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"Another word I’ve learned on fab! ![]() ![]() It’s not that alone, it’s a combination of things. | |||
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"Another word I’ve learned on fab! ![]() ![]() Same. Or I’ll reply out of politeness but not want to commit to all day messaging ![]() | |||
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"Another word I’ve learned on fab! ![]() ![]() Like what? I don’t really understand | |||
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"Another word I’ve learned on fab! ![]() ![]() ![]() I haven’t explained it well. It’s a combination of little morsels to keep someone interested in you, not really giving anything, but just keeping them hanging. | |||
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"Och, I’m too old for games. If I say I’m going to meet someone, I’ll do it. I’m pretty honest and straightforward. Love the ‘thinking’ threads you’ve been starting, by the way ![]() Thank you ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Another word I’ve learned on fab! ![]() ![]() Me too….. this one took a bit to sink in though with shrimping and breadcruming I think we could be talking another language soon….. I also fab lots of pics especially updates I think it’s nice to show appreciation for a nice pic x | |||
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"This is the practice of dropping little morsels but not following through." Have you ever dropped one and then followed through OP? | |||
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"Another word I’ve learned on fab! ![]() ![]() Ah I’ve googled it now. So basically leading someone on for the fun of it when you’re not really interested? | |||
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"This is the practice of dropping little morsels but not following through. Have you ever dropped one and then followed through OP? " You said you would tell anyone ![]() | |||
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"This is the practice of dropping little morsels but not following through. Have you ever dropped one and then followed through OP? You said you would tell anyone ![]() And I did. | |||
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"Another word I’ve learned on fab! ![]() ![]() Shrimping? Back to google I go! | |||
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"My understanding of breadcrumbing is that you’re giving just enough - and no more - to keep someone invested in you. So you drop them a message or a compliment, or whatever. Like crumbs from a table. It would be done when someone is hedging their bets, and keeping their options open. Not a nice way to behave, in my view. Fabbing someone’s pic is different though!" I’m going to get you to do the thread next time. You word things well ![]() ![]() | |||
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"If someone pops into my head and I rattle off a message, is that breadcrumbing? What does following through entail? Meeting? What if they live 100s of miles away? The last time there was a thread like this it was the first time I'd heard the phrase. I immediately whatsapped a fabber I haven't met and text infrequently who lives far away and said "God you don't think that's what I'm doing do you?" God forbid." This is what I’m thinking. I’ll see someone on the forum I’ve not seen for ages and maybe fab a pic. Or I’ll message saying hi. Never even heard of this before. I often don’t speak to people for ages then drop them a line, even people where we’ve talked about meeting. Hope I’m not doing this thing! | |||
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"If someone pops into my head and I rattle off a message, is that breadcrumbing? What does following through entail? Meeting? What if they live 100s of miles away? The last time there was a thread like this it was the first time I'd heard the phrase. I immediately whatsapped a fabber I haven't met and text infrequently who lives far away and said "God you don't think that's what I'm doing do you?" God forbid. This is what I’m thinking. I’ll see someone on the forum I’ve not seen for ages and maybe fab a pic. Or I’ll message saying hi. Never even heard of this before. I often don’t speak to people for ages then drop them a line, even people where we’ve talked about meeting. Hope I’m not doing this thing!" Glad to hear it isn't just me. | |||
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"If someone pops into my head and I rattle off a message, is that breadcrumbing? What does following through entail? Meeting? What if they live 100s of miles away? The last time there was a thread like this it was the first time I'd heard the phrase. I immediately whatsapped a fabber I haven't met and text infrequently who lives far away and said "God you don't think that's what I'm doing do you?" God forbid. This is what I’m thinking. I’ll see someone on the forum I’ve not seen for ages and maybe fab a pic. Or I’ll message saying hi. Never even heard of this before. I often don’t speak to people for ages then drop them a line, even people where we’ve talked about meeting. Hope I’m not doing this thing!" Ignore me, read Dieu’s explanation, she’s explaining it well ![]() | |||
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"If someone pops into my head and I rattle off a message, is that breadcrumbing? What does following through entail? Meeting? What if they live 100s of miles away? The last time there was a thread like this it was the first time I'd heard the phrase. I immediately whatsapped a fabber I haven't met and text infrequently who lives far away and said "God you don't think that's what I'm doing do you?" God forbid. This is what I’m thinking. I’ll see someone on the forum I’ve not seen for ages and maybe fab a pic. Or I’ll message saying hi. Never even heard of this before. I often don’t speak to people for ages then drop them a line, even people where we’ve talked about meeting. Hope I’m not doing this thing! Glad to hear it isn't just me. " If I am it’s not my intention. But reading this I’m thinking maybe I do ![]() | |||
