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Where has city jeans gone?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I miss him.

I miss his humour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I miss him.

I miss his humour. "

I do too

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

He always seemed very irritable and and a little angry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He always seemed very irritable and and a little angry. "

Really?

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london


"He always seemed very irritable and and a little angry.

Really? "

He was clever with his humour but it was always at someone's expense

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

I miss him too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He always seemed very irritable and and a little angry.

Really?

He was clever with his humour but it was always at someone's expense"

True that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He’s taking a break I’m sure he will be back and running soon x that little snack

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"He always seemed very irritable and and a little angry.

Really?

He was clever with his humour but it was always at someone's expense"

I noticed that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He was a good egg and always had my back.

Gutted he left but I an sure he will be back. I just hope he doesn't have too much fun away from us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He was a good egg and always had my back.

Gutted he left but I an sure he will be back. I just hope he doesn't have too much fun away from us "

I always imagine him reversing at speed round little country lanes.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"He was a good egg and always had my back.

Gutted he left but I an sure he will be back. I just hope he doesn't have too much fun away from us

I always imagine him reversing at speed round little country lanes."

Yep shouting out the window at the women “learn to drive!”

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I’m sure he’d have something very witty to chime in with here. Sadly…. I do not.

Bring back shitty jeans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I miss him too. Am sure he will be back when he's ready.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Gone but not forgotten he’ll be back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He always seemed very irritable and and a little angry.

Really?

He was clever with his humour but it was always at someone's expense

True that."

I thought it was just me that thought the same,

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"He was a good egg and always had my back.

Gutted he left but I an sure he will be back. I just hope he doesn't have too much fun away from us

I always imagine him reversing at speed round little country lanes.

Yep shouting out the window at the women “learn to drive!” "

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He always seemed very irritable and and a little angry.

Really?

He was clever with his humour but it was always at someone's expense

True that."

Seems men and women saw him differently. I don't disagree with you gents.

City Jeans wasn't his first incarnation on here, I believe. Chances are, he'll be back at some point.

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around! "

You don’t know what you miss until it’s gone.

Or something profound like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He always seemed very irritable and and a little angry.

Really?

He was clever with his humour but it was always at someone's expense

True that.

I thought it was just me that thought the same, "

No, no. He was the first person I noticed in the Forum when I stumbled in here precisely because he was mocking someone and I thought it seemed unkind. That was before I knew how the Forum worked and it was simply his 'thing'.

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around! "

It's a thread dedicated to him

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london


"He always seemed very irritable and and a little angry.

Really?

He was clever with his humour but it was always at someone's expense

True that.

Seems men and women saw him differently. I don't disagree with you gents.

City Jeans wasn't his first incarnation on here, I believe. Chances are, he'll be back at some point."

He saved his bitch side for men. Rarely did he do it with female members

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poor guy isn't even here to defend himself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Poor guy isn't even here to defend himself! "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Poor guy isn't even here to defend himself! "

This. The negative comments are unnecessary and not in the spirit of the thread I feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He always seemed very irritable and and a little angry.

Really?

He was clever with his humour but it was always at someone's expense"

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"Poor guy isn't even here to defend himself!

This. The negative comments are unnecessary and not in the spirit of the thread I feel"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He always seemed very irritable and and a little angry.

Really?

He was clever with his humour but it was always at someone's expense

True that.

Seems men and women saw him differently. I don't disagree with you gents.

City Jeans wasn't his first incarnation on here, I believe. Chances are, he'll be back at some point.

He saved his bitch side for men. Rarely did he do it with female members"

Rarely....but

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Poor guy isn't even here to defend himself!

This. The negative comments are unnecessary and not in the spirit of the thread I feel"

Totally. Didn’t know it was a slagging match with someone who isn’t here anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He was a good egg and always had my back.

Gutted he left but I an sure he will be back. I just hope he doesn't have too much fun away from us

I always imagine him reversing at speed round little country lanes.

Yep shouting out the window at the women “learn to drive!” "

It must be a few years since he told that story. But every time I reverse I think of him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Poor guy isn't even here to defend himself!

This. The negative comments are unnecessary and not in the spirit of the thread I feel

Totally. Didn’t know it was a slagging match with someone who isn’t here anymore "

I know, pretty disgusting tbh.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him"

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left.

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left. "

I am relatively new to the forums so not aware of how long he has been here but I have seen a very recent thread in his honour while he was still a member

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Poor guy isn't even here to defend himself!

This. The negative comments are unnecessary and not in the spirit of the thread I feel

Totally. Didn’t know it was a slagging match with someone who isn’t here anymore "

It's all done it the best possible taste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always found him to be witty and a good crack in threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think all comments here are valid and justified in their impression of him. whether he were here or not, I would still post my impression of him.

He would have been the first to post his position on it, depending on whether it was a man or woman OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is making him sound like he's passed to the other side....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left. "

I'd imagine most people who have posted positive comments spoke to him regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left. "

Kitty did a recent thread in which I made a very positive comment about CJ. I've made a less negative comment here because that's my honest opinion. If you don't want former members discussed in their absence then probably best not to start threads about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left.

Kitty did a recent thread in which I made a very positive comment about CJ. I've made a less negative comment here because that's my honest opinion. If you don't want former members discussed in their absence then probably best not to start threads about them."

And now Craig with the weather.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left.

