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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know that I am not the best looking guy and there are like 5 males for 1 female here, but it feels bad when you dont get ignored constantly.

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham

Just life on fab if your messaging our lovely fab ladies remember they get loads of messages so unless you catch there eye you prob won’t get a answer

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

It's more like 80 to 1, but that's fab for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say my confidence has been boosted substantially by the good people of fab

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

Mate you've been on here 2 weeks. You need patience. And personally I reckon it's closer to 20+ single men to single women at least. If not a lot more. This isn't instashag.

For example, just last night between say 6pm and midnight I must have got 50+ messages when I turned my message filters off. Most ladies on here are overwhelmed.

Just make sure you read profiles fully. Make sure you fit their preferences. Tailor your messages accordingly and no copy and paste jobs (we can spot them a mile away). No simple one liners. Have a well thought out and composed profile with some good pics.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5-1?...I'll take those odds..

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"but it feels bad when you dont get ignored constantly. "

You want to be ignored?

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London


"5-1?...I'll take those odds.. "

Yep... add a zero to the 5 and it would be closer to the actual ratio.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

A town near you perhaps

Fab is meant to be fun. If it's making you feel bad then maybe you need to change your whole attitude on how you look at this site, or question whether it's the right place for you.

Try just being chilled out about it all, enjoy the forums, interact in the threads and go from there. Maybe lower your expectations of the site.

I always wonder what people expected to instantly happen when they signed up to the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I mean I wasnt expecting laid million times in 2 weeks, two weeks. But again, I did not know I was not the type of so many women

Anyway. Thanks for suggestions. Bests.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I mean I wasnt expecting laid million times in 2 weeks, two weeks. But again, I did not know I was not the type of so many women

Anyway. Thanks for suggestions. Bests. "

Your post says you want to be ignored, what is the problem then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Head to a club...and just use fab to stay in touch with those you meet there and enjoy the forum threads n stuff.

Clubs by the way gave me loads of confidence...much easier for your personality to shine through in person than on here.

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London


"I mean I wasnt expecting laid million times in 2 weeks, two weeks. But again, I did not know I was not the type of so many women

Anyway. Thanks for suggestions. Bests. "

Well we can't be the type for everyone. That's just life eh?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry. I changed that part writing, so mistake happened. “When you get ignored…”

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London


"Head to a club...and just use fab to stay in touch with those you meet there and enjoy the forum threads n stuff.

Clubs by the way gave me loads of confidence...much easier for your personality to shine through in person than on here."

This is good advice. Clubs were where I made the best connections! That and socials.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"I mean I wasnt expecting laid million times in 2 weeks, two weeks. But again, I did not know I was not the type of so many women

Anyway. Thanks for suggestions. Bests. "

What were you expecting, out of interest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is what it is OP, don’t let it get you down. Enjoy your experience on here and don’t get disheartened, you will get someone chat to you and then embrace it. Good luck mate,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know that I am not the best looking guy and there are like 5 males for 1 female here, but it feels bad when you dont get ignored constantly.

"

You've been here 2 weeks so still seen as a newbie give it time make yourself known people don't necessarily go for looks but personality talk in the forums make appearances at socials get yourself know and you'll be alright

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”"

Give us an example of your opening message to someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean I wasnt expecting laid million times in 2 weeks, two weeks. But again, I did not know I was not the type of so many women

Anyway. Thanks for suggestions. Bests.

Your post says you want to be ignored, what is the problem then?"

Its obvious what he meant to say

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you my dude. Probably that is what I will I do. There are really great people here…

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

If you have low confidence or self esteem, fab is probability not a good place because people here will knock you down, stab you in the back at every turn. The sharks patrol these waters and if your not carful will find youself part of a feeding frenzy.

The key is to understand this, try not let them grind you down.

