trying to do it, I went out and caught him almost about to unscrew his entire back bumper o was like woah you only need to do this, zip zip and o put the bulb in for him."

It's one of the funny/baffling things about mainstream ideas of masculinity that a man is going to feel 'emasculated' that a woman knows something practical that maybe he doesn't.

How is it possible for a man to be apparently all tough and strong if he gets upset about something so insignificant as this?

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

No experience of that particular kink but from an outsider looking in I don't think it's you or the kink that are a problem. It's more about the wrong guys. I guess it takes a strong, inwardly confident and together guy to enjoy the surrender of that kink but also to be totally self assured and masculine in general life (if masculinity is also a vital feature to you).

Having said that all parties need to be careful of any kink that has the potential to do emotional harm. The other guys have a responsibility to their own safety and you as an administrator of that kink also have a responsibility to at least try and gauge their suitability/readiness (reading between the lines of face value).

I think maybe having good frank conversations beforehand and debriefing afterwards would be very helpful. Also as much as it sucks to break the roll play maybe just subtlety check in now and then until you know them well. And going back to the point of finding the right guy you need someone who communicates well and you can trust to be totally honest with you about their experience and if they are comfortable or not. Guys especially can be crap at saying if their not happy or uncomfortable with an aspect. And you can't read minds so someone you can trust to be honest and say when their not comfortable would be great.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"None of what you’ve written would be emasculating to a guy. Not from what you say anyway

But like this guy isn’t from here he’s actually one of the control and restraint, riot and self defence instructors from the prison so quite a hard nut so saying stuff like aww do you want me to look after you? I shouldn’t really do that cos like he can look after himself. He offered to do something the other day with my Halloween decs and I knew I could do it myself and didn’t want to burden him (I’m saving him for Xmas lights cos I can’t do them) but I thought I was doing a favour by saying no it’s fine I can do it myself, when I should be just said yeah okay thank you.

I done something similar before with the guy I fancied in the gym when I bought him a brake light cos his was out, he was out there for ages trying to do it, I went out and caught him almost about to unscrew his entire back bumper o was like woah you only need to do this, zip zip and o put the bulb in for him.

I always do things like this as well like I problem solve like a man does instead of just listening.

My mum was moaning about this new girl that started in her works that was taking her shifts and just general being a menace and I turned up at her works and put her in her place and then my mum has a go at me, it’s like well don’t fucking tell me that someone’s doing something to upset you cos I’ll have them upside down.

It’s all masculine energy stuff.

With regards to finding a sub what would signs be in real world guys who probably won’t openly declare it the way they would on here?

The 1st few examples are just cute but turning up at not your place of work to intimidate other workers? That’s messed up "

Look my mother is very soft and non confrontational and won’t stick up for herself. Took me 2 hours in my counselling sessions to stop blaming my mum for not protecting me when my step father battered me when I was 15, she just stood there didn’t do nothing. Was only when I had to exercises to look at it from a different way and it wasn’t that she wouldn’t protect me she couldn’t protect me. It wasn’t in her nature. Apparently people have fight flight or freeze and she froze. It still lingers that even if that was her response then surely a maternal instinct to protect would be stronger but I’m trying to quiet that so don’t push me to think on it. Right my mother is soft, some woman in work was taking her shifts that she’s had the same ones for 30 odd years so I went and there and just explained the situation that they were my mothers shifts and that was that. No violence just sticking up for my mother cos she won’t do it for herself.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"None of what you’ve written would be emasculating to a guy. Not from what you say anyway

But like this guy isn’t from here he’s actually one of the control and restraint, riot and self defence instructors from the prison so quite a hard nut so saying stuff like aww do you want me to look after you? I shouldn’t really do that cos like he can look after himself. He offered to do something the other day with my Halloween decs and I knew I could do it myself and didn’t want to burden him (I’m saving him for Xmas lights cos I can’t do them) but I thought I was doing a favour by saying no it’s fine I can do it myself, when I should be just said yeah okay thank you.

I done something similar before with the guy I fancied in the gym when I bought him a brake light cos his was out, he was out there for ages trying to do it, I went out and caught him almost about to unscrew his entire back bumper o was like woah you only need to do this, zip zip and o put the bulb in for him.

I always do things like this as well like I problem solve like a man does instead of just listening.