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"Another word I’ve learned on fab! ![]() ![]() I do this to show appreciation for the pictures. I’m not doing it to get noticed by them. And yes I’ve learned a new word on fab today too. Maybe I should stop fabbing pictures? | |||
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"If someone pops into my head and I rattle off a message, is that breadcrumbing? What does following through entail? Meeting? What if they live 100s of miles away? The last time there was a thread like this it was the first time I'd heard the phrase. I immediately whatsapped a fabber I haven't met and text infrequently who lives far away and said "God you don't think that's what I'm doing do you?" God forbid. This is what I’m thinking. I’ll see someone on the forum I’ve not seen for ages and maybe fab a pic. Or I’ll message saying hi. Never even heard of this before. I often don’t speak to people for ages then drop them a line, even people where we’ve talked about meeting. Hope I’m not doing this thing! Ignore me, read Dieu’s explanation, she’s explaining it well ![]() Haha I’d never ignore you ![]() | |||
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"If someone pops into my head and I rattle off a message, is that breadcrumbing? What does following through entail? Meeting? What if they live 100s of miles away? The last time there was a thread like this it was the first time I'd heard the phrase. I immediately whatsapped a fabber I haven't met and text infrequently who lives far away and said "God you don't think that's what I'm doing do you?" God forbid. This is what I’m thinking. I’ll see someone on the forum I’ve not seen for ages and maybe fab a pic. Or I’ll message saying hi. Never even heard of this before. I often don’t speak to people for ages then drop them a line, even people where we’ve talked about meeting. Hope I’m not doing this thing!" Nooo it’s a deliberate way of keeping a hold on someone they know likes them by giving just enough to keep in some contact knowing that the other person likes them and can’t resist. But they know they will never give the other person anything more. | |||
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"If someone pops into my head and I rattle off a message, is that breadcrumbing? What does following through entail? Meeting? What if they live 100s of miles away? The last time there was a thread like this it was the first time I'd heard the phrase. I immediately whatsapped a fabber I haven't met and text infrequently who lives far away and said "God you don't think that's what I'm doing do you?" God forbid. This is what I’m thinking. I’ll see someone on the forum I’ve not seen for ages and maybe fab a pic. Or I’ll message saying hi. Never even heard of this before. I often don’t speak to people for ages then drop them a line, even people where we’ve talked about meeting. Hope I’m not doing this thing! Glad to hear it isn't just me. If I am it’s not my intention. But reading this I’m thinking maybe I do ![]() You’re not intentionally keeping some en hanging on though? That’s different to sporadic contact with friends | |||
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"If someone pops into my head and I rattle off a message, is that breadcrumbing? What does following through entail? Meeting? What if they live 100s of miles away? The last time there was a thread like this it was the first time I'd heard the phrase. I immediately whatsapped a fabber I haven't met and text infrequently who lives far away and said "God you don't think that's what I'm doing do you?" God forbid. This is what I’m thinking. I’ll see someone on the forum I’ve not seen for ages and maybe fab a pic. Or I’ll message saying hi. Never even heard of this before. I often don’t speak to people for ages then drop them a line, even people where we’ve talked about meeting. Hope I’m not doing this thing! Glad to hear it isn't just me. If I am it’s not my intention. But reading this I’m thinking maybe I do ![]() No. I just hope they don’t take it that way lol x | |||
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"If someone pops into my head and I rattle off a message, is that breadcrumbing? What does following through entail? Meeting? What if they live 100s of miles away? The last time there was a thread like this it was the first time I'd heard the phrase. I immediately whatsapped a fabber I haven't met and text infrequently who lives far away and said "God you don't think that's what I'm doing do you?" God forbid." Very different. Breadcrumbing, when it's been done to me, is when you sense someone is cooling off and toss them just enough attention to keep them hanging and stop them moving on. It's not an "I thought of you today", it's a "keep thinking of me today". | |||
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"If someone pops into my head and I rattle off a message, is that breadcrumbing? What does following through entail? Meeting? What if they live 100s of miles away? The last time there was a thread like this it was the first time I'd heard the phrase. I immediately whatsapped a fabber I haven't met and text infrequently who lives far away and said "God you don't think that's what I'm doing do you?" God forbid. Very different. Breadcrumbing, when it's been done to me, is when you sense someone is cooling off and toss them just enough attention to keep them hanging and stop them moving on. It's not an "I thought of you today", it's a "keep thinking of me today"." I get it now and this is exactly what has been done to me in the past. Now there’s a word for it x | |||
