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By *EAT..85 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

How do you stop yourself from being cynical? If that's how you feel, how do you change your perspective?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you need to? Unless you're becoming overly negative.

Healthy cynicism isn't the worst thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call me a cynic but I don't think you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very cynical and jaded. I recently met someone so upbeat and positive that I hope she will have a good effect on me. I do love my darkness but understand not everyone does.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Cynicism is vital to living.

Question everything. Think critically.

Don't stagnate in dogma.

The end

Maybe you think cynicism is negative - it really isn't.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I'm relatively cynical. I may hope for the best but I do expect the worst.

I'm not negative though, it doesn't drain my energy or make me unhappy.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I think it’s part of self preservation and being realistic. I hope for the best but my life experience tells me it’s unlikely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our experiences shape us. Maybe you’re cynical because you’ve had cause to be x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"How do you stop yourself from being cynical? If that's how you feel, how do you change your perspective?

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If you think it's becoming a go to ...... just differentiate between that which requires some healthy cynicism and that which makes no difference to your existence and don't sweat over the latter.

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By *EAT..85 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Lots of wise answers but no magic wand to wave to minimise cynicism!

I used to be so care free. My role in work has slowly added to my cynasism too and its supposed to be a positive charitable role! I just feel like I'm a darker version of me and there doesn't seem a way back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cynicism is vital to living.

Question everything. Think critically.

Don't stagnate in dogma.

The end

Maybe you think cynicism is negative - it really isn't. "

You don’t have to be cynical to question things, and think critically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of wise answers but no magic wand to wave to minimise cynicism!

I used to be so care free. My role in work has slowly added to my cynasism too and its supposed to be a positive charitable role! I just feel like I'm a darker version of me and there doesn't seem a way back. "

Have you looked into shadow work?

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

It’s not in my nature so I find it easy. I really struggle with people who have a problem for every solution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you need to? Unless you're becoming overly negative.

Healthy cynicism isn't the worst thing. "

I'd say scepticism is preferable to cynicism. It's good to question and doubt but with purpose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pffft, cynical people, they're all the same

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

I’m more sarcastic than cynical. Cuts through the bull of life nicely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you stop yourself from being cynical? If that's how you feel, how do you change your perspective?

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Is cynicism a loss of something? Hope, trust, perhaps? If so then I guess trying to restore those even in small doses is one counter balance to cynicism.

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By *EAT..85 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Lots of wise answers but no magic wand to wave to minimise cynicism!

I used to be so care free. My role in work has slowly added to my cynasism too and its supposed to be a positive charitable role! I just feel like I'm a darker version of me and there doesn't seem a way back.

Have you looked into shadow work?"

No. Can you summarise or shall I Google?

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By *EAT..85 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Pffft, cynical people, they're all the same "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of wise answers but no magic wand to wave to minimise cynicism!

I used to be so care free. My role in work has slowly added to my cynasism too and its supposed to be a positive charitable role! I just feel like I'm a darker version of me and there doesn't seem a way back.

Have you looked into shadow work?

No. Can you summarise or shall I Google? "

Strangely enough I know this situation quite well. These kind of roles take their toll. All you start to see is the bad in the world. Have you thought of changing your environment? I know it's hard to just up sticks and move. Maybe a job thats not about helping people? So it doesn't totally kill your caring nature

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By *EAT..85 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Lots of wise answers but no magic wand to wave to minimise cynicism!

I used to be so care free. My role in work has slowly added to my cynasism too and its supposed to be a positive charitable role! I just feel like I'm a darker version of me and there doesn't seem a way back.

Have you looked into shadow work?

No. Can you summarise or shall I Google?

Strangely enough I know this situation quite well. These kind of roles take their toll. All you start to see is the bad in the world. Have you thought of changing your environment? I know it's hard to just up sticks and move. Maybe a job thats not about helping people? So it doesn't totally kill your caring nature"

A job change is on the cards in the next year I hope. I just need to get my motivation on. A few things should slot into place next year to make it achievable too

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"Cynicism is vital to living.

Question everything. Think critically.

Don't stagnate in dogma.

The end

Maybe you think cynicism is negative - it really isn't.

You don’t have to be cynical to question things, and think critically.

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That's funny

What drives the questioning of what is presented before you ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Do you think we hold different definitions of cynicism maybe ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think we hold different definitions of cynicism maybe ?"

The definition of cynicism is negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of wise answers but no magic wand to wave to minimise cynicism!

I used to be so care free. My role in work has slowly added to my cynasism too and its supposed to be a positive charitable role! I just feel like I'm a darker version of me and there doesn't seem a way back.

Have you looked into shadow work?

No. Can you summarise or shall I Google? "

I would pm you, but I’m too old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do my best to be positive about everything but sometimes my cynicism gets the best of me. Just from past experience.

It’s something I work on every day

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