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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I messaged a lady this morning and got a reply asking if I had WhatsApp, when I said I only message on here she deleted and didn’t reply.

Why would someone come on here then only want to message on another platform?

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I also refuse to use WhatsApp and its often a deal breaker.

Some of the reasons they give are WhatsApp is easier as you can video call etc and sending pics is faster.

I only add people on WhatsApp if we have arranged a meet or have already met.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I prefer to message friends on other platforms, it's quicker and easier.

However, if this is happening immediately, it might be a way to avoid Fab's rules

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I messaged a lady this morning and got a reply asking if I had WhatsApp, when I said I only message on here she deleted and didn’t reply.

Why would someone come on here then only want to message on another platform?"

More instant maybe? Notifications when people message you? Their prerogative?

Why let it bother you so much?

Why not use other platforms?

So many bloody questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I messaged a lady this morning and got a reply asking if I had WhatsApp, when I said I only message on here she deleted and didn’t reply.

Why would someone come on here then only want to message on another platform?"

It's a personal preference.

It's easier to chat on WhatsApp. Or she's a stalker and wants your phone number to invade your privacy.

You choose to only use here as is your right

She choose to not ... as is her right.

I'm sure you would have liked to have known it was a deal breaker but you are probably better off now. You guys maybe didn't have the right energy for each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ill chat a while on here,once a decent connection made then maybe WhatsApp

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By *heshirefungirlWoman
over a year ago

ammanford

I would only add someone on another platform if I classes them as a friend or if I've chatted with them on here and was on my way to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I messaged a lady this morning and got a reply asking if I had WhatsApp, when I said I only message on here she deleted and didn’t reply.

Why would someone come on here then only want to message on another platform?"

I think some see it like if your not willing to give your number out you must be cheating. Seems to be the driving narrative for a lot of things on here at the moment. Eg not accommodating, not meeting in the evenings ect. Personal/professional reasons don't seem to wash anymore

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It didn’t bother me, just thought I’d ask the question. Faster messaging and notifications makes sense, as has been said each to their own preferencesz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always get these type of requests from/especially from single males they ask watsapp and the other names escape me i think its "kik" or something like that. My phone is too old for whats app lol and we are not good with cams etc.

We chat here I try to respond to every message on FS and we may may chat via phone and the other night we met a nice guy from FS.

As others have said its a personal choice but not one for me as I could end up messaging the wrong people our our children may see some of the stuff as the mobiles are never locked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is a secret life for me. Not because I’m attached. I’m not but I don’t wish my sexual wants and desires known to my nearest and dearest. So WhatsApp, snap and Instagram are for my friends and family only. Also, I’m wary of scammers on here so would rather chat here or kik, telegram and wickr the platforms that can be used for instant messaging and calls/video calls until there’s trust enough on both sides to swap numbers and more personal details.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I messaged a lady this morning and got a reply asking if I had WhatsApp, when I said I only message on here she deleted and didn’t reply.

Why would someone come on here then only want to message on another platform?"

I tend to move onto other message platforms at a certain point. The messaging on here is rather unwieldy at times and on other platforms you can message easier.

It’s fairly standard to move if you’re getting along but not for everyone. Not everyone is comfortable giving out their numbers.

It’s just an indication that you weren’t on the same page. Take it as a sign that you weren’t compatible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will use Kik only as another communication method other than here as your phone number remains totally private ,and l find it a brilliant way of contacting someone plus you have the message instantly if you weren't logged on here .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good point about compatibility, I’ll keep doing what feels right for me and see where my journey on here goes.

Hopefully meetings and good times are yet to come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatsapp now harvests your contacts and pictures.

Whatsapp is now owned by facebook.

I would be very cautious about anything involving whatsapp/facebook and this game.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I chat on here for a good while but if I'm meeting up with someone I will want to move to WhatsApp beforehand so I have their number to give to my safety person.

It is only at the point where I'm meeting though, I don't want to give my own number until I'm comfortable with someone so I couldn't expect anyone else to do what I won't do myself!

If someone blocks me for not giving my number before I'm ready then that's good news to me - it's telling me that we're nowhere near being on the same page and I don't even need to do the "thanks but I'm not interested" shtick.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I wouldn’t use WhatsApp.

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"I messaged a lady this morning and got a reply asking if I had WhatsApp, when I said I only message on here she deleted and didn’t reply.

Why would someone come on here then only want to message on another platform?"

I find kik suggested more often, but same thing, “hi, got kik?” And if you reply no then you never hear from them again .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I messaged a lady this morning and got a reply asking if I had WhatsApp, when I said I only message on here she deleted and didn’t reply.

Why would someone come on here then only want to message on another platform?

