FabSwingers.com forum: How emotional are you?

By *affron40 OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Not as in outward displays necessarily, but how deeply do random things affect you?

Do you show/articulate your emotions well?

How do you keep things in balance?

Do you know what triggers you and can you avoid those things or do you walk right in and accept the consequence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very emotional

Cry at sad films

Even cry at football at times when the atmosphere is electric and a last minute winner etc

I'm probably just a nervous. Wreck

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Ooh, interesting.

I guess I've always worn my heart on my sleeve - I can't help it. My emotions always come through. And menopause has made it worse!

Though I will say, I'm starting to get better at controlling them (when they tend to be irrational) or talking them through if they're at risk of upsetting someone or triggering me.

I wish I'd been able to identify & explain the tsunami of emotions throughout my 20's & 30's. Might have saved a lot of angst! X

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I'm not emotional, but it's a learned behaviour to survive childhood abuse, since becoming a mum I am learning how to not repress them so much now its safe to do so x

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By *nto the LouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I used to think that I was an emotional person because I cry easily and often, but what I’ve done to realise is that I actually suppress a lot of things and try to keep them buried. I am sensitive, easily hurt and an over thinker, but when it comes to actual emotions I do struggle to recognise and name them. I’m currently training to be a counsellor though and having personal therapy so this is all very much a work in progress!

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"I'm very emotional

Cry at sad films

Even cry at football at times when the atmosphere is electric and a last minute winner etc

I'm probably just a nervous. Wreck "

It's funny that. I never cried at sad films,etc until my parents died. Now I cry a lot. I kinda like it, though, if that makes sense?

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"I'm not emotional, but it's a learned behaviour to survive childhood abuse, since becoming a mum I am learning how to not repress them so much now its safe to do so x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

far too emotional. Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I became more emotional or I never actually showed my emotion but various major things happened in my life where I showed my emotions and never looked back and the thought of your a guy you shouldn't very, fuck that I'm a human being with emotions so let it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very guarded with most aspects of my life... rarely does anyone get through the layers to know the real me..

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm ridiculously emotional, I take things to heart far too much.

I used to hide it though, crocodile tears my dad used to call it. And it would result in so much anger from him. So I learnt to hide it from him but internalisation wasn't the way to go. And I'm extremely lucky to still be alive and kicking.

Now I'm a mixture, I'm better at allowing myself to cry but not always good at expressing things like grief to others. And tend to detach from the world around me. I'm on my out of the detachment phase after my ectopic pregnancy last year.

It's something I'm working on, but it's something I find difficult to control. I'm either too emotional or detached. Really need to learn to find a balance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugely. I well up at the silliest of things, whether they be because of life, something I see in a film or TV, and when I'm singing along to a song that stirs.

I can be a selfish arse that makes me appear cold sometimes, but I'm a softie witg a big heart and my emotions get the better of me alot.

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By *affron40 OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"I'm ridiculously emotional, I take things to heart far too much.

It's something I'm working on, but it's something I find difficult to control. I'm either too emotional or detached. Really need to learn to find a balance. "

Bloody hell

this is so me.. massive detachment issues through trauma and highly emotional and take things to heart. It’s a complete spectrum of emotion and lack of that I struggle to understand some days.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It depends.

I tend to feel and recognise things fairly clearly and keenly. Whether that directly impacts me is a slightly different thing.

I tend to manage my emotions fairly well and handle the negative ones in my own way unless it hits me hard, fast and from out of the blue.

I’m a pragmatic person and self aware, so understand myself well. In those terms my emotional state is only part of the whole ‘me’. It’s rare that my emotions are the whole of me

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I've become more emotional with age and with personal circumstances, as they are now.

Despite knowing this, I was still surprised how deeply I was affected by a recent experience which left me crying my eyes out for days until I had finally rebuild my walls.

I avoid news items & documentaries that are too tragic, and even often some forum threads here and on other social media, when I know the lack of empathy will make me sad.

Anger is the exception. I've definitely become more chilled out with age.

I do also feel a lot of joy over small things, it's not just the negative feelings. In fact, I think small positive things are the best ones and I can sometimes bore other people with my excitement.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Zero %.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The tears come easily but I've stopped seeing them as a weakness. It's just a physiological reaction. I cried at Paddington 2. Ffs. Proper sobbed.

I don't want to keep my emotions in check. I did that for two decades to suit someone else. I don't land them on others, I just take myself off and then come back when I am calmer.

