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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no, we aren't talking balls here people

so ive sat through eight hours of lectures today, and the last four hours were extremely heavy.

we're talking trying to be strong and stomach it and sit through it, but ultimately sobbing your way out of uni type heavy

i am a strong person, sometimes.

but the things i've been privvy to today, which will ultimately become part and parcel of my career, are sitting on my mind.

i can't seem to switch off from it.

so i ask you, forum members new and not-so-new;

after a draining day, what do *YOU* do to make yourself feel better and warm and fuzzy and wholesome again.

what do *YOU* do to forget about things, and bring yourself back to some semblance of normal?

i know it's all well and good to be aware of certain issues and hold an appriciation of them, so you can be best equipped to deal with future situations.. but i want to smile again this evening.

so all answers, both helpful or riddled with innuendo.. pop them down below

peace and love

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I find embroidery and walking calm my mind.

Obviously, not at the same time...

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm just here to pop down below

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Bath bubbles (not bubble bath the good kind) and bed.

And when I’m feeling really shit and need a top up. I allow my dogs upstairs to sleep in my room.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Exercise, TV and console gaming all serve to take my mind off things and unwind me.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I thrash round in sports wheelchairs and crash into people. Or hit things in the gym

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Go have a nice long soak in the bath ..light some candles..play taichi music

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need a distraction, either time spent with my best friend or some flirting with some sexy people on here can distract my mind away from things that can get stuck in replay there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let it out.. write about it to a friend/call another student/debrief/then fill that emptiness with positive read/mindfulness session/self massage/soothing music.

Wraparound.. holistic self care.. that is what I usually go for.

Hugs P. X

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I find embroidery and walking calm my mind.

Obviously, not at the same time..."

Ultimately, it's about learning to switch off and not take it home with you. If you can't, it could be mentally damaging.

Are you sure this is what you want to do in life?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I find embroidery and walking calm my mind.

Obviously, not at the same time..."

She can't multitask ^

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Eat things that aren't very healthy and put on something on the TV that is pleasant and easy to watch. Something you don't have to concentrate on.

I suppose a good wank can help as well

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I put some room com films on, have a soak in a bubble bath with some music on, have an early night.

Or a long ramble with my pooches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dear Slutie!!!

Im sorry to hear you had an awful draining day at uni, I totally can relate as I done a degree I totally hated and was very difficult for me to get it over with . I hated it so much I ended up not wanting that career for myself .. and I remember being down and crying at projects they were that effing difficult for me

SOOOO, Ur slutie sister understands totally and I’m sending u big hugs

Best way to decompress for me is yoga. Like lots of it, I hate the meditation side but being able to focus on breathing while transitioning between puppy pose and warrior 1/2/3 really is amazing.

Also, talk to friends ! I love chatting to my besties and have them over when I’m down … if I need me time, then I’ll try listen to music and dance.

When I’m really really angry, then I clean.. clean everywhere like a maniac and sometimes that gets me not to think x

Hope this helps you x

Kisses and hugs

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Eight hours seems a long time Quack, no wonder you’re knackered!

I’ve just finished a ten hour shift, I will be heading to the pub shortly, then ordering a curry from the best curry house in the area. I’ll be asleep on the sofa about an hour later!

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

Soak in a bubble bath, pj's, takeaway and watching a comedy xT

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Exercise

Music

Masturbation

Easy!

Gbat

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London

Music. Catchy, jiggle about, up-tempo dance music that you can’t sit still while listening to. Turn it up loud, and dance your arse off. If you catch sight of yourself in the mirror, all the better - you’ll be smiling in no time (hopefully)!

I really hope you can switch off, then process it later and leave it locked in a box somewhere accessible until you need it x

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I practice mindfulness and other techniques which harden myself to the horrors, If I can't be calm and keep my shit together when a vulnerable person needs me, I'd leave my career

To empty the negativity I use meditation and chop logs to balance out my equilibrium

Maybe have a chat with your tutor, they should have a support network in place for you to gain guidance from x

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Music can be a remedy for anything.