Kitty did a recent thread in which I made a very positive comment about CJ. I've made a less negative comment here because that's my honest opinion. If you don't want former members discussed in their absence then probably best not to start threads about them.

And now Craig with the weather. "

Good Craig with the weather.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left.

Kitty did a recent thread in which I made a very positive comment about CJ. I've made a less negative comment here because that's my honest opinion. If you don't want former members discussed in their absence then probably best not to start threads about them.

And now Craig with the weather.

Good Craig with the weather. "

HOUSE !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is making him sound like he's passed to the other side....

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He’s well Alive don’t worry

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left.

Kitty did a recent thread in which I made a very positive comment about CJ. I've made a less negative comment here because that's my honest opinion. If you don't want former members discussed in their absence then probably best not to start threads about them.

And now Craig with the weather.

Good Craig with the weather. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left.

Kitty did a recent thread in which I made a very positive comment about CJ. I've made a less negative comment here because that's my honest opinion. If you don't want former members discussed in their absence then probably best not to start threads about them.

And now Craig with the weather.

Good Craig with the weather. "

He will be proud!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left.

Kitty did a recent thread in which I made a very positive comment about CJ. I've made a less negative comment here because that's my honest opinion. If you don't want former members discussed in their absence then probably best not to start threads about them.

And now Craig with the weather.

Good Craig with the weather. "

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Give the man a bit of Dignity he's not here to defend himself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow this turned sour! How on earth did it get to this???

I've seen plenty of comments appreciating his humour, and posted some myself.

Sorry CJ, if you do come back and read this I can assure it wasn't my intention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give the man a bit of Dignity he's not here to defend himself."

What exactly does he need to defend? The impression he has given us? Do we have no minds of our own or eyes that can read and see what he writes?

They're our impression and he left them in my mind himself. I don't need him to defend what I have seen of him and what he has written himself.

How everyone else wants to post their impression is up to them and I shall read their posts and take those on board myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow this turned sour! How on earth did it get to this???

I've seen plenty of comments appreciating his humour, and posted some myself.

Sorry CJ, if you do come back and read this I can assure it wasn't my intention. "

Sorry your thread turned like this, everyone could see you were just curious to see where he was

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Give the man a bit of Dignity he's not here to defend himself.

What exactly does he need to defend? The impression he has given us? Do we have no minds of our own or eyes that can read and see what he writes?

They're our impression and he left them in my mind himself. I don't need him to defend what I have seen of him and what he has written himself.

How everyone else wants to post their impression is up to them and I shall read their posts and take those on board myself."

Me and him

Didnt get on it's no secret

My point is why bother mentioning some one who isn't here

But guess what

He will be back

For the 14th time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is turning into some kind of twisted memorial service, in which case I was always told not to speak ill of the dead!

I found his comments, by and large, funny and from time to time the guy made more pointed observations where he presumably thought something wasn't right, which let's face it plenty of folks do on here.

As it's a memorial, my funniest recollection was when Bellaseas started a thread and he commented that it was only her second thread, the first one being about a potato. Her reply to him was priceless too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is turning into some kind of twisted memorial service, in which case I was always told not to speak ill of the dead!

I found his comments, by and large, funny and from time to time the guy made more pointed observations where he presumably thought something wasn't right, which let's face it plenty of folks do on here.

As it's a memorial, my funniest recollection was when Bellaseas started a thread and he commented that it was only her second thread, the first one being about a potato. Her reply to him was priceless too. "

What was my reply

I only posted the potato thread because he begged me to

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"This is turning into some kind of twisted memorial service, in which case I was always told not to speak ill of the dead!

I found his comments, by and large, funny and from time to time the guy made more pointed observations where he presumably thought something wasn't right, which let's face it plenty of folks do on here.

As it's a memorial, my funniest recollection was when Bellaseas started a thread and he commented that it was only her second thread, the first one being about a potato. Her reply to him was priceless too. "

Or repetitive

I have nothing more to say

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Not you bella I love you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is turning into some kind of twisted memorial service, in which case I was always told not to speak ill of the dead!

I found his comments, by and large, funny and from time to time the guy made more pointed observations where he presumably thought something wasn't right, which let's face it plenty of folks do on here.

As it's a memorial, my funniest recollection was when Bellaseas started a thread and he commented that it was only her second thread, the first one being about a potato. Her reply to him was priceless too.

Or repetitive

I have nothing more to say"

Just to make sure you haven't got the wrong impression of my post, it wasn't directed at your post, which immediately preceded mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is turning into some kind of twisted memorial service, in which case I was always told not to speak ill of the dead!

I found his comments, by and large, funny and from time to time the guy made more pointed observations where he presumably thought something wasn't right, which let's face it plenty of folks do on here.

As it's a memorial, my funniest recollection was when Bellaseas started a thread and he commented that it was only her second thread, the first one being about a potato. Her reply to him was priceless too.

What was my reply

I only posted the potato thread because he begged me to "

If I remember rightly, your reply was "You dick!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not you bella I love you x"

I love you Yasmeen x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is turning into some kind of twisted memorial service, in which case I was always told not to speak ill of the dead!

I found his comments, by and large, funny and from time to time the guy made more pointed observations where he presumably thought something wasn't right, which let's face it plenty of folks do on here.