If your emotions are close to the surface the laughter is too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anger management meds !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not as in outward displays necessarily, but how deeply do random things affect you?

Do you show/articulate your emotions well?

How do you keep things in balance?

Do you know what triggers you and can you avoid those things or do you walk right in and accept the consequence?

I'm very emotional and show it. Silly things set me off, but I love how max will reassure me and doesn't dismiss them like others have in the past.

Max is not that shy at showing certain emotions, but won't show his full range of emotions as he feels its better to think logical.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I'm ridiculously emotional, I take things to heart far too much.

It's something I'm working on, but it's something I find difficult to control. I'm either too emotional or detached. Really need to learn to find a balance.

Bloody hell

this is so me.. massive detachment issues through trauma and highly emotional and take things to heart. It’s a complete spectrum of emotion and lack of that I struggle to understand some days. "

Think that what gets me when I'm the mixture of the two, it's hard to know what to feel in a way. And that in itself is overwhelming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im very in tune with my emotions and feelings and I have to admit I struggle sometimes with them and how intense they can get. And how I get affected by things that are out of my control.

Im not much of a crier tho I’ve learnt to let it go instead of bottle it all up until its too much. So I try to make myself cry when I feel like I need to…

Having said that I’ve always been told I’m very resilient and strong and will see out any situation sooner or later. So feel the emotions and ride them out x

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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago

Terra Firma

It is interesting to read most people see emotional as shedding a tear, feeling sad or being upset over something sad. The other side of the emotional coin is anger, you wont get many on here saying they have anger outbursts and loose their sh1t over the slightest of things, yet every day I see people losing it in their cars, in shops etc. People who can't manage their emotions and result to anger never seem to acknowledge they have a problem, it's always someone else to blame

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By *ob the builderMan
over a year ago

barnsley/rotherham/donny

As a rule no but I recently lost my mum and where my daughter is concerned I do get emotional quite easy

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I’m a Vulcan, I feel nowt!

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Internally, I’m pretty chaotic; I can go from happy to sad/angry, indifferent to incensed in the blink of an eye. Major problems can pass me by, but little things can trigger me massively.

Externally you won’t see much of it, other than I might seem moody/a miserable shit if it’s eating me so much that I can’t hide it.

It stems from a number of things, but the fundamental part is I’ve always been this way; highly critical of myself and situations/circumstances.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"Ooh, interesting.

I guess I've always worn my heart on my sleeve - I can't help it. My emotions always come through. And menopause has made it worse!

Though I will say, I'm starting to get better at controlling them (when they tend to be irrational) or talking them through if they're at risk of upsetting someone or triggering me.

I wish I'd been able to identify & explain the tsunami of emotions throughout my 20's & 30's. Might have saved a lot of angst! X"

I could have wrote this, so very relatable

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By *ussybagderMan
over a year ago

Salford

No emotion here

My friends calls me robot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not emotional after some bad stuff happened to me in my childhood

and I'm very passionate about injustice I hate it.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I can be emotional but it is rare anyone sees it, I tend to keep it to myself, process it and move on.

Occasionally I will reach out and share just because some things can be overwhelming and you need to talk them through.

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds

I bottle my emotions in case some see them as a weakness. I know it's not healthy but it my protective bubble.

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By *randmrsmanchesterCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I’m not emotional at all, it’s a running joke between us that I have no soul. Mrs x I show my affection and feelings in my own way haha

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Not as much as I once was, learnt to expect the worse so it doesn't affect me so much as before.

Still have my moments though where things seem like the end of the world.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

It's all random to be honest. I just tend to react based upon all different factors at the time.

I can sometimes be pretty calm, other times I can get over emotional at the smallest things that some may consider to be not worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a Vulcan, I feel nowt! "

really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm extremely emotional, I'm what you'd call an Empath. I've learnt over the years not to take on other people's emotions though.

I cried at my cat eating his biscuits the other day ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not very emotional, you could probably go as far as heartless.

Being the spectator of things (like watching movies, news etc) - doesn't turn me into a blubbering mess. I only seem to get emotional if it directly impacts me or immediate family.

I haven't got the energy to burden myself with other peoples emotions although I will always try help them navigate what they're going through with empathy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally stone cold, but certain things will get to me. Usually loss or suffering involving children.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

With everything I have gone through in the last two years, I try to keep my emotions hidden, I don't always succeed.

