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How do you build confidence and feel sexy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When men only want you as a body to shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When men only want you as a body to shag?"

You need to do that yourself, you don’t need a man on here especially on here to make you feel sexy. You’re right most don’t give a shit what you look like, Boost your own inner confidence. Do whatever makes you happy and don’t do it for anyone else. You look sexy as hell btw x

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By *teve48ukMan
over a year ago

Ware

You are picking the wrong man!!

Women are not a commodity or pieces of meat!

Everyone should be treated with respect!

Love yourself and you will be loved! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shoes.

When I’m feeling a bit needy I buy some new shoes.

Shoes are the best.

Do men really just see me as a body to shag

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

My sexual partners are my friends first, I'm not a piece of meat and refuse to be treated like one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When men only want you as a body to shag?

You need to do that yourself, you don’t need a man on here especially on here to make you feel sexy. You’re right most don’t give a shit what you look like, Boost your own inner confidence. Do whatever makes you happy and don’t do it for anyone else. You look sexy as hell btw x"

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By *teve48ukMan
over a year ago

Ware


"My sexual partners are my friends first, I'm not a piece of meat and refuse to be treated like one "

Definitely agree!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are picking the wrong man!!

Women are not a commodity or pieces of meat!

Everyone should be treated with respect!

Love yourself and you will be loved! X"

It's been a while since I picked one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You learn to say no and go after what you want. Set your own ground rules and no compromises

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By *hunkymonkey81Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

First and foremost women should always be treated with respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When men only want you as a body to shag?"

Pay in same coin, set your bar high, tit for tat my view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to not care what random men you don't know think!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just to clarify, I don't give in to these men. The point is that they are the only men that show any interest in men.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"When men only want you as a body to shag?"

By telling them men to fuck right off!

Take ownership of who you are, and be proud of who you are, even if it's currently only little things you can find.

The opinion of strangers means nothing.

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By *yes146Man
over a year ago

London

Need to understand that beauty is within, believe in yourself and love and you will ooze sexuality.

It's about the mind rather that body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence comes from within, not from what other people think.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"When men only want you as a body to shag?

By telling them men to fuck right off!

Take ownership of who you are, and be proud of who you are, even if it's currently only little things you can find.

The opinion of strangers means nothing. "

This

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"Just to clarify, I don't give in to these men. The point is that they are the only men that show any interest in men."

How are you gauging that?

I'm sure there are plenty of decent guys that would be interested, but what are you giving them to be interested in?

Your profile says nothing about you except you don't want meets, so I'm guessing you only get messaged by chancers.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Personally speaking, being wanted as a body to shag *is* what builds my confidence and makes me feel sexy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just to clarify, I don't give in to these men. The point is that they are the only men that show any interest in men.

How are you gauging that?

I'm sure there are plenty of decent guys that would be interested, but what are you giving them to be interested in?

Your profile says nothing about you except you don't want meets, so I'm guessing you only get messaged by chancers. "

I've been around for several years. This is survival mode

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"When men only want you as a body to shag?"

I feel like this from time to time and have a break from Fab.

You can block men from messaging you and then search for guys you want to connect with. Do it on your terms.

Then take some new photos, ones that you like & make you feel good, and keep them in your private album to send to guys after you've chatted for a while.

This site should be fun and you are in control of what happens throughout. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs op it can be hard but you just have to believe in your self I know it sounds easy and I know it’s not

Op for you https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AEVaK0e1kTE

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Learn to love yourself first and when you let someone into your life it’s on your terms x

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"Just to clarify, I don't give in to these men. The point is that they are the only men that show any interest in men.

How are you gauging that?

I'm sure there are plenty of decent guys that would be interested, but what are you giving them to be interested in?

Your profile says nothing about you except you don't want meets, so I'm guessing you only get messaged by chancers.

I've been around for several years. This is survival mode "

Ah, fair enough.

Unfortunately as a woman you will get a lot of men like that, because many treat it like just as a sex site

I've seen you post on the forums and you seem nice enough, but the vast majority don't use forums.

