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"That’s what I’ve been trying but I still don’t get anywhere, am I over confident in my appearance? Am I too forward or not forward enough. Actual minefield " Just be yourself, don't try and anticipate what other people want and try and change for their benefit | |||
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"That’s what I’ve been trying but I still don’t get anywhere, am I over confident in my appearance? Am I too forward or not forward enough. Actual minefield Just be yourself, don't try and anticipate what other people want and try and change for their benefit" I am being myself, I’m posting on a thread where it’s encouraged to help others and like them but people stop by my profile and do nothing, messages deleted without response | |||
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"That’s what I’ve been trying but I still don’t get anywhere, am I over confident in my appearance? Am I too forward or not forward enough. Actual minefield Just be yourself, don't try and anticipate what other people want and try and change for their benefit I am being myself, I’m posting on a thread where it’s encouraged to help others and like them but people stop by my profile and do nothing, messages deleted without response " Alot of people on here are not nice lol don't beat yourself up about it. | |||
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers " That’s not true at all. If I join the fabbing thread I try and go through everyone and fab some of their pics (unless it’s all dicks) | |||
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers " | |||
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers That’s not true at all. If I join the fabbing thread I try and go through everyone and fab some of their pics (unless it’s all dicks)" Well at least you made this about you | |||
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers That’s not true at all. If I join the fabbing thread I try and go through everyone and fab some of their pics (unless it’s all dicks) Well at least you made this about you " As opposed to all those times that you selflessly derailed the threads on female safety with your personal experiences and opinions | |||
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers That’s not true at all. If I join the fabbing thread I try and go through everyone and fab some of their pics (unless it’s all dicks) Well at least you made this about you As opposed to all those times that you selflessly derailed the threads on female safety with your personal experiences and opinions " And another. Poor lads had his confidence shattered and you can’t help but bash others. Good job guys | |||
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone " Couple of things.... There is absolutely nothing wrong with your body. That does not however mean that everyone will want to pump you or Fab your pics. Whilst Fab can be handy for a wee confidence boost (if the right person Fabs a pic) if you're looking to external sources to feel good about yourself you're setting yourself up for to fail. Lastly, and this may come across as harsh, but comments like "I'm not worthy" scream "pity me" and are an absolute turn off for most women. I'm not going to fuck someone to make them feel better about themselves. Chin up Mr X | |||
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"I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!)" There can be only one fab | |||
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"Your pics are great I especially like the one where you are playing the guitar don't take it personally you look great " This too. You’ve actually got good pics, not just dick pics like most. Interesting pics with the guitar, decent body if I say so myself, manly chest rug Your alright lad | |||
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone Couple of things.... There is absolutely nothing wrong with your body. That does not however mean that everyone will want to pump you or Fab your pics. Whilst Fab can be handy for a wee confidence boost (if the right person Fabs a pic) if you're looking to external sources to feel good about yourself you're setting yourself up for to fail. Lastly, and this may come across as harsh, but comments like "I'm not worthy" scream "pity me" and are an absolute turn off for most women. I'm not going to fuck someone to make them feel better about themselves. Chin up Mr X" Even gave you a cheeky wee Fab | |||
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers " | |||
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"That’s what I’ve been trying but I still don’t get anywhere, am I over confident in my appearance? Am I too forward or not forward enough. Actual minefield " Some men assume that if they get a Fab it means the person wants to fuck them or chat. You have very nice arms and good pics. | |||
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers " Some may see them as popularity contests, others may see them as fabbing a pic as a way in trying to start a conversation. Others such as myself will fab a pic as I appreciate it. Everyone is different. | |||
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers That’s not true at all. If I join the fabbing thread I try and go through everyone and fab some of their pics (unless it’s all dicks) Well at least you made this about you As opposed to all those times that you selflessly derailed the threads on female safety with your personal experiences and opinions And another. Poor lads had his confidence shattered and you can’t help but bash others. Good job guys " You started the bashing and Hippy was not making it about her. I came on to say the same thing. I try to fab as many men as possible on those threads because the disparity between the sexes is bonkers on here and men post some great pics. | |||