So the best advice is protect yourself, get thick skinned. (Full body armour is preferable)

Then you will enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a single man on here and I met my wife on here

I have recently started a single profile and I haven't received 1 message not from someone I've spoke to previously, so don't stress the small stuff and let people see the real you and you'll get somewhere

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London


"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”"

If I can be totally frank. If you just want an NSA shag, it's easier to get that on tinder. I could get it any time on there if that's all I wanted. For me personally (not speaking for others of course), I'm on here because in this scene the people I'm attracted to know and understand the scene and how it works. Yes it's NSA fun, but I have a small handful of people I've had that fun with in the past that I'm still friends with them 10 years later (I dip in and out). So I want more than just a one night stand, I want an actual connection with someone. But I have no interest in having a relationship. If that makes sense.

It sounds to me that you just need to work out what you actually want and manage your expectations and desires from that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op - have you asked for profile advice?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”

Give us an example of your opening message to someone"

Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile.

I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op - have you asked for profile advice?"

Not yet. Should I?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”

If I can be totally frank. If you just want an NSA shag, it's easier to get that on tinder. I could get it any time on there if that's all I wanted. For me personally (not speaking for others of course), I'm on here because in this scene the people I'm attracted to know and understand the scene and how it works. Yes it's NSA fun, but I have a small handful of people I've had that fun with in the past that I'm still friends with them 10 years later (I dip in and out). So I want more than just a one night stand, I want an actual connection with someone. But I have no interest in having a relationship. If that makes sense.

It sounds to me that you just need to work out what you actually want and manage your expectations and desires from that."

Actually thats why I am here. To connect with some people, even make some friends. Doesnt have to be a sexual relation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op - have you asked for profile advice?

Not yet. Should I?"

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op - have you asked for profile advice?

Not yet. Should I?"

We can’t give you advice if you don’t ask for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, just be yourself and true with the peeps you connect with. Is only a matter of time, before you find a connection with someone who takes a liking to your profile and interests. Key is not to build up too much expectations in terms of wants...

Wary of the flakes and time-wasters...

Enjoy and be patient.

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London


"Op - have you asked for profile advice?

Not yet. Should I?"

I don't see anything particularly wrong with your profile wording tbh. You've made some effort which is good. I think some better pics will really help. Have a look at the pics from a couple of the guys on here that have commented for some ideas.

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I’d say my confidence has been boosted substantially by the good people of fab "

I have to agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”

Give us an example of your opening message to someone

Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile.

I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D"

I get what you’re trying to do but that wouldn’t work for us. Also we’re a couple so calling us gurl would be an instant no. Our best advice is read the profile, reference something in the profile to show you’ve read it and say a little bit about yourself that isn’t already on your profile. Make yourself stand out from all the other single men that message and you’re more likely to get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Head to a club...and just use fab to stay in touch with those you meet there and enjoy the forum threads n stuff.

Clubs by the way gave me loads of confidence...much easier for your personality to shine through in person than on here."

Most deff 2nd that. Can not beat face to face many are way better in the flesh tbh..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”

Give us an example of your opening message to someone

Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile.

I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D

I get what you’re trying to do but that wouldn’t work for us. Also we’re a couple so calling us gurl would be an instant no. Our best advice is read the profile, reference something in the profile to show you’ve read it and say a little bit about yourself that isn’t already on your profile. Make yourself stand out from all the other single men that message and you’re more likely to get a reply."

I see. Thanks for suggestions.

This feels really good btw feel to connect with someone. Thank you very much to you and all. Love you.

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By *ave1963BarnsleyMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

obser
"I know that I am not the best looking guy and there are like 5 males for 1 female here, but it feels bad when you dont get ignored constantly.

"

You're younger and much better looking than me mate and I'm doing ok. But you have to work at it and be patient.

If you give up you get nothing anyway so you might as well stick at it.

Also, visit a social or a club. I'm sitting in my hotel room but will shortly be visiting Jay-Dees for the first time.

Do the same for yourself but go with no other expectations than to socialize and get to know like minded people.