I tend to move onto other message platforms at a certain point. The messaging on here is rather unwieldy at times and on other platforms you can message easier.

It’s fairly standard to move if you’re getting along but not for everyone. Not everyone is comfortable giving out their numbers.

It’s just an indication that you weren’t on the same page. Take it as a sign that you weren’t compatible "

To add to what tea said.

I'm chatting to a few people on here and at times messages I send get lost in the volume that the ladies are receiving. (I assume )

If you want more direct conversation then some people prefer an app made for direct conversations.

(And some people like a clear line between a group sex chat and family group chat)

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

MK

Easier to chat, wants to ask for paid services so can't get banned from here, only after chat and doesn't want to meet, or is actually some guy just pretending to be woman usually they always ask for Kik.

For me I never chat outside of here unless we have met before. Too many time wasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have given out my WhatsApp and then realise the person is using a "fuck fone" anyway and only has it on when he's horny so there was no difference to messaging on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t give any personal details out. I’ll use kik, but my WhatsApp and such is for families and friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way would I give out my phone number on here. Did it once, regretted it instantly.

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london


"I messaged a lady this morning and got a reply asking if I had WhatsApp, when I said I only message on here she deleted and didn’t reply.

Why would someone come on here then only want to message on another platform?"

That ain't no lady. That's my wife!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I prefer to use other platforms when we have connected it's easier. Not everyone uses the notification settings on here or on here 24/7 and it's attachments of trust both have.

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By *etro manMan
over a year ago

manchester

Whatt app is easy to chat and if you’re interested in seeing pictures or cam can be better and on your phone so you message any time

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Have your thought about getting a pay as you go SIM card ? ….Just an idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I chat on here for a good while but if I'm meeting up with someone I will want to move to WhatsApp beforehand so I have their number to give to my safety person.

It is only at the point where I'm meeting though, I don't want to give my own number until I'm comfortable with someone so I couldn't expect anyone else to do what I won't do myself!

If someone blocks me for not giving my number before I'm ready then that's good news to me - it's telling me that we're nowhere near being on the same page and I don't even need to do the "thanks but I'm not interested" shtick."

Totally get what your saying but giving out peoples numbers or addresses even for safety is a big no no and the main reason lots wont give out there personel number. I get your point 100% about safety but people dont really want you giving out a number that was given to you in confidence just the same as someone who tells others what address your going to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a little conversing via fab messages, if we feel it may lead somewhere.

We like to take things to a phonecall, if we get along we will then be happy to exchange face pics and stay in touch via WhatsApp.

There's no notification notice for messages here, plus we can receive additional messages whilst logged in.

It just works for us well this way.

We do use a spare/play phone for fab numbers, so we can leave the phone off when it's inconvenient to receive messages.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"I chat on here for a good while but if I'm meeting up with someone I will want to move to WhatsApp beforehand so I have their number to give to my safety person.

It is only at the point where I'm meeting though, I don't want to give my own number until I'm comfortable with someone so I couldn't expect anyone else to do what I won't do myself!

If someone blocks me for not giving my number before I'm ready then that's good news to me - it's telling me that we're nowhere near being on the same page and I don't even need to do the "thanks but I'm not interested" shtick.

Totally get what your saying but giving out peoples numbers or addresses even for safety is a big no no and the main reason lots wont give out there personel number. I get your point 100% about safety but people dont really want you giving out a number that was given to you in confidence just the same as someone who tells others what address your going to. "

Oh yes, I will always tell my safety person what address I'm going to, and I turn a tracking app on so they can see where I am (well, where my phone is at any rate).

I wouldn't meet anyone without my safety person having details.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

If you chat on WhatsApp doesn't that mean the other person can see your mobile number? That would be a definite no from me, I wouldn't give out my number until I was really confident about someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the first line on my profile that I don't talk on WhatsApp or any other messenger app , but I still get messages asking about if I WhatsApp. I will only chat on here if that's a problem then it's yours not mine. Xx

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We keep WhatsApp for friends and family and switch from here to Telegram when it feels like things are going somewhere. It's easier to get a dialogue going and see who's chatting on Telegram, which, in a couple, isn't easy to tell on here.

We'd be wary of anyone wanting to make that switch straight away.

