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Selfish playmates - one sided sex meets

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What are your thoughts on people that just lay there and want everything done not get involved when having sex or physical fun in the bedroom?

And how do you deal with them when they message you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invite them round so I can ride them!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may just lie there but I always bring cake!!

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Never had one I’d block if it was a crap experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, I've been there. Didn't go back for seconds and was honest with him why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're a bit too common. Most of my meets have ended without me actually cumming. Although the level of trying from the partner did vary somewhat, some at least tried over 2-4 hours with plenty of play.

The worst was a hotel meet where he just stripped off, told me do they same, a 2 minute blowjob and 3 minutes of doggy later he came in me got dressed and left. Crap meet, I felt like I should have charged him, he didn't give any consideration to me at all. Xx

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

One of the reasons I'm fussy in who I meet. Things like that are sussed out long before getting to the bedroom.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

That's me, I just let them get on with it. They don't complain

Never had a guy do that though

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

They wouldn't pass the audition, so wouldn't get a call back.

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I thought this is a kink, not selfishness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you believe if they're lazy they're not really into you but just there to cum and is that a good or bad thing?

Would you prefer to be mutual so you both have a good time?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I just say thanks but no thanks if they message after looking to meet again .

Thank goodness it has only happened once on here.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"One of the reasons I'm fussy in who I meet. Things like that are sussed out long before getting to the bedroom.

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This

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I thought this is a kink, not selfishness. "

I see it as disrespectful the other person is not into you he or she is just there to cum, and a high percentage of women do not achieve orgasm during one-sided sex. Don't get me wrong some people like to be used and abused but this should be mentioned before meeting up, what do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what you mean by lazy, I don’t like going on top for sex, too self conscious so would rather lay there or from behind and yes that’s letting them do all the work. It’s not like I do nothing though, I suck their cocks surely if it was being lazy then I’d do nothing.

Slightly different dynamic when I play cos it’s with hubby.

But I’m submissive so doubt I’d be any different in most situations

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I've had a few one sided kink meets but thats what I've been looking for, it's not about being sexual for me it's about me gaining pleasure from his reactions to whatever tool I wield...

Sexual meets I've been very fortunate not to find a selfish man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll make him a cup of tea afterwards though! I'm not completely selfish

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"What are your thoughts on people that just lay there and want everything done not get involved when having sex or physical fun in the bedroom?

And how do you deal with them when they message you? "

Thats most of our meets. They lie there and we do to them things they want, such as beat them.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I once met a guy who came the instant my lips slid down his cock, then he handed me my knickers and basically threw me out. Complete waste of a freshly shaved fanny.

That's why now I don't give blowjobs until I've had a bit of fun too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The dreaded pillow princess, id not meet again put it that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The dreaded pillow princess, id not meet again put it that way."

I've never heard that phrase before interesting, the dreaded pillow Princess - sounds like Sleeping Beauty or troll.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

For me it’s about two people (or more) enjoying their time together, not just sexually. If I get a hint of them being a ‘point & shoot’ type, it wouldn’t even get to a meeting.

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I thought this is a kink, not selfishness.

I see it as disrespectful the other person is not into you he or she is just there to cum, and a high percentage of women do not achieve orgasm during one-sided sex. Don't get me wrong some people like to be used and abused but this should be mentioned before meeting up, what do you think? "

I'm sure I've seen porn dedicated to this.

There could be any number of reasons why someone is passive: they like it, they're a closet sub, they lack confidence, are self conscious, anxious, they don't know any better and so on.

You'll only find out by asking them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once met a guy who came the instant my lips slid down his cock, then he handed me my knickers and basically threw me out. Complete waste of a freshly shaved fanny.

That's why now I don't give blowjobs until I've had a bit of fun too."

I had a meet like that a long time ago

So pointless. I mean would’ve been fine if he could’ve gone again but he was in a rush.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I thought this is a kink, not selfishness.

I see it as disrespectful the other person is not into you he or she is just there to cum, and a high percentage of women do not achieve orgasm during one-sided sex. Don't get me wrong some people like to be used and abused but this should be mentioned before meeting up, what do you think?

I'm sure I've seen porn dedicated to this.

There could be any number of reasons why someone is passive: they like it, they're a closet sub, they lack confidence, are self conscious, anxious, they don't know any better and so on.

You'll only find out by asking them."

Submissive's are actively pleasing in many different ways , lying there doing nothing while someone fucks you isn’t submissive

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"I once met a guy who came the instant my lips slid down his cock, then he handed me my knickers and basically threw me out. Complete waste of a freshly shaved fanny.

That's why now I don't give blowjobs until I've had a bit of fun too.

I had a meet like that a long time ago

So pointless. I mean would’ve been fine if he could’ve gone again but he was in a rush. "

I'd have been fine with three minutes of fingering - it doesn't take much effort to get me off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought this is a kink, not selfishness.

I see it as disrespectful the other person is not into you he or she is just there to cum, and a high percentage of women do not achieve orgasm during one-sided sex. Don't get me wrong some people like to be used and abused but this should be mentioned before meeting up, what do you think?

I'm sure I've seen porn dedicated to this.

There could be any number of reasons why someone is passive: they like it, they're a closet sub, they lack confidence, are self conscious, anxious, they don't know any better and so on.

You'll only find out by asking them.

Submissive's are actively pleasing in many different ways , lying there doing nothing while someone fucks you isn’t submissive "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The dreaded pillow princess, id not meet again put it that way.

I've never heard that phrase before interesting, the dreaded pillow Princess - sounds like Sleeping Beauty or troll. "

Pillow princess in used a lot with lesbian / bi sexual girls - there are quite a few who claim to be bi sexual but never lift their heads off the pillow !

I’m 100% a switch .

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Submissive's are actively pleasing in many different ways , lying there doing nothing while someone fucks you isn’t submissive "

I disagree, for some people handing over full control can be one expression of it, but I wasn't actually generalising it like you in my post.

I was thinking of someone who wants to submit but perhaps has hang ups or other reasons for not talking about it. They could behave passively in order to gain some sort of sense that the other person is in charge.

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