If you conduct yourself properly and respect those around you they'll respond as they get to know you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”

Give us an example of your opening message to someone

Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile.

I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D"
Sorry ? This makes no sense whatsoever !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I throw something out there which may also make a difference....

No word of a lie your profile photo actually scares me

Must be better alternatives you can do without showing your full face too

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"I know that I am not the best looking guy and there are like 5 males for 1 female here, but it feels bad when you dont get ignored constantly.

"

You've been on here 2 weeks.

Try to control your want for immediate satisfaction, it's a big turn off.

Sorry, don't think it's your confidence getting dented, it could be your ego.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”

Give us an example of your opening message to someone

Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile.

I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :DSorry ? This makes no sense whatsoever !"

Electrifying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It only takes one message from someone you totally fancy and your confidence is up, OP. There is someone who has posted on here that I thought I wouldn’t hear from and I did, total game changer, give it time and be yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd give it a lot more time, OP. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I throw something out there which may also make a difference....

No word of a lie your profile photo actually scares me

Must be better alternatives you can do without showing your full face too "

This is what I where I was heading.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know that I am not the best looking guy and there are like 5 males for 1 female here, but it feels bad when you dont get ignored constantly.

You've been on here 2 weeks.

Try to control your want for immediate satisfaction, it's a big turn off.

Sorry, don't think it's your confidence getting dented, it could be your ego. "

Well, it could be really my ego. But I really dont think so. Because I dont have any problem with rejections. I have rejected and been rejected a lot before. I guess getting ignored what makes me feel down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I throw something out there which may also make a difference....

No word of a lie your profile photo actually scares me

Must be better alternatives you can do without showing your full face too

This is what I where I was heading."

Not just me then ha ha

Literally screams scary horror movie masks at me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can I throw something out there which may also make a difference....

No word of a lie your profile photo actually scares me

Must be better alternatives you can do without showing your full face too

This is what I where I was heading.

Not just me then ha ha

Literally screams scary horror movie masks at me "

Sorry to scare you all :/ Gonna change it. Thanks.

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire


"

Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile.

I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D

Sorry ? This makes no sense whatsoever !"

I'm glad it's not just me. That's how people kill themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile.

I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D

Sorry ? This makes no sense whatsoever !

I'm glad it's not just me. That's how people kill themselves "

People gotta learn toasters prefer showers not baths

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile.

I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D

Sorry ? This makes no sense whatsoever !

I'm glad it's not just me. That's how people kill themselves "

Probably how I am gonna kill myself too

Just kidding. I have a cat so she would be devastated without me. Just kidding. She probably wouldnt care. But still love her too much. Too much to not to kill myself

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”

If I can be totally frank. If you just want an NSA shag, it's easier to get that on tinder. I could get it any time on there if that's all I wanted. For me personally (not speaking for others of course), I'm on here because in this scene the people I'm attracted to know and understand the scene and how it works. Yes it's NSA fun, but I have a small handful of people I've had that fun with in the past that I'm still friends with them 10 years later (I dip in and out). So I want more than just a one night stand, I want an actual connection with someone. But I have no interest in having a relationship. If that makes sense.

It sounds to me that you just need to work out what you actually want and manage your expectations and desires from that."

I disagree, it's much harder in my experience to get a conversation going on tinder than here

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London


"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”

If I can be totally frank. If you just want an NSA shag, it's easier to get that on tinder. I could get it any time on there if that's all I wanted. For me personally (not speaking for others of course), I'm on here because in this scene the people I'm attracted to know and understand the scene and how it works. Yes it's NSA fun, but I have a small handful of people I've had that fun with in the past that I'm still friends with them 10 years later (I dip in and out). So I want more than just a one night stand, I want an actual connection with someone. But I have no interest in having a relationship. If that makes sense.

It sounds to me that you just need to work out what you actually want and manage your expectations and desires from that.

I disagree, it's much harder in my experience to get a conversation going on tinder than here"

On tinder who needs conversation?

