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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not sure which category to put this is so I will just ask:

Which is more annoying, having sex with someone and the guy cums too quickly or the guy not cumming at all?

Would like to hear from both men and women to understand both perspectives

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The guy not coming at all isn't a problem. He can keep going as long as I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lad it all varies sometimes can run like a stallion and sometimes race is finished before you have done the first lap that's why foreplay is important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta be a balance on both sides not one without the other

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I only ask because for a while now, no matter who it's with or how long we go for, or how much I enjoy it or how much I to, I simply cannot finish. Been to docs and nowt they can do or say to explain it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes when a guy cum too quick I take it as a compliment but it’s important for to do other things to make sure I cum. Now in your situation I would say to be honest with them before you start that you have trouble finishing so they don’t feel it’s something to do with them. Are you able to finish if your having a wank by yourself?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes. I can finish while masturbating, just not during sex. Even if I don't masturbate for a while and then have sex, I still don't finish during sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. I can finish while masturbating, just not during sex. Even if I don't masturbate for a while and then have sex, I still don't finish during sex"

Is it that you watch too much porn? Genuine question, so I don’t mean it to sound rude or abrupt. I’ve heard that some guys who wank off to porn regularly can have difficulty in the sack, that’s all. A vag can’t always replicate the tightness of the grip.

For me, the guy not cumming at all would be worse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Porn doesn't really matter tbh. I have masturbated over porn, over pics/vids of my ex, of me and my ex and sometimes no visual help.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Porn doesn't really matter tbh. I have masturbated over porn, over pics/vids of my ex, of me and my ex and sometimes no visual help."

You said on another thread that you have just started a new relationship so hopefully this will help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No cum at all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont put too much pressure on yourself during sex my man.

At this stage its probably all in your head when you are having sex ie you are thinking will I cum this time, what's her reaction gonna be if I dont etc etc

That won't allow you to actually be free and live in the moment, experience the feelings of intimacy and connection which allow you to release and eventually cum. Something to think about anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither is a problem for me. Cum quickly? Have a little recovery time, then you can spend time on me and maybe even get a second load in later. Don't cum at all? No worries, enjoy the fun without the mess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only ask because for a while now, no matter who it's with or how long we go for, or how much I enjoy it or how much I to, I simply cannot finish. Been to docs and nowt they can do or say to explain it lol"

I was with a guy who couldn't cum. To be honest, unless the woman is of child bearing age and hoping to get pregnant from them, not cumming isn't a bad thing. He got ask the feelings as if he was cumming, same as I do at times. Enjoy the fun of foreplay and intercourse knowing there's no mess to clean up from you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the comments everyone. No idea how much I appreciate the feedback. Seeing my new girlfriend this weekend. Going in with no pressure, don't care if I climax, just enjoy the show.

Keep you posted ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the comments everyone. No idea how much I appreciate the feedback. Seeing my new girlfriend this weekend. Going in with no pressure, don't care if I climax, just enjoy the show.

Keep you posted ??"

That's the best way to approach it. Have a great time x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Neither is a problem for me. Cum quickly? Have a little recovery time, then you can spend time on me and maybe even get a second load in later. Don't cum at all? No worries, enjoy the fun without the mess."

This pretty much for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually if you cum a bit quick there is other ways to keep a lady going till round 2 and then you last forever!! Get your tongue in action ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy not cumming at all used to bother me as I would think it was me that I didn't or did something. Now I am older and wiser I know that sometimes it happens and the secret is to relax take your time and accept things for what they are. You can make it more of an issue and it really is so making it more stressful so stops a guy from cumming.

I would rather guy come too quickly then keep on trying not to cum and then can't cum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would evan say making a woman cum is more important to me then coming myself!!! Turns me on knowing that she enjoyed me

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"Thanks for all the comments everyone. No idea how much I appreciate the feedback. Seeing my new girlfriend this weekend. Going in with no pressure, don't care if I climax, just enjoy the show.

Keep you posted ??"

Had a mate who had same problem with cuming while having sex with a woman turned out he was gay so he tried with a bloke and boom over in minuets hope it helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the comments everyone. No idea how much I appreciate the feedback. Seeing my new girlfriend this weekend. Going in with no pressure, don't care if I climax, just enjoy the show.

Keep you posted ??"

I am the same as you, I can take ages to climax especially with a new partner. It can be frustrating, but let your partner know, relax and enjoy. You may want to try different positions as they definitely help me.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I have a bit of a thing for men who cum quickly, it turns me on.

I’ve had sex with a fella who could have sex for hours and not cum due to medication he was on, which is ok if you are given a heads up as you can have a break if pre warned and then get back to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Neither is a problem for me. Cum quickly? Have a little recovery time, then you can spend time on me and maybe even get a second load in later. Don't cum at all? No worries, enjoy the fun without the mess."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Third option- a man taking ages to cum and being apologetic about it.

It's not a performance show. I'm not clock watching because I left something in the oven.

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