FabSwingers.com forum: Hot wife and hot husband

By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve just had a quick look through the forums and noticed that there are several threads asking for or about hotwives, yet there are none about hot husbands. There are lots of club nights dedicated to wives yet none for their male partners. Why is this? Why do you think that there is so little demand for this dynamic and such imbalance in how it’s viewed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it's because women don't get off on their partner having sex with someone else to the same extent that men do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess it's because not as many women don't get off on their partner having sex with someone else to the same extent that men do"

ftfy

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I guess it's because women don't get off on their partner having sex with someone else to the same extent that men do"

That’s a bold statement! What makes you say that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is exactly how doughnut and I work! Love him going out and seeing other women, so damn hot.

Danish x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I think there's more men that get off on the thought of sleeping with another guys wife than women who get off on sleeping with another woman's husband. Maybe it's the idea that married women are usually uninterested in sex but men are thought to be always up for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess it's because women don't get off on their partner having sex with someone else to the same extent that men do

That’s a bold statement! What makes you say that? "

I don't think it's bold given it appears to be less evident than the opposite

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I think there's more men that get off on the thought of sleeping with another guys wife than women who get off on sleeping with another woman's husband. Maybe it's the idea that married women are usually uninterested in sex but men are thought to be always up for it. "

So the contrary nature of a married woman wanting sex alongside that women don’t want an attached man?

If that’s the case, why do you think that women don’t want attached men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well in a hotwife relationship, the married woman is not uninterested in sex, is she? I don’t quite understand your reasoning.

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Because this is Fab and we’re as popular as a herpes lollipop.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I can only speak from my own experience, but as a single woman who doesn’t seek one offs they are not really my dynamic. Of the hot husbands I’ve known there was always a limit on the number of times they saw singles and preferred to not see anyone too regularly. I also prefer a level of friendship before I meet someone and again that appeared to be something that was too much for that set up.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"I guess it's because women don't get off on their partner having sex with someone else to the same extent that men do"

I absolutely love it and get hugely turned on when my husband has sex with other women. I'm sure there are plenty of women who feel the same as me.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't think there's that much of an imbalance in terms of how it's viewed outside the relationship - there are a lot more men than women so hotwifes will be spoken about more.

That being said, it's not as popular and who knows why? So many reasons. Women aren't as comfortable/tend to be more possessive/suffer from jealousy/don't find it as an attractive prospect as men find the thoughts of their wives having sex with others.

Saff is right also - the majority of hot husband profiles I've come across are very much not wanting a friendship, amount of times they meet someone are limited, there's a lot more restrictions in place. Again, not sure why.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

So the contrary nature of a married woman wanting sex alongside that women don’t want an attached man?

If that’s the case, why do you think that women don’t want attached men? "

I didn't mean they don't want an attached man, just that them being attached isn't as much of a huge turn on as I've seen it be for men with attached women.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Well in a hotwife relationship, the married woman is not uninterested in sex, is she? I don’t quite understand your reasoning."

That's the point. It's seen as unusual and exciting. Married men wanting lots of sex is just seen as normal. I'm not saying it's right, just that seems to be common perceptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well in a hotwife relationship, the married woman is not uninterested in sex, is she? I don’t quite understand your reasoning.

That's the point. It's seen as unusual and exciting. Married men wanting lots of sex is just seen as normal. I'm not saying it's right, just that seems to be common perceptions. "

Ah, gotcha

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

I play as a hot husband. It seems to be liked by some because they feel secure that I won't become some wierd stalker but others don't like it. They want to be number one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m Neither hot, nor a husband, so I guess for some people it just isn’t a choice

Men and women are just different like that. In my own experience of 16+ years on the scene, Men feel less challenged in seeing their wife “at play” and most women are actually deeply uncomfortable with seeing their man do the same. It’s as simple as that. I’m sure the FAB-psychologists will link it to genetics and wiring.

Another point worth mentioning/discussing - and it’ll be obvious I haven’t thought this through adequately - is the fact that men are well known, at least from a sweeping generalisation/societal perspective, for being at relative ease with infidelity and indiscretions. So when a man wants to play elsewhere, everybody be like “it’s no surprise ennit”. Women on the other hand are, as we all know, as white and as pure as driven snow

so when a woman desires to step outside the marital constraint, everyone be like “oooh unicorn!”

Something else to consider are the numbers on FAB. There’s so

Much noise with single male profiles that any couple with HH dynamics just aren’t being heard. So maybe it just feels that it isn’t a thing, when perhaps it is.

On a final note, women are beautiful creatures and look amazing having sex; people want to celebrate it. Men look like rutting pigs. For the same reason, Adele gets loads of air time Becuase her craft is beautiful , whilst my poor mate Eric and his ragtime band hardly ever get a mention, on account on them sounding like a broken lift full of trapped cats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a final note, women are beautiful creatures and look amazing having sex; people want to celebrate it. Men look like rutting pigs.

Hilarious. I’m tempted to agree but I don’t want to think of myself as a rutting pig haha! Can imagine that image popping into my head during the act itself and throwing me off my rhythm.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

On a final note, women are beautiful creatures and look amazing having sex; people want to celebrate it. Men look like rutting pigs.

Hilarious. I’m tempted to agree but I don’t want to think of myself as a rutting pig haha! Can imagine that image popping into my head during the act itself and throwing me off my rhythm.