As it's a memorial, my funniest recollection was when Bellaseas started a thread and he commented that it was only her second thread, the first one being about a potato. Her reply to him was priceless too.

What was my reply

I only posted the potato thread because he begged me to

If I remember rightly, your reply was "You dick!" "

That sounds about right

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Not you bella I love you x

I love you Yasmeen x"

Xxxx

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"This is turning into some kind of twisted memorial service, in which case I was always told not to speak ill of the dead!

I found his comments, by and large, funny and from time to time the guy made more pointed observations where he presumably thought something wasn't right, which let's face it plenty of folks do on here.

As it's a memorial, my funniest recollection was when Bellaseas started a thread and he commented that it was only her second thread, the first one being about a potato. Her reply to him was priceless too.

Or repetitive

I have nothing more to say

Just to make sure you haven't got the wrong impression of my post, it wasn't directed at your post, which immediately preceded mine. "

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think maybe having this thread deleted would be a good idea.

He regulary made me laugh, he made the forums funny for me.

I didn't want a big thread about who he was and what he was like outside of that. Jesus people!! It wasn't an invitation for a mud slinging match.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around! "

And what's your point exactly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is turning into some kind of twisted memorial service, in which case I was always told not to speak ill of the dead!

I found his comments, by and large, funny and from time to time the guy made more pointed observations where he presumably thought something wasn't right, which let's face it plenty of folks do on here.

As it's a memorial, my funniest recollection was when Bellaseas started a thread and he commented that it was only her second thread, the first one being about a potato. Her reply to him was priceless too.

What was my reply

I only posted the potato thread because he begged me to

If I remember rightly, your reply was "You dick!"

That sounds about right "

Cracked me up at the time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left. "

Wasn't me that posted last time and I was completely unaware.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think maybe having this thread deleted would be a good idea.

He regulary made me laugh, he made the forums funny for me.

I didn't want a big thread about who he was and what he was like outside of that. Jesus people!! It wasn't an invitation for a mud slinging match.

"

How did you think a thread like this would go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think maybe having this thread deleted would be a good idea.

He regulary made me laugh, he made the forums funny for me.

I didn't want a big thread about who he was and what he was like outside of that. Jesus people!! It wasn't an invitation for a mud slinging match.

How did you think a thread like this would go?"

Well I (never) would have assumed it would automatically go negative when a simple question about someone's whereabouts was posted, no?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think maybe having this thread deleted would be a good idea.

He regulary made me laugh, he made the forums funny for me.

I didn't want a big thread about who he was and what he was like outside of that. Jesus people!! It wasn't an invitation for a mud slinging match.

How did you think a thread like this would go?"

I guess I thought those that didn't have anything nice to say would scroll past and not say it at all.

Ideally in an adult world isn't that supposed to happen?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left.

Wasn't me that posted last time and I was completely unaware. "

I wasn’t having a go. I just find it curious how exactly the same thing happened last time.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I miss him.

I miss his humour. "

I respect you hun

And you miss he

He will return

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left.

Wasn't me that posted last time and I was completely unaware.

I wasn’t having a go. I just find it curious how exactly the same thing happened last time. "

And the time before that

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I fear his parodical style of writing went sailing over many heads.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"He always seemed very irritable and and a little angry.

Really?

He was clever with his humour but it was always at someone's expense"

Only if one understood the meaning

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not everyone gets on with everyone. It's a fact of life. I'm sure many detest me. And that's just part of life. But why wade in and post negatively when you could scroll past?

Talk about seize the chance to slag people off.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I fear his parodical style of writing went sailing over many heads.

"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think maybe having this thread deleted would be a good idea.

He regulary made me laugh, he made the forums funny for me.

I didn't want a big thread about who he was and what he was like outside of that. Jesus people!! It wasn't an invitation for a mud slinging match.

How did you think a thread like this would go?

I guess I thought those that didn't have anything nice to say would scroll past and not say it at all.

Ideally in an adult world isn't that supposed to happen? "

Karma sucks.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I think maybe having this thread deleted would be a good idea.

He regulary made me laugh, he made the forums funny for me.

I didn't want a big thread about who he was and what he was like outside of that. Jesus people!! It wasn't an invitation for a mud slinging match.

How did you think a thread like this would go?

I guess I thought those that didn't have anything nice to say would scroll past and not say it at all.

Ideally in an adult world isn't that supposed to happen?

Karma sucks."

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Not everyone gets on with everyone. It's a fact of life. I'm sure many detest me. And that's just part of life. But why wade in and post negatively when you could scroll past?

Talk about seize the chance to slag people off. "

You started the post

How did you think it would pan out

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

And what's your point exactly? "

It’s an observation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think maybe having this thread deleted would be a good idea.

He regulary made me laugh, he made the forums funny for me.

I didn't want a big thread about who he was and what he was like outside of that. Jesus people!! It wasn't an invitation for a mud slinging match.

How did you think a thread like this would go?

I guess I thought those that didn't have anything nice to say would scroll past and not say it at all.

Ideally in an adult world isn't that supposed to happen? "

It would be a very one dimensional world

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

People only see what they want to see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not everyone gets on with everyone. It's a fact of life. I'm sure many detest me. And that's just part of life. But why wade in and post negatively when you could scroll past?

Talk about seize the chance to slag people off.

You started the post

How did you think it would pan out

"
unless all threads about ex forumers end up in a negative way (no idea, how many are there?) then I'm not sure how the OP would know how this one would go. It's not as tho their first post set the tone ....

