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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Were they the ones who verified you?!

How were they different?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Happened to me too. Deceitful is what it is.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

If it works for them then fine, but I wouldn't really want to start a social with the awkwardness of "you're not really what I expected" disappointment when I turn up looking like myself!

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Hope they don’t read this thread lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens OP to everyone

I always do a social first so you can make sure you are attracted to the person and get a feel for their rl personality first.

Though there was one exception but we had been talking quite a while first and then she turned out to be more beautiful than her pics.

It’s just one of those risks you take on fab

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I’m what way where they different

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Hi xx they just looked different xx I know it sounds a bit shallow but it’s difficult to overcome when you have invested time in a meet xx

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Lol true !!

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Just different in looks and size xx it’s not a deal breaker if that’s what I was expecting xx

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By *errocaWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

Great pics angles can make someone look a different body shape, to what they are advertising... After many social group meets, I learnt this very quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens OP to everyone

I always do a social first so you can make sure you are attracted to the person and get a feel for their rl personality first.

Though there was one exception but we had been talking quite a while first and then she turned out to be more beautiful than her pics.

It’s just one of those risks you take on fab "

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

In all honesty if you’ve invested the time in building up a connection and the sexual connection isnt there then have you discussed this before hand? If I am due to meet someone and it just isn’t there then I’d want honesty and and the fall back will be just having a good laugh with them and enjoying their company… it works both ways before a meet… hope that makes sense

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Well op if it’s the 2 veris you have you seem to have left them great verifications. Hope they are not reading this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the easiest solution is to always have a video call before you meet. At least that way you know they're not lying about their appearance.

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

It’s not the people I have left veris for they were both as anticipated xxx

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Great idea !! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an interesting Q...what did/do you consider deceitful about what you saw ?

Probably 80% of messages to me are along the lines of 'you have the body of a 30 yo'... And I'm like, err, no i don't... It definitely looks and feels its age

It puts me off meeting as they are likely to be disappointed that I'm not what THEY thought I was as in their head they are already expecting a perfect 30yo

So which side is the deception on?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Your veris will be over the moon if they read this thread .

And yes it happens and when it does it's not a big deal as I meet for a social first with no expectations of things going farther.If they do then great if not then it's just a chat and a coffee and no harm done.

I take my pics from the best angles I can but anyone I chat to I tell them I have wobbly bits I don't hide the fact that I do. There is no point in pretending to be something I'm not when if I meet someone they will see it for themselves anyhow

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

True xx although your pics look perfect to me xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great idea !! Xx"

If you use the 'quote +reply' on someone's post it will be easier for people to follow the thread and respond

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

As I said it wasn’t my veris x I suppose it’s a learning experience xx but it’s always a bit difficult to phrase questions about what people look like without sounding like a total knob !!!

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Great idea !! Xx

If you use the 'quote +reply' on someone's post it will be easier for people to follow the thread and respond "

Thanks for the tip !! I’m new in the forums x

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Maybe put on your profile what your not looking for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to be clear and truthful, I don’t carry a power saw with me on meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's an interesting Q...what did/do you consider deceitful about what you saw ?

Probably 80% of messages to me are along the lines of 'you have the body of a 30 yo'... And I'm like, err, no i don't... It definitely looks and feels its age

It puts me off meeting as they are likely to be disappointed that I'm not what THEY thought I was as in their head they are already expecting a perfect 30yo

So which side is the deception on? "

This is a great point and yes you can actually deceive yourself into thinking someone looks like they don’t. The same way they people overlook flaws or even rad flags at times.

Such wise words from Someone so young. I may have to raise my minimum age just so you can message me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to be clear and truthful, I don’t carry a power saw with me on meets."

Goddammit

That's you on the block list

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Just to be clear and truthful, I don’t carry a power saw with me on meets."

Lol thanks for the clarification!!

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Significantly different?

Maybe they thought the same about you OP!

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By *dris12345Man
over a year ago

home

As with anything on the internet I think you have to almost expect a certain level of embellishment when it comes to profiles, photos and even verifications on here.

At the end of the day nobody is going to post photos from the least flattering angles, or highlight their worst aspects.

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Maybe put on your profile what your not looking for! "

I’m open to most as personality and confidence are also important xx it’s just disappointing when things don’t turn out as anticipated x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Significantly different?

Maybe they thought the same about you OP!"

Yes maybe they were disappointed with you seeing as they didn’t leave you any verifications as you say the 2 on your profile were ok!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to be clear and truthful, I don’t carry a power saw with me on meets.

Goddammit

That's you on the block list "

I don’t believe it.

One woman on the forum hadn’t blocked me!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"...it’s just disappointing when things don’t turn out as anticipated x"

That's understandable OP. Have a video call next time. Remember that people take photos from flattering angles and allow for that. No one looks exactly like they do in a photo because with real life comes movement, wrinkles, wobbles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's an interesting Q...what did/do you consider deceitful about what you saw ?

