FabSwingers.com forum: What do you think of me?

By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve been requested to post this thread/ reflective exercise, as flawed as it might be!

Let’s bring a moment of self reflection, introspection and non reactive thought about others to the forums, as it can be helpful.

It might seem a strange idea but at it’s heart is the intent for us to be more rounded and understanding people.

Self reflection is an important tool in understanding what, why and how we act but so is how others honestly see us.

Post that you’re in on the thread, then respond to others via message with honest opinions about people. Not nasty, not sycophantic, honest appraisals of how you feel about them, this isn’t a chance to try to ‘get in’ with that hottie, this should be a self improvement exercise.

The intent is to honestly see how others view us, if you give criticism, then please be constructive with it. Remember to be kind folks. Let’s see how this goes...

Remember to respect filters, if you can’t directly message someone, then don’t post it on the thread, it’s meant to be private and personal.

Please also do send messages, passivity only lessens the interaction and those that often complain about not receiving messages, it also tends to be are the ones that didn’t send any.

Away you go folks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This could be really interesting OP. What we present about ourselves isn’t always what other people see.

We also have to remember that everyone we meet has a version of us in their heads already.

So for that reason I’m in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like these types of threads.. they're very thought-provoking.

im in

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'm in - my morning is a write off so might as well lean into that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people use it how you specified then great.

Curious so count me in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im in x come at me slutes x

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Let’s do it

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

I’ll do this. I’m always keen to understand how I come across and peoples perceptions

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"If people use it how you specified then great.

Curious so count me in

That’s always the key point; use as specified, NOT to attempt to curry favour or get into someone’s pants!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people use it how you specified then great.

Curious so count me in

That’s always the key point; use as specified, NOT to attempt to curry favour or get into someone’s pants! "

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

I would be interested to hear how others on here perceive me, that is if anyone has noticed me haha x

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

It's always good to hear how I come across,so I'm in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in for some self-reflection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such an interesting idea for a Fab thread. Well-done! I’m in. I haven’t been here long though, so absolutely wouldn’t take it personally if there’s no comment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t people just write it in the forums? I want to be evaluated but don’t want messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve chatted in the past in the forums and messaged, you’re genuinely one of the nice guys, full of good advice and always engaging.

Not afraid to open up and offer advice from your own experience. And not after I’d to tell it like it is. When I see your name attached to a thread I’ll always look to see what you’ve written.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Can’t people just write it in the forums? I want to be evaluated but don’t want messages.

No. People write very different things in the forums than from in private and some things written might not be for public consumption.

It’s intended to be a personal and private process. If you don’t want messages, then I’d recommend that you don’t take part maybe

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"We’ve chatted in the past in the forums and messaged, you’re genuinely one of the nice guys, full of good advice and always engaging.

Not afraid to open up and offer advice from your own experience. And not after I’d to tell it like it is. When I see your name attached to a thread I’ll always look to see what you’ve written. "

In private Tom!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’ve chatted in the past in the forums and messaged, you’re genuinely one of the nice guys, full of good advice and always engaging.

That’s for you _ea monkey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah sign me up

Although I guess I’m quite hidden :-/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will give this a good go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure, I'm in. I'd love to know how I come across to other people as it's definitely something I think about in my posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can’t people just write it in the forums? I want to be evaluated but don’t want messages.

Annie I think you are a very positive person and start some great threads, also very sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i’m in - this should be interesting

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

In tell me tell me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can’t people just write it in the forums? I want to be evaluated but don’t want messages.

No. People write very different things in the forums than from in private and some things written might not be for public consumption.

It’s intended to be a personal and private process. If you don’t want messages, then I’d recommend that you don’t take part maybe"

But by sending messages you’re opening a portal for future communication which people may not want but feel obliged to chat. A forum post is just that, read and it’s done. I’ll do my own forum based one.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I would be interested in finding out what people think of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also assumed this would be a forum based thing.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"We’ve chatted in the past in the forums and messaged, you’re genuinely one of the nice guys, full of good advice and always engaging.

Not afraid to open up and offer advice from your own experience. And not after I’d to tell it like it is. When I see your name attached to a thread I’ll always look to see what you’ve written.