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Not everyone gets on with everyone. It's a fact of life. I'm sure many detest me. And that's just part of life. But why wade in and post negatively when you could scroll past?

Talk about seize the chance to slag people off.

You started the post

How did you think it would pan out

unless all threads about ex forumers end up in a negative way (no idea, how many are there?) then I'm not sure how the OP would know how this one would go. It's not as tho their first post set the tone ...."

I'm not interested good night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He always made me laugh I got on well with him…

I’ve just had a cappachoochoo and a cream horn

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"He always made me laugh I got on well with him…

I’ve just had a cappachoochoo and a cream horn "

Now you are a Decent caring person xxx

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"He always made me laugh I got on well with him…

I’ve just had a cappachoochoo and a cream horn

Now you are a Decent caring person xxx

"

Ask he’s alright

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"He always made me laugh I got on well with him…

I’ve just had a cappachoochoo and a cream horn

Now you are a Decent caring person xxx

Ask he’s alright "

*Awk

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Unless I missed out, nobody was actually mean about him, nor have they insulted him. They made an observation about him based upon how he came across to them.

The thread was just a curiosity, but if "positive" comments are welcome so should those that are considered "negative". Again actual slagging off has not happened, as one post said just the impression he made on others.

As tea has said, good or bad things, more is being said about him now than he was here.

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

Marmite......

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Wow this turned sour! How on earth did it get to this???

I've seen plenty of comments appreciating his humour, and posted some myself.

Sorry CJ, if you do come back and read this I can assure it wasn't my intention. "

If your intention was for everyone to like a person and post saying so it probably won't happen, no matter who it is

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

For info, to the people who obviously like him but are complaining he isn't here to defend himself from people who say they were not fond of his posts, this is the point, he isn't here ( or has not made himself known if he is ) so the posts don't break any rules

To be fair, the posts were observations anyway

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Good at dishing it, terrible at taking it.

From my observation anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wow this turned sour! How on earth did it get to this???

I've seen plenty of comments appreciating his humour, and posted some myself.

Sorry CJ, if you do come back and read this I can assure it wasn't my intention.

If your intention was for everyone to like a person and post saying so it probably won't happen, no matter who it is

"

It was merely for those that do like him, his contributions on the forums and humour to comment on. That was all. Lesson learned

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

That isn't how a forum works, anyone can post as long as it is within rules

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Does anyone know..

Has he passed away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left.

Wasn't me that posted last time and I was completely unaware.

I wasn’t having a go. I just find it curious how exactly the same thing happened last time. "

Did it? I missed the last thread but it is interesting how it went the same way. Consistency then.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

The king is dead..

Long live the king...

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"He always seemed very irritable and and a little angry.

Really?

He was clever with his humour but it was always at someone's expense

True that.

Seems men and women saw him differently. I don't disagree with you gents.

City Jeans wasn't his first incarnation on here, I believe. Chances are, he'll be back at some point.

He saved his bitch side for men. Rarely did he do it with female members"

Oh the irony!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left. "

Actually, I did a thread in his honour when he was here. If you search for his name in the forum Search thingy, you'll find it.

I miss him too x

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left.

Actually, I did a thread in his honour when he was here. If you search for his name in the forum Search thingy, you'll find it.

I miss him too x"

Don't think I remember him, but a guy who mix this much shit up without even being here i wish I had

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

He did not start many threads but sat on the sidelines with comments.. sometimes witty often not ..

He is not the Messiah

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london


"He did not start many threads but sat on the sidelines with comments.. sometimes witty often not ..

He is not the Messiah"

He's a very naughty boy

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left.

Actually, I did a thread in his honour when he was here. If you search for his name in the forum Search thingy, you'll find it.

I miss him too x

Don't think I remember him, but a guy who mix this much shit up without even being here i wish I had "

Scrap that I totally do lmao how can I forget he was awesome. Kept me very entertained. Was exactly the same off the forums

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Whoooooooooo?

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left.

Actually, I did a thread in his honour when he was here. If you search for his name in the forum Search thingy, you'll find it.

I miss him too x

Don't think I remember him, but a guy who mix this much shit up without even being here i wish I had "
My thoughts exactly , dude sounds like a legend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The king is dead..

Long live the king..."

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

You don’t know what you miss until it’s gone.

Or something profound like that "

Isn’t that a Joni Mitchell song?

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around!

It's a thread dedicated to him

I understand the concept. There weren’t any threads in his honour when he was around and the same thing happened last time he left.

Actually, I did a thread in his honour when he was here. If you search for his name in the forum Search thingy, you'll find it.

I miss him too x

Don't think I remember him, but a guy who mix this much shit up without even being here i wish I had My thoughts exactly , dude sounds like a legend "

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"Unless I missed out, nobody was actually mean about him, nor have they insulted him. They made an observation about him based upon how he came "

Herrrumph

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"He always seemed very irritable and and a little angry.

Really?

He was clever with his humour but it was always at someone's expense"

Yep. I don’t miss that kind of people one single bit.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"Good at dishing it, terrible at taking it.