My mum was moaning about this new girl that started in her works that was taking her shifts and just general being a menace and I turned up at her works and put her in her place and then my mum has a go at me, it’s like well don’t fucking tell me that someone’s doing something to upset you cos I’ll have them upside down.

It’s all masculine energy stuff.

With regards to finding a sub what would signs be in real world guys who probably won’t openly declare it the way they would on here?

The 1st few examples are just cute but turning up at not your place of work to intimidate other workers? That’s messed up

Look my mother is very soft and non confrontational and won’t stick up for herself. Took me 2 hours in my counselling sessions to stop blaming my mum for not protecting me when my step father battered me when I was 15, she just stood there didn’t do nothing. Was only when I had to exercises to look at it from a different way and it wasn’t that she wouldn’t protect me she couldn’t protect me. It wasn’t in her nature. Apparently people have fight flight or freeze and she froze. It still lingers that even if that was her response then surely a maternal instinct to protect would be stronger but I’m trying to quiet that so don’t push me to think on it. Right my mother is soft, some woman in work was taking her shifts that she’s had the same ones for 30 odd years so I went and there and just explained the situation that they were my mothers shifts and that was that. No violence just sticking up for my mother cos she won’t do it for herself. "

Well I hope you understand that “put her in her place” and “I’ll have them upside down” didn’t exactly conjure up good images

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Annie why do you like putting men in bath and wanking them

Please

Elaborate???

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Annie why do you like putting men in bath and wanking them

Please

Elaborate???"

Is this inadvertently the funniest post on this forum?

The sheer confusion and fear that comes through in such a simple question

It’s ok Yas. I’m scared too

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Annie why do you like putting men in bath and wanking them

Please

Elaborate???

Is this inadvertently the funniest post on this forum?

The sheer confusion and fear that comes through in such a simple question

It’s ok Yas. I’m scared too "

I'm not scared

Annie is my girl just asking her why

Why cant these blokes wash their own knobs you included

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Annie why do you like putting men in bath and wanking them

Please

Elaborate???"

Ok I’ll answer this one cos I don’t want to make the thread all woe is me.

Okay so the bath thing, first the guy likes having a bath anyway and I do it all nice with bubbles.

Men look vulnerable in the bath and I like the way the soft cock bobs about in the water.

I like washing the guys hair and they find it really relaxing as well. I like it when they pretend I’m their carer and when I wash their dick but start wanking it as well they act and say I shouldn’t be doing that and all stuff like that. It just feels naughty but nice at the same time. I’ll help them out then and dry them with a towel and put talc on them. I just like it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Annie. Have you thought that you just might not be hetero ? "

Hetero as in heterosexual? That’s straight isn’t it? I’m definitely straight.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…


"Annie why do you like putting men in bath and wanking them

Please

Elaborate???

Ok I’ll answer this one cos I don’t want to make the thread all woe is me.

Okay so the bath thing, first the guy likes having a bath anyway and I do it all nice with bubbles.

Men look vulnerable in the bath and I like the way the soft cock bobs about in the water.

I like washing the guys hair and they find it really relaxing as well. I like it when they pretend I’m their carer and when I wash their dick but start wanking it as well they act and say I shouldn’t be doing that and all stuff like that. It just feels naughty but nice at the same time. I’ll help them out then and dry them with a towel and put talc on them. I just like it. "

If you like it and they like it, that’s all that matters and it’s all tickety boo

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Annie why do you like putting men in bath and wanking them

Please

Elaborate???

Ok I’ll answer this one cos I don’t want to make the thread all woe is me.

Okay so the bath thing, first the guy likes having a bath anyway and I do it all nice with bubbles.

Men look vulnerable in the bath and I like the way the soft cock bobs about in the water.

I like washing the guys hair and they find it really relaxing as well. I like it when they pretend I’m their carer and when I wash their dick but start wanking it as well they act and say I shouldn’t be doing that and all stuff like that. It just feels naughty but nice at the same time. I’ll help them out then and dry them with a towel and put talc on them. I just like it. "

For pleasure if you enjoy it well girl enjoy xxxx

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe


"I have been told that I have quite masculine energy and I need to step into my feminine energy more. I try to but my kinks and things I like to do can be quite emasculating.

Example I like to put guys in the bath and wash them in like an inappropriate carer role play kind of way, washing their willy and balls and wanking them and they say things like, you shouldn’t be doing that blah blah blah.