To be honest, I am of course speaking from the woman's perspective. I've had more fun in here though.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

o/p Don't worry about it mate. Just see fab as a social club and join in with forum/cam chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile.

I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D

Sorry ? This makes no sense whatsoever !

I'm glad it's not just me. That's how people kill themselves

People gotta learn toasters prefer showers not baths "

Not every toasters are the same, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d say my confidence has been boosted substantially by the good people of fab

I have to agree! "

Me to a lot of lovely lady’s and come to that gents as well chat to few lady’s some have helped me immensely some gents to for that matter.

Stick with it !

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”

If I can be totally frank. If you just want an NSA shag, it's easier to get that on tinder. I could get it any time on there if that's all I wanted. For me personally (not speaking for others of course), I'm on here because in this scene the people I'm attracted to know and understand the scene and how it works. Yes it's NSA fun, but I have a small handful of people I've had that fun with in the past that I'm still friends with them 10 years later (I dip in and out). So I want more than just a one night stand, I want an actual connection with someone. But I have no interest in having a relationship. If that makes sense.

It sounds to me that you just need to work out what you actually want and manage your expectations and desires from that.

I disagree, it's much harder in my experience to get a conversation going on tinder than here

On tinder who needs conversation?

To be honest, I am of course speaking from the woman's perspective. I've had more fun in here though."

I find Tinder Mission Impossible for any kind of interaction

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"I’d say my confidence has been boosted substantially by the good people of fab "

Mine too.

I had really low confidence before.

After posting some photos for the forums challenges, and getting loads of comments, it really boosted me.

Not getting meets didn't knock my confidence, as I wasn't getting them off fab either.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”

If I can be totally frank. If you just want an NSA shag, it's easier to get that on tinder. I could get it any time on there if that's all I wanted. For me personally (not speaking for others of course), I'm on here because in this scene the people I'm attracted to know and understand the scene and how it works. Yes it's NSA fun, but I have a small handful of people I've had that fun with in the past that I'm still friends with them 10 years later (I dip in and out). So I want more than just a one night stand, I want an actual connection with someone. But I have no interest in having a relationship. If that makes sense.

It sounds to me that you just need to work out what you actually want and manage your expectations and desires from that.

I disagree, it's much harder in my experience to get a conversation going on tinder than here

On tinder who needs conversation?

To be honest, I am of course speaking from the woman's perspective. I've had more fun in here though.

I find Tinder Mission Impossible for any kind of interaction"

I find Tinder impossible for anything tbh. This place is much easier to get chatting and arrange socials / meets.

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London


"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”

If I can be totally frank. If you just want an NSA shag, it's easier to get that on tinder. I could get it any time on there if that's all I wanted. For me personally (not speaking for others of course), I'm on here because in this scene the people I'm attracted to know and understand the scene and how it works. Yes it's NSA fun, but I have a small handful of people I've had that fun with in the past that I'm still friends with them 10 years later (I dip in and out). So I want more than just a one night stand, I want an actual connection with someone. But I have no interest in having a relationship. If that makes sense.

It sounds to me that you just need to work out what you actually want and manage your expectations and desires from that.

I disagree, it's much harder in my experience to get a conversation going on tinder than here

On tinder who needs conversation?

To be honest, I am of course speaking from the woman's perspective. I've had more fun in here though.

I find Tinder Mission Impossible for any kind of interaction

I find Tinder impossible for anything tbh. This place is much easier to get chatting and arrange socials / meets. "

That's fair enough. It is different for men and women on all these various sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t be disheartened after 2 weeks, get out to a club and enjoy seeing people face to face

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site. "

This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Expect nothing and anything more is a brucie.

Have fun fella.. leave the serious stuff for the real world.

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London


"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.

This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion. "

You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I don't think that men especially, or anyone, should use fab if their confidence is at risk here. Take breaks, ensure you get sex elsewhere and keep fab light for you.

