FabSwingers.com forum: Nerves before meeting

By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Who still gets nervous before meeting someone new?

And how do you calm the nerves ?

Have nerves ever ruined it for you or the person you were meeting?

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

Always a bit of nerves meeting someone for the first time. A few nerves with someone I've met before too, will it go as well this time etc a meet has definitely played a part in the other person though and spolt a meet

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I’ve met someone that was so nervous it wasn’t fun. Just politely said it wasn’t working and left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Breathe deep and ask myself what’s the worst that can happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes wife very nervous hence we struggle to arrange meets.

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I’ve met someone that was so nervous it wasn’t fun. Just politely said it wasn’t working and left

Not good

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Yes wife very nervous hence we struggle to arrange meets. "

That’s a shame xx

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Breathe deep and ask myself what’s the worst that can happen? "

Good attitude to have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't really get nervous anymore.. but previously i think it was just nervous excitement.

deep breaths, count to ten, it'll be fine

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"i don't really get nervous anymore.. but previously i think it was just nervous excitement.

deep breaths, count to ten, it'll be fine

Px "

You have no reason to be nervous xx you are amazing xx

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

There's a thread currently running about first time meets. I mentioned that I love the feeling of nervous excitement.

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"There's a thread currently running about first time meets. I mentioned that I love the feeling of nervous excitement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Breathe deep and ask myself what’s the worst that can happen? "

Haha! But then I actually start thinking of terrible scenarios.

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Breathe deep and ask myself what’s the worst that can happen?

Haha! But then I actually start thinking of terrible scenarios. "

Just go with the flow xx

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I am so nervous in fact, I won't meet people. Much happier to meet in a club. Have safety concerns.

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I am so nervous in fact, I won't meet people. Much happier to meet in a club. Have safety concerns."

Of course xx particularly in light of recent events xx it’s very hard to trust anyone xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not the nervous type, to be honest, well, nerves as in stomach cramps and lettering speech, anyway. I tend to get more excited than nervous, which I guess is just a different expression of nerves? I just concentrate on being myself and keeping conversation flowing, and seeing if there's a decent connection

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I'm not the nervous type, to be honest, well, nerves as in stomach cramps and lettering speech, anyway. I tend to get more excited than nervous, which I guess is just a different expression of nerves? I just concentrate on being myself and keeping conversation flowing, and seeing if there's a decent connection "

Thats the way to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never been nervous before a meet, more then anything exciting for me

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I’ve never been nervous before a meet, more then anything exciting for me

Excellent had any disappointments ?

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By *iscreet-is-paramountMan
over a year ago

travel around a lot.

Always, when their new. Be something wrong if you wernt.

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Always, when their new. Be something wrong if you wernt."

True

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By *eegh0stsMan
over a year ago

"deep breaths, count to ten, it'll be fine "

Reads like the opening to a premature ejaculation post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never been nervous before a meet, more then anything exciting for me

Excellent had any disappointments ?"

No not so far fingers crossed

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I’ve never been nervous before a meet, more then anything exciting for me

Excellent had any disappointments ?

No not so far fingers crossed

Lucky you !!

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

Yup nerves jangle ….. that’s what makes it so exciting

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Yup nerves jangle ….. that’s what makes it so exciting

Couldn’t agree more xx

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

I still do, but they usually settle quite quickly after the initial hello phase. I find if I'm not excited or nervous to meet someone new then I'm probably not that into them.

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I still do, but they usually settle quite quickly after the initial hello phase. I find if I'm not excited or nervous to meet someone new then I'm probably not that into them. "

That’s a very good point xx shame you are in Ireland!!!

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Always! But it’s a lovely nervous feeling wondering if you’ll get on in the flesh

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Never get nervous x

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By *r Discreet 75Man
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL

I think everyone gets a little nervous... I think if you don't then you might be a bit narcissistic... before meeting someone I say to myself if it doesn't work out then get pissed instead

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I think everyone gets a little nervous... I think if you don't then you might be a bit narcissistic... before meeting someone I say to myself if it doesn't work out then get pissed instead "

That’s an excellent recovery plan

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Never get nervous x"

You are lucky xx

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I still get butterflies no matter how many times I've met someone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for me nerves are all part of the excitement of looking forward to meeting someone

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Never get nervous x"

You are lucky xx

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I think for me nerves are all part of the excitement of looking forward to meeting someone

Definitely xx

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I think everyone gets a little nervous... I think if you don't then you might be a bit narcissistic... before meeting someone I say to myself if it doesn't work out then get pissed instead "

I'm deffo not narcissistic! Just dont get nervous excited to meet new people yes x

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I still get butterflies no matter how many times I've met someone x"

Exciting xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever I meet someone I get nevers but nerves are fine tells you that you're stepping out your comfort zone. Life is only good when you leave the comfort zone I feel

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Whenever I meet someone I get nevers but nerves are fine tells you that you're stepping out your comfort zone. Life is only good when you leave the comfort zone I feel "

Very true makes you feel alive !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whenever I meet someone I get nevers but nerves are fine tells you that you're stepping out your comfort zone. Life is only good when you leave the comfort zone I feel

Very true makes you feel alive !"

Exactly! If you ever get nervous I always say just go for it. Experience things then you'll know if it's good or bad after.

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By *heltenhamBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I still get butterflies even now, but in a good way, knowing that a good sexual encounter is about to happen certainly gets my juices flowing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, always but I never allow it to ruin the moment since the anticipation is all part of the excitement that will lead to fun times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get excited but not what I call nervous

But in the past Ive had the same feeling when Ive met up with folks I've played with before

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Nerves are a good thing. If I don’t get nervous then I see it as a sign that I probably shouldn’t be meeting them.

As for calming them, a few deep breaths, remember that they’re probably nervous too and then put them out of my mind. After a couple of minutes, they’re gone.

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Nerves are a good thing. If I don’t get nervous then I see it as a sign that I probably shouldn’t be meeting them.

As for calming them, a few deep breaths, remember that they’re probably nervous too and then put them out of my mind. After a couple of minutes, they’re gone.

Good advice!

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