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone " I'm pretty sure I've fabbed you on those threads before, I didn't make it all the way through yesterday! IMO those guys who add new photos regularly do better because we all like something new to see - worth a thought? | |||
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"Hey Mike, I was going to add, you have a good profile, just try not to take it personally. Ash x " Thanks Ash, my confidence is generally low and I’d hoped by joining the site I could maybe improve it. Having a bottle of wine and thinking about these things doesn’t help. X | |||
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"Hey Mike, I was going to add, you have a good profile, just try not to take it personally. Ash x Thanks Ash, my confidence is generally low and I’d hoped by joining the site I could maybe improve it. Having a bottle of wine and thinking about these things doesn’t help. X " Tbh, Mike I seriously think it’s tough on here for single guys. Not sure it’s the best place to improve your confidence. Definitely go along to socials, and just be yourself. Big hug xx | |||
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers " This x | |||
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers " This. I don’t do those threads. I’ve never done them. Fabs mean nowt to me. I’ll sometimes fab a pic if I like it and if I remember to. If someone fabs mine it’s hopefully because they genuinely like it not because I’ve joined a thread. If some get a confidence boost from it though then it can only be a good thing. Never really been for me though x | |||
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers " This ^ | |||
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers " I like the cut of this man's jib | |||
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone " What do you mean 'You got visits and wasn't worthy?' | |||
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"That’s what I’ve been trying but I still don’t get anywhere, am I over confident in my appearance? Am I too forward or not forward enough. Actual minefield Just be yourself, don't try and anticipate what other people want and try and change for their benefit I am being myself, I’m posting on a thread where it’s encouraged to help others and like them but people stop by my profile and do nothing, messages deleted without response " Oh right I get the visits now... Depends on your approach, we can't see your mail to them, so can't really comment as such. If you've read some of their profile and get the jist of what THEY want, then keep trying. If you are ignoring the write up. Then I'm afraid it'll be deleted... Have you used Advanced Search? | |||
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"I never get fabbed, I’m cool with that, relying on others for your own self-esteem is a fools errand " Poor you Keep up sweety | |||
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"I never get fabbed, I’m cool with that, relying on others for your own self-esteem is a fools errand Poor you Keep up sweety " Okay so I was fishing. You know what they say, advice is the easiest thing to give and the hardest thing to take | |||
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"I never get fabbed, I’m cool with that, relying on others for your own self-esteem is a fools errand Poor you Keep up sweety Okay so I was fishing. You know what they say, advice is the easiest thing to give and the hardest thing to take " Xxx | |||
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone " The forum can be very cliquey, I'm mostly ignored but I care not! Missy x | |||
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"I never get fabbed, I’m cool with that, relying on others for your own self-esteem is a fools errand Poor you Keep up sweety Okay so I was fishing. You know what they say, advice is the easiest thing to give and the hardest thing to take " Fabbed you - I tried one of those double exposure photos too - never seen anyone else do it on here! | |||
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"You can make your photos unfabable. Yes, I can make up new words. Brains and beauty!" Is it unfabable or unfabbable? It's unfathomable. | |||
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone The forum can be very cliquey, I'm mostly ignored but I care not! Missy x" Forums and the likes are likely always be this way, I don't see it as a clique per se, more a familiarity and understanding boundaries with one another. To the outsider, it can feel like there's a select few that play together on the forums, but the bigger picture is there are many that don't. | |||
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"I don’t get those threads so I avoid. But I’d assume that the premise would be for people to make extra effort to fab maybe their favourite photo on any profile they click on. I know many posters do and are very inclusive. However, to me that doesn’t mean much because its essentially a game. If it’s making you feel crap then avoid them. There’s no link between fabs on photos and self worth. Stick to threads that make you smile " | |||
