FabSwingers.com forum: Your thoughts on WINKS...

By *oungJayy OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Hey all! Just a topic to talk about, what're your personal thoughts on winking others or being winked?

For me; I tend to enjoy giving/receiving a wink, I feel it's a sign of an interest, so if someone winks me, I feel that they may be interested to talk more, which is when I can respond through message or otherwise.

I give winks to show my interests, bus mainly for me to send, it means I'm s little shy sending a message as I don't feel confident you'll reply, so I guess it's let's painful to be ignored by a wink, than a message?

What are your thoughts? Happy to hear'em

And as always: enjoy fabbing!

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Not much I rarely look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never check my winks and very rarely give them out. Think I've done it once on a forum thread!

I'd much prefer whoever is interested to message as I'm always happy to talk but will tell them our stance to start with (not interest or not looking).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 will keep one eye on this post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I never look at them.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

Winks are good - giving and receiving. See a few status that say don't wink you'll be blocked - sad really because some people are very shy, winking may actually be a big thing for them to do. I see no harm in winks at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll reply to a wink. But if the cant hold a conversation I'll stop replying. Let's be honest if your too shy to a have a conversation on a site where your anonymous, what are you going to be like in a meet.

I'll wink a profile I like but only if there is no information about them or the type of person they are looking for to compose a non generic message.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Winks are like an initial smile in a pub. They have their place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A decent player but hasn't progressed as I thought.

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By *oungJayy OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I'll reply to a wink. But if the cant hold a conversation I'll stop replying. Let's be honest if your too shy to a have a conversation on a site where your anonymous, what are you going to be like in a meet.

I'll wink a profile I like but only if there is no information about them or the type of person they are looking for to compose a non generic message."

Not fully shy in that sense, but more or less just don't like the feeling of being ignored, so I always prefer people coming to me/messaging me, but that hardly happens haha

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

I can’t really see the point of them, I don’t use them myself and I would much rather someone just said hello

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By *eegh0stsMan
over a year ago

"Not much I rarely look

So that’s why you’ve ignored me for so long

Wishful thinking on my part.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I don't usually take much notice of winks, I'd rather someone make an effort and send a msg.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I use winks as my likes

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"Not much I rarely look

So that’s why you’ve ignored me for so long

Wishful thinking on my part.

Ohh

hello

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

"Not much I rarely look

So that’s why you’ve ignored me for so long

Wishful thinking on my part.

Winkful thinking maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll wink a profile I like but only if there is no information about them or the type of person they are looking for to compose a non generic message.

Not fully shy in that sense, but more or less just don't like the feeling of being ignored, so I always prefer people coming to me/messaging me, but that hardly happens haha "

Not surprised it hardly happens, there are probably hundred of guys to each woman on here. Many guys complain they don't get a reply to messages.

Woman and couples get hundreds of message, you really think they are going to message first or reply to a wink.

Not saying it won't happen, but your strategy is seriously flawed for the reasons I've mentioned.

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I rarely look at them , until threads like this are posted and remind me that winks exist. I never send them.

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

It is a feature on the site, I consider it another form of communication, especially if I am interested in the person, their pics, or the overall profile. If someone winks back, I can then send a short message. Not sure why people associate winking with laziness. Laziness is doing nothing or ignoring winks....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never look "

Gutted at this LiverpoolGirl, I’ve got a repetitive strain on my thumb for all of the winks I’ve sent your way…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never really send a wink and can’t remember the last time I did outside of forum games. I do notice that I have winks waiting for me sometimes but it’s not something I look at regularly

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By *eegh0stsMan
over a year ago

"Not much I rarely look

So that’s why you’ve ignored me for so long

Wishful thinking on my part.

Ohh

hello

Trying to get back into my good books now?

Hello

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Like sending winks think they are playfull and receiving .look at it as flirting 4 shy people lol x

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I always thought they would be preferable to getting hundreds of messages.

Most people check a profile out before replying to messages anyway, so this just shortcuts the need for an initial message being written or read when there is no interest.

If any interest exists, a simple wink back can than start of the messaging.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't really look at them anymore. But in saying that I've met some amazing people where first contact was a wink so I really don't mind them I've just gotten out of the habit of checking them .

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

WINKING ... wait, what?... oops sorry though we were back on a Winkathon session...