Anyhow guy I was meeting last year WhatsApp’s me earlier saying he’s been ill and it’s like it triggered my nurturing side, I was like aww are you better now and be was like a little I just feel a bit sleepy, again I was almost talking to him in baby talk. Like what the fuck is that about!?

I got a bit of a thing for ANR as well (apart from the fact there’s no milk in my boobs) but like the idea of a guy just laying across my lap and having a suck on my nipples whilst I put a blanket over him.

How could I get the balance between wanting to do the nurturing stuff without making the guy feel emasculated? "

Ok this all sounds fucking incredible, and any guy who experiences this with you should count himself lucky! Anyone emasculated by this clearly has their own issues to deal with. It sounds hot to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Annie why do you like putting men in bath and wanking them

Please

Elaborate???

Ok I’ll answer this one cos I don’t want to make the thread all woe is me.

Okay so the bath thing, first the guy likes having a bath anyway and I do it all nice with bubbles.

Men look vulnerable in the bath and I like the way the soft cock bobs about in the water.

I like washing the guys hair and they find it really relaxing as well. I like it when they pretend I’m their carer and when I wash their dick but start wanking it as well they act and say I shouldn’t be doing that and all stuff like that. It just feels naughty but nice at the same time. I’ll help them out then and dry them with a towel and put talc on them. I just like it. "

I totally get this. I have a very nurturing streak too. So I don’t think it’s weird or imasculating at all. Personally I think more guys would enjoy this than care to admit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Annie why do you like putting men in bath and wanking them

Please

Elaborate???

Is this inadvertently the funniest post on this forum?

The sheer confusion and fear that comes through in such a simple question

It’s ok Yas. I’m scared too

I'm not scared

Annie is my girl just asking her why

Why cant these blokes wash their own knobs you included

"

Lol

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Annie why do you like putting men in bath and wanking them

Please

Elaborate???

Is this inadvertently the funniest post on this forum?

The sheer confusion and fear that comes through in such a simple question

It’s ok Yas. I’m scared too

I'm not scared

Annie is my girl just asking her why

Why cant these blokes wash their own knobs you included

Lol "

Sexy xx

No I ain't bathing you

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

I don't think so! Not me anyway?? Why would you??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve found through experiences in life that we find a middle ground. If that can’t happen then it’s not meant to be but we need to be in good places to create great times. It’s all about people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a strap on and a big dildo and tell them to bend over and stop crying.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Get a strap on and a big dildo and tell them to bend over and stop crying. "

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Whoever told you that should mind their own business. The only person you should change for is you, if you feel like you need more feminine energy to feel balanced then go for it but it doesn’t have to change how you fulfil your sexual desires. You can find that feminine energy elsewhere if you want to.

Also from what you’ve described I don’t think anything you do emasculates them and if it does then that’s the point. If they don’t want to feel that way they really need to talk to you, tell you how they feel and then walk away if you are no longer aligned in what you want and need from each other.

Good luck in what ever you decide!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It’s a fine line between showing you’re independent and can do everything by yourself and more and then also showing your vulnerable side. Too independent and a guy could be like well she doesn’t need me for anything.

I don’t fucking know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't this called Infantilization? Not sure it has much to do with masculinity.

Would you do this sort of stuff to a woman, OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a fine line between showing you’re independent and can do everything by yourself and more and then also showing your vulnerable side. Too independent and a guy could be like well she doesn’t need me for anything.

I don’t fucking know. "

None of us know, just don’t lose you’re spirit what makes us who we are doesn’t change

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Isn't this called Infantilization? Not sure it has much to do with masculinity.

Would you do this sort of stuff to a woman, OP?"

She's straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds to me like you just want to control everything.

No matter in what arena!

Your just a control freak!!

Deal with it.

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By *aveed74Man
over a year ago

a round and a bout Midlands

Sometimes I come across a really interesting conversation in the place, and this is one. Quite a few very wise comments added to an honest and unselfconscious question.

You lot can restore my cynical faith. Thank you.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Isn't this called Infantilization? Not sure it has much to do with masculinity.

Would you do this sort of stuff to a woman, OP?

She's straight "

I know right. Strange question to ask.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Isn't this called Infantilization? Not sure it has much to do with masculinity.

Would you do this sort of stuff to a woman, OP?