C

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Never use WhatsApp it’s owned by FB I always worry they will find you on everything

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By *isspurplechesterWoman
over a year ago

Chester

I guess if they’re not members then their messages are limited each day, that could be a reason for some? I personally find the messaging service on here horrible and doesn’t suit me at all, so wouldn’t have a problem going to kik or something that doesn’t give out my number, but that would be after a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never use WhatsApp it’s owned by FB I always worry they will find you on everything "

So is IG

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Never use WhatsApp it’s owned by FB I always worry they will find you on everything "

Honestly, it's the Internet, unless you are using a vpn plus covering your tracks to the extreme there is not a thing that you can do digitally that won't eventually lead back to you.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"Never use WhatsApp it’s owned by FB I always worry they will find you on everything

So is IG "

I know

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By *lamorousBeautyLondonWoman
over a year ago

London

Hm, I get requests sometimes to use WhatsApp and I don't understand them at all - completely pointless to me as firstly, I won't be doing any so called "chatting". If we are not arranging a coffee date or a video call in the first few messages then I have nothing more to write to that person. Secondly, I uninstalled WhatsApp because Facebook bought it and I have no intention of installing it again. So moo point, as Joe would say

I do not mind using Kik once I have a coffee date and wish to interact further.

For me managing my messages on FS is not a problem because I do not receive that many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely give my WhatsApp...why...cos you have to give your phone number...Kik is fine for me even though it's a pity it down-graded but I do make use of the live pic feature it's ever so handy

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I would take a conversation off here if I felt comfortable doing it, obviously things like Kik and Telegram don't need you to give out your number so it's a lot safer.

There are a couple of people on here who actually have my number to chat on WhatsApp, but they are few and far between

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you chat on WhatsApp doesn't that mean the other person can see your mobile number? That would be a definite no from me, I wouldn't give out my number until I was really confident about someone."

Yep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I messaged a lady this morning and got a reply asking if I had WhatsApp, when I said I only message on here she deleted and didn’t reply.

Why would someone come on here then only want to message on another platform?"

Scammers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never use WhatsApp it’s owned by FB I always worry they will find you on everything

So is IG

I know "

That’s good

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"Never use WhatsApp it’s owned by FB I always worry they will find you on everything

So is IG

I know

That’s good "

Feck ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We keep WhatsApp for friends and family and switch from here to Telegram when it feels like things are going somewhere. It's easier to get a dialogue going and see who's chatting on Telegram, which, in a couple, isn't easy to tell on here.

We'd be wary of anyone wanting to make that switch straight away.

C"
This. Pushy is not a good look....

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"I messaged a lady this morning and got a reply asking if I had WhatsApp, when I said I only message on here she deleted and didn’t reply.

Why would someone come on here then only want to message on another platform?"

It’s so they can get your phone number and see if your in the uk

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

I prefer to talk outside of fab. I don’t get fab notifications so never know when someone has messaged me.

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By *areToShareCouple
over a year ago

Bingham

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By *areToShareCouple
over a year ago

Bingham

The danger with WhatsApp, is that it's now owned by Facebook. You'll find friends of the friend you're talking to on WhatsApp will appear in the 'People you may know' section on Facebook in your newsfeed. This is a prime opportunity for the unscrupulous on Fab to divulge your secrets to your friends. More importantly and worryingly for some, is that the person themselves you are talking to on WhatsApp will appear as a 'Someone you may know' on Facebook, again, exposing your online identity. Use caution folks..especially the ladies!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If you have direct phone contact, it can help to avoid managing a busy inbox. Otherwise, it's feasible that if there's minimal checks for compatibility first, you're just going to be a punter, if they are breaking site rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The danger with WhatsApp, is that it's now owned by Facebook. You'll find friends of the friend you're talking to on WhatsApp will appear in the 'People you may know' section on Facebook in your newsfeed. This is a prime opportunity for the unscrupulous on Fab to divulge your secrets to your friends. More importantly and worryingly for some, is that the person themselves you are talking to on WhatsApp will appear as a 'Someone you may know' on Facebook, again, exposing your online identity. Use caution folks..especially the ladies! "

Don't add phone number or email to Facebook. Use a different phone and email for sites such as Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t give my number out to anyone unless we are meeting. I also don’t use any other platform as I like to keep fab on fab.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I prefer to do all WhatsApp , it’s secure , it helps filter out time wasters and fakes and its much more convenient than messaging here, you can send images easier , voicemails etc. It’s not a deal breaker but it’s definitely my preference.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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I assume they ask for WhatsApp as it saves them using their message quota up on here, so they can still message 500 other people lol

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"The danger with WhatsApp, is that it's now owned by Facebook. You'll find friends of the friend you're talking to on WhatsApp will appear in the 'People you may know' section on Facebook in your newsfeed. This is a prime opportunity for the unscrupulous on Fab to divulge your secrets to your friends. More importantly and worryingly for some, is that the person themselves you are talking to on WhatsApp will appear as a 'Someone you may know' on Facebook, again, exposing your online identity. Use caution folks..especially the ladies! "

You are right, you do need to choose not to share your number between fb and WhatsApp , it’s trivial though. I would balance that between other risks , look what happened to Ashley Maddison. You need to protect your private messages and so far WhatsApp is the only platform that can guarantee that

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