Always works for me

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I find embroidery and walking calm my mind.

Obviously, not at the same time...

She can't multitask ^ "

I'm good but not THAT good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go out for a walk, play some music or put on some meditation music, it really relaxes you and clears your mind x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A long walk around a local lake with my favourite music on always does the job for me

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

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"no, we aren't talking balls here people

so ive sat through eight hours of lectures today, and the last four hours were extremely heavy.

we're talking trying to be strong and stomach it and sit through it, but ultimately sobbing your way out of uni type heavy

i am a strong person, sometimes.

but the things i've been privvy to today, which will ultimately become part and parcel of my career, are sitting on my mind.

i can't seem to switch off from it.

so i ask you, forum members new and not-so-new;

after a draining day, what do *YOU* do to make yourself feel better and warm and fuzzy and wholesome again.

what do *YOU* do to forget about things, and bring yourself back to some semblance of normal?

i know it's all well and good to be aware of certain issues and hold an appriciation of them, so you can be best equipped to deal with future situations.. but i want to smile again this evening.

so all answers, both helpful or riddled with innuendo.. pop them down below

peace and love

Shower hot as I can, treat myself to something might be a purchase of something, eat ice cream, my puss is always affectionate and no matter how bad my day stroking pussy always makes me smile.

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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago

Nearer than you think

Debriefing verbally is the best way, but if you can't do that, then exercise helps.

I go for a long walk, or put headphones on and sing loudly. Watching daft videos, a classic comedy or a favourite film are good uplifting distractions, too. Cat videos on YouTube work for me!

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

8 hours is such a long day for learning. I usually have a hot bath, watch trashy tv and journal the nonsense out of my head but I can understand why you might not want to write in a journal after a day like this.

Sending hugs & hope the weekend makes things better for you

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I guess it needs to affect you enough to want to and be able to do something about it but not so much you feel hopeless and can’t.

So Id just go with it, don’t try and forget , get your peace from knowing you’re (going to be) part of the solution. Not everyone is cut out for tough careers. Good luck

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I love my job but it has a heavy safeguarding element and at times I feel this!

I like to wind down by watching feel good films (often animated with singing in them like happy feet or ice age) and snuggle under a blanket with a hot chocolate. An early night can help too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not from my job but voluntary work there are occasional times I've seen and done things I'd rather not have had to. Not sure I can articulate how I get past it, I guess I'm fortunate that days like that are rare, it sounds like you may be heading for a career where it will be every day. I hope you find your answers. Sending a hug.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Films and TV is my go to in order to take my mind to another place and get engrossed in someone else's shit instead of my own.

Or I like to write.

Or if I was prinny, I'd probably play with my boobs.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

Haha was so hoping this was about draining balls

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Watch scary films. It’s like a fear and anxiety overload that balances you out.

Like stirring into the skid when you hit ice in your car. I’m not sure if this makes sense or not but it definitely helps me

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Watch scary films. It’s like a fear and anxiety overload that balances you out.

Like stirring into the skid when you hit ice in your car. I’m not sure if this makes sense or not but it definitely helps me

It's steering actually, tut...

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By *airyChestedDaveMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Hot bath, alcoholic beverage and bang on some of my favourite tunes, then just totally zone out for a good hour

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By *ust_FlynnMan
over a year ago

St Neots

Op I totally relate to this, I found my uni work load piling up on me recently between uni and placement I am swamped.

Sometimes going for a run or a workout work, but those days when things are really bad my bed, a blanket and one of my favourite movies.

We all have a film that makes us feel warm and safe, that!

Tomorrow is a new day x

Elle xx

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

Mines not uni, but work that can be v draining, I do palliative care work.

I sometimes struggle to switch off, especially as a nightshift worker.

I do colour, read quite a bit and I find keeping a journal helps me get things off my chest too. I also find relaxing in a hot bubble bath can help me wind down and chill a bit.

I hope you're ok x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either go for a run or (hear me out…!) I have a stress busting colouring book that I tend to do. You get lost in both and before you know it your mind is clear and refreshed.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

lI can relate xx i had such a bad tension headache yesterday, so drained from my job- emotionally exhausted.

