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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

How many of you live alone?

Not only living alone at home but in the sense of the daily life where you have no family, you have no friends to come at your house just to chat or watch a movie or friends to go out,you have no one to open about yourself or talk about your worries or dreams, and the only time you are with people is when you go work.

Is anyone living this situation?

How do you cope?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w

Get a few hobbies

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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Get a few hobbies "

This is not about myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many of you live alone?

Not only living alone at home but in the sense of the daily life where you have no family, you have no friends to come at your house just to chat or watch a movie or friends to go out,you have no one to open about yourself or talk about your worries or dreams, and the only time you are with people is when you go work.

Is anyone living this situation?

How do you cope? "

Yes this is my life but I do have friends and some family visit occasionally (rarely) and I bloody love it

I don’t know how I cope I just do and my serenity is bliss, it’s not for everyone but it suits me fine

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Not currently but I did live like that for a few years.

I found that learning to love my own company was essential, doing things that I enjoyed and take myself on ‘me dates’ on occasion was important as well.

It doesn’t need to be purgatory nor seen as a bad thing, it can be a very enjoyable time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've lived alone for quite a few years and just got used to it.

I'm lucky I have friends and family I see on and off.

Bonus is nobody takes over my TV lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do (well I live with my two kids but in the adult sense I live alone) I only see my mum for lunch maybe once every couple of months (despite living about 10 minutes away)dont really do the whole friends thing... Only time I really socialise is at work or if its an occasion like a friends birthday or hen do or something... I like it, I find people hard work to be around for long periods of time and like my own space

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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"How many of you live alone?

Not only living alone at home but in the sense of the daily life where you have no family, you have no friends to come at your house just to chat or watch a movie or friends to go out,you have no one to open about yourself or talk about your worries or dreams, and the only time you are with people is when you go work.

Is anyone living this situation?

How do you cope?

Yes this is my life but I do have friends and some family visit occasionally (rarely) and I bloody love it

I don’t know how I cope I just do and my serenity is bliss, it’s not for everyone but it suits me fine "

That's why my thread because i know is not for everyone

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I’m more than happy with my own company

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By *oveGiving44Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I've always been as comfortable and happy on my own as I am with friends and family.

I'm happy to go out for a meal on my own. I take my phone and Kindle. I'm happy to go to the pub on my own. I usually end up chatting to someone. I'm happy to go and see a film, play or concert on my own.

I don't mind admitting, the last 18 months have been very hard on my mental health though. Thankfully I'm starting to get back to normal.

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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Not currently but I did live like that for a few years.

I found that learning to love my own company was essential, doing things that I enjoyed and take myself on ‘me dates’ on occasion was important as well.

It doesn’t need to be purgatory nor seen as a bad thing, it can be a very enjoyable time "

I completely agree with you , can be enjoyed , not my intention make this look like a bad thing but just know peoples experiences and what they do to cope with as i know loneliness most the times is not a choice

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I live alone and I work from home. Monday to Friday I often don't see a soul.

At the weekend I normally see my mum and my mate, but in between I do keep in touch with friends on the phone, via video calls or on messenger apps and I try to stay connected that way.

I do enjoy having a fair amount of time to myself, but I do sometimes feel isolated with how little I socialise at the moment. I'm a very tactile person, so spending up to 5 days a week without human touch can be tough.

Thankfully I am starting to pick up the threads of my social life now, and I feel as though I'm starting to get to a more balanced place.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think we are social creatures and need others to listen to , talk to , laugh and cry with, share learn from and grow. If you are completely isolated then I would imagine it’s by choice and over time you get used to the safety of it and even enjoy but at a huge personal cost to growing and living life to the full

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my time in the UK have lived alone

Esp over last few months had few visitors but often prefer to visit others

Have friends speak to regularly online and try to arrange at least one social a week

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Not currently but I did live like that for a few years.

I found that learning to love my own company was essential, doing things that I enjoyed and take myself on ‘me dates’ on occasion was important as well.

It doesn’t need to be purgatory nor seen as a bad thing, it can be a very enjoyable time

I completely agree with you , can be enjoyed , not my intention make this look like a bad thing but just know peoples experiences and what they do to cope with as i know loneliness most the times is not a choice "

That’s very true. Things like birthdays and Christmas were tough but other than that, it really wasn’t an issue

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Earlier in the year, this was definitely me.

Mainly due to physical and mental health issues.

I actually cut myself off from all my friends.