...I'll leave quietly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel totally indifferent about them, I never check mine and have never sent one but for those that use them I'm sure they are a great little feature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a nice wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't wink, I don't check my Winks. They are never from ppl I'd want to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look at them much tbh. I've winked a guy maybe twice? I'd be more likely to fab photos.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

I wink women with very little info or no pics on their profile.

then they can look at my profile and decide if i am someone they like the sound of.

if i see a profile that is filled out with info and pics then i message and wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a wink.

Always message when I get one xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I treat winks just as you’ve described Op, just a quick “I like the look of your profile, come see mine” kinda thing.

There’s a lot of hate for winks in general it seems but I’m more than happy with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've ever really winked to anybody.

I never look to see who has winked at me, so for me it's quite a pointless feature but if they work for others then fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do look at those who wink me but I don’t see it being a conversation starter

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Just a polite way of saying oioi as being noticed as people never know what to expect sending the first message and if they respond still boils down to whose going to message first.i do check mine and do respond in some way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore them, it's a bit lazy imo if you are doing it to try and get the person to message you. If I am Interested I will message. If someone else is interested I think they should message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will ignore them mostly, especially if no face. Just send messages

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"Not much I rarely look

So that’s why you’ve ignored me for so long

Wishful thinking on my part.

Ohh

hello

Trying to get back into my good books now?

Hello

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I enjoy giving and receiving winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s “winks” from people far away I don’t get? It’s not as if your going to meet them

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Wink are great

everything starts somewhere why not a wink..

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By *bostCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

We see them as a possible ice breaker, the winker giving whoever they have winked at the chance to see they are interested and then reciprocate if they wish. If they don’t, then no harm done.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"I ignore them, it's a bit lazy imo if you are doing it to try and get the person to message you. If I am Interested I will message. If someone else is interested I think they should message. "

I disagree with it being lazy.

It's not a replacement of a first message, but a first step to gauge interest before wasting each others time. If you get a wink back, then you send that first message.

People will check your profile before deciding to reply to a message anyway. It just brings that step slightly earlier.

I'm suprised more women don't embrace them, when I see so many complaining about the number of messages they get. Especially as people are limited to sending one wink per month (I think) per person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cba with them

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We've had meets that started with a wink. But also we receive many a wink, we wink back then nothing. Then some wink again in a couple of months! We put it in private notes to ignore future winks, we're confused to their motive

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By *entlemenpipMan
over a year ago

not far

So I like winks and will usually send a thanks for them.

I do use them but most of the time it's when a profile doesn't give much to start a conversation from or if I think I've got no chance with someone but want to at least try and get there attention

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t check my winks.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Winks are like an initial smile in a pub. They have their place

Absolutely this

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I only notice winks when people mention them. I’m going to look at winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever look when it’s a forum game, or a post like this *brb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use winks as sign of interest on my part

They’ve been successful as an icebreaker so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look.

I used to return a wink if I received one from someone I liked but not once did it trigger a message and if I messaged them, not once did I get a reply.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I rarely check

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will say though, my first ever meet, nearly two years ago, I winked him and he messaged, and we’re still seeing each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are good aimed men as we get fuck all messages and it makes us feel partially loved.(until we wink/message back and we get no response

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Winks are pointless aimed at women as they have a few hundred "FAF" messages to wade through each day. I can't recall the last time I sent a wink and it was reciprocated tbh! (I still do it though

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Rather have a message as more often than not we just delete all winks without looking at who was winking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to send winks as a way of saying I'm interested. If I get a wink back then I'll always reply with a follow up message.

I also like to receive winks.

I wink is like saying to the person your interested

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Speaking in very general terms:

Men, who get so few winks even that even *one* is a memorable occasion, think they're a really useful feature and a great low-intensity way of establishing contact.

Women, who get hundreds or thousands of winks, think they're pointless and don't check them.

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By *orthseatiger69Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire

"I use winks as my likes "

This for me also - It shows I have an interest in you .

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I never look. Would much rather send a message. Useless function if I'm honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They’ve worked for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to wink if I see a profile I like (Mrs)

I'm a little shy on 1st messages.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I will wink if I like a profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not much I rarely look

Same, I need an assistant to run the profile as it stands atm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m all for winks, I think it’s just a quick and easy way of saying I like what I see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they’re a good thing

I send them to show interest, which doesn’t mean I don’t know how to string a message together, and if the person responds I will then send a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of our best meets began with a wink.

