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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For buying/supplying condoms at a fab meet?

As a single guy I always keep emergency condoms on me but there have been occasions when I go on a non-fab date but have no condoms in my pocket and girl giving me that look like (wtf you don't have condom?!) Before the take one out of their purse or drawer by the bed.

So the question is who is to bring condoms to the party?!

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By *ichaelsmyMan
over a year ago

douglas

i always ask who is to bring

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Both of you, to go unprepared is to prepare to fail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always carry, just in case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have some either on me or in the car, I don’t ever expect to get lucky but just in case

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By *igJFromSAMan
over a year ago

Woking

Your dick, you bring them. But if they have an allergy they should have some or forewarn you.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

My mum. She stays in the car.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My mum. She stays in the car. "

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Both. There's more to get through too that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy.... He should know which brands and fit he gets on with best, saves any embarrassment.

Though I always have some too. Just in case they 'forgot'.

Plus us women have to worry about our own contraception too... Braced for the onslaught to that comment.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I always have 2 condoms and a lady condom with me.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Those wanting the sex.

So both. Or all if it’s multiple folk.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I always have my own as I have preference so if the guy is happy with any I'd rather use my own. If the guy has a preference though I go with his as he's the one wearing it. I'm suspicious of guys who turn up without any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both but always have one or two on me when out and about

Never know

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Both bring them. No need to ask that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy.... He should know which brands and fit he gets on with best, saves any embarrassment.

Though I always have some too. Just in case they 'forgot'.

Plus us women have to worry about our own contraception too... Braced for the onslaught to that comment. "

I agree with this. A lot of guys have certain brands, sizes etc that they prefer. I always have some too though just incase.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"For buying/supplying condoms at a fab meet?

As a single guy I always keep emergency condoms on me but there have been occasions when I go on a non-fab date but have no condoms in my pocket and girl giving me that look like (wtf you don't have condom?!) Before the take one out of their purse or drawer by the bed.

So the question is who is to bring condoms to the party?! "

I do also give that look. It's not that I don't supply them, but all too often the conversation about condoms has been had, both agree it's a requirement and will be used, then he turns up having "forgotten" them, and doesn't like the brand that I have, so wouldn't it be better if we just didn't bother with one? Just this once? He knows he is clean, so what's the issue?

I keep a variety of condoms to hand to satisfy most preferences, but I tend to quickly run out of patience and I've kicked someone out more than once for creating a massive fuss over condoms. It is an exasperating way to make my vagina dry as the Sahara.

There's a big difference between "I've forgotten condoms, do you have any or do I need to go out and get some" and "I've forgotten condoms so I guess we'll just have to do without them", and at the point of "I've forgotten condoms" it's not always obvious which way it's going to go!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For buying/supplying condoms at a fab meet?

As a single guy I always keep emergency condoms on me but there have been occasions when I go on a non-fab date but have no condoms in my pocket and girl giving me that look like (wtf you don't have condom?!) Before the take one out of their purse or drawer by the bed.

So the question is who is to bring condoms to the party?!

I do also give that look. It's not that I don't supply them, but all too often the conversation about condoms has been had, both agree it's a requirement and will be used, then he turns up having "forgotten" them, and doesn't like the brand that I have, so wouldn't it be better if we just didn't bother with one? Just this once? He knows he is clean, so what's the issue?

I keep a variety of condoms to hand to satisfy most preferences, but I tend to quickly run out of patience and I've kicked someone out more than once for creating a massive fuss over condoms. It is an exasperating way to make my vagina dry as the Sahara.

There's a big difference between "I've forgotten condoms, do you have any or do I need to go out and get some" and "I've forgotten condoms so I guess we'll just have to do without them", and at the point of "I've forgotten condoms" it's not always obvious which way it's going to go!"

Errmmm if I get given one, I wear it like a good boy.. you never know

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"For buying/supplying condoms at a fab meet?

As a single guy I always keep emergency condoms on me but there have been occasions when I go on a non-fab date but have no condoms in my pocket and girl giving me that look like (wtf you don't have condom?!) Before the take one out of their purse or drawer by the bed.

So the question is who is to bring condoms to the party?! "

Everyone. Your sexual health is yours to protect, no one else's.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I believe we are each responsible for ourselves. If we all do this then we are all covered!?!

Jo.Xx

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

It should be both but I do about I expect him to supply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always have some and a small bottle of lube in my bag

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"For buying/supplying condoms at a fab meet?

As a single guy I always keep emergency condoms on me but there have been occasions when I go on a non-fab date but have no condoms in my pocket and girl giving me that look like (wtf you don't have condom?!) Before the take one out of their purse or drawer by the bed.