It has got the point now where if I don't make the effort to get out and see them, I wouldn't see anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm alone. Having 2 cats helps. I won't go in to all the details.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I kinda do I live with 2 of adult daughters 22 and 28 but they live more or less in their rooms when not at work which is why I'm looking for a special friend here just someone to hang out with have good times and sex but not live together im very happy though! Just miss that kinda company x

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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"I think we are social creatures and need others to listen to , talk to , laugh and cry with, share learn from and grow. If you are completely isolated then I would imagine it’s by choice and over time you get used to the safety of it and even enjoy but at a huge personal cost to growing and living life to the full "

Don't think is always by choice someone chosen to isolate itself

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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"I'm alone. Having 2 cats helps. I won't go in to all the details."

Sending lots of to you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I enjoy my own company, and go out before I actually start crawling up the walls

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

This is my life.

After the last 18 months, you find out who is really there for you.

Permanent working from home has been put in place.

I'm ok. I cope.

Friends are few and far between. But I invite guests when I want them, family, playmates or friends.

I intend going back to the gym and thinking about a solo holiday in spring.

I want a partner but its not the end of the world.

Plus I love my home.

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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Earlier in the year, this was definitely me.

Mainly due to physical and mental health issues.

I actually cut myself off from all my friends.

It has got the point now where if I don't make the effort to get out and see them, I wouldn't see anyone"

Sending keep strong

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By *ld GreyMan
over a year ago

Aintree

I live on my own it's hard but you find things to occupied your mind

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place


"I think we are social creatures and need others to listen to , talk to , laugh and cry with, share learn from and grow. If you are completely isolated then I would imagine it’s by choice and over time you get used to the safety of it and even enjoy but at a huge personal cost to growing and living life to the full "

You can live a good life alone.

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By *lassy_but_sassyWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Earlier in the year, this was definitely me.

Mainly due to physical and mental health issues.

I actually cut myself off from all my friends.

It has got the point now where if I don't make the effort to get out and see them, I wouldn't see anyone"

This was definitely me for quite a long time after my car crash, because I had to use a wchair for a long time plus putting weight on being immobile I felt like everyone was staring at me and whispering about me, and I actually developed agoraphobia and was afraid to go out, in the worst period I didn't go out in months. Luckily I'm a lot better now but I still have to force myself to go out sometimes, and I do still struggle with my MH son, but not gonna lie it's been hard work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For anyone in this situation online gameing can be a grate outlet

Comfort off your own home and by your self but also have friends to talk to an play with can be a grate help

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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"This is my life.

After the last 18 months, you find out who is really there for you.

Permanent working from home has been put in place.

I'm ok. I cope.

Friends are few and far between. But I invite guests when I want them, family, playmates or friends.

I intend going back to the gym and thinking about a solo holiday in spring.

I want a partner but its not the end of the world.

Plus I love my home. "

Loving ower own home is such a great feeling , completely the feel and meaning of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many of you live alone?

Not only living alone at home but in the sense of the daily life where you have no family, you have no friends to come at your house just to chat or watch a movie or friends to go out,you have no one to open about yourself or talk about your worries or dreams, and the only time you are with people is when you go work.

Is anyone living this situation?

How do you cope? "

That’s life and it goes on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Learn to like your own company think the lockdowns didn't help but hay ho crack on don't ya, hobbies and real friends showed their true colours through the pandemic making time those who didn't get dropped out. Think living alone does make you see a greater perspective on life tho

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I love being and living alone...nobody to answer to..

It's like wedded bliss ..

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I think we are social creatures and need others to listen to , talk to , laugh and cry with, share learn from and grow. If you are completely isolated then I would imagine it’s by choice and over time you get used to the safety of it and even enjoy but at a huge personal cost to growing and living life to the full

You can live a good life alone. "

You can,, but I think it’s a limited life. For a start, swinging would be off limits

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By *ld GreyMan
over a year ago

Aintree

I live alone an first uk lockdown never seen anybody for 3 months.The only way I coped was I turned my very small flat into workshop an built lots of wooden things now a very small flat full of wooden items

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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"I love being and living alone...nobody to answer to..

It's like wedded bliss ..

"

I supose that is true , living alone you have no one to answer

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

I enjoyed my time living alone.

Peace and quiet is a wonderful thing if you enjoy your own company. I miss it. When my kids are in School and I have a day off work I sometimes just sit in the quiet and let it envelop me. I feel myself relax and distress.

You either like it or you don’t I guess.

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By *ld GreyMan
over a year ago

Aintree


"I love being and living alone...nobody to answer to..

It's like wedded bliss ..

I supose that is true , living alone you have no one to answer "

But can be lonely (find your self talking to tv)

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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"I think we are social creatures and need others to listen to , talk to , laugh and cry with, share learn from and grow. If you are completely isolated then I would imagine it’s by choice and over time you get used to the safety of it and even enjoy but at a huge personal cost to growing and living life to the full

You can live a good life alone.