Used correctly, they're great.

Example .........

Profile One sends a wink to draw attention to their profile.

Profile Two likes their profile and so winks back

Profile One then takes it as an invite to message and so does, sending a reasonable message expressing what they like about Profile One.

For us, much better than receiving messages that don't appeal, a wink is much easier to ignore

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"They’ve worked for me

Ya big winker

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"Not much I rarely look

Same, I need an assistant to run the profile as it stands atm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of our best meets began with a wink.

Used correctly, they're great.

Example .........

Profile One sends a wink to draw attention to their profile.

Profile Two likes their profile and so winks back

Profile One then takes it as an invite to message and so does, sending a reasonable message expressing what they like about Profile One.

For us, much better than receiving messages that don't appeal, a wink is much easier to ignore"

This 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of our best meets began with a wink.

Used correctly, they're great.

Example .........

Profile One sends a wink to draw attention to their profile.

Profile Two likes their profile and so winks back

Profile One then takes it as an invite to message and so does, sending a reasonable message expressing what they like about Profile One.

For us, much better than receiving messages that don't appeal, a wink is much easier to ignore

This 100%

Couldn't agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I check the winks out all the time, have a little stalk if I am interested will reply x

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By *ake and ScribbleCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Never look.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We never look at them or send them. Much prefer a decent message.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

We don't want them and our profile states that so we don't feel at all guilty about just deleting them.

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By *xploringgentMan
over a year ago

London &

I will send a wink if I like the look of something; wether it’s a picture or something somebody has said in their profile…if I get a reply I’ll then send a message

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By *xploringgentMan
over a year ago

London &

"Some of our best meets began with a wink.

Used correctly, they're great.

Example .........

Profile One sends a wink to draw attention to their profile.

100% Agree

Profile Two likes their profile and so winks back

Profile One then takes it as an invite to message and so does, sending a reasonable message expressing what they like about Profile One.

For us, much better than receiving messages that don't appeal, a wink is much easier to ignore

This 100%

Couldn't agree more

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

I love winks and always check mine and I like sending them. Nice and easy way of showing interest

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Never looked at them. Apart from if I play a winking game which is rarely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They’ve worked for me

Ya big winker

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"I tend to wink if I see a profile I like (Mrs)

I'm a little shy on 1st messages. "

This is so me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use winks as my likes "

I thought thats what a Wink meant. Indicator you like the pics & profile etc.

Some say its lazy.

I have openly messaged as well. But not a one word, nor do you wanna Shag/ fuck opener!

Its really a numbers game. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ignore them, it's a bit lazy imo if you are doing it to try and get the person to message you. If I am Interested I will message. If someone else is interested I think they should message.

I disagree with it being lazy.

It's not a replacement of a first message, but a first step to gauge interest before wasting each others time. If you get a wink back, then you send that first message.

People will check your profile before deciding to reply to a message anyway. It just brings that step slightly earlier.

I'm suprised more women don't embrace them, when I see so many complaining about the number of messages they get. Especially as people are limited to sending one wink per month (I think) per person. "

I prefer a direct approach.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I give a wink, to save time. I save time writing a well thought out 'you're fit' message, it save them time reading the message and deleting it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great ice breaker that saves everyone time

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Winks are good - giving and receiving. See a few status that say don't wink you'll be blocked - sad really because some people are very shy, winking may actually be a big thing for them to do. I see no harm in winks at all"

Seems a bit OTT

I'd never block someone for winking but I don't check them unless a thread like this prompts me, so they're rather wasted on me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t check them and the odd time we do we just bulk delete them. We reply to every message if we feel they’ve read our profile and put a bit of effort into it though.

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I like a wink, shows they are interested in me. Miles better than, "alright babe, I really want to fuck your pussy so hard and make you wet" alongside a friend request

fellas it ain't gonna work for me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can barely keep up with messages (who am I kidding, I can't) so I don't even look at winks. I'm not offended by them, I just don't check them.

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By *oungJayy OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I must admit, I do send winks but that's because I like receiving them, as a sign of interest, however I don't think I've ever had a reply from just winking, which seems like a feature not very well optimized on here because of what is means to many others in a negative light x

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