So the question is who is to bring condoms to the party?!

I do also give that look. It's not that I don't supply them, but all too often the conversation about condoms has been had, both agree it's a requirement and will be used, then he turns up having "forgotten" them, and doesn't like the brand that I have, so wouldn't it be better if we just didn't bother with one? Just this once? He knows he is clean, so what's the issue?

I keep a variety of condoms to hand to satisfy most preferences, but I tend to quickly run out of patience and I've kicked someone out more than once for creating a massive fuss over condoms. It is an exasperating way to make my vagina dry as the Sahara.

There's a big difference between "I've forgotten condoms, do you have any or do I need to go out and get some" and "I've forgotten condoms so I guess we'll just have to do without them", and at the point of "I've forgotten condoms" it's not always obvious which way it's going to go!

Errmmm if I get given one, I wear it like a good boy.. you never know "

That's the best way to be!

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By *_and_J2021Couple
over a year ago

Swindon

When I was younger I would expect the male. Especially when I was on the pill. Now I think it’s both.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Always have some and a small bottle of lube in my bag "

For you or him?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Both sides are responsible, which gets used is what is nearest at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doughnut alwaya carries condoms. We only meet as a couple or on his own so always him, even if when we meet a couple we would still have them.

Danish x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually it’s something to be discussed but I do have them usually x ideally it’s kinda easier if he’s got his x

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By *ungeon loving squirterCouple
over a year ago

redcar


"For buying/supplying condoms at a fab meet?

As a single guy I always keep emergency condoms on me but there have been occasions when I go on a non-fab date but have no condoms in my pocket and girl giving me that look like (wtf you don't have condom?!) Before the take one out of their purse or drawer by the bed.

So the question is who is to bring condoms to the party?! "
it's your stuck so you should always supply them. Can't think why you would expect other person to

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Both are, however, I only have regular size.

I think it's quite cheeky to ask me to provide them when I'm already accommodating and providing the drinks. This has happened a few times and it really puts me off the guy. Not because of the money, but because of their apathy.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Both but strangely most men forget

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Both.

It’s not about responsibility though, it’s about being prepared

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I have always brought them with me but have had some guys turn up who have "forgotten" them. While yes it's both of our responsibility I always think they forget on purpose in the hope they won't have to use them.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

In the past I always took some...never had to use them though as everyone I met had their own

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I always bring my own . That way i know they will be the right size and type

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Anyone involved who wants to have sex has a responsibility to make sure that sex is as safe as they can make it.

So I add my voice to the overwhelming number of those saying "both".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know

Not had a meet yet

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By *ore4fundevonCouple
over a year ago

West Devon

We've always had a supply available, mostly because then we know where they've been, in date etc etc

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I always bring my own. Nobody else is going to have the right size for me.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

That reminds me - I should check the use by date on mine

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It's both parties responsibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whoever it is that wishes to use them xx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

My Butler has been expressly instructed to never travel without my condoms.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

It's good to come prepared, I like to have my own as I know what brand and fit works best for me.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I’d like to think that the guy has come prepared but I always have some too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My mum. She stays in the car. "

Oh my god that’s hilarious

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Both parties should carry them but I think I’d prefer to use my ones as I know they haven’t been tampered with. Of course, the man may use the same argument. Perhaps he should wear both to be safe.

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The man should be responsible in my opinion. He knows his size and the brand that suits.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"The man should be responsible in my opinion. He knows his size and the brand that suits.

"

That’s what I always think. But I only take it further after about 47 socials and a year and a half of chatting so it’s usually been discussed by then

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"My Butler has been expressly instructed to never travel without my condoms. "

Good that he's getting his end away, very progressive of you to allow the staff to have followers

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I'd say both - if either person wants latex-free then they should make the other aware.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have them just in case

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Both, and I have a selection so there's no I don't like those ones or that won't fit, can we not just not use one excuses.

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I would say the guy as they would know size, sensitivity and how many they need etc

R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both & all are equally responsible for having condoms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always bring my own.

but have found most of the time they have them ready anyway Px

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By *incs ImpMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

I always bring my own, ones I am comfortable with and quick at putting on. Oh and latex free.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Both should. There's no excuse then. You can get them for free!

I've bought the latex free ones too so there's no getting out of wearing one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is the responsibility of both. Being an adult comes with adult responsibilities regardless of gender

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Both are responsible but I will always bring mine because I know that on occasions you will ‘accidentally’ forget yours and assume I won’t mind!! Wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I always ask, and bring some

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