She's straight

I know right. Strange question to ask. "

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am curious about you wanting to make sure that the guy doesn't feel emasculated?

Is that because you think the guy would feel bad about it?

Or is it because you prefer the guy to be dominant outside of your sexual dynamic you mentioned?

If it's the former, not all guys are obsessed on having to be masculine. There are many who are happy to be nurtured and cared.

If it's the latter, there are many men who fall into that bucket too. They are dominating alpha men outside but would prefer to experience their other side behind closed doors.

I would say you just need to choose the right person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Annie, you described my biggest fantasy. And you’ve got the rack to pull it off!

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By *ussexualMan
over a year ago

Brighton

Like a lot of kinks, what you're describing OP sounds great fun, but if you over analyse it, you'll kill the mood. Best just embrace who you are, your kinks aren't hurting anybody, and it sounds like the guy on WhatsApp for example is enjoying, so just go for it.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I don't think you have to change who you are or what you like. You just need to find the right guy(s) to do these things with.

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By *wrecks11Man
over a year ago

manchester


"I have been told that I have quite masculine energy and I need to step into my feminine energy more. I try to but my kinks and things I like to do can be quite emasculating.

Example I like to put guys in the bath and wash them in like an inappropriate carer role play kind of way, washing their willy and balls and wanking them and they say things like, you shouldn’t be doing that blah blah blah.

Anyhow guy I was meeting last year WhatsApp’s me earlier saying he’s been ill and it’s like it triggered my nurturing side, I was like aww are you better now and be was like a little I just feel a bit sleepy, again I was almost talking to him in baby talk. Like what the fuck is that about!?

I got a bit of a thing for ANR as well (apart from the fact there’s no milk in my boobs) but like the idea of a guy just laying across my lap and having a suck on my nipples whilst I put a blanket over him.

How could I get the balance between wanting to do the nurturing stuff without making the guy feel emasculated? "

I wanted to quote your original post because I can see a few things here that I might be able to elaborate. First things first, let me give you a quote

“Be yourself, everyone else is taken”

If it makes you happy then that’s what makes you happy. As long as you aren’t forcing anyone to do it then yes go for it. I’m a Primal Dom type and I know I have a vulnerable side. I like showing that side to those few that have earned my trust to that degree. The few people that will ever see me cry or even anything remotely close to weak. Everyone else that know me, if you told them these things, they’d laugh you out of the building cos they’re used to my no nonsense way of doing things. A guy who can’t accept that he has a vulnerable side isn’t fully mature in my honest opinion. Your weaknesses don’t emasculate you, failure to acknowledge them is what’s truly emasculating. As much as I say this, I can also say that you have a vulnerable side too that you don’t show to many people. You just have a strong nurturing side and that’s pretty much it. You like to look after those that you believe can’t do so themselves and I think that may come from your protective nature over your mum becoming a part of you to where you take it upon yourself to do these things. As I said earlier, nothing emasculating about wanting to take care of someone and having things you like. I have things I like that others may not agree with but that’s life. Can’t please everyone, so don’t try to. Just make sure you don’t force anyone and you’ll be fine.

With regards to exerting yourself in those situations forcefully, my only advice is to ask the person you’re dealing with if they will like you to handle things or if they just want someone to talk to. Sometimes people like talking to the strong natured friends they have to get things off their chest but not to do anything about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After you have given him and bath and all the carer stuff, cooking him a steak and hand him a beer.

Once the man has eaten the steak he will pound his chest with two fists like gorilla's and his bravado will magically be regained.

Totally legit, I promise!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"After you have given him and bath and all the carer stuff, cooking him a steak and hand him a beer.

Once the man has eaten the steak he will pound his chest with two fists like gorilla's and his bravado will magically be regained.

Totally legit, I promise!"

Morningstar I was asking about you before xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're allowed to have some 'manliness' it's not exclusive to those with a penis.

Hell I've been told I'm more like a woman just 'cos I like to cuddle after sex then go again!

I also quite like being bent over and milked like a cow with a tongue up my arse...doesn't mean I'm gay...or a cow

There are far too many labels out there,we are who we are simple as that...I own who I am and if anyone doesn't like it then it's them who has the problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been told that I have quite masculine energy and I need to step into my feminine energy more. I try to but my kinks and things I like to do can be quite emasculating.