OP, it's good that you have recognised this as an issue for you. Take care and look out for friends you could have here too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What fab is to me. Not been to a club since 2019. When you do it's the one thing most peeps ask about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s probably way more than 5 guys per woman on here. Having a cartoon filter won’t help either.

On here as a guy you’re either gonna attract someone from your forum presence where someone gets a feel of your personality better OR for the purpose of sending first messages to women you’re attracted to, they’re gonna have to find you attractive straight odd the bat.

It’s superficial as fuck on here. You need to get some good pictures of yourself to either have on your profile or attach with your message. But the most important thing to remember is that this place is not a reflection of real life. In the real world people get a sense of your personality and everything else. Just don’t get too disheartened.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I cannot answer all of the post under this topic but I have read all of them and thank you very much all of you people. Some of you really put a smile on my face.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.

This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion.

You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes "

Oh, I've thought about it a lot, and I have my opinions on the matter. I just think there should be more discourse about it.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've been here nearly 5 years and while I can see how it could affect your confidence it hasn't had that effect on me luckily.

I had virtually no self confidence for years but discovered things about myself 6 or 7 years ago so by the time I joined here I was ok with myself.

Fab has added to that rather than detracted so I guess I'm one of the lucky ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.

This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion.

You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes

Oh, I've thought about it a lot, and I have my opinions on the matter. I just think there should be more discourse about it. "

Do you mean the code? Because "where are all the females" doesn't need any discourse

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.

This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion.

You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes

Oh, I've thought about it a lot, and I have my opinions on the matter. I just think there should be more discourse about it.

Do you mean the code? Because "where are all the females" doesn't need any discourse "

I did indeed mean "Where are all the women?" Although, if you do know the code, I would be grateful for that too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.

This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion.

You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes

Oh, I've thought about it a lot, and I have my opinions on the matter. I just think there should be more discourse about it.

Do you mean the code? Because "where are all the females" doesn't need any discourse

I did indeed mean "Where are all the women?" Although, if you do know the code, I would be grateful for that too! "

Genuinely don't understand the question? Women are on this thread, on the forum, on the site.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w

Surprised people say this is easier than tinder

I get more meets off tinder in a month that I do in multiple years on here

What are you lot doing differently

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

I think it's something like 100 guys to every female /couple so I really wouldn't take it personally

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Fab is the last place you should be if you have no confidence!

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.

This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion.

You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes

Oh, I've thought about it a lot, and I have my opinions on the matter. I just think there should be more discourse about it.

Do you mean the code? Because "where are all the females" doesn't need any discourse

I did indeed mean "Where are all the women?" Although, if you do know the code, I would be grateful for that too!

Genuinely don't understand the question? Women are on this thread, on the forum, on the site. "

In the human population, the gender split is roughly fifty-fifty. On Fab, the gender split is very heavily tilted towards men. Why? Where are all the women?

I know why *I* think it is. I would be interested to hear other people discussing their conclusions too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cannot answer all of the post under this topic but I have read all of them and thank you very much all of you people. Some of you really put a smile on my face.

"

That’s good to hear you are smiling

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.

This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion.

You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes

Oh, I've thought about it a lot, and I have my opinions on the matter. I just think there should be more discourse about it.

Do you mean the code? Because "where are all the females" doesn't need any discourse

I did indeed mean "Where are all the women?" Although, if you do know the code, I would be grateful for that too!

Genuinely don't understand the question? Women are on this thread, on the forum, on the site.

In the human population, the gender split is roughly fifty-fifty. On Fab, the gender split is very heavily tilted towards men. Why? Where are all the women?

I know why *I* think it is. I would be interested to hear other people discussing their conclusions too. "

Women don’t need fabs to get sex

Just exist in a pub and they have their pick of the litter. Just swipe on tinder and 90% are matches

Fabs is niche

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Surprised people say this is easier than tinder

I get more meets off tinder in a month that I do in multiple years on here

What are you lot doing differently "

I'm surprised that other people say Tinder is easier than this.