As Smokey Robinson said "Now if I appear to be carefree

It's only to camouflage my sadness"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm way too emotional

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Oh and I'm coming back to this as I forgot to add. I'm emotional in both good and bad ways. Happiness, excitement are emotions just the same as sad and angry.

We tend to think as emotions as being always a negative thing they are not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm way too emotional "

Or could flip it and say you're in touch with your emotions?

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Probably quite blunted at work, I listen to horrendous tales on a regular basis. I have to be able to emotionally regulate or I’d be a wreck. I’m pretty emotional at home though, my kids laugh at me when I cry at films and things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Just the right amount at just the right times. I like to think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm way too emotional

Or could flip it and say you're in touch with your emotions?

Or a person could have unresolved issues that they feel affected by other people’s behaviour and take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or a person could have unresolved issues that they feel affected by other people’s behaviour and take it personally.

I'm way too emotional

Or could flip it and say you're in touch with your emotions?

Oh MassageGuy I thought you'd turned your quotes around!

Reframing it puts a positive rather than a negative spin. But i don't know how sensual-desire feels about that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or a person could have unresolved issues that they feel affected by other people’s behaviour and take it personally.

I'm way too emotional

Or could flip it and say you're in touch with your emotions?

Oh MassageGuy I thought you'd turned your quotes around!

Reframing it puts a positive rather than a negative spin. But i don't know how sensual-desire feels about that?

Only you are reading this negatively because you’re choosing to. Am I right ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or a person could have unresolved issues that they feel affected by other people’s behaviour and take it personally.

I'm way too emotional

Or could flip it and say you're in touch with your emotions?

Oh MassageGuy I thought you'd turned your quotes around!

Reframing it puts a positive rather than a negative spin. But i don't know how sensual-desire feels about that?

Only you are reading this negatively because you’re choosing to. Am I right ?"

No, sorry, you're not.

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

I feel sad today. Just woke thinking of past lonely times. Didn’t have many friends. Weird how some things never leave you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im sure there's some Italian in me or something, I can range from bursting with passion, verve or even anger, to couldn't give a fig about anyone or anything and hide in my garage. If I can see the "bad" coming, I can usually cope, if it sneaks up on me, well it could go anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or a person could have unresolved issues that they feel affected by other people’s behaviour and take it personally.

I'm way too emotional

Or could flip it and say you're in touch with your emotions?

Oh MassageGuy I thought you'd turned your quotes around!

Reframing it puts a positive rather than a negative spin. But i don't know how sensual-desire feels about that?

Only you are reading this negatively because you’re choosing to. Am I right ?

No, sorry, you're not. "

You’ve lost me sorry. I don’t understand what you’re talking about/ I’d love to know what you meant initially in your reply to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My opinion and I’m prepared to change my opinion.

My opinion emotion and mental illness are not the same thing.

I believe mental illness and depression are real and under served by the NHS to provide help, due to government lack of care and spending.

I believe in the school of thought that we as individuals get upset or emotional because we choose to allow others to hurt us.

When we cut our finger we can cry out and shout or we can take an intake of breath and suck it up.

When are upset or emotional about someone saying something, it’s our choice to be upset by this. If we get upset, it’s because we have an underlying unresolved issue that will continue to exist and cause self pain until it’s explored and understood.

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By *wilightTeaseCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Let’s post it this way - anyone that doesn’t cry five minutes into watching the Pixar movie “up” is a psychotic monster. Turns out a few friends of ours are psychotic monsters, but we love them anyway. Haha

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Most of the time I'm not very emotional. Just don't put Warhorse on.

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

Inside I'm emotional I hurt bad by others, I get cross when irritated and when I fall I fall hard. Outside to others I'm tough ,all smiles but still make the mistake wearing my heart on my sleeve to be used And abused by the ones I fall in love with.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I get emotional at so many different things.

I get happy teary when I surprise C in different ways.

A song or a part of a song can stir emotions - a film too.

When my son randomly hugs me…or I’m talking about something passionately.

I can also not show emotion at times when I should, so maybe I’m just addressing the emotional balance

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

Not emotional at all ,have eupd and autism has made show no feelings at all ,..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Emotions and mental health are hand in hand. You don't choose to be hurt.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"My opinion and I’m prepared to change my opinion.

My opinion emotion and mental illness are not the same thing.