Example I like to put guys in the bath and wash them in like an inappropriate carer role play kind of way, washing their willy and balls and wanking them and they say things like, you shouldn’t be doing that blah blah blah.

Anyhow guy I was meeting last year WhatsApp’s me earlier saying he’s been ill and it’s like it triggered my nurturing side, I was like aww are you better now and be was like a little I just feel a bit sleepy, again I was almost talking to him in baby talk. Like what the fuck is that about!?

I got a bit of a thing for ANR as well (apart from the fact there’s no milk in my boobs) but like the idea of a guy just laying across my lap and having a suck on my nipples whilst I put a blanket over him.

How could I get the balance between wanting to do the nurturing stuff without making the guy feel emasculated? "

The boner you give me every time you upload a new pic reminds me just how male I am, so I’d not worry.

By the way, did I mention I’ve a bit of a tummy ache?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Signs from a guy who's into this sort of stuff away from here...?

They always love to talk or listen about a caring side of a female!

You can gradually lead into the kink conversation from it, easily.

I've done it a few times in Costa!

Just find a relaxed, just the two of you moment to chat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

You don’t make me feel like that.

My wife has done and still does some of the things you described above.

When contact sport was life up until three years ago she loved seeing me broken up physically after games as it would mean she could ‘nurse’ me and dote on me.

I’ve always found that loving behaviour really endearing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Signs from a guy who's into this sort of stuff away from here...?

They always love to talk or listen about a caring side of a female!

You can gradually lead into the kink conversation from it, easily.

I've done it a few times in Costa!

Just find a relaxed, just the two of you moment to chat!

"

That’s very accurate.

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

Mamma! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mamma! X"

And now I’m dead

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

I haven't read all the posts but there are many men that like being emasculated by a woman, it is their kink. So what you descibe in OP wouldn't be of interest to me.

There is a difference in being voluntarily emasculated as a kink, like many here try to make guys feel/look inadequate in front of others.

Doesn't just apply to females.

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By *toobguyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I don't think it's you who needs to change OP, if the guy is feeling uncomfortable with what you want maybe it's him who needs to look Into his own insecurities.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm feeling a bit blurg Annie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been told that I have quite masculine energy and I need to step into my feminine energy more. I try to but my kinks and things I like to do can be quite emasculating.

Example I like to put guys in the bath and wash them in like an inappropriate carer role play kind of way, washing their willy and balls and wanking them and they say things like, you shouldn’t be doing that blah blah blah.

Anyhow guy I was meeting last year WhatsApp’s me earlier saying he’s been ill and it’s like it triggered my nurturing side, I was like aww are you better now and be was like a little I just feel a bit sleepy, again I was almost talking to him in baby talk. Like what the fuck is that about!?

I got a bit of a thing for ANR as well (apart from the fact there’s no milk in my boobs) but like the idea of a guy just laying across my lap and having a suck on my nipples whilst I put a blanket over him.

How could I get the balance between wanting to do the nurturing stuff without making the guy feel emasculated? "

I volunteer as tribute!

Tbh that sounds amazing

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Shall I bring the matey or have you got some already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After you have given him and bath and all the carer stuff, cooking him a steak and hand him a beer.

Once the man has eaten the steak he will pound his chest with two fists like gorilla's and his bravado will magically be regained.

Totally legit, I promise!

Morningstar I was asking about you before xxx"

Well to answer your question, it is true, I really am awesome

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Shall I bring the matey or have you got some already "

Haha awww I used to love him with his little hat. Made some very good bath potions with my bottle of matey. Thank you for the nice memories

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By *ubforfandcoupleMan
over a year ago

pontardawe

I am a good sub/boy miss..

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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

It's just a confidence as far as I can see and I can see no reason why you shouldn't be confident. A confident women is the most wonderful thing and very sexy. Only insecure men would try to change you and feel threatened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't this called Infantilization? Not sure it has much to do with masculinity.

Would you do this sort of stuff to a woman, OP?

She's straight

I know right. Strange question to ask. "

Figured you might be Fab straight like half the masculine people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not read the thread, but id say, you do you Annie, and then find a guy that likes what you do.

Dont worry about the labels.

They may not feel emasculated. That's good. They may feel emasculated but get off on that feeling. Also good.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Nope. Not in the slightest.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

It's your life, your kink, it wouldn't make me feel emasculated

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