From my observation anyway "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For info, to the people who obviously like him but are complaining he isn't here to defend himself from people who say they were not fond of his posts, this is the point, he isn't here ( or has not made himself known if he is ) so the posts don't break any rules

To be fair, the posts were observations anyway"

Just curious, but the rules don't say *current* users and given the propensity for users to leave/hide and then return, it's probably just as well. This would suggest that upon returning, the outcome that the rules are trying to prevent, inter alia hurt to others, would occur.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

And where is Lionel and Nuts ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And where is Lionel and Nuts ?

"

One of them has disappeared due to the fact one didn’t like hearing what one was told

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"He always made me laugh I got on well with him…

I’ve just had a cappachoochoo and a cream horn

Now you are a Decent caring person xxx

Ask he’s alright "
x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"He did not start many threads but sat on the sidelines with comments.. sometimes witty often not ..

He is not the Messiah"

Exactly Tom x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He’s moose knuckle crew, which means he’s under my protection.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Hes been and gone a few times , he be back with a different name

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Hes been and gone a few times , he be back with a different name "

Already is

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"Hes been and gone a few times , he be back with a different name

Already is

"

Haha not suprised

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Hes been and gone a few times , he be back with a different name

Already is

Haha not suprised "

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

People come and they go

Sometimes it’s folks that we feel like we know

And this could happen fast or slow

But every person’s true colours are shown.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*locks the doors so he can't get back in*

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By *iss SinWoman
over a year ago

portchester

Welcome back then

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Hes been and gone a few times , he be back with a different name

Already is

Haha not suprised

"

It’s no secret you’re his alter ego!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Hes been and gone a few times , he be back with a different name

Already is

Haha not suprised

It’s no secret you’re his alter ego!"

Doubt it love

That's you dear

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"For info, to the people who obviously like him but are complaining he isn't here to defend himself from people who say they were not fond of his posts, this is the point, he isn't here ( or has not made himself known if he is ) so the posts don't break any rules

To be fair, the posts were observations anyway

Just curious, but the rules don't say *current* users and given the propensity for users to leave/hide and then return, it's probably just as well. This would suggest that upon returning, the outcome that the rules are trying to prevent, inter alia hurt to others, would occur. "

Sorry you have lost me

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By *xciter7169Man
over a year ago

The Midlands

What about Brutus jeans?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"What about Brutus jeans? "

He's Tame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw an ad tonight on FB for an upcoming talk / show by Miriam Margolyes

More people posted to state they didn't like her than those stating they did like her

Social media and the relative anonymity and security it offers makes us act and react in the most peculiar of ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about Brutus jeans? "

He had the first stab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For info, to the people who obviously like him but are complaining he isn't here to defend himself from people who say they were not fond of his posts, this is the point, he isn't here ( or has not made himself known if he is ) so the posts don't break any rules

To be fair, the posts were observations anyway

Just curious, but the rules don't say *current* users and given the propensity for users to leave/hide and then return, it's probably just as well. This would suggest that upon returning, the outcome that the rules are trying to prevent, inter alia hurt to others, would occur.

Sorry you have lost me"

I'm assuming in your post (that I've quoted) you were referring to the forum rules and to that fact that the phrase "site users" means current users, not someone who has left fabs, and so any comments about that person are fair game?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Morning everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning everyone "

Morning CJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning everyone

Morning CJ"

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"Morning everyone "

In

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it a bit distasteful people critiquing what they think of him on a public forum.

He may not be on fab atm (or he may be who knows!)

But this was not a thread where HE asked for public opinions on him and if he does come back this will be available for him to view.

Yes he could be a marmite character..

however publicly bitching about someone is really not nice..

It wasn’t so long ago that many forumites were commenting on how awful the popularity threads are and how mean it is to single people out and how it makes people feel left out etc.. whilst talking about how those types of threads can affect people’s mental health.

Now we’ve got some people character assassinating someone who is not here to defend himself..

What’s the adage..

‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it a bit distasteful people critiquing what they think of him on a public forum.

He may not be on fab atm (or he may be who knows!)

But this was not a thread where HE asked for public opinions on him and if he does come back this will be available for him to view.

Yes he could be a marmite character..

however publicly bitching about someone is really not nice..

It wasn’t so long ago that many forumites were commenting on how awful the popularity threads are and how mean it is to single people out and how it makes people feel left out etc.. whilst talking about how those types of threads can affect people’s mental health.

Now we’ve got some people character assassinating someone who is not here to defend himself..

What’s the adage..

‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’

"

Round of applause for u girl!! U couldn’t have said any better!!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it a bit distasteful people critiquing what they think of him on a public forum.

He may not be on fab atm (or he may be who knows!)

But this was not a thread where HE asked for public opinions on him and if he does come back this will be available for him to view.

Yes he could be a marmite character..

however publicly bitching about someone is really not nice..

It wasn’t so long ago that many forumites were commenting on how awful the popularity threads are and how mean it is to single people out and how it makes people feel left out etc.. whilst talking about how those types of threads can affect people’s mental health.

Now we’ve got some people character assassinating someone who is not here to defend himself..

What’s the adage..

‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’

"

Hallelujah! Someone has said it perfectly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it a bit distasteful people critiquing what they think of him on a public forum.

He may not be on fab atm (or he may be who knows!)

But this was not a thread where HE asked for public opinions on him and if he does come back this will be available for him to view.

Yes he could be a marmite character..

however publicly bitching about someone is really not nice..

