FabSwingers.com forum: The No Thanks Club

By *olex99 OP Man
over a year ago

Hull

To anyone that's heard the words "thanks but you're not what I'm looking for" , to anyone that's been shot down in flames, to anyone that's been passed over or just plain ignored. I salute you all. Your time will come. Never give up, never surrender. You are all part of the fabric of this site. As the great Richard Richard once said, "nil desperandum ".

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Happened to me hundreds of times, but I’m still here and I’ve met some lovely people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a phrase I'm coming accustomed to

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I can honestly say, I have never once been rejected.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

If you put yourself out there, you have to expect some rejection.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Surely everyone is a member of this club at some point. No one is everyone's type.

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By *olex99 OP Man
over a year ago

Hull

"It's a phrase I'm coming accustomed to

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens and you just have to keep being positive.

Just go again and your luck will change

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By *irebird567Woman
over a year ago

near by

I try not to ignore, and always try to reply to MSG's, altho I do miss some sometimes, unfortunately u can't be everyone's cup of tea, but that doesn't mean ur not someones

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

So the whole site then? I'm sure everyone has been rejected at least once in their life.

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

Sure it happens to us all. Respect honesty to be fair

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Happens to us all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a phrase I'm coming accustomed to

I wouldnt have expected that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to answer every message and try to keep it neutrual with a polite no but thanks for your time

We do get the odd fools that are a bit rude and/or get cocky keep pestering or worse still IMO, after one exchange of short emai thet foolishly assume we will see them. At that point i tell them to contact us when we ad a meet but read our profile first it often works.

There are many nice people here and at time we chat about stuff i or they cant chat about with family/friends and here get an honest, no biased view

good site, many nice ladies and gents here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happens to us all

Yes...even me

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I can honestly say, I have never once been rejected. "

Don’t think I have but only coz I’ve never messaged first.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think that even those considered the most popular have been turned down and can’t be universally desired.

I do think that sometimes people focus on those that they don’t have, rather than what they do.

If no one has been receptive, always addendum that sentiment with *yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a phrase I'm coming accustomed to

It’s probably your age preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re still going on strong , fortune favours the brave

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Happens to us all,we only meet women really so get it all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happens to us all

Yes...even me

Following too! I have been rejected! X

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I've been rejected or ignored a fair amount. They don't know what they're missing (but if they did know, they'd probably be highly relieved to have missed it).

It's not a big deal; nobody is everyone's cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a fully fledged member of the “No Thanks “ club

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm a member of the more exclusive no thanks you look like my uncle club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To anyone that's heard the words "thanks but you're not what I'm looking for" , to anyone that's been shot down in flames, to anyone that's been passed over or just plain ignored. I salute you all. Your time will come. Never give up, never surrender. You are all part of the fabric of this site. As the great Richard Richard once said, "nil desperandum "."

Hahaha stop it

I'm a good listener

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep we are in your not so exclusive rejection club , unfortunately with our profile demands it’s to be expected

but hay ho onwards and upwards .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can honestly say, I have never once been rejected.

Don’t think I have but only coz I’ve never messaged first. "

Snap!!! Same here, I never message first!!

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Happens to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lost count how many times all have happened to me

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Isn't this everyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always expect rejection, makes being accepted more special

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By *oldie_locks33Woman
over a year ago

Durham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can honestly say, I have never once been rejected. "

If it makes you feel better, I’ll reject you.

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By *oldie_locks33Woman
over a year ago

Durham

Or just stick to a medieval folk dance?

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By *areToShareCouple
over a year ago

Bingham

"I try to answer every message and try to keep it neutrual with a polite no but thanks for your time

There are many nice people here and at time we chat about stuff i or they cant chat about with family/friends and here get an honest, no biased view

good site, many nice ladies and gents here"

Surprising answer..especially seeing as a few days ago you did a forum post informing us all how you enjoyed blocking everybody.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I’m most definitely in this club I think I’ve got the app already and socks

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By *ogglesMan
over a year ago

essex and norfolk

Happens most day,you get used to it in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely everyone is a member of this club at some point. No one is everyone's type."

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I can honestly say, I have never once been rejected.

Don’t think I have but only coz I’ve never messaged first. "

Wuss

I'm sure all of us who have messaged first have felt the sting or disappointment of rejection. No one is immune to it in the end. Best policy is to shrug it off and carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all part of the learning to get to our amazin fun i spose lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to answer every message and try to keep it neutrual with a polite no but thanks for your time

There are many nice people here and at time we chat about stuff i or they cant chat about with family/friends and here get an honest, no biased view

good site, many nice ladies and gents here

Surprising answer..especially seeing as a few days ago you did a forum post informing us all how you enjoyed blocking everybody.

got a few hundred blocked can't block everyone as I'm nice to nice people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a phrase I'm coming accustomed to

It’s probably your age preference

It might have something to do with it

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

To anyone I always say you have to “shoot your shot!” … but I also say to people that you have to be pragmatic in swinging in that you are not going to fancy everyone, and everyone is not going to fancy you!!!

If a “no thank you” offends you, you are very much in the wrong pastime…..

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We've just rejected someone who asked "only to watch". Why? Just cut out the middle man and block us.

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By *s24UUCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk

we did and we never even messaged the couple still cant get over it lol

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"I can honestly say, I have never once been rejected.

Don’t think I have but only coz I’ve never messaged first.

Wuss

I'm sure all of us who have messaged first have felt the sting or disappointment of rejection. No one is immune to it in the end. Best policy is to shrug it off and carry on

As a female who only ever messages first it's always a gamble of rejection too ...but can say those guys who said no have always been polite...

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Although I've never sent many messages (as I don't fancy that many people), I've never had a knock back from an initial message...quite a few we have decided we're not compatible after further messaging, but no outright knock back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Signing in!

It's shite but you have to take it on the chin and at least the ones who tell you have the courage to do so.

I dont fancy everyone I come across so I know everyone doesn't fancy me... ..even tho they definitely should

all part of the game really isn't it!

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