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"If someone pops into my head and I rattle off a message, is that breadcrumbing? What does following through entail? Meeting? What if they live 100s of miles away? The last time there was a thread like this it was the first time I'd heard the phrase. I immediately whatsapped a fabber I haven't met and text infrequently who lives far away and said "God you don't think that's what I'm doing do you?" God forbid. This is what I’m thinking. I’ll see someone on the forum I’ve not seen for ages and maybe fab a pic. Or I’ll message saying hi. Never even heard of this before. I often don’t speak to people for ages then drop them a line, even people where we’ve talked about meeting. Hope I’m not doing this thing! Nooo it’s a deliberate way of keeping a hold on someone they know likes them by giving just enough to keep in some contact knowing that the other person likes them and can’t resist. But they know they will never give the other person anything more." This. The key part is the knowing the other person wants more and you don’t. That they hang on each interaction to an extent as it “feeds” them however sparsely and you keep doing just enough to keep them there. I think it often happens when someone isn’t clear with the other person, and I mean clear in their actions not just words, consistent and not giving false hope. | |||
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"If someone pops into my head and I rattle off a message, is that breadcrumbing? What does following through entail? Meeting? What if they live 100s of miles away? The last time there was a thread like this it was the first time I'd heard the phrase. I immediately whatsapped a fabber I haven't met and text infrequently who lives far away and said "God you don't think that's what I'm doing do you?" God forbid. Very different. Breadcrumbing, when it's been done to me, is when you sense someone is cooling off and toss them just enough attention to keep them hanging and stop them moving on. It's not an "I thought of you today", it's a "keep thinking of me today". I get it now and this is exactly what has been done to me in the past. Now there’s a word for it x" I’m sorry that happened to you ![]() | |||
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"Light bulb moment. ![]() ![]() I had that same lightbulb moment! | |||
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"Light bulb moment. ![]() ![]() ![]() Nah it's fine. Kinda stood me up today, and not the 1st time either. Was about to rearrange, but think I'll go with the block button instead ![]() | |||
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"Leading on from another thread. What are your thoughts on breadcrumbing? This is the practice of dropping little morsels, a text, a fab, some kind of interaction, but not following through. It’s a person that doesn’t make a proper effort, it doesn’t want to let you go. " Any kind of manipulative behaviour is deplorable. Sadly in some instances the person being manipulated finds it easy to excuse the behaviour of the manipulator because they hope for something to happen. | |||
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"I'm not if it really applies on here. Maybe if they know the other person only meets with one person until they're no longer involved or something. When it comes to dating, breadcrumbing is usually holding that person back from finding a good relationship because they're hanging on for the person doing the breadcrumbing. Fab is a bit different surely? Maybe you want to meet someone but there isn't an opportunity for a while. Maybe you've met and intend to meet again but neither of you know when. Surely none of us have the time to keep in constant contact with our fab connections? Personally I find an occasional check in during those times quite a nice thing. " There’s so many different dynamics on here though, and in some of them, I’m sure it does happen. | |||
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"Love this thread hippychick you learn something new every day xx" Thank you ![]() | |||
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"Light bulb moment. ![]() ![]() Me too!! ![]() | |||
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"Light bulb moment. ![]() ![]() ![]() I’m sorry you’ve all experienced it ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Light bulb moment. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Good on you ![]() | |||
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"Leading on from another thread. What are your thoughts on breadcrumbing? This is the practice of dropping little morsels, a text, a fab, some kind of interaction, but not following through. It’s a person that doesn’t make a proper effort, it doesn’t want to let you go. " Yeah had it happen. It doesn’t feel good ![]() | |||
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"Never heard of this, but it sounds like a vile thing to do. Fabbing photos for us is a mixture of the aesthetic quality of the shot, the subject, obviously, the composition in some cases and in others just down right sexuality of the photo. I am going to read about this phrase now I’ve seen it " Fabbing photos is not breadcrumbing, just an appreciation of a picture. | |||
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"Love this thread hippychick you learn something new every day xx" ![]() | |||
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"Never heard of this, but it sounds like a vile thing to do. Fabbing photos for us is a mixture of the aesthetic quality of the shot, the subject, obviously, the composition in some cases and in others just down right sexuality of the photo. I am going to read about this phrase now I’ve seen it Fabbing photos is not breadcrumbing, just an appreciation of a picture." Yes, fabbing pictures alone doesn’t count. | |||
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"Light bulb moment. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() That sounds like a good alternative to making more plans to meet. We all deserve to be treated better than good..good luck with it x | |||