I was on Tinder from 2015 to 2021 and didn't get a single meet. I didn't get a single *match* after 2018.

What are *you* lot doing differently?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is the last place you should be if you have no confidence!"

And this ! I’m thinking of getting off this I’m to old and to mad to be on hear I have no confidence in myself or others it is what it is and I am who I am do not seek anything of anyone else neither will I do in future !

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"Surprised people say this is easier than tinder

I get more meets off tinder in a month that I do in multiple years on here

What are you lot doing differently

I'm surprised that other people say Tinder is easier than this.

I was on Tinder from 2015 to 2021 and didn't get a single meet. I didn't get a single *match* after 2018.

What are *you* lot doing differently? "

I do nothing different than what I do on here. Send a funny message, get them laughing, ask them out

Just that on here 99% of the funny first messages don’t get opened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know that I am not the best looking guy and there are like 5 males for 1 female here, but it feels bad when you dont get ignored constantly.

"

I think your numbers are really optimistic talking about a ratio of 5-1.

Once you take out the fantasists and fake females and fake couples it is more like 200-1.

I also think you have to consider fab as just one tool in your arsenal for meet ladies.

There are other sites were the balance is more even, there are clubs, hey you could do it the old fashioned way and ask a lady you know if she would like to go out on a date.

If fab is your main outlet for meeting women then I think you have picked the toughest of places to progress.

I tend to use this place very casually as its nice if you meet someone you click with, but most of the time it is just a place to chat in the forums.

Chin up and don't take this place too seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know that I am not the best looking guy and there are like 5 males for 1 female here, but it feels bad when you dont get ignored constantly.

"

Dude that cartoon picture is haunting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignored isn't too bad, it's the ugly nasty ones that get noticed most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate you've been on here 2 weeks. You need patience. And personally I reckon it's closer to 20+ single men to single women at least. If not a lot more. This isn't instashag.

For example, just last night between say 6pm and midnight I must have got 50+ messages when I turned my message filters off. Most ladies on here are overwhelmed.

Just make sure you read profiles fully. Make sure you fit their preferences. Tailor your messages accordingly and no copy and paste jobs (we can spot them a mile away). No simple one liners. Have a well thought out and composed profile with some good pics.

Good luck."

47 were probably just from me,sorry

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Surprised people say this is easier than tinder

I get more meets off tinder in a month that I do in multiple years on here

What are you lot doing differently

I'm surprised that other people say Tinder is easier than this.

I was on Tinder from 2015 to 2021 and didn't get a single meet. I didn't get a single *match* after 2018.

What are *you* lot doing differently?

I do nothing different than what I do on here. Send a funny message, get them laughing, ask them out

Just that on here 99% of the funny first messages don’t get opened "

On Tinder, you have to get the matches before you can send a message. Since I wasn't, the quality of the messages I couldn't send became irrelevant.

On here, sure, a lot of my messages never get looked at, but a 0.01% chance is still a lot better than a 0.00% chance.

A couple of weekends ago, I made the time to send a whole five messages. The most I've ever sent in one go! I'm astonished to report that four of them were actually read. Nobody responded, which is their prerogative, but people actually saw what I wrote! On here, that feels like a triumph.

(Needless to say, though, the one unread message was to the person I was most interested in. Hah.)

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"Surprised people say this is easier than tinder

I get more meets off tinder in a month that I do in multiple years on here

What are you lot doing differently

I'm surprised that other people say Tinder is easier than this.

I was on Tinder from 2015 to 2021 and didn't get a single meet. I didn't get a single *match* after 2018.

What are *you* lot doing differently?

I do nothing different than what I do on here. Send a funny message, get them laughing, ask them out

Just that on here 99% of the funny first messages don’t get opened

On Tinder, you have to get the matches before you can send a message. Since I wasn't, the quality of the messages I couldn't send became irrelevant.