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"I never get fabbed, I’m cool with that, relying on others for your own self-esteem is a fools errand Poor you Keep up sweety Okay so I was fishing. You know what they say, advice is the easiest thing to give and the hardest thing to take Fabbed you - I tried one of those double exposure photos too - never seen anyone else do it on here!" I used gimp. I’ve got a few others in my hidden pics including a sunset over pants and a view of Dartmoor . It was good fun to do but I had to watch a YouTube tutorial. | |||
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers " Absolutely spot on with your comments as usual. | |||
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"I never get fabbed, I’m cool with that, relying on others for your own self-esteem is a fools errand Poor you Keep up sweety Okay so I was fishing. You know what they say, advice is the easiest thing to give and the hardest thing to take Fabbed you - I tried one of those double exposure photos too - never seen anyone else do it on here! I used gimp. I’ve got a few others in my hidden pics including a sunset over pants and a view of Dartmoor . It was good fun to do but I had to watch a YouTube tutorial. " sunset over pants! I use Snapseed - it's super easy but I didn't think mine was very effective. I moved it to private | |||
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"Your photos are nice, I’ve dropped you a little fab I personally stay away from the threads that are a popularity contest now (I find them cliquey), anything that starts with “which forumite….” is avoided. Don’t let it get you down, do your thing and try not to let it get you down " Yeah we keep away from all that now. Every one learns the hard way it's just a little private group really. On one we were the only post to be ignored on there. Couldn't actually care but once you know where you stand it's easy to avoid | |||
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"Don't dwell on it. I do much better on fabguys than here.Fabs are fun but don't really mean anything. " This. Fabs are pretty meaningless and don’t signify a wealth of meaningful meets. Fab is not a competition, and should be about you connecting with the people your profile speaks to. I’d rather make 2 or three great connections than receive 20k Fabs! Try not to let something so arbitrary affect your confidence, darling. | |||
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers That’s not true at all. If I join the fabbing thread I try and go through everyone and fab some of their pics (unless it’s all dicks)" | |||
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"I join threads if I get a response yippee... often if you're late to the thread lots of folk are 'd out and may have moved on to the next topic..its fab its an ever moving feast. I joined in a fuck suck lick thread the other day... Can a lady please message me to arrange this.. ta." Hahaha tickled me | |||
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone The forum can be very cliquey, I'm mostly ignored but I care not! Missy x" Who typed that?? | |||
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone " If you walked into a pub, would every woman give you the eye, or would some and others think “not for me.” It’s no different here. If you rate your esteem by the amount of fabs you get, you’re in for a bumpy ride bruv. | |||
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"I'm one of those that very rarely fab photos. I'll look at them, appreciate them but my mind isn't entwined in a SM world where it says "oh you need to like this if you've seen it". I'm sure lots of people appreciate you, your profile and pics. Always happy to chat if you want to " There’s nothing wrong with showing appreciation of a good image, by leaving a fab. I enjoy doing that, it doesn’t mean I’m entwined in a sm world. | |||
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"I'm one of those that very rarely fab photos. I'll look at them, appreciate them but my mind isn't entwined in a SM world where it says "oh you need to like this if you've seen it". I'm sure lots of people appreciate you, your profile and pics. Always happy to chat if you want to There’s nothing wrong with showing appreciation of a good image, by leaving a fab. I enjoy doing that, it doesn’t mean I’m entwined in a sm world." I leave Fabs as "a thank you for the perv" as well | |||
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"I'm one of those that very rarely fab photos. I'll look at them, appreciate them but my mind isn't entwined in a SM world where it says "oh you need to like this if you've seen it". I'm sure lots of people appreciate you, your profile and pics. Always happy to chat if you want to There’s nothing wrong with showing appreciation of a good image, by leaving a fab. I enjoy doing that, it doesn’t mean I’m entwined in a sm world. I leave Fabs as "a thank you for the perv" as well " Me too, I feel I owe it to those brave/generous enough to share | |||
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone " You did get fabbed though | |||
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"I'm one of those that very rarely fab photos. I'll look at them, appreciate them but my mind isn't entwined in a SM world where it says "oh you need to like this if you've seen it". I'm sure lots of people appreciate you, your profile and pics. Always happy to chat if you want to There’s nothing wrong with showing appreciation of a good image, by leaving a fab. I enjoy doing that, it doesn’t mean I’m entwined in a sm world." Ive fabbed yours. Theyre ace! | |||
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"Your pics are great I especially like the one where you are playing the guitar don't take it personally you look great " That's better! | |||
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