It wasn’t so long ago that many forumites were commenting on how awful the popularity threads are and how mean it is to single people out and how it makes people feel left out etc.. whilst talking about how those types of threads can affect people’s mental health.

Now we’ve got some people character assassinating someone who is not here to defend himself..

What’s the adage..

‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’

"

Absolutely this. Very well said xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or perhaps it might make folk reconsider if it's wise to start threads like this in future

Cos once you start a thread, you don't get to control exactly how it goes

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas


"I find it a bit distasteful people critiquing what they think of him on a public forum.

He may not be on fab atm (or he may be who knows!)

But this was not a thread where HE asked for public opinions on him and if he does come back this will be available for him to view.

Yes he could be a marmite character..

however publicly bitching about someone is really not nice..

It wasn’t so long ago that many forumites were commenting on how awful the popularity threads are and how mean it is to single people out and how it makes people feel left out etc.. whilst talking about how those types of threads can affect people’s mental health.

Now we’ve got some people character assassinating someone who is not here to defend himself..

What’s the adage..

‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’

"

The very fact that it will still be around for him to see allows him to defend himself when he does see it if he chooses. Not that there is anything to defend - I don't know if I've missed any posts but none of them actually insulted him. General comments about observations based upon the way he presented himself to others.

There are far worse things being said about singers and bands in a different thread that are not here to defend themselves - as far as we know, maybe they will potentially see what's been said.

Extreme example but not entirely improbable.

The whole nothing nice, nothing at all mantra is complete bullshit, otherwise nobody would be picked up on or called out on anything. Be honest but don't be mean or cruel is a much better way to live.

If you don't want the negative brought up, don't mention the positive. Balance is critical.

A public forum, regardless of the subject is about discussion including airing opinions on threads such as this. It is not, and never should be an echo chamber.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or perhaps it might make folk reconsider if it's wise to start threads like this in future

Cos once you start a thread, you don't get to control exactly how it goes"

Bit rich blaming the OP for starting the thread.

Last time I checked it was called ‘where’s CJ Gone’ fairly innocent question imho

Not’

‘ let’s all give our personal opinions on CJ.’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’

I look forward to CJ living by this adage when he returns.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it a bit distasteful people critiquing what they think of him on a public forum.

He may not be on fab atm (or he may be who knows!)

But this was not a thread where HE asked for public opinions on him and if he does come back this will be available for him to view.

Yes he could be a marmite character..

however publicly bitching about someone is really not nice..

It wasn’t so long ago that many forumites were commenting on how awful the popularity threads are and how mean it is to single people out and how it makes people feel left out etc.. whilst talking about how those types of threads can affect people’s mental health.

Now we’ve got some people character assassinating someone who is not here to defend himself..

What’s the adage..

‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’"

.

I'd say if you haven’t got anything nice to say, find a way to say it without bullying the other would be more apt to the subject of this thread.

There had been many occasions, as witnessed in threads where the last thing of concern was someone's mental health. In fact, there seemed to be some sort of delight taken in attacking the mentally vulnerable. Hence the whirlwind of impressions and opinions posted in this thread. We reap what we sow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or perhaps it might make folk reconsider if it's wise to start threads like this in future

Cos once you start a thread, you don't get to control exactly how it goes

Bit rich blaming the OP for starting the thread.

Last time I checked it was called ‘where’s CJ Gone’ fairly innocent question imho

Not’

‘ let’s all give our personal opinions on CJ.’

"

Should everyone just have agreed that they miss him too ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’

I look forward to CJ living by this adage when he returns. "

Beautifully and succinctly put.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or perhaps it might make folk reconsider if it's wise to start threads like this in future

Cos once you start a thread, you don't get to control exactly how it goes

Bit rich blaming the OP for starting the thread.

Last time I checked it was called ‘where’s CJ Gone’ fairly innocent question imho

Not’

‘ let’s all give our personal opinions on CJ.’

Should everyone just have agreed that they miss him too ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’

I look forward to CJ living by this adage when he returns.

Beautifully and succinctly put."

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Poor guy isn't even here to defend himself!

This. The negative comments are unnecessary and not in the spirit of the thread I feel"

Is it really negative if you’re just voicing your observation? What kind of society are we in where we need this constant mollycoddling?

If people were saying they heard on the grapevine that he punched babies and ate cats, fair enough, but not something as straight forward as people taking a dislike to him mocking people (negative in its own right - did you pick him up on it?) Especially when a lot of people clearly thought it.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"I find it a bit distasteful people critiquing what they think of him on a public forum.

He may not be on fab atm (or he may be who knows!)

But this was not a thread where HE asked for public opinions on him and if he does come back this will be available for him to view.

Yes he could be a marmite character..

however publicly bitching about someone is really not nice..

It wasn’t so long ago that many forumites were commenting on how awful the popularity threads are and how mean it is to single people out and how it makes people feel left out etc.. whilst talking about how those types of threads can affect people’s mental health.

Now we’ve got some people character assassinating someone who is not here to defend himself..

What’s the adage..

‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’

"

As has been said, you start a thread revering people. There are a lot of people who don't share the same view, and they have their reasons. You can't control how it goes and is nieve to believe you can.

You can't virtually stick your fingers in your ears and shout la la la la. Because people don't share a view.