In private Tom! "

People can post where they want

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Can’t people just write it in the forums? I want to be evaluated but don’t want messages.

No. People write very different things in the forums than from in private and some things written might not be for public consumption.

It’s intended to be a personal and private process. If you don’t want messages, then I’d recommend that you don’t take part maybe

I love you

Annie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go on then. But I have a fair idea what will be said.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Go on then. But I have a fair idea what will be said."

I think your lovely xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go on then. But I have a fair idea what will be said."

Love the green. Hope you’re feeling better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’ve chatted in the past in the forums and messaged, you’re genuinely one of the nice guys, full of good advice and always engaging.

I know this is against the spirit of the thread but I agree entirely about Tea

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm in but would rather messages sent privately. I've done this thread previously and had some real honest feedback from some, some of which wasn't the most positive. Which I am sure they would not have posted on the forum, as it may have broken the rules of fab.

Thanks Tea for doing this thread again

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"We’ve chatted in the past in the forums and messaged, you’re genuinely one of the nice guys, full of good advice and always engaging.

Not afraid to open up and offer advice from your own experience. And not after I’d to tell it like it is. When I see your name attached to a thread I’ll always look to see what you’ve written.

In private Tom!

People can post where they want"

You’re missing the whole point Yasmeen. It’s meant to personal and constructive feedback.

I’m not sure that you’d appreciate someone posting negative things about you in the forums. Also some aspects may break forum rules. Hence why I stipulated via PM.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I'm in but would rather messages sent privately. I've done this thread previously and had some real honest feedback from some, some of which wasn't the most positive. Which I am sure they would not have posted on the forum, as it may have broken the rules of fab.

Thanks Tea for doing this thread again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This will be good actually! Feeling a bit lost on here recently

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Always in for this. I welcome the good and the bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a huge forum poster, so be interesting to see if i get any feedback... And if it aligns with my view of me

I'm glad that you put feedback should be non-sexual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’ve chatted in the past in the forums and messaged, you’re genuinely one of the nice guys, full of good advice and always engaging.

Not afraid to open up and offer advice from your own experience. And not after I’d to tell it like it is. When I see your name attached to a thread I’ll always look to see what you’ve written.

In private Tom! "

Oooops

Well you’ve read it now

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"We’ve chatted in the past in the forums and messaged, you’re genuinely one of the nice guys, full of good advice and always engaging.

Not afraid to open up and offer advice from your own experience. And not after I’d to tell it like it is. When I see your name attached to a thread I’ll always look to see what you’ve written.

In private Tom!

People can post where they want

You’re missing the whole point Yasmeen. It’s meant to personal and constructive feedback.

I’m not sure that you’d appreciate someone posting negative things about you in the forums. Also some aspects may break forum rules. Hence why I stipulated via PM. "

Oh sorry just read it again if some one posts some thing negative about me

Wouldn't bother me

Because it would not be true

People get arsey over opinions from

Stranger's now if someone I care about said it that's different

But I'm sorry I

Misunderstood you

Op x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’ve chatted in the past in the forums and messaged, you’re genuinely one of the nice guys, full of good advice and always engaging.

Not afraid to open up and offer advice from your own experience. And not after I’d to tell it like it is. When I see your name attached to a thread I’ll always look to see what you’ve written.

In private Tom!

People can post where they want

You’re missing the whole point Yasmeen. It’s meant to personal and constructive feedback.

I’m not sure that you’d appreciate someone posting negative things about you in the forums. Also some aspects may break forum rules. Hence why I stipulated via PM.

Oh sorry just read it again if some one posts some thing negative about me

Wouldn't bother me

Because it would not be true

People get arsey over opinions from

Stranger's now if someone I care about said it that's different

But I'm sorry I

Misunderstood you

Op x"

Me too Tea I’ve seen my error and now adjusted lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy to share a thought or three in a comfort of an inbox

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Be more interesting to post here x

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"Be more interesting to post here x"

Naughty Yasmeen. Follow the rules!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Be more interesting to post here x

Naughty Yasmeen. Follow the rules!

