FabSwingers.com forum: Living up to expectations?

By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

What were your expectations when you joined fab? Has it lived up to them?

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined on a whim with few expectations. On the social side it has far exceeded any I did have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not sure I had any expectations particularly, I was just curious. I suppose I was curious about more experiences with women (which I haven’t really done much about)

Any vague thought I may have had, well, blown completely out of the water.

I’ve had some utterly amazing experiences and it’s been awesome, and I’ve learnt so much about others and myself because of fab.

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I had expectations based on my partners experience. Very quickly found how much it differs.

Still it's good.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I was joined by my then partner, so had no expectations.

Lickety's expectations were to annoy someone (met) and prove to they couldn't drive me off the site.

Expectations of sex have not been met for many years.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I didn't have any expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I expected to get no interest at all and be left within the week

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"I had expectations based on my partners experience. Very quickly found how much it differs.

Still it's good. "

How did they differ?

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"I was joined by my then partner, so had no expectations.

Lickety's expectations were to annoy someone (met) and prove to they couldn't drive me off the site.

Expectations of sex have not been met for many years.

Your partner joined you up to fab? Did you not know what it was?

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"I didn't have any expectations"

Really? None at all?

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

I had no expectations; purely an exploratory exercise after some disappointing experiences elsewhere, twice.

Then Covid erupted and disrupted; next year may be more promising.

Most people are only slowly resuming their former lives; one needs to be patient and allowed people to regain their composure, before they start thinking about having some 'fun'.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Hello Nips! My only expectation/hope was that I'd find a couple of men who'd like to stick their penis in me occasionally and help me explore my bisexuality a bit. I didn't know if I'd find it to be honest - I'm a bit of a gobshite at times, waffly and they had to penetrate all of that.

Fab has exceeded my hopeful expectation; I've got a fiancé, a dear friend and a few penises have entered me along the way, sometimes I've even stayed true to my lesbian origins. I'm definitely bisexual and yes, there's been the odd blip along the way but for the most part it's been a brilliant tool that's helped me develop my sexuality and gain confidence in my sexual self.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I was joined by my then partner, so had no expectations.

Lickety's expectations were to annoy someone (met) and prove to they couldn't drive me off the site.

Expectations of sex have not been met for many years.

Your partner joined you up to fab? Did you not know what it was? "

No, I'd never heard of it. We'd met on another site and after 3 months he suggested finding a man to join us. I didn't know he's created a couple's profile here when he couldn't contact a couple he was interested in. He told me a few weeks after he created the profile and we started to meet couples.

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"I was joined by my then partner, so had no expectations.

Lickety's expectations were to annoy someone (met) and prove to they couldn't drive me off the site.

Expectations of sex have not been met for many years.

Your partner joined you up to fab? Did you not know what it was?

Goodness, that must have been a bit of a surprise!

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Hello Nips! My only expectation/hope was that I'd find a couple of men who'd like to stick their penis in me occasionally and help me explore my bisexuality a bit. I didn't know if I'd find it to be honest - I'm a bit of a gobshite at times, waffly and they had to penetrate all of that.

Hello! What a delightful fab success story

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By *antasyrealmCouple
over a year ago

Congleton

Rarely lives up to expectations. An odd gem. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is my second time on fab and I learnt lessons from the first time.

This time around I knew that fab was to add to my life. I have no expectations because life is great without fab.

It has exceeded anything I could of imagined

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I didn’t realise 90% of the messages you send would just go unopened

So in that regard no. I was t expect instant sex orgies. But I was expecting messages sent to get some kinda traction

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

I don’t expect much from anything in life these days as would rather be pleasantly surprised than let down.

One thing Didn’t expect from a swing site to have chatted to 2 women over the time here who were amazing and definitely would give it a go with (dating) if life situation was different.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

To have a bit of sex. Yes it met and exceeded my expectations. Had a couple of relationships and made some wonderful friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have low expectations so anything above that is a pleasant surprise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No expectations- so easy meet xx

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I had no expectations, but have found a gorgeous tribe that I feel a part of, found the mate to my soul, the closest friends I could hope for and some incredible sexy times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes have chatted to few lady’s one in particular couple of lady’s helping me at the moment so answer to the question is yes it has surpassed expectations made a few man friends as well fab is what you make it from personal view !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think at times I could easily be let down by fab because I expect a lot from people.

However, I know that not everyone is the same so it means when I do have really good experiences they are better than my expectations.

I will say that for all the men on fab who get a bad rep,in general I've found the men I've gotten to know far better than on dating sites. More interesting, better looking, able to hold my attention and in general just more intelligent.

I guess it's part of the reason I hang around

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

The first time I joined over 10 years ago I thought I would find regular parties / events and clubs to attend in London.Maybe even a local couple or single ladies to meet up regularly with.When I returned in September 2017 I was 3 months of my 50th birthday so I had to have a different mindset as I felt 50 would be a cut off point for a lot of single ladies and couples.My mindset now a days is no expectations no disappointments and I feel better for it

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I joined with a bisexual partner for a specific dynamic. It was an amazing journey and totally lived up to what we both wanted. As a singleton there were no expectations as it was an unknown, but I’ve had a blast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For it to be less complicated;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined about 8 years ago got chatting to someone straight away. We attended a few clubs together met some great people also. Then I had to duck out for ages due to family shit going on

it's certainly changed but shag tonight is still here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I didn’t realise 90% of the messages you send would just go unopened

So in that regard no. I was t expect instant sex orgies. But I was expecting messages sent to get some kinda traction "

i agree. Very same here.. only 6mnths in atm..