Public bitching about people is the forum way - it is ok to to bitch about peole as long as its not a subjective xxxx. Or on someone's hot list

(‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’)

How often this phrase/adage is used by so many to simply say 'if you don't agree with me, shutup'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or perhaps it might make folk reconsider if it's wise to start threads like this in future

Cos once you start a thread, you don't get to control exactly how it goes

Bit rich blaming the OP for starting the thread.

Last time I checked it was called ‘where’s CJ Gone’ fairly innocent question imho

Not’

‘ let’s all give our personal opinions on CJ.’

Should everyone just have agreed that they miss him too ?"

Absolutely not.. but no need to give reasons why they don’t miss him.

A simple I don’t miss him would suffice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or perhaps it might make folk reconsider if it's wise to start threads like this in future

Cos once you start a thread, you don't get to control exactly how it goes

Bit rich blaming the OP for starting the thread.

Last time I checked it was called ‘where’s CJ Gone’ fairly innocent question imho

Not’

‘ let’s all give our personal opinions on CJ.’

Should everyone just have agreed that they miss him too ?

Absolutely not.. but no need to give reasons why they don’t miss him.

A simple I don’t miss him would suffice."

You don't get to control what others say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it a bit distasteful people critiquing what they think of him on a public forum.

He may not be on fab atm (or he may be who knows!)

But this was not a thread where HE asked for public opinions on him and if he does come back this will be available for him to view.

Yes he could be a marmite character..

however publicly bitching about someone is really not nice..

It wasn’t so long ago that many forumites were commenting on how awful the popularity threads are and how mean it is to single people out and how it makes people feel left out etc.. whilst talking about how those types of threads can affect people’s mental health.

Now we’ve got some people character assassinating someone who is not here to defend himself..

What’s the adage..

‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’

As has been said, you start a thread revering people. There are a lot of people who don't share the same view, and they have their reasons. You can't control how it goes and is nieve to believe you can.

You can't virtually stick your fingers in your ears and shout la la la la. Because people don't share a view.

Public bitching about people is the forum way - it is ok to to bitch about peole as long as its not a subjective xxxx. Or on someone's hot list

(‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’)

How often this phrase/adage is used by so many to simply say 'if you don't agree with me, shutup'"

But things can be discussed and debated without offering your personal opinion on the poster.

I agree debate is healthy but..

I can disagree with someone without making it personal and making statements about their character (flaws or not)

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Poor guy isn't even here to defend himself!

This. The negative comments are unnecessary and not in the spirit of the thread I feel

Is it really negative if you’re just voicing your observation? What kind of society are we in where we need this constant mollycoddling?

If people were saying they heard on the grapevine that he punched babies and ate cats, fair enough, but not something as straight forward as people taking a dislike to him mocking people (negative in its own right - did you pick him up on it?) Especially when a lot of people clearly thought it."

I actually did hear that? It must be true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it a bit distasteful people critiquing what they think of him on a public forum.

He may not be on fab atm (or he may be who knows!)

But this was not a thread where HE asked for public opinions on him and if he does come back this will be available for him to view.

Yes he could be a marmite character..

however publicly bitching about someone is really not nice..

It wasn’t so long ago that many forumites were commenting on how awful the popularity threads are and how mean it is to single people out and how it makes people feel left out etc.. whilst talking about how those types of threads can affect people’s mental health.

Now we’ve got some people character assassinating someone who is not here to defend himself..

What’s the adage..

‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’

The very fact that it will still be around for him to see allows him to defend himself when he does see it if he chooses. Not that there is anything to defend - I don't know if I've missed any posts but none of them actually insulted him. General comments about observations based upon the way he presented himself to others.

There are far worse things being said about singers and bands in a different thread that are not here to defend themselves - as far as we know, maybe they will potentially see what's been said.

Extreme example but not entirely improbable.

The whole nothing nice, nothing at all mantra is complete bullshit, otherwise nobody would be picked up on or called out on anything. Be honest but don't be mean or cruel is a much better way to live.

If you don't want the negative brought up, don't mention the positive. Balance is critical.

A public forum, regardless of the subject is about discussion including airing opinions on threads such as this. It is not, and never should be an echo chamber."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Poor guy isn't even here to defend himself!

This. The negative comments are unnecessary and not in the spirit of the thread I feel

Is it really negative if you’re just voicing your observation? What kind of society are we in where we need this constant mollycoddling?

If people were saying they heard on the grapevine that he punched babies and ate cats, fair enough, but not something as straight forward as people taking a dislike to him mocking people (negative in its own right - did you pick him up on it?) Especially when a lot of people clearly thought it.

I actually did hear that? It must be true "

It was my way of slipping it in without making it look like bitching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or perhaps it might make folk reconsider if it's wise to start threads like this in future

Cos once you start a thread, you don't get to control exactly how it goes

Bit rich blaming the OP for starting the thread.

Last time I checked it was called ‘where’s CJ Gone’ fairly innocent question imho

Not’

‘ let’s all give our personal opinions on CJ.’

Should everyone just have agreed that they miss him too ?

Absolutely not.. but no need to give reasons why they don’t miss him.

A simple I don’t miss him would suffice.

You don't get to control what others say "

I agree, I can’t but I can express my opinion that I find the general tone distasteful.

But I also have not singled a particular comment or poster out who has shared an opinion I find a bit off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it a bit distasteful people critiquing what they think of him on a public forum.

He may not be on fab atm (or he may be who knows!)