Do you think maybe you guys think this because you're straight? Personally I think watching men fuck is so hot I like to watch gay porn!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

There are a few hot husband threads in swingers chat

Regarding club nights there is more of a dynamic of a wife watching her husband play with another, then joining in rather than him going off for solo play, so it's not a cost effective event to host.

There is demand for hothusbands but finding a suitable partner is difficult, it seems mostly the wants of a single woman mismatch the wants of the couple.

On the plus side some are successful in finding regular longterm hothusband relationships, they are just few and far between.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a final note, women are beautiful creatures and look amazing having sex; people want to celebrate it. Men look like rutting pigs.

Hilarious. I’m tempted to agree but I don’t want to think of myself as a rutting pig haha! Can imagine that image popping into my head during the act itself and throwing me off my rhythm.

Do you think maybe you guys think this because you're straight? Personally I think watching men fuck is so hot I like to watch gay porn! "

my Mrs is into gay porn and loves to watch me with a man

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

On a final note, women are beautiful creatures and look amazing having sex; people want to celebrate it. Men look like rutting pigs.

Hilarious. I’m tempted to agree but I don’t want to think of myself as a rutting pig haha! Can imagine that image popping into my head during the act itself and throwing me off my rhythm.

Do you think maybe you guys think this because you're straight? Personally I think watching men fuck is so hot I like to watch gay porn! "

Perhaps that is the reason. Women's bodies are beautiful but blokes just aren't so aesthetically pleasing. All angles, dangles and sticky-out bits.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

On a final note, women are beautiful creatures and look amazing having sex; people want to celebrate it. Men look like rutting pigs.

Hilarious. I’m tempted to agree but I don’t want to think of myself as a rutting pig haha! Can imagine that image popping into my head during the act itself and throwing me off my rhythm.

Do you think maybe you guys think this because you're straight? Personally I think watching men fuck is so hot I like to watch gay porn!

Perhaps that is the reason. Women's bodies are beautiful but blokes just aren't so aesthetically pleasing. All angles, dangles and sticky-out bits. "

Mens bodies are incredibly aesthetically pleasing! When fucking you see the strength and firmness of the thighs, the muscular hardness of each thrust. And their cocks are beautiful things, eager with lust, firm. Even simple things like the way a man's hand looks on my body or around my throat or when they spank - that veiny, very masculine energy that comes out. Men look so fantastically fuckable when they fuck.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

On a final note, women are beautiful creatures and look amazing having sex; people want to celebrate it. Men look like rutting pigs.

Hilarious. I’m tempted to agree but I don’t want to think of myself as a rutting pig haha! Can imagine that image popping into my head during the act itself and throwing me off my rhythm.

Do you think maybe you guys think this because you're straight? Personally I think watching men fuck is so hot I like to watch gay porn!

Perhaps that is the reason. Women's bodies are beautiful but blokes just aren't so aesthetically pleasing. All angles, dangles and sticky-out bits. "

I disagree, certain men having sex are a wonderful sight to behold

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Well I'm glad that some of you like looking at men!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

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"Well I'm glad that some of you like looking at men! "

Lots of us do

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

On a final note, women are beautiful creatures and look amazing having sex; people want to celebrate it. Men look like rutting pigs.

Hilarious. I’m tempted to agree but I don’t want to think of myself as a rutting pig haha! Can imagine that image popping into my head during the act itself and throwing me off my rhythm.

Do you think maybe you guys think this because you're straight? Personally I think watching men fuck is so hot I like to watch gay porn!

Perhaps that is the reason. Women's bodies are beautiful but blokes just aren't so aesthetically pleasing. All angles, dangles and sticky-out bits. "

As a bisexual, the angles can be what makes them so hot! I definitely appreciate the beautiful, soft curves of a woman but I also get hot under the collar over the angular shapes of my partners hip bones and the squareness of his shoulders.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

On a final note, women are beautiful creatures and look amazing having sex; people want to celebrate it. Men look like rutting pigs.

Hilarious. I’m tempted to agree but I don’t want to think of myself as a rutting pig haha! Can imagine that image popping into my head during the act itself and throwing me off my rhythm.

Do you think maybe you guys think this because you're straight? Personally I think watching men fuck is so hot I like to watch gay porn!

Perhaps that is the reason. Women's bodies are beautiful but blokes just aren't so aesthetically pleasing. All angles, dangles and sticky-out bits.

God damn it Meli!

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over a year ago

On a final note, women are beautiful creatures and look amazing having sex; people want to celebrate it. Men look like rutting pigs.

Hilarious. I’m tempted to agree but I don’t want to think of myself as a rutting pig haha! Can imagine that image popping into my head during the act itself and throwing me off my rhythm.

Do you think maybe you guys think this because you're straight? Personally I think watching men fuck is so hot I like to watch gay porn!

Perhaps that is the reason. Women's bodies are beautiful but blokes just aren't so aesthetically pleasing. All angles, dangles and sticky-out bits.

** swoon **

(Starts taking selfie’s)

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I think there have been quite a few threads about it. Look up cuck quean (with and without a space) and you will find several.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very well put and I appreciate your perspective.

Don’t get me wrong I can admire the male physique, and find men aesthetically pleasing/attractive. But the female form is what really stimulates the deeper parts of me. And yes I am straight so that’s obviously why.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

I think we have digressed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't have to be married to be a hotwife or hot husband do you? I thought it was a dynamic? I've seen men describe themselves as hot wives on kink sites - not here though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think we have digressed! "

It was a very pleasant digression!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess it's because women don't get off on their partner having sex with someone else to the same extent that men do"

I definitely do, love to watch the Mr.

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