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By *ampshire_guy40 OP   Man
over a year ago

hampshire

I need some fun in my life but it's not easy for me as I don't have any friends as such,i struggle to make friends,I live on my own,I don't have anyone to go out to pubs etc with,plus I'm very low in confidence and incredibly shy at first any tips to help me would be greatfully received.keep it nice guys no horrible or nasty remarks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you like as hobbies, can you join a club for that and build some confidence around people.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Do you have any work colleagues you could socialise with ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The common answer to this Austin mquestion is to try hobbies. I would suggest sport if this is possible for you. Comes with a bunch of benefits, good for your health, a good way to increase body confidence, good endorphins and will give you a common subject to talk to others about. If you were to join a club, it is a great way to meet people you would otherwise not be likely to mix with and as you only meet for a few hours a week, most of which is dedicated to whatever activity the club is for, you are not forced to chat to others, you get the chance to get to know people slowly.

Best of luck, loneliness is awful.

Mr

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By *ookie doughMan
over a year ago

leic

I live alone and my direct family like down south and over east coast area and I dont have a large circle of friends since splitting with my ex, it get quite lonely at times, but finding a hobby and getting out is a life saver, I personally took up photography and joined a couple of studios a while back and it's brilliant, meeting other photographers and models. It's certainly breaks up the cycle of working sleeping

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By *ampshire_guy40 OP   Man
over a year ago

hampshire

I'm a big trout fisherman so I like fishing but can't afford to go as it's way to expensive at the moment.

My work colleagues are a good bunch of people but they don't socialise after work.i struggle to make friends it's not easy at all.lonelyness is horrible.

If I feel lonely I go to work even on my days off.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Take up ceroc dancing. Great social scene

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest

Why not try going to local pub. Normally after being in a few times people will start chatting to you

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Definitely try a team sport. Find something you like. The obvious ones may not be the best for you.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Odd, this was your opening post two weeks ago ?

Guy/ ladies my new girlfriend is very keen for you to fab her photos on are profile,she doesn't have alot of confidence and I'm trying to build it back up and get her involved in playing with others.

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

I would recommend joining a gym… doesn’t need to cost too much and rather than go into work on days off go and do some training…. Loads of plans on line to get yourself fitter…. And it’s really good for mental health … good luck buddy

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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Any elderly people in the area who might appreciate you borrowing their dog for an hour or two. Then you both get exercise and it's impossible to walk a dog without saying hello to someone or other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have autism or something similar? Gives that impression a little in what you described. If you have anything like that, then get proper support in how to handle social situations and meeting people.

The hobbies others said above is something I would suggest too, find groups of like minded people with common interests. Gym is a good place too and also volunteering for charity. I was not looking for friends but ended up with them over the years with these various areas

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Odd, this was your opening post two weeks ago ?

Guy/ ladies my new girlfriend is very keen for you to fab her photos on are profile,she doesn't have alot of confidence and I'm trying to build it back up and get her involved in playing with others."

Oh like a younger sexy miss Marple

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Definitely exercise whether it’s a team sport, joining a gym, a walking group etc the endorphins from exercise instantly make you feel better, over time your confidence grows and you feel like you have more energy and a general lust for life!

Try your local sports centres or classes at the gym it’s a great way of meeting new people, good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take up ceroc dancing. Great social scene"

Seconded!

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By *ampshire_guy40 OP   Man
over a year ago

hampshire


"Odd, this was your opening post two weeks ago ?

Guy/ ladies my new girlfriend is very keen for you to fab her photos on are profile,she doesn't have alot of confidence and I'm trying to build it back up and get her involved in playing with others."
she left Me as we didn't get on very well plus I met her on Badoo

She

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a hobby you like a join some local clubs!

Pokémon go have been a big help for me! Love the community.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty of online groups you can join based around your interests OP

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

OP, posting in the forums as you have been doing is a good way to get to know and lace a laugh with people. You should check out the chatrooms too, local rooms or just the general one as this is also a good way to relax and laugh a laugh with people too.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’m not sure what strangers on the internet can do to help really.

I think that you already know what you need to do in order to relieve your loneliness but can’t for various reasons.

There are lots of things that you can do that don’t cost much.

If it’s a question of money, maybe a second p/t job. If it’s a case of social anxiety, then there are therapy options available.

It’s shitty but no one is going to come to pull you out the door and fix your loneliness, you have to do it yourself. Making excuses or giving reasons why you can’t isn’t going to help you, you need to find a way, no one else can do it for you

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By *ampshire_guy40 OP   Man
over a year ago

hampshire


"OP, posting in the forums as you have been doing is a good way to get to know and lace a laugh with people. You should check out the chatrooms too, local rooms or just the general one as this is also a good way to relax and laugh a laugh with people too."

Thanks u lovely people for the suggestions it very appreciated and I'll checkout some of the ideas u have given me accept dancing, probably end up in a&e if I did try it

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"Odd, this was your opening post two weeks ago ?

Guy/ ladies my new girlfriend is very keen for you to fab her photos on are profile,she doesn't have alot of confidence and I'm trying to build it back up and get her involved in playing with others.

Oh like a younger sexy miss Marple "

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Feel free to message mate if you fancy a chat

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I'm not sure if social groups are up and running after covid, but if you type in 'meet up' groups in your area, there are groups that meet socially for common interests. Groups for gardening, theatre etc.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Put yourself around people who you could share some mutual interests. This can include volunteering, which is an inherently rewarding hobby . People who volunteer have often good natures and could like and respect you for investing your free time to something they believe in.

Be careful that fab doesn't pull your selfesteem and confidence down!

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Sorry to hear about this o/p. Maybe join a few clubs. There are plenty on facebook and they do have meets now and again. Music is a good talking point. Try a few local gigs. Good luck!

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