I believe mental illness and depression are real and under served by the NHS to provide help, due to government lack of care and spending.

I believe in the school of thought that we as individuals get upset or emotional because we choose to allow others to hurt us.

When we cut our finger we can cry out and shout or we can take an intake of breath and suck it up.

I agree with you to a point.

Life is full of ups and downs, good times and bad times. Emotionally intelligent and/or stable people will react accordingly.

But when the ability to see that things are not as bad as they may feel has gone, then you're headed into the mental illness realm.

In my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The definition are often blurred and I can see why it’s misunderstood. But you’re not correct.

"Emotions and mental health are hand in hand. You don't choose to be hurt. "

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Emotions and mental health are hand in hand. You don't choose to be hurt. "

I think an emotionally stable person can rationalise events etc. an allow themselves to not get hurt.

Whereas someone that easily gets hurt is more in the mental health realm.

For example I get quite a few angry messages about the content of my profile.

They do not affect me in any way. A random stranger has gotten themselves all wound up and written some drivel to me. Why should that affect me emotionally in any way?

But if I was the sort of person that was vulnerable to being hurt easily, say someone with untreated depression, then I would say the 'hurt' comes more from a mental health angle.

Just my opinions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please can you unpack what you meant below.

Life is full of ups and downs, good times and bad times. Emotionally intelligent and/or stable people will react accordingly.

In my opinion

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I suffer from something called Anhedonia which I won't try to explain here but it leaves me feeling almost permanently flat with no highs or lows. I don't get excited about anything in advance but I'm always very present and in the moment. It's the same with experiencing emotion.

I've lost quite a few family members over the years and always struggled with the fact that I didn't grieve as I thought I should. I don't like Christmas because of those losses but I don't feel emotional over it. I don't feel anything to be honest apart from flat.

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"My opinion and I’m prepared to change my opinion.

My opinion emotion and mental illness are not the same thing.

I believe mental illness and depression are real and under served by the NHS to provide help, due to government lack of care and spending.

I believe in the school of thought that we as individuals get upset or emotional because we choose to allow others to hurt us.

When we cut our finger we can cry out and shout or we can take an intake of breath and suck it up.

I agree with you to a point.

Life is full of ups and downs, good times and bad times. Emotionally intelligent and/or stable people will react accordingly.

But when the ability to see that things are not as bad as they may feel has gone, then you're headed into the mental illness realm.

In my opinion

But it can eventually affect when you are constantly being hurt , 2 long term relationships both have said they don't love me any fallen out of love I don't trust easily and I don't fall in love easy n when I let them in they have all given me reasons not to fall in love or trust any and I can say I've loved 3 men in my life time so it'd hard not to let others hurt you.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I will shed a tear at sad things - films etc. But for the main I am in tune with my emotions. It’s very rare that I show that much of my inner self that anyone would see it - maybe only my very close friends.

I compartmentalise when it comes to Fab meetings and I assess where it’s going. I think it’s important to be up front with expectations in FWBs too.

I only show emotion with those I know it’s safe to do so but when I do I DO! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not as in outward displays necessarily, but how deeply do random things affect you?

Do you show/articulate your emotions well?

How do you keep things in balance?

Do you know what triggers you and can you avoid those things or do you walk right in and accept the consequence?

I’m very emotional and proud

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

I see emotions like waves crashing on a shore. Some are small and meaningless, others are huge and significant.

The shore is my area, my beach so to speak.

I may not be able to control the waves as they come in, but I can and actively do modulate my response to them and how I allow them to affect me or others around me.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Following on from what I said above, majority of the time I try to keep emotions out of most things, or minimise them as well as I can.

Emotions can cloud judgement, they can get in the way of the right decision or path.

That's not to say the emotional choice is not the correct one, or that logic should win out all of the time.

Lots of people would be living very different and potentially unhappy lives if they followed their head instead of their heart, and vice versa. But letting emotion rule your decisions alone can lead to disaster and being focused is far more important.

You want somebody making a decision that cares, is invested but not consumed by it.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Too stoic for myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not emotional at all only on very rare occasions sayin this last time I cried was over my cat passing he was the sweetest and used to follow me around the house / curl up on me in the evenings he was super spoilt friends often saying more than there kids but I've decided not to get another pet again I was especially attached to him after finding him dumped in a box as a kitten

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" But it can eventually affect when you are constantly being hurt , 2 long term relationships both have said they don't love me any fallen out of love I don't trust easily and I don't fall in love easy n when I let them in they have all given me reasons not to fall in love or trust any and I can say I've loved 3 men in my life time so it'd hard not to let others hurt you. "

My point was that you’re choosing to be hurt. And that if there are unresolved pain, it should be worked on.