You can,, but I think it’s a limited life. For a start, swinging would be off limits "

Swing clubs are a good start point

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South


"I enjoyed my time living alone.

Peace and quiet is a wonderful thing if you enjoy your own company. I miss it. When my kids are in School and I have a day off work I sometimes just sit in the quiet and let it envelop me. I feel myself relax and distress.

You either like it or you don’t I guess."

De-stress! I’m in distress when my kids get home! ((love them really!!)

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Many people won't embrace being alone and would rather exist in a stale relationship

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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"I love being and living alone...nobody to answer to..

It's like wedded bliss ..

I supose that is true , living alone you have no one to answer

But can be lonely (find your self talking to tv)"

That's where my question goes

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I live alone and spend most of my time alone. Sometimes it’s ok, but today I’ve really struggled. It’s been a beautiful day and everyone I knew was busy with their families. I didn’t want to spend another day alone but didn’t have anyone to do anything with.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Yes, this is pretty much exactly me.

I live alone and have done for the last two and a half years, the only other person who has been in this house in that time has been the estate agent, just the once.

My family is back in the U.K. and I don’t really socialise here, occasionally going for coffee with a client, although I did get invited for dinner at a clients house a couple of weeks ago, first time I’ve been out in the evening for over a year. My work doesn’t really involve anyone else so I don’t see people that way, so I can go for quite long periods without actually using my voice to talk to someone else other than a shop assistant, so almost all my social interaction is online.

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By *ld GreyMan
over a year ago

Aintree


"I live alone and spend most of my time alone. Sometimes it’s ok, but today I’ve really struggled. It’s been a beautiful day and everyone I knew was busy with their families. I didn’t want to spend another day alone but didn’t have anyone to do anything with.

And of you go sit in sun in park your looked at like a freak

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place


"I think we are social creatures and need others to listen to , talk to , laugh and cry with, share learn from and grow. If you are completely isolated then I would imagine it’s by choice and over time you get used to the safety of it and even enjoy but at a huge personal cost to growing and living life to the full

You can live a good life alone.

You can,, but I think it’s a limited life. For a start, swinging would be off limits "

Confused... Swinging or whatever you call this is an activity that doesnt affect whether you live alone or not.

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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"I enjoyed my time living alone.

Peace and quiet is a wonderful thing if you enjoy your own company. I miss it. When my kids are in School and I have a day off work I sometimes just sit in the quiet and let it envelop me. I feel myself relax and distress.

You either like it or you don’t I guess."

That is very important it allows you to have your own space in that period of time i would guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have several voices in my head so it's not an issue...

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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"I think we are social creatures and need others to listen to , talk to , laugh and cry with, share learn from and grow. If you are completely isolated then I would imagine it’s by choice and over time you get used to the safety of it and even enjoy but at a huge personal cost to growing and living life to the full

You can live a good life alone.

You can,, but I think it’s a limited life. For a start, swinging would be off limits

Confused... Swinging or whatever you call this is an activity that doesnt affect whether you live alone or not. "

So true

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

I used to feel a bit lonely if I had company over and when they went home the house felt empty and I missed their energy but not necessarily them (if that makes sense?). So I’d put my music on, have a nice long soak in the bath and just relax. It soon passed.

I didn’t dwell on it, I just got on with doing stuff.

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By *ake and ScribbleCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

That is exactly my life and I like it.

I do have a few friends and family but I'm in total control over when I see them, I certainly don't want anyone popping by.

Is the person you're talking about struggling?

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Love the green day boulevard of broken dreams.

My shadow's the only one that walks beside me

My shallow heart's the only thing that's beating

Sometimes I wish someone out there will find me

Till then I walk alone….

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

I would say the trick to coping is understanding yourself more and understanding this is your Journey and you are the driver to some extend.

Alone does not mean lonely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup that's basically me. No family, lots of people I'm friendly with but none close, wasn't how I saw my life panning out but its how it is, bout 95% of the time I'm quite happy. Times when I long for company but what you gonna do, not going to cry over it. The serenity is a fair exchange. I've no worries, no rows or fall outs, no one messes the place or leaves crap lying around. My only worry is I'm getting more n more used to it and less inclined to meet people. I'd not choose this way of life but.... Its what I've got so gotta make most of it

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By *ake and ScribbleCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire


"I think we are social creatures and need others to listen to , talk to , laugh and cry with, share learn from and grow. If you are completely isolated then I would imagine it’s by choice and over time you get used to the safety of it and even enjoy but at a huge personal cost to growing and living life to the full

You can live a good life alone.

You can,, but I think it’s a limited life. For a start, swinging would be off limits "

If its a life that someone chooses, it's not limited at all.

I live my full life...on my own with occasional interactions of my choosing, including those of the swinging kind.

