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By *estofboth OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a difficult one because if guys write a good message it probably gets deleted, but if they write "hows things" they get told it's not enough.. I'm not sure what their meant to do on here.. i honestly feel for them at times

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By *rsmith21zMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I think it's a difficult one because if guys write a good message it probably gets deleted, but if they write "hows things" they get told it's not enough.. I'm not sure what their meant to do on here.. i honestly feel for them at times"

Thank you! It is hard to know what to do at times...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's a difficult one because if guys write a good message it probably gets deleted, but if they write "hows things" they get told it's not enough.. I'm not sure what their meant to do on here.. i honestly feel for them at times"

This true struggles

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

So after writing the 20th message and it being instantly deleted even though you think you fit all the criteria it does get a bit frustrating , but if you see you get mail it makes it all worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's a difficult one because if guys write a good message it probably gets deleted, but if they write "hows things" they get told it's not enough.. I'm not sure what their meant to do on here.. i honestly feel for them at times"

Wait and hope someone messages them first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unless it's faf or similar then i think it's fine it's easy to say no thanks

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By *rsmith21zMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Deffo, no is fine just be honest lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's a difficult one because if guys write a good message it probably gets deleted, but if they write "hows things" they get told it's not enough.. I'm not sure what their meant to do on here.. i honestly feel for them at times"

Totally agreed. Are we meant to please people??

Jusg be who you are truely. If many do not see that it's their loss. Because that is what they are doing to you.

The value of one is no less, just because many do not see its worth..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's a difficult one because if guys write a good message it probably gets deleted, but if they write "hows things" they get told it's not enough.. I'm not sure what their meant to do on here.. i honestly feel for them at times

This true struggles "

A huge wave and trend. We men need to think far way different. Because the results for many are the very same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's a difficult one because if guys write a good message it probably gets deleted, but if they write "hows things" they get told it's not enough.. I'm not sure what their meant to do on here.. i honestly feel for them at times

This true struggles

A huge wave and trend. We men need to think far way different. Because the results for many are the very same. "

Amen

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By *estofboth OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Sorry deleted our comment! For us as long as it’s something we can work with we will reply, however just “how are you” can be a little tedious.

We try and craft a nice relevant message when we introduce ourselves, if we’re reaching out then it’s because we are interested in meeting so seems worth the effort.

Can appreciate the frustration if you never get a reply though, but we can’t help but be disappointed when it’s a really hot profile and then they initiate things with just “hi”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry deleted our comment! For us as long as it’s something we can work with we will reply, however just “how are you” can be a little tedious.

We try and craft a nice relevant message when we introduce ourselves, if we’re reaching out then it’s because we are interested in meeting so seems worth the effort.

Can appreciate the frustration if you never get a reply though, but we can’t help but be disappointed when it’s a really hot profile and then they initiate things with just “hi” "
maybe if you feel it's tedious you should search for what you want and compose the message.. just a thought..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing I learned from fab I'm utter shite at first messages

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By *estofboth OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Sorry deleted our comment! For us as long as it’s something we can work with we will reply, however just “how are you” can be a little tedious.

We try and craft a nice relevant message when we introduce ourselves, if we’re reaching out then it’s because we are interested in meeting so seems worth the effort.

Can appreciate the frustration if you never get a reply though, but we can’t help but be disappointed when it’s a really hot profile and then they initiate things with just “hi” maybe if you feel it's tedious you should search for what you want and compose the message.. just a thought.. "

We try and craft a nice relevant message when we introduce ourselves, if we’re reaching out then it’s because we are interested in meeting so seems worth the effort.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I put a lot of effort into my first messages. I spend ages on them – reading and digesting the recipient’s profile, engaging with it, taking an interest, asking questions, politely and respectfully trying to start up a conversation. All the things you’re supposed to do.

If the message is read and deleted, that’s fine – it’s a clear answer. If it’s read and never responded to, that’s okay too – I still know where I stand. But when I put all that time and mental energy into carefully composing a individually tailored message, and it *never even gets read*… that’s dispiriting. Total waste of life.

“Fab’s what you make it,” people lie. “You’ll succeed if you put the effort in,” they kid themselves. The just-world fallacy is seductive in the extreme.

How effort alone is supposed to magically prevent your message disappearing under six hundred FAF one-liners is yet to be adequately explained.

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By *estofboth OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I think for a guy it’s probably immaterial due to volume, was writing more from the perspective of couples and other women, can only sympathise with how tough it must be not to have any responses at all on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I put a lot of effort into my first messages. I spend ages on them – reading and digesting the recipient’s profile, engaging with it, taking an interest, asking questions, politely and respectfully trying to start up a conversation. All the things you’re supposed to do.

If the message is read and deleted, that’s fine – it’s a clear answer. If it’s read and never responded to, that’s okay too – I still know where I stand. But when I put all that time and mental energy into carefully composing a individually tailored message, and it *never even gets read*… that’s dispiriting. Total waste of life.

“Fab’s what you make it,” people lie. “You’ll succeed if you put the effort in,” they kid themselves. The just-world fallacy is seductive in the extreme.

How effort alone is supposed to magically prevent your message disappearing under six hundred FAF one-liners is yet to be adequately explained.

"

Yep, pretty much this

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I think it's a difficult one because if guys write a good message it probably gets deleted, but if they write "hows things" they get told it's not enough.. I'm not sure what their meant to do on here.. i honestly feel for them at times

Thank you! It is hard to know what to do at times..."

True, I'm still waiting for HER to publish my veri. Why do women do this?

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"One thing I learned from fab I'm utter shite at first messages "

Try this:

I like the look of you in (date of photo) because it reminds me of (insert film or painting etc)

You're right, that comment you posted made me think, laugh, so horny or plain made my date. (Inflate ego gently.)

See you down the club on (insert date)

Is that location the one I'm thinking of?

Read the profile and leave her needing to answer you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One thing I learned from fab I'm utter shite at first messages

Try this:

I like the look of you in (date of photo) because it reminds me of (insert film or painting etc)

You're right, that comment you posted made me think, laugh, so horny or plain made my date. (Inflate ego gently.)

See you down the club on (insert date)

Is that location the one I'm thinking of?

Read the profile and leave her needing to answer you."

Thank you for the tutorial appreciate it ...how much do I owe you?.

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By *weetandHungMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"I think it's a difficult one because if guys write a good message it probably gets deleted, but if they write "hows things" they get told it's not enough.. I'm not sure what their meant to do on here.. i honestly feel for them at times"

Exactly this, I try and be polite and friendly in the messages too. Still ends in the trash can

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"One thing I learned from fab I'm utter shite at first messages

Try this:

I like the look of you in (date of photo) because it reminds me of (insert film or painting etc)

You're right, that comment you posted made me think, laugh, so horny or plain made my date. (Inflate ego gently.)

See you down the club on (insert date)

Is that location the one I'm thinking of?

Read the profile and leave her needing to answer you.

Thank you for the tutorial appreciate it ...how much do I owe you?. "

A good word, on my behalf towards the select few, would go down

(The names and profiles have been hidden to protect the naughty!)

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

...go down a treat!

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