People are shits, and we can’t stop them leaving us. But when we change our behaviour and authenticity because of something we felt hurt by another person, it’s time to unpeel why we are feeling the way we are through seeking help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s perfect for you. If that works for you.

"Too stoic for myself."

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

"Most of the time I'm not very emotional. Just don't put Warhorse on. "

I can relate to the Warhorse element of your post.

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

My point was that you’re choosing to be hurt. And that if there are unresolved pain, it should be worked on.

Only way I see is change and just become hard not let anyone else in, that way yes I can't be hurt.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I’m to guarded to show my emotions.. there there but very well hidden…

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

On a scale from 1 to 10 I am 12.

I can't remember the last time I watched a movie without crying and that applies to animated movies too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be but I killed him

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm quite calm and collected and will generally mull things over before I decide what emotion it warrants. I have emotions but I don't let them rule me.

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over a year ago

"The definition are often blurred and I can see why it’s misunderstood. But you’re not correct.

Emotions and mental health are hand in hand. You don't choose to be hurt. "

Do you speak from personal experience.

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over a year ago

"Oh and I'm coming back to this as I forgot to add. I'm emotional in both good and bad ways. Happiness, excitement are emotions just the same as sad and angry.

We tend to think as emotions as being always a negative thing they are not

This!

My emotions are quite obvious. I don't hold anything in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm very emotional

Cry at sad films

Even cry at football at times when the atmosphere is electric and a last minute winner etc

I'm probably just a nervous. Wreck

It's funny that. I never cried at sad films,etc until my parents died. Now I cry a lot. I kinda like it, though, if that makes sense? "

love a good cry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The definition are often blurred and I can see why it’s misunderstood. But you’re not correct.

Emotions and mental health are hand in hand. You don't choose to be hurt.

Do you speak from personal experience. "

I do yes.

Did you see this posted earlier ?

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I’ll cry during sad films or if my children are hurting .

Other then that, I keep my emotions hidden. I know it isn’t healthy but it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The definition are often blurred and I can see why it’s misunderstood. But you’re not correct.

Emotions and mental health are hand in hand. You don't choose to be hurt.

Do you speak from personal experience.

I do yes.

Did you see this posted earlier ?

If you don't feel emotions how can you judge people on how they feel there's.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Very

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally keep mine in check but when they get too bad I become quite withdrawn. I know when it happens so I just get away and take myself somewhere quiet for a while.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"The definition are often blurred and I can see why it’s misunderstood. But you’re not correct.

Emotions and mental health are hand in hand. You don't choose to be hurt.

Do you speak from personal experience.

I do yes.

Did you see this posted earlier ?

If you don't feel emotions how can you judge people on how they feel there's. "

Are you asking me or someone else? That was my post quoted by another poster. I don't judge anyone and certainly haven't on this thread

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I’m a very emotional person, whatever I am feeling shows in my face, I mean I’ve just cried at Our Yorkshire Farm as one of the ponies had died and the kids were all saying goodbye to him (it’s the best programme on the telly) RIP Little Joe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The question was posed to me .

I added your post as she might not have seen it.

" Are you asking me or someone else? That was my post quoted by another poster. I don't judge anyone and certainly haven't on this thread"

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"The question was posed to me .

I added your post as she might not have seen it.

Are you asking me or someone else? That was my post quoted by another poster. I don't judge anyone and certainly haven't on this thread"

It might actually be easier if you replied under the quote rather than above it as it is confusing and it looks as though it was your post rather than one you were quoting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The definition are often blurred and I can see why it’s misunderstood. But you’re not correct.

Emotions and mental health are hand in hand. You don't choose to be hurt.

Do you speak from personal experience.

I do yes.

Did you see this posted earlier ?

If you don't feel emotions how can you judge people on how they feel there's.

Are you asking me or someone else? That was my post quoted by another poster. I don't judge anyone and certainly haven't on this thread"

Apologies, I presumed this was his post. He had no right to use that. Again I am extremely sorry.

