FabSwingers.com forum: How to deal with negative thoughts?

By *unandgamegeek OP Man
over a year ago

Bolton

Let's discuss how negative thoughts affect us and how we they can be dealt with.

Negative thoughts can certainly be soul crushing and once they take hold, it can feel like you've fallen into a dark abyss that can be hard to get out.

They can make you lose your confidence and your self-esteem.

They can make you feel unattractive and unwanted.

They can ruin your day or your night out.

They can make you lose interest in anything and everything.

They can make you feel isolated and alone.

And sadly, they can make you feel hateful about yourself.

If you or someone you know feels like this, my advice would be to talk about how you or they feel and how bad it affects you or them.

No one should feel like they have to do this alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried a Councillor?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sport and being busy is my only treatment so far we shall see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's discuss how negative thoughts affect us and how we they can be dealt with.

Negative thoughts can certainly be soul crushing and once they take hold, it can feel like you've fallen into a dark abyss that can be hard to get out.

They can make you lose your confidence and your self-esteem.

They can make you feel unattractive and unwanted.

They can ruin your day or your night out.

They can make you lose interest in anything and everything.

They can make you feel isolated and alone.

And sadly, they can make you feel hateful about yourself.

If you or someone you know feels like this, my advice would be to talk about how you or they feel and how bad it affects you or them.

No one should feel like they have to do this alone."
I find running early in the morning clears my mind and also sets me up for the day ahead

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I don’t have negative thought. I’m lucky as I wouldn’t want to be consumed by them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's discuss how negative thoughts affect us and how we they can be dealt with.

Negative thoughts can certainly be soul crushing and once they take hold, it can feel like you've fallen into a dark abyss that can be hard to get out.

They can make you lose your confidence and your self-esteem.

They can make you feel unattractive and unwanted.

They can ruin your day or your night out.

They can make you lose interest in anything and everything.

They can make you feel isolated and alone.

And sadly, they can make you feel hateful about yourself.

If you or someone you know feels like this, my advice would be to talk about how you or they feel and how bad it affects you or them.

No one should feel like they have to do this alone."

Have been all of those and am still a couple of them now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first thing i do is try to flip them into a positive statement. .

Having a crap day? Even the worst day is only 24 hours long x

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By *iking67Man
over a year ago

BP Auckland

To be honest I could handle my negativity well until I met my ex and she got me to talk about it.

Shitloads harder now. I was in a much better place keeping things to myself and getting on with it.

I know that is not the modern way right now but stoicism is the way for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep trying different things but not sure what works

Getting out does but that can be a struggle at times

Am fortunate have people to talk to but don't like bringing down their day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Therapy

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By *unandgamegeek OP Man
over a year ago

Bolton

Can't help but feel a bit negative at the moment. Was gonna go to a club today but didn't go due to lack of confidence.

Now I feel like I've let myself down for not going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find swimming therapeutic. Sensory deprivation and thinking about technique means I don't have much room in my head for negative thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always Read, try cbt and learn how to put these thoughts under control

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I think dealing with negative thoughts is an incredibly personal journey that most if not all will go through and whilst coping techniques can help, its not a one size fits all. Threads like this help as different techniques can be adopted and tried

Mine is to pick apart the thought through mindfulness and then meditate out any leftover negativity

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I think the work Byron Katie does with reframing is amazing. You can watch videos on YouTube.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My solution has been to learn to not give them power. I'm feeling shit? That's fine, there's nothing wrong with that, I may want to feel happy but I don't need to. My body will still work whatever I'm feeling.

It can be hard but there's two states I try to avoid, one is what I call wallowing in the thoughts. That is when I start believing not only that these thoughts are objectively true but that there's nothing I can do about it and nothing will ever get better etc etc.

The other is believing I need to fight these feelings, that the only way to get through is somehow defeating them. This is invariably impossible and cycles straight back to wallowing.

Instead I try to ignore the thoughts. Recognise that they are only thoughts in my head and may or may not bear any relationship to reality but either way they will change. I'll have a work call that will distract me, I'll read a joke that makes me laugh, I'll go for a run and my mind is too occupied with that to think shit etc etc. No matter how bad it feels it always passes off only temporarily so until then crack on head with your miserable nonsense, I'm just going to ignore you until you sort yourself out. Give me a call when you've stopped this nonsense.

Sounds stupid but it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to counter them with a positive one...

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By *edheadjMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Exercise helps me, but I would highly recommend talking to a councillor. I've been a few times and it's really helped some of my issues.

Everyone uses them. My friend is a psychologist and both her and most of her colleagues go to see their own therapist too.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

If negative thoughts come into my head I go for a run, have a bath and play happy music. I also give myself a kick up the arse and remember how much more fortunate I am compared to many.

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