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"Never heard of this, but it sounds like a vile thing to do. Fabbing photos for us is a mixture of the aesthetic quality of the shot, the subject, obviously, the composition in some cases and in others just down right sexuality of the photo. I am going to read about this phrase now I’ve seen it Fabbing photos is not breadcrumbing, just an appreciation of a picture. Yes, fabbing pictures alone doesn’t count. " No. Fabbing photos is a genuine compliment and not breadcrumbing in my opinion. I suppose it could be used as a way to easily feign ongoing interest as part of breadcrumbing, but I choose to believe that the vast majority of fabs are a genuine compliment, and not a contrived false flattery. Now... on the subject of leading multiple people on - building up their hopes, only to subsequently dash all but one of them on the rocks? Absolutely despicable. Pretty obvious to all I guess, but I'm an "all in" kind of guy and find it difficult to understand the motivation behind such disrespectful behaviour... I do however tend to give the benefit of the doubt to everyone until they prove themselves despicable, and would encourage everyone to look at the full set of facts and evidence in every situation rather than jumping to a negative conclusion. Also, to respect the choice of individuals to follow their hearts - even if it appears (with the simplistic view from the sidelines) that they are being played and heading for pain. This is a hugely supportive community - something that has impressed me from the start, but we can be quick to jump to harsh conclusions. In my opinion, we have no business concerning ourselves with the relationships of others and should instead just focus on making ourselves available to support each other if (god forbid) things do go wrong | |||
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"I just followed through ![]() Better get in the shower then ![]() | |||
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"Love this thread hippychick you learn something new every day xx" Yes thanks Hippy ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Not something I've encountered. I guess it must be more prevalent amongst those garnering for attention. " That’s quite a dismissive way to look at it. | |||
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"I dont really like the phrase. Friendships can be built all sorts of different ways. Looking in on a person you dont reglarly speak to could be just keeping a connection to someone you like or get on with. It doesnt always have to be about more than that. Any action when done for selfish reasons is to be disliked I suppose but Im not keen on the miniature of social interactions being labelled. Im a shit friend but will still try and keep in touch with people on and off and hate to think it could be misconstrued as 'breadcrumbing' or for some selfish gain. " I would not describe that as breadcrumbing, that sounds like normal friendships, you’re not deliberately trying to keep them hanging on doing that. | |||
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"Love this thread hippychick you learn something new every day xx Yes thanks Hippy ![]() ![]() Haha! Even I learnt something new there ![]() | |||
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"I dont really like the phrase. Friendships can be built all sorts of different ways. Looking in on a person you dont reglarly speak to could be just keeping a connection to someone you like or get on with. It doesnt always have to be about more than that. Any action when done for selfish reasons is to be disliked I suppose but Im not keen on the miniature of social interactions being labelled. Im a shit friend but will still try and keep in touch with people on and off and hate to think it could be misconstrued as 'breadcrumbing' or for some selfish gain. I would not describe that as breadcrumbing, that sounds like normal friendships, you’re not deliberately trying to keep them hanging on doing that. " Phew then ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Copy and pasted from a previous thread on the subject , I’ve also come to the realisation that I have several breadcrumbers. As for the specimen below … we’re still exchanging memes ![]() I have one, too. I've learned to be much tougher with my emotions although I'm not at the "block him and delete all contact " stage yet. | |||
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"Copy and pasted from a previous thread on the subject , I’ve also come to the realisation that I have several breadcrumbers. As for the specimen below … we’re still exchanging memes ![]() I’m now just in for the very funny memes he sends me daily. ![]() | |||
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"I apologise if anyone thinks I've left crumbs, I'll throw the whole loaf in the future " Love bombing is worse than breadcrumbing! 2 slices is plenty x | |||
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"Not something I've encountered. I guess it must be more prevalent amongst those garnering for attention. " You have to receive attention for it to happen, no attention you won’t experience it | |||
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"I dont really like the phrase. Friendships can be built all sorts of different ways. Looking in on a person you dont reglarly speak to could be just keeping a connection to someone you like or get on with. It doesnt always have to be about more than that. Any action when done for selfish reasons is to be disliked I suppose but Im not keen on the miniature of social interactions being labelled. Im a shit friend but will still try and keep in touch with people on and off and hate to think it could be misconstrued as 'breadcrumbing' or for some selfish gain. " ![]() | |||