On here, sure, a lot of my messages never get looked at, but a 0.01% chance is still a lot better than a 0.00% chance.

A couple of weekends ago, I made the time to send a whole five messages. The most I've ever sent in one go! I'm astonished to report that four of them were actually read. Nobody responded, which is their prerogative, but people actually saw what I wrote! On here, that feels like a triumph.

(Needless to say, though, the one unread message was to the person I was most interested in. Hah.)"

Zero matches? Aren’t you quite tall too?

I’d say tinder is all about the quality of your pictures. I’d say with some good picture and a funny bio with your height in it you’d clean up no problem. I’m short and I do well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.

This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion.

You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes

Oh, I've thought about it a lot, and I have my opinions on the matter. I just think there should be more discourse about it. "

Check my newest thread for some theories on this.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Two weeks is nowhere near enough time to expect any results here.

That being said you might want to tweak your profile to make it more appealing. More pictures and a better write up would help.

I imagine phrases such as 'An intelligence person turn me on more than an idiot babe' don't exactly appeal to your target audience either.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Surprised people say this is easier than tinder

I get more meets off tinder in a month that I do in multiple years on here

What are you lot doing differently

I'm surprised that other people say Tinder is easier than this.

I was on Tinder from 2015 to 2021 and didn't get a single meet. I didn't get a single *match* after 2018.

What are *you* lot doing differently?

I do nothing different than what I do on here. Send a funny message, get them laughing, ask them out

Just that on here 99% of the funny first messages don’t get opened

On Tinder, you have to get the matches before you can send a message. Since I wasn't, the quality of the messages I couldn't send became irrelevant.

On here, sure, a lot of my messages never get looked at, but a 0.01% chance is still a lot better than a 0.00% chance.

A couple of weekends ago, I made the time to send a whole five messages. The most I've ever sent in one go! I'm astonished to report that four of them were actually read. Nobody responded, which is their prerogative, but people actually saw what I wrote! On here, that feels like a triumph.

(Needless to say, though, the one unread message was to the person I was most interested in. Hah.)

Zero matches? Aren’t you quite tall too?

I’d say tinder is all about the quality of your pictures. I’d say with some good picture and a funny bio with your height in it you’d clean up no problem. I’m short and I do well. "

Yes. Zero meets in six years, and zero matches in three. I've never had a match on Bumble either. I met a couple of people on OkCupid, but one of them ghosted and the other one died.

I'm 6' 8". Hit 6' when I was twelve years old and just kept going.

In my personal experience, when people say they like "tall" men, they mean about 6' 2"-ish. Once you go sailing past that, it starts counting against you. In clubs, I try to sit down as much as possible, so I don't tower over everyone else and creep them out. There was a decent article on Gawker recently that went some way towards reflecting the experience of actually tall men: 'Being tall sucks', by Nicholas Russell, who's getting on for my sort of size.

I think the big difference between Tinder and here is that on Tinder I had public face pictures. I've been forced to conclude that I'm *really* fucking ugly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave quickly by exit door left

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"Surprised people say this is easier than tinder

I get more meets off tinder in a month that I do in multiple years on here

What are you lot doing differently

I'm surprised that other people say Tinder is easier than this.

I was on Tinder from 2015 to 2021 and didn't get a single meet. I didn't get a single *match* after 2018.

What are *you* lot doing differently?

I do nothing different than what I do on here. Send a funny message, get them laughing, ask them out

Just that on here 99% of the funny first messages don’t get opened

On Tinder, you have to get the matches before you can send a message. Since I wasn't, the quality of the messages I couldn't send became irrelevant.

On here, sure, a lot of my messages never get looked at, but a 0.01% chance is still a lot better than a 0.00% chance.

A couple of weekends ago, I made the time to send a whole five messages. The most I've ever sent in one go! I'm astonished to report that four of them were actually read. Nobody responded, which is their prerogative, but people actually saw what I wrote! On here, that feels like a triumph.