But this was not a thread where HE asked for public opinions on him and if he does come back this will be available for him to view.

Yes he could be a marmite character..

however publicly bitching about someone is really not nice..

It wasn’t so long ago that many forumites were commenting on how awful the popularity threads are and how mean it is to single people out and how it makes people feel left out etc.. whilst talking about how those types of threads can affect people’s mental health.

Now we’ve got some people character assassinating someone who is not here to defend himself..

What’s the adage..

‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’

"

Sometimes that should apply to the person everyone is talking about...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"It’s weird that more people talk about him when he leaves than do when he’s kicking around! "

Spot on.

What bitches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jim, can you start part 2 when this fills up?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

He made valuable comments. Intelligent and witty.

Talk about backstabbing....

What's those low rumblings about community and moral here all the time?

I'm far from shocked. The faux sentimental shite and self aggrandisement in society has reeked for eons...

I hope he's well and does well and feels well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I heard he got a job driving an HGV

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I imagine CJ will be reading all these comments here as we speak, and will be back. It will be interesting to see his posting style going forwards.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I imagine CJ will be reading all these comments here as we speak, and will be back. It will be interesting to see his posting style going forwards.

"

Will it ?

On here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or perhaps it might make folk reconsider if it's wise to start threads like this in future

Cos once you start a thread, you don't get to control exactly how it goes"

Thanks Methuselah. Hindsight is a wonderful thing; as is omniscience.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"I find it a bit distasteful people critiquing what they think of him on a public forum.

He may not be on fab atm (or he may be who knows!)

But this was not a thread where HE asked for public opinions on him and if he does come back this will be available for him to view.

Yes he could be a marmite character..

however publicly bitching about someone is really not nice..

It wasn’t so long ago that many forumites were commenting on how awful the popularity threads are and how mean it is to single people out and how it makes people feel left out etc.. whilst talking about how those types of threads can affect people’s mental health.

Now we’ve got some people character assassinating someone who is not here to defend himself..

What’s the adage..

‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’

As has been said, you start a thread revering people. There are a lot of people who don't share the same view, and they have their reasons. You can't control how it goes and is nieve to believe you can.

You can't virtually stick your fingers in your ears and shout la la la la. Because people don't share a view.

Public bitching about people is the forum way - it is ok to to bitch about peole as long as its not a subjective xxxx. Or on someone's hot list

(‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’)

How often this phrase/adage is used by so many to simply say 'if you don't agree with me, shutup'

But things can be discussed and debated without offering your personal opinion on the poster.

I agree debate is healthy but..

I can disagree with someone without making it personal and making statements about their character (flaws or not)"

These types are not debating threads, or will attract any kind of debate or discussion, they are binary - marmite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or perhaps it might make folk reconsider if it's wise to start threads like this in future

Cos once you start a thread, you don't get to control exactly how it goes

Thanks Methuselah. Hindsight is a wonderful thing; as is omniscience. "

You're welcome, cheeky chops

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I imagine CJ will be reading all these comments here as we speak, and will be back. It will be interesting to see his posting style going forwards.

"

I'm looking forward to his many fuck comments on kiss, fuck, pass threads.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

His satirical posts were spot on.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Or perhaps it might make folk reconsider if it's wise to start threads like this in future

Cos once you start a thread, you don't get to control exactly how it goes

Bit rich blaming the OP for starting the thread.

Last time I checked it was called ‘where’s CJ Gone’ fairly innocent question imho

Not’

‘ let’s all give our personal opinions on CJ.’

Should everyone just have agreed that they miss him too ?

Absolutely not.. but no need to give reasons why they don’t miss him.

A simple I don’t miss him would suffice."

Okay.

Agreed.

There are two responses people can put.

Response 1. I will miss him.

Response 2. I won't miss him.

No copyright you are allowed to copy and paste.

No other phrases permitted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I heard he got a job driving an HGV"

Are you saying he has a big load ?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Who?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"For info, to the people who obviously like him but are complaining he isn't here to defend himself from people who say they were not fond of his posts, this is the point, he isn't here ( or has not made himself known if he is ) so the posts don't break any rules

To be fair, the posts were observations anyway

Just curious, but the rules don't say *current* users and given the propensity for users to leave/hide and then return, it's probably just as well. This would suggest that upon returning, the outcome that the rules are trying to prevent, inter alia hurt to others, would occur.

Sorry you have lost me

I'm assuming in your post (that I've quoted) you were referring to the forum rules and to that fact that the phrase "site users" means current users, not someone who has left fabs, and so any comments about that person are fair game? "

The forum rules protect other forum users if it was abusive about them etc so basically yes, talking about someone that is not a member is fine, be that someone in the news or ex users.

Having said that, there was no abuse on this thread , only observations

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I find it a bit distasteful people critiquing what they think of him on a public forum.

He may not be on fab atm (or he may be who knows!)

But this was not a thread where HE asked for public opinions on him and if he does come back this will be available for him to view.

Yes he could be a marmite character..

however publicly bitching about someone is really not nice..

It wasn’t so long ago that many forumites were commenting on how awful the popularity threads are and how mean it is to single people out and how it makes people feel left out etc.. whilst talking about how those types of threads can affect people’s mental health.

Now we’ve got some people character assassinating someone who is not here to defend himself..

What’s the adage..

‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, say nothing at all’

"

Yeah because he was always nice

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