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"It can be a perception thing. One person reading the signals wrong maybe.. " In the sense we’re talking about, I’m not sure if it can? | |||
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"It can be a perception thing. One person reading the signals wrong maybe.. In the sense we’re talking about, I’m not sure if it can?" My apologies. I agree with you on this. I did not express myself well. I was wondering in a broader sense, not an individual case, if the person who feels breadcrumbed could be over analysing things. Is breadcrumbing best looked at subjectively or objectively? | |||
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"I wouldn't personally call it breadcrumbung on here, it's often more a case of people having their fingers in a few too many pies at once. Keeping people in a virtual queue as it were. I always fully expected anyone that I spoke to on here to be chatting with and/or meeting others, but some of them either do it with more than they can handle at once, or just aren't very good at multi-tasking. That was never for me, I was never going to sit on the conveyor belt of a lothario and patiently await my turn...I'd quickly lose interest if I wasn't getting a decent amount of communication or plans to meet weren't coming to fruition. " I usually have several chats going with guys I might meet but - I don't do the breadcrumbing. It just seems a waste of my time and theirs. Saying "morning" or "hope you good". How do you get anywhere with that? Think I will cut off the guys who do it faster. | |||
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"We call it plate spinning…when they have that many chats going on they are just doing enough to stop the plate from falling. We’ve dropped chats when we’ve established said act. Whilst we don’t expect to be exclusive with people, we also don’t want the feeling that we are in a queue. K" I like the plate spinning analogy ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I wouldn't personally call it breadcrumbung on here, it's often more a case of people having their fingers in a few too many pies at once. Keeping people in a virtual queue as it were. I always fully expected anyone that I spoke to on here to be chatting with and/or meeting others, but some of them either do it with more than they can handle at once, or just aren't very good at multi-tasking. That was never for me, I was never going to sit on the conveyor belt of a lothario and patiently await my turn...I'd quickly lose interest if I wasn't getting a decent amount of communication or plans to meet weren't coming to fruition. " As I said to Lacey, it really depends on the dynamic in place. | |||
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"Light bulb moment. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Don’t be sorry for enlightening us, flower - I’m very grateful to you. Now I can see what’s going on, I can take steps to stop it! x ![]() | |||
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"It can be a perception thing. One person reading the signals wrong maybe.. In the sense we’re talking about, I’m not sure if it can? My apologies. I agree with you on this. I did not express myself well. I was wondering in a broader sense, not an individual case, if the person who feels breadcrumbed could be over analysing things. Is breadcrumbing best looked at subjectively or objectively?" Usually the person being breadcrumbed doesn't realise it until it is pointed out. | |||
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"Light bulb moment. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Yay! Loving your positive attitude ![]() | |||
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"Light bulb moment. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Haha; easier said than done though, right?! At least I won’t be kidding myself any longer. I wonder how long they’ll stretch it out? ![]() | |||
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"I need some breadcrumbing advice! I want to block and delete a guy that has recently got back in touch. He used to visit me once a week for a month or two but then it stopped and I gave up on him after a few lame excuses. That was 2 years ago. He's been back in touch to ask if I still live in the same place as he's moved closer but he is now breadcrumbing me with aloof brief replies. He doesn't seem like someone who really wants to have sex with me anymore. Problem is he's hot af and the sex was great. I think that's stopping me from blocking him but also I don't want to jump the gun or appear like the crazy one if I block him without explanation. Do I wait for him to message me before confronting him or should I just message him and tell him I feel breadcrumbed and that I'm sorry if he's not doing that but I'm close to blocking him? Or just block delete move on? It does my nut in to see him on here every day! Any advice appreciated xx" Find your self respect and stop engaging with him | |||
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"I need some breadcrumbing advice! I want to block and delete a guy that has recently got back in touch. He used to visit me once a week for a month or two but then it stopped and I gave up on him after a few lame excuses. That was 2 years ago. He's been back in touch to ask if I still live in the same place as he's moved closer but he is now breadcrumbing me with aloof brief replies. He doesn't seem like someone who really wants to have sex with me anymore. Problem is he's hot af and the sex was great. I think that's stopping me from blocking him but also I don't want to jump the gun or appear like the crazy one if I block him without explanation. Do I wait for him to message me before confronting him or should I just message him and tell him I feel breadcrumbed and that I'm sorry if he's not doing that but I'm close to blocking him? Or just block delete move on? It does my nut in to see him on here every day! Any advice appreciated xx Find your self respect and stop engaging with him " Thanks, its not really a question of self respect here (although there's a smidgen of that in there) so much as wondering what the best approach is. I'm not a fan of ghosting, I don't want to block and delete without explanation either as he's someone I've already had a thing with and I find the whole 'cancel culture' a real cop out. Not sure what to do really | |||