(Needless to say, though, the one unread message was to the person I was most interested in. Hah.)

Zero matches? Aren’t you quite tall too?

I’d say tinder is all about the quality of your pictures. I’d say with some good picture and a funny bio with your height in it you’d clean up no problem. I’m short and I do well.

Yes. Zero meets in six years, and zero matches in three. I've never had a match on Bumble either. I met a couple of people on OkCupid, but one of them ghosted and the other one died.

I'm 6' 8". Hit 6' when I was twelve years old and just kept going.

In my personal experience, when people say they like "tall" men, they mean about 6' 2"-ish. Once you go sailing past that, it starts counting against you. In clubs, I try to sit down as much as possible, so I don't tower over everyone else and creep them out. There was a decent article on Gawker recently that went some way towards reflecting the experience of actually tall men: 'Being tall sucks', by Nicholas Russell, who's getting on for my sort of size.

I think the big difference between Tinder and here is that on Tinder I had public face pictures. I've been forced to conclude that I'm *really* fucking ugly! "

I bet your not ugly! I’ve been told I look better from behind and I still do ok.

Might ne worth trying again, like I said, I get 100x more success on tinder then on here. When I was 26 and on a mad one I’d get 1-2 meets a week consistently

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Surprised people say this is easier than tinder

I get more meets off tinder in a month that I do in multiple years on here

What are you lot doing differently

I'm surprised that other people say Tinder is easier than this.

I was on Tinder from 2015 to 2021 and didn't get a single meet. I didn't get a single *match* after 2018.

What are *you* lot doing differently?

I do nothing different than what I do on here. Send a funny message, get them laughing, ask them out

Just that on here 99% of the funny first messages don’t get opened

On Tinder, you have to get the matches before you can send a message. Since I wasn't, the quality of the messages I couldn't send became irrelevant.

On here, sure, a lot of my messages never get looked at, but a 0.01% chance is still a lot better than a 0.00% chance.

A couple of weekends ago, I made the time to send a whole five messages. The most I've ever sent in one go! I'm astonished to report that four of them were actually read. Nobody responded, which is their prerogative, but people actually saw what I wrote! On here, that feels like a triumph.

(Needless to say, though, the one unread message was to the person I was most interested in. Hah.)

Zero matches? Aren’t you quite tall too?

I’d say tinder is all about the quality of your pictures. I’d say with some good picture and a funny bio with your height in it you’d clean up no problem. I’m short and I do well.

Yes. Zero meets in six years, and zero matches in three. I've never had a match on Bumble either. I met a couple of people on OkCupid, but one of them ghosted and the other one died.

I'm 6' 8". Hit 6' when I was twelve years old and just kept going.

In my personal experience, when people say they like "tall" men, they mean about 6' 2"-ish. Once you go sailing past that, it starts counting against you. In clubs, I try to sit down as much as possible, so I don't tower over everyone else and creep them out. There was a decent article on Gawker recently that went some way towards reflecting the experience of actually tall men: 'Being tall sucks', by Nicholas Russell, who's getting on for my sort of size.

I think the big difference between Tinder and here is that on Tinder I had public face pictures. I've been forced to conclude that I'm *really* fucking ugly!

I bet your not ugly! I’ve been told I look better from behind and I still do ok.

Might ne worth trying again, like I said, I get 100x more success on tinder then on here. When I was 26 and on a mad one I’d get 1-2 meets a week consistently"

Thank you. That's very kind of you. For what it's worth, I don't think I'm *that* ugly either, but that sheer lack of success pretty emphatically tells me otherwise.

Congratulations on your Tinder success. You get more meets in a week than I did in six years. Technically, I'm still on Tinder, but I can no longer access my account due to not having a passport. I'm still on OkCupid and Bumble too, but since I've already swiped my way through all UK users of both, I won't hold my breath. Heh.

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