So for those, if you want to attract a different type of man, you have to advertise yourself to those men.

You'll still get chancers unfortunately though, but just try to ignore them.

Have you tried social events where you can get talking to people more, and it's more about the person than the body?

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"When men only want you as a body to shag?

You need to do that yourself, you don’t need a man on here especially on here to make you feel sexy. You’re right most don’t give a shit what you look like, Boost your own inner confidence. Do whatever makes you happy and don’t do it for anyone else. You look sexy as hell btw x"

This

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Love your self … then others can love you to

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

If you find your worth solely or predominantly from others, your foundations won't last. Work on yourself and others won't matter.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Body confidence doesn't come from the men who want to shag you.

For me body confidence is about feeling at ease with yourself. I could shag the most beautiful man in the world and still have a wobble about my appearance. Don't give that power to others posses it yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hugs op it can be hard but you just have to believe in your self I know it sounds easy and I know it’s not

Op for you https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AEVaK0e1kTE"

Great song,thank you

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

It comes from within, yes a man can tell you your beautiful, but until you believe it yourself then you're always going to doubt them. I always go for the friends route first, if they're truly interested in you they accept you for you not just what your physical appearance is.

Self worth is the most important factor in life, I'm only just beginning to see myself as others do by making the choice to put me first and not just accept blind comments from random strangers, if they want me then they have to want all of me not just physically.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone for your wise words. I will have a word with myself,regularly.

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By *areToShareCouple
over a year ago

Bingham


"When men only want you as a body to shag?"

You categorically state..twice, in your very short profile that you're not meeting. So what has brought about this concern may we ask?

Is it a general low confidence/ low esteem feeling , or is not meeting a result of an experience being made to just feel like a body to shag?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago

wirral

On the site...well its a swingers site so that's the whole point for a lot of people.

In real life...when you feel good about yourself you'll naturally feel confident and sexy and attract the right men. If there's things you don't like about yourself spend some time working on them and wear/buy some clothes and makeup that make you feel sexy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When men only want you as a body to shag?

You categorically state..twice, in your very short profile that you're not meeting. So what has brought about this concern may we ask?

Is it a general low confidence/ low esteem feeling , or is not meeting a result of an experience being made to just feel like a body to shag?"

Everything you mention.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"You are picking the wrong man!!

Women are not a commodity or pieces of meat!

Everyone should be treated with respect!

Love yourself and you will be loved! X"

Why is she picking the wrong men ? If a woman wants a man solely for her sexual gratification , many men on here would go for that , but if a man does it he’s responsible for what it does to a woman’s confidence.

The two things aren’t connected , confidence comes from what you do , earn, achieve not others views of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When men only want you as a body to shag?"

I tell the men, I know you view me as a slab of meat, but behind this hot body is a man of depth and true emotion, entice my brain and the rest will follow.

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By *areToShareCouple
over a year ago

Bingham


"When men only want you as a body to shag?

You categorically state..twice, in your very short profile that you're not meeting. So what has brought about this concern may we ask?

Is it a general low confidence/ low esteem feeling , or is not meeting a result of an experience being made to just feel like a body to shag?

Everything you mention. "

Well it's very upsetting to hear that. We tried to message you but you've couples blocked so we couldn't. Not sure where you are but we're in the Midlands.. Derby and if you ever wanted to meet up socially as friends to talk...be more than happy to.

Stay strong, value your worth as a human being and accept you're beautiful as you, for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hugs op it can be hard but you just have to believe in your self I know it sounds easy and I know it’s not

Op for you https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AEVaK0e1kTE

Great song,thank you"

Your welcome anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are the stronger bread. Don't look in the mirror look to the mind. Be that confident person if you want something or someone go and grab it. Beauty comes from the inside. Build your confidence. Simple things to start with like wearing something you would never wear. Speaking to to someone that you would never talk to. Doing these things that you would never of done and build on it. Slowly releasing that inner you

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