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I didn't have any expectations, but I came in hoping that it would put me in touch with more people who were a) as sexually motivated as I am, and b) would want to have some of that sex with me.

Needless to say, I have been roundly disappointed.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I joined originally nearly 8 years ago on the recommendation of a lady friend. I had a big struggle to start with like most guys but eventually lucked out when I found a lady FWB through Fab.

We quite quickly set up a couple profile and then I realised what life was like for the other half of Fab (i.e. couples and single women). We received masses of mindless messages and the odd interesting one. Having experienced the single male side I tried to be polite and understanding if we were not interested in a guy or couple.

Over time we met with great couples and some very nice guys as well as some not so good. The guys became regulars and formed my FWB's "harem" and we started to have mmfmfmm type meets. We all loved them and enjoyed the experiences. What I found most amazing was the fun, laughter and relaxed nature of the play. Not the serious, hard focus, sex I had originally anticipated.

Fab gave some ordinary housewives, male attention, sexual experiences and pleasure normally reserved for porn stars; and they absolutely loved it, and it did wonders for their self confidence!! I learnt that for me a great meet was not me getting to cum but getting others to have fun, pleasure and new experiences.

Now I rejoined as a single male it is back to 90% being ignored but every once in a while I have got to meet, with lovely people, and those rare experiences are still treasured.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came looking to tie two women together.

But it really exceeded all our expectations.

Socials and meet and greets are amazing.

Clubs are the most surreal experiences you can imagine. That feeling at the end of the night where the explosion of hormones happens needs to be experienced to believed.

Fab gave us access to memories we will always cherish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never had any expectations or aspirations,but I'm more than pleasently surprised,not just playing / meeting ,but,had some lovely conversations,and generally people I find are more genuine,I'm guessing you ladies have a different story,I don't get why some guys get all shitty over a no thanks or deleted message,just accept it and move on.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My expectations were near zero. I was trying to enter a new psychological chapter in my life and this was part of my journey of self discovery. I didn't know anything about it.

I've found Fab a tale of extremes in many ways, the best and worst of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted to leave several times in the first month due to the sheer number of crude, entitled messages. Then I found the forum

I just wanted to get away from the kink world and find people with open attitudes to sex and monogamy. I've mostly found that and some great conversations too.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I joined with no expectations, jist to have some fun if the opportunity arose, explore my bi side, all of which I've done.... It's however exceeded that and things have happened that I least expected recently

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I joined with no expectations, jist to have some fun if the opportunity arose, explore my bi side, all of which I've done.... It's however exceeded that and things have happened that I least expected recently

You're welcome

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

When I joined I saw the ‘clubs and socials’ section and dived straight into that - as I lost most of my vanilla friends when I split up with my ex (nothing new there).

I went though the ‘shiny new fuck’ stage and I’ve had some rocky times (found to my cost that there are some incredibly jealous, nasty bitches on the swinging scene) - but came out the other side with some amazing friends all over the UK that I hope will be lifelong - and a few Fb‘s/Fwb’s that are bloody lovely humans as well as being awesome shags.

In a few months I’m going on a girlie Butlins adult weekend - and next May I’m off to Jamaica with a large group of fabbers and their friends.

I never anticipated all that but I’m delighted it’s happened.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It exceeded my expectations, as it was busier than I expected.with a better mix of people too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What were your expectations when you joined fab? Has it lived up to them?

Mrs TMN x"

I had no expectations , ive been pleasntly susprised

, fab has exceeded i suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're welcome

Are you taking the credit?

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I came here from hookup sites and expected it to be as easy to find a couple of local FWBs on here as it is there, but without the expectation that we'd be on some sort of relationship path over time.

I've changed my way of thinking about this site and no longer use it primarily for that. It's not that the site hasn't met my expectations, it's that my expectations were wildly misplaced to begin with.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

You're welcome

Are you taking the credit?

Well obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I expected it to be a lot more easier and did not predict all the game playing and fantasists.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I didn’t have any expectations, I simply came for a nosey and it’s been fun and definitely interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero expectations. They have been met.

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I joined because clubs use Fab to organise guest lists for events although my local one, Townhouse, has since quit the site.

I didn't expect it to lead to meets outside of clubs but, against that expectation, it has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having fairly easily found a couple of fwb from regular dating sites I naively thought fab would have more like minded people. Totally wrong..

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

To have sex with men I fancied were my original expectations

I did that and flung my fanny far and wide in my sweetshop days, found some incredible men and kept them close for over 2 years now

What I didn't expect to find were my kinks and exploration of these is a massive journey that I am only part way through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I expected it to be full of men desperate for sex. I was not disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I came looking to tie two women together.

But it really exceeded all our expectations.

Socials and meet and greets are amazing.

Clubs are the most surreal experiences you can imagine. That feeling at the end of the night where the explosion of hormones happens needs to be experienced to believed.

***Fab gave us access to memories we will always cherish ***"

This too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I expected it to be full of men desperate for sex. I was not disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I've discovered fab after being on another site - it has lived to expectations in comparison.

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