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By *ekkatransTV/TS
over a year ago

Scarborough

I’m far more emotional since I’ve been on hormones but I’m finding it a nice experience and don’t see it in a negative way. I’m not a blabbing wreck though but sad things do effect me more than they used to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a very emotional person, but I have a huge barrier that comes up a lot of the time.

Nothing like a little bit of self preservation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally I'm fairly resilient and pragmatic.. i think I've learnt to control emotion and work through it logically - I do sometimes wonder if i have a heart of ice

I know my lack of outward excitement comes from my childhood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please don’t say I’m not allowed to use a post that was clearly labelled that it was a post already on the forum. If you made an error you apologise for yourself . And perhaps apologise to me for trying to deflect your error .

"The definition are often blurred and I can see why it’s misunderstood. But you’re not correct.

Emotions and mental health are hand in hand. You don't choose to be hurt.

Do you speak from personal experience.

I do yes.

Did you see this posted earlier ?

If you don't feel emotions how can you judge people on how they feel there's.

Are you asking me or someone else? That was my post quoted by another poster. I don't judge anyone and certainly haven't on this thread

Apologies, I presumed this was his post. He had no right to use that. Again I am extremely sorry."

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I'm very emotional, and I think that's a good thing. I wear my heart on my sleeve and I let people know how I feel. Because of that it's a case of what you see is what you get, genuine and nothing hidden. I would rather people have their emotions on show than them hide them and you not know what is really going on in their heart and mind.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Please don’t say I’m not allowed to use a post that was clearly labelled that it was a post already on the forum. If you made an error you apologise for yourself . And perhaps apologise to me for trying to deflect your error .

The definition are often blurred and I can see why it’s misunderstood. But you’re not correct.

Emotions and mental health are hand in hand. You don't choose to be hurt.

Do you speak from personal experience.

I do yes.

Did you see this posted earlier ?

If you don't feel emotions how can you judge people on how they feel there's.

Are you asking me or someone else? That was my post quoted by another poster. I don't judge anyone and certainly haven't on this thread

Apologies, I presumed this was his post. He had no right to use that. Again I am extremely sorry."

Please don't use my post incorrectly. If you have a point to make then make it without my comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spending time with me is like a day out at Alton Towers!

My highs are high but I feel sadness deeply, I’m sensitive and suffer terrible “drops” after nights out and play sessions.

I suffered badly with anxiety when I was younger so have learnt to both hide my feelings and somewhat manage the lows. It helps to have good people around me that know how to pick me up

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over a year ago

The definition are often blurred and I can see why it’s misunderstood. But you’re not correct.

Emotions and mental health are hand in hand. You don't choose to be hurt.

Do you speak from personal experience.

I do yes.

Did you see this posted earlier ?

If you don't feel emotions how can you judge people on how they feel there's.

Are you asking me or someone else? That was my post quoted by another poster. I don't judge anyone and certainly haven't on this thread

Apologies, I presumed this was his post. He had no right to use that. Again I am extremely sorry.

Please don't use my post incorrectly. If you have a point to make then make it without my comments. "

Clearly I’ve hurt your feelings. And for that based on the statement and personal experiences of your past and living experiences you currently face, I apologise.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The definition are often blurred and I can see why it’s misunderstood. But you’re not correct.

Emotions and mental health are hand in hand. You don't choose to be hurt.

Do you speak from personal experience.

I do yes.

Did you see this posted earlier ?

If you don't feel emotions how can you judge people on how they feel there's.

Are you asking me or someone else? That was my post quoted by another poster. I don't judge anyone and certainly haven't on this thread

Apologies, I presumed this was his post. He had no right to use that. Again I am extremely sorry.

Please don't use my post incorrectly. If you have a point to make then make it without my comments.

Clearly I’ve hurt your feelings. And for that based on the statement and personal experiences of your past and living experiences you currently face, I apologise.

You haven't hurry my feelings at all so there's no need to apologise. I just don't want my original post to be taken out of context and used in any disagreement you may have with someone else.

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over a year ago

The definition are often blurred and I can see why it’s misunderstood. But you’re not correct.

Emotions and mental health are hand in hand. You don't choose to be hurt.

Do you speak from personal experience.

I do yes.

Did you see this posted earlier ?

If you don't feel emotions how can you judge people on how they feel there's.

Are you asking me or someone else? That was my post quoted by another poster. I don't judge anyone and certainly haven't on this thread

Apologies, I presumed this was his post. He had no right to use that. Again I am extremely sorry.