T.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"How many of you live alone?

Not only living alone at home but in the sense of the daily life where you have no family, you have no friends to come at your house just to chat or watch a movie or friends to go out,you have no one to open about yourself or talk about your worries or dreams, and the only time you are with people is when you go work.

Is anyone living this situation?

How do you cope? "

They say you can be alone in a crowd. I Have been alone pretty much all my working life, i.have travelled the world many times over, airpory lounges, hotels, restaurants. It is a state of mind and is very difficult, but i guess for me it was my focus tjat got me through, focussed about who i am and my work.

But for everyone it is different, you have to find your focus and be thenperson you want to be.

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place


"Love the green day boulevard of broken dreams.

My shadow's the only one that walks beside me

My shallow heart's the only thing that's beating

Sometimes I wish someone out there will find me

Till then I walk alone…. "

Posted by a couple

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By *ld GreyMan
over a year ago

Aintree

You learn to get up an get on listen to music or tv just background noise (don't know if it's better than being with somebody ) but you do what you want when you want without asking or thinking of others

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place


"I live alone and spend most of my time alone. Sometimes it’s ok, but today I’ve really struggled. It’s been a beautiful day and everyone I knew was busy with their families. I didn’t want to spend another day alone but didn’t have anyone to do anything with.

And of you go sit in sun in park your looked at like a freak

"

Who says sitting out in the sun makes you a freak.

Granted a man sitting aline in a busy children's play park is to be avoided obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of Liver with fava beans and a dash of chianti.

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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Yup that's basically me. No family, lots of people I'm friendly with but none close, wasn't how I saw my life panning out but its how it is, bout 95% of the time I'm quite happy. Times when I long for company but what you gonna do, not going to cry over it. The serenity is a fair exchange. I've no worries, no rows or fall outs, no one messes the place or leaves crap lying around. My only worry is I'm getting more n more used to it and less inclined to meet people. I'd not choose this way of life but.... Its what I've got so gotta make most of it "

Sending

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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"I live alone and spend most of my time alone. Sometimes it’s ok, but today I’ve really struggled. It’s been a beautiful day and everyone I knew was busy with their families. I didn’t want to spend another day alone but didn’t have anyone to do anything with.

"

Sending

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy on my own.. i don't like people much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yup that's basically me. No family, lots of people I'm friendly with but none close, wasn't how I saw my life panning out but its how it is, bout 95% of the time I'm quite happy. Times when I long for company but what you gonna do, not going to cry over it. The serenity is a fair exchange. I've no worries, no rows or fall outs, no one messes the place or leaves crap lying around. My only worry is I'm getting more n more used to it and less inclined to meet people. I'd not choose this way of life but.... Its what I've got so gotta make most of it

Sending "

Aww thank you xxx

Reading it back it makes me sound like a saddo... I'm deffo not lol I've a good life and had a gut full of dramas so the quiet life is all good but ty xx

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"I live alone and spend most of my time alone. Sometimes it’s ok, but today I’ve really struggled. It’s been a beautiful day and everyone I knew was busy with their families. I didn’t want to spend another day alone but didn’t have anyone to do anything with.

And of you go sit in sun in park your looked at like a freak

"

I don’t feel like anyone would look at me like a freak, but on days when I’m lonely it makes it worse for me to do things alone that I want to be doing with other people

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"I live alone and spend most of my time alone. Sometimes it’s ok, but today I’ve really struggled. It’s been a beautiful day and everyone I knew was busy with their families. I didn’t want to spend another day alone but didn’t have anyone to do anything with.

Sending "

Appreciated. Thank you.

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By *nlivene OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Yup that's basically me. No family, lots of people I'm friendly with but none close, wasn't how I saw my life panning out but its how it is, bout 95% of the time I'm quite happy. Times when I long for company but what you gonna do, not going to cry over it. The serenity is a fair exchange. I've no worries, no rows or fall outs, no one messes the place or leaves crap lying around. My only worry is I'm getting more n more used to it and less inclined to meet people. I'd not choose this way of life but.... Its what I've got so gotta make most of it

Sending

Aww thank you xxx

Reading it back it makes me sound like a saddo... I'm deffo not lol I've a good life and had a gut full of dramas so the quiet life is all good but ty xx"

No you haven't sounded like that at all , i completely understand your words

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Currently I house share but we have our own separate living rooms etc. I did live alone for years and I didn't mind it at all. I enjoy having my own space and quite content in my own company a lot of the time.

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

I house share with my great friends who treat me like one of the family, but i do spend a lot of time on my own as i find it hard to interact with people due to having autism but i know they are there if i need company...

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Everyone needs to find a way or seek help..

It's Mental Health Day. Let's offer help

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