I am xxx

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

"Be more interesting to post here x"

Agreed

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Be more interesting to post here x"

There’s the other thread to jump into if that’s what you want

For those that don’t want personal stuff splashed all over the forums, this is the thread

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I'm in.... Go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for my messages so far

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm in for some private feedback... I may be a bit slow at replying and sending mine though, sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go on then. I'm in on the other one but will also join in here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m in please, although I’m popping out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out now, but thank you for my messages.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Bring it on, do your worst

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By *iscreteguy1287Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm in x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it. Might be interesting, but since I removed most of my profile a few days ago there's nothing to see for anyone that hasn't chatted to me

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Thank you for my messages

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Surely only people who know you can give you a honest 'evaluation'??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Surely only people who know you can give you a honest 'evaluation'??"

I can give an honest opinion on the impression someone has made on me via their forum presence. Well that is what I message others about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Count me in

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

In and be honest pleaseeee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK, im in x

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

In too

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By *D of funCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

I'm in x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Count me in x

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I’d like to be in please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In.... I'll unhide my profile.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Do your worst

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Go on then. I can take it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will endeavour to send some messages

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I'm in!

Sweety x

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

I'd be interested, for a few ressons. Well. Intrigued.

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By *arkcrystalMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Ok I'll bite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in. for better or worse...

Heading out for a bit, so hopefully come back to one or two pearls of wisdom. I'll send some later

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By *eardybobMan
over a year ago

the Goldilocks Zone

Gutted to have missed this one OP!

I'm in if there is anyone still around...

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Gutted to have missed this one OP!

I'm in if there is anyone still around... "

A bob

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By *eardybobMan
over a year ago

the Goldilocks Zone

"Gutted to have missed this one OP!

I'm in if there is anyone still around...

A bob"

- just us then Yas?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Gutted to have missed this one OP!

I'm in if there is anyone still around...

A bob

- just us then Yas? "

Your great x

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By *eardybobMan
over a year ago

the Goldilocks Zone

"Gutted to have missed this one OP!

I'm in if there is anyone still around...

A bob

- just us then Yas?

Your great x"

Cheers Yas - I just PM'd you... y'know... being a stickler for the rules and all

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Gutted to have missed this one OP!

I'm in if there is anyone still around...

A bob

- just us then Yas?

Your great x

Cheers Yas - I just PM'd you... y'know... being a stickler for the rules and all

Thankyou xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t get any messages, although to be fair, I hadn’t sent any yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fascinating. I'm in.

Curious as to how this works.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I didn’t get any messages, although to be fair, I hadn’t sent any yet "

None here either. I did send a couple.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I got 7 xxx all beautiful x

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I really appreciated the conversation I had as a result of this. Thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I received some, they were interesting.. I sent some.. No blockings were invoked

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

In in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am in..

True intentions set free are real and unique to us all. Firstly be honest true and real with yourself. And your lot. Then maybe others will see,view the real us in our full glory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wanders into the quiet corner and takes a seat by the log fire...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you to all who took the time to feedback to me, found it all very insightful and yes I had some lovely comments off people I have deep respect for so that meant a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like so feedback. If it’s still running. I’m in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not bothered what strangers think of me....cant be worse then what I think about myself

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Thank you for the thread Tea! I've had lots of lovely messages, some rightfully but respectfully pointing out little erm... quirks of mine and reminding me to be more mindful of them (they didn't suggest that, I've taken it on!). It's a nice little exercise and like any there could be flaws but I enjoy it nonetheless.

I particularly enjoyed one very open conversation with a forum user.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"Not bothered what strangers think of me....cant be worse then what I think about myself "

Don't be like that.

I mean, not caring is fine. But don't think badly of yourself. That makes me sad. X

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"I didn’t get any messages, although to be fair, I hadn’t sent any yet "
snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm in for some self-reflection. "

Your thread that closed yesterday was

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Sent a few more this morning. Thanks for my messages, it has been nice to chat with a few people I've never spoken to before. And also lovely to realise that some see more of me than I thought I showed. Thank you all for the lovely and constructive feedback on my forum presence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine were really kind and one quiet observant. Thanks. I really would like to send few more today as didn't get a chance yesterday !

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I would like so feedback. If it’s still running. I’m in"

The thing about this thread is that there’s not really a time limit on it.

Just message people that you want to, filters permitting of course

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