Please don't use my post incorrectly. If you have a point to make then make it without my comments.

Clearly I’ve hurt your feelings. And for that based on the statement and personal experiences of your past and living experiences you currently face, I apologise.

You haven't hurry my feelings at all so there's no need to apologise. I just don't want my original post to be taken out of context and used in any disagreement you may have with someone else. "

Where precisely did you see a disagreement take place ? There was no disagreement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The question was posed to me .

I added your post as she might not have seen it.

Are you asking me or someone else? That was my post quoted by another poster. I don't judge anyone and certainly haven't on this thread

It might actually be easier if you replied under the quote rather than above it as it is confusing and it looks as though it was your post rather than one you were quoting"

I suggested this yesterday and explained how to do it. It makes reading the posts really tricky too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can suggest whatever you like. I chose to ignore you . You’re welcome .

"The question was posed to me .

I added your post as she might not have seen it.

Are you asking me or someone else? That was my post quoted by another poster. I don't judge anyone and certainly haven't on this thread

It might actually be easier if you replied under the quote rather than above it as it is confusing and it looks as though it was your post rather than one you were quoting

I suggested this yesterday and explained how to do it. It makes reading the posts really tricky too. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some emotions are beginning to run a wee bit high now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s only that little voice that speaks in your mind when you read the post.

"I think some emotions are beginning to run a wee bit high now "

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over a year ago

The definition are often blurred and I can see why it’s misunderstood. But you’re not correct.

Emotions and mental health are hand in hand. You don't choose to be hurt.

Do you speak from personal experience.

I do yes.

Did you see this posted earlier ?

If you don't feel emotions how can you judge people on how they feel there's.

Are you asking me or someone else? That was my post quoted by another poster. I don't judge anyone and certainly haven't on this thread

Apologies, I presumed this was his post. He had no right to use that. Again I am extremely sorry.

Please don't use my post incorrectly. If you have a point to make then make it without my comments.

Clearly I’ve hurt your feelings. And for that based on the statement and personal experiences of your past and living experiences you currently face, I apologise.

You haven't hurry my feelings at all so there's no need to apologise. I just don't want my original post to be taken out of context and used in any disagreement you may have with someone else.

Where precisely did you see a disagreement take place ? There was no disagreement. "

You have the disagreement with me.

You did not say that this was someone elses post. This discussion is over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can suggest whatever you like. I chose to ignore you . You’re welcome .

The question was posed to me .

I added your post as she might not have seen it.

Are you asking me or someone else? That was my post quoted by another poster. I don't judge anyone and certainly haven't on this thread

It might actually be easier if you replied under the quote rather than above it as it is confusing and it looks as though it was your post rather than one you were quoting

I suggested this yesterday and explained how to do it. It makes reading the posts really tricky too. "

Oh that's not what you said yesterday. I commented and you said you didn't know how. So I explained. You didn't say thank you. So you'd prefer to make it harder for anyone else on the forums to read your posts. Ok. Sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You were rather preachy in the style of a Karen.

And I don’t really know why you’re hijacking this group chat to make it about you?

"You can suggest whatever you like. I chose to ignore you . You’re welcome .

The question was posed to me .

I added your post as she might not have seen it.

Are you asking me or someone else? That was my post quoted by another poster. I don't judge anyone and certainly haven't on this thread

It might actually be easier if you replied under the quote rather than above it as it is confusing and it looks as though it was your post rather than one you were quoting

I suggested this yesterday and explained how to do it. It makes reading the posts really tricky too.

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By *e CaffMan
over a year ago

Poole

Since leaving the Forces, I have become so emotional.

I cry alot, I'm now able to talk about emotions.

I think I had to keep all the bad stuff to aside because of what I did, but upon reflection and with too many mates committing suicide, etc. It's questioned many things.

It's affected me. Sometimes being on here (Fabswingers) probably isn't the best place for me, but I'm not going to give up, I like you am entitled to a private life.

I don't have much these days, but I give more than I get.

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over a year ago

"Since leaving the Forces, I have become so emotional.

I cry alot, I'm now able to talk about emotions.

I think I had to keep all the bad stuff to aside because of what I did, but upon reflection and with too many mates committing suicide, etc. It's questioned many things.

It's affected me. Sometimes being on here (Fabswingers) probably isn't the best place for me, but I'm not going to give up, I like you am entitled to a private life.

I don't have much these days, but I give more than I get."

I hope you have good people around you

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