I put my fluffy onesie on last night when I got home (I think there’s a photo of it in my pics) and it really helped!

Hope you feel better soon x

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"Either go for a run or (hear me out…!) I have a stress busting colouring book that I tend to do. You get lost in both and before you know it your mind is clear and refreshed."

I think it’s called mindfulness, activities like colouring etc are great for it. Or paint by numbers.

Personally, Exercise, a run, walk, swim is great to take your mind off things and makes you feel good. Sex is also good for that but I don’t have that luxury!

But then I would say talk about it with someone about it at some stage to help you cope with it long term.

Hope all is ok pickle x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha was so hoping this was about draining balls "

Dittttttyyyyyy bastDDDDD

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

I find it helpful to talk it through with a colleague, as my job can be draining at times. Sharing experiences gets us through it and is a way of downloading the difficult stuff from our minds. We do this both in person and virtually at the moment.

Then I read as it takes me off somewhere else entirely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How are you today ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually prosecco and friends. If no one is available, a nice edging wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually prosecco and friends. If no one is available, a nice edging wank

Prosecco. That's my girl

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

I either read a book, watch a film, look for a dance event to attend.

If you have a partner sex can help as long as it isn't angry sex.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I tend to compartmentalise when I encounter things like this. It gets shoved in a box in a deep dark cupboard of my brain somewhere. I'll usually try to switch off with some TV or a film, playing video games works for me because I have to actively interact with them and so my mind isn't necessarily wandering anywhere.

LvM

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Have a nap and cuddle the cats

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Exercise. Including very vigorous, or just having a walk etc

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"no, we aren't talking balls here people

so ive sat through eight hours of lectures today, and the last four hours were extremely heavy.

we're talking trying to be strong and stomach it and sit through it, but ultimately sobbing your way out of uni type heavy

i am a strong person, sometimes.

but the things i've been privvy to today, which will ultimately become part and parcel of my career, are sitting on my mind.

i can't seem to switch off from it.

so i ask you, forum members new and not-so-new;

after a draining day, what do *YOU* do to make yourself feel better and warm and fuzzy and wholesome again.

what do *YOU* do to forget about things, and bring yourself back to some semblance of normal?

i know it's all well and good to be aware of certain issues and hold an appriciation of them, so you can be best equipped to deal with future situations.. but i want to smile again this evening.

so all answers, both helpful or riddled with innuendo.. pop them down below

peace and love

8 hours of lectures?

Scheduled, or recorded and you’re catching up?

To answer the question, I go to the gym / swim / cycle / walk in countryside.

I like a beer as much as the next guy, but don’t use it to de-stress.

But vanilla but there you go.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Bath and Netflix is usually all I can cope with. I didn't sleep well last night so I feel you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 mile run or a gym session normally works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually prosecco and friends. If no one is available, a nice edging wank

Prosecco. That's my girl

Oh you like the bubbles too! I'm sure we'll have a few tonight xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually prosecco and friends. If no one is available, a nice edging wank

Prosecco. That's my girl

Oh you like the bubbles too! I'm sure we'll have a few tonight xx"

It's a dangerous one in my mouth

see you soon x

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By *ustdaveHantsMan
over a year ago

chippenham

I like to sit with a stiff whisky, perv at kitty's pictures and then watch succession

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to sit with a stiff whisky, perv at kitty's pictures and then watch succession

Aww

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

comfy loose warm clothes, plumped up cushions on the sofa, nice hot comforting drinks, nice bit of music to listen to or a nice thing to watch on the lap top, music vids especially, some snack food or lush dinner, a few fruit ciders or a rum and pepsi

or maybe some boddice ripping gut crunching sex

whatever it takes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beer and greenery, greenery mainly for the pain I put myself through everyday.

Hugs to you though OP

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I got nothing, because I usually curl into a ball and cry. Occasionally with a friend on the phone.

But have all the boob squashing hugs

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