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"I need some breadcrumbing advice! I want to block and delete a guy that has recently got back in touch. He used to visit me once a week for a month or two but then it stopped and I gave up on him after a few lame excuses. That was 2 years ago. He's been back in touch to ask if I still live in the same place as he's moved closer but he is now breadcrumbing me with aloof brief replies. He doesn't seem like someone who really wants to have sex with me anymore. Problem is he's hot af and the sex was great. I think that's stopping me from blocking him but also I don't want to jump the gun or appear like the crazy one if I block him without explanation. Do I wait for him to message me before confronting him or should I just message him and tell him I feel breadcrumbed and that I'm sorry if he's not doing that but I'm close to blocking him? Or just block delete move on? It does my nut in to see him on here every day! Any advice appreciated xx Find your self respect and stop engaging with him Thanks, its not really a question of self respect here (although there's a smidgen of that in there) so much as wondering what the best approach is. I'm not a fan of ghosting, I don't want to block and delete without explanation either as he's someone I've already had a thing with and I find the whole 'cancel culture' a real cop out. Not sure what to do really " I would normally suggest an open and honest approach, however, as breadcrumbing can be quite manipulative, it may not be the best way forward, but only you know the person involved. If you think they are doing it deliberately, then absolutely delete and block, you need to put yourself first in situations like this. It can’t make you feel nice? | |||
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"I need some breadcrumbing advice! I want to block and delete a guy that has recently got back in touch. He used to visit me once a week for a month or two but then it stopped and I gave up on him after a few lame excuses. That was 2 years ago. He's been back in touch to ask if I still live in the same place as he's moved closer but he is now breadcrumbing me with aloof brief replies. He doesn't seem like someone who really wants to have sex with me anymore. Problem is he's hot af and the sex was great. I think that's stopping me from blocking him but also I don't want to jump the gun or appear like the crazy one if I block him without explanation. Do I wait for him to message me before confronting him or should I just message him and tell him I feel breadcrumbed and that I'm sorry if he's not doing that but I'm close to blocking him? Or just block delete move on? It does my nut in to see him on here every day! Any advice appreciated xx Find your self respect and stop engaging with him Thanks, its not really a question of self respect here (although there's a smidgen of that in there) so much as wondering what the best approach is. I'm not a fan of ghosting, I don't want to block and delete without explanation either as he's someone I've already had a thing with and I find the whole 'cancel culture' a real cop out. Not sure what to do really I would normally suggest an open and honest approach, however, as breadcrumbing can be quite manipulative, it may not be the best way forward, but only you know the person involved. If you think they are doing it deliberately, then absolutely delete and block, you need to put yourself first in situations like this. It can’t make you feel nice? " Thanks hun I'm over it really at this point now that the penny's dropped as its just so damn unattractive! I don't think it's a conscious thing, largely subconscious on his part actually. I doubt I'd get much back from him if I did try the open honest approach, think I'll leave it and if he messages again I'll just say 'not interested in guys like you, good luck' then block and delete. This will get the message home a bit more I think and if not it's a bit of revenge lol x | |||
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"Are men or women most likely to be breadcrumbed ?" Fish, I’d say. Especially the fingers | |||
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"Are men or women most likely to be breadcrumbed ? Fish, I’d say. Especially the fingers" Not you again... | |||
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"Are men or women most likely to be breadcrumbed ? Fish, I’d say. Especially the fingers" ![]() | |||
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"Is it real or imagined tho" It's real Tom. Clearly. As evidenced by the fact so many people have experienced it. | |||
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"Leading on from another thread. What are your thoughts on breadcrumbing? This is the practice of dropping little morsels, a text, a fab, some kind of interaction, but not following through. It’s a person that doesn’t make a proper effort, it doesn’t want to let you go. " It’s a practice that is a prime tactic of those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Tiptoe away quietly and block from your life. | |||
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"It’s a form of attention seeking and leading people on. It’s frustrating but not specifically bad or wrong. If I feel that it’s being done to me, I just stop communicating. Absolutely hate feeling like the person isn’t interested " Ghosting ? | |||
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