Probably 80% of messages to me are along the lines of 'you have the body of a 30 yo'... And I'm like, err, no i don't... It definitely looks and feels its age

It puts me off meeting as they are likely to be disappointed that I'm not what THEY thought I was as in their head they are already expecting a perfect 30yo

So which side is the deception on? "

Id go along with this too, obv guys are saying it to be nice but yes, puts me off too cause I look nothing like the 40yr old I apparently resemble and I'd be very conscious of the fact they will be expecting a 40yr old and I would turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m what way where they different"

Probably naked in profile pics, but showed up to a meet fully dressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Significantly different?

Maybe they thought the same about you OP!"

What about if you wanted biscuits and they brought u jaffas saying … these are biscuits, sir

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

I get that people want to look attractive in their pics, they want to look their best, and yes, I’m sure many of us show off our best angles, rather than purposefully posting the bits we don’t like about ourselves but I would hate to think that someone meeting me would feel that I was disappointingly not what they were expecting, it’s a crap way to start things off when you meet someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get that people want to look attractive in their pics, they want to look their best, and yes, I’m sure many of us show off our best angles, rather than purposefully posting the bits we don’t like about ourselves but I would hate to think that someone meeting me would feel that I was disappointingly not what they were expecting, it’s a crap way to start things off when you meet someone "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's an interesting Q...what did/do you consider deceitful about what you saw ?

Probably 80% of messages to me are along the lines of 'you have the body of a 30 yo'... And I'm like, err, no i don't... It definitely looks and feels its age

It puts me off meeting as they are likely to be disappointed that I'm not what THEY thought I was as in their head they are already expecting a perfect 30yo

So which side is the deception on? "

I have to look at mine everyday so I think I'm the best judge on how it looks.

Pictures are just that. This is why I do socials.

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Significantly different?

Maybe they thought the same about you OP!

What about if you wanted biscuits and they brought u jaffas saying … these are biscuits, sir "

It’s possible I guess but I sent pics that were clear both face and full body xx I love biscuits and Jaffa’s !!

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I’m what way where they different

Probably naked in profile pics, but showed up to a meet fully dressed. "

Even I’m not that stupid !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe put on your profile what your not looking for!

I’m open to most as personality and confidence are also important xx it’s just disappointing when things don’t turn out as anticipated x"

But again how much of that responsibility is on you for 'creating a fantasy' on your head?

We are REAL women, with body history and whilst we all have faces, not all of us will be made up /symmetrical /have stunning eyes

Some of us sound like honking geese.. And maybe a few of us waddle too

But that is us and we need to be accepted for who we are, not what the beholder wishes us to be or has imagined /fantasised

Every person who replies you look 'perfect' triggers a response in us that we have to be something /someone we are not. They pressure is terrible.

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By *ryingitout19Man
over a year ago

Wales

Well there’s a guy on here using my profile pic as his own! Someone is going to get a bit of a shock if they meet him!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe put on your profile what your not looking for!

I’m open to most as personality and confidence are also important xx it’s just disappointing when things don’t turn out as anticipated x"

Maybe video calls and getting to know them a little before meeting is the best option if you've been disappointed multiple times.

I like to exchange videos and build a connection with those I want to meet although I do understand this isn't for everyone. I think it gives you a better idea of that person and what to expect.

I look much better in a still photo than I do with movement. I still resemble my photos, but you don't see the wobble in my photos, and you don't see how my double chin makes an appearance when I'm talking or how my tummy rolls show up in certain positions.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

It’s deceptive if it’s so different it’s noticeable. Lots of people use filters heavily here to change the way they look.. something to look out for in the future.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"Significantly different?

Maybe they thought the same about you OP!

What about if you wanted biscuits and they brought u jaffas saying … these are biscuits, sir "

Stop! You know that's my fantasy that suddenly turned into a nightmare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m what way where they different

Probably naked in profile pics, but showed up to a meet fully dressed. "

Sooo disappointing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pictures are hard to get right, especially since it's basically impossible to be objective about your own body. I think so long as people aren't sending old photos (or doctored ones!) there's no deceit - you have eyes, you can see what they're not taking pictures of and use your head.

We have tried to be honest but it's hard because we think we're hot so any pictures of us that don't look hot are the misleading ones

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"It’s deceptive if it’s so different it’s noticeable. Lots of people use filters heavily here to change the way they look.. something to look out for in the future. "

Good tip x thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happened to me too on another site... Very dated pics... Omg it was shock horror

But yea I get the misleading pics too...guys have told me about it on here in meets they`ve had...saying the meets looked absolutely nothing like their photos

Cat-Fish are rife in here apparently...

Always cam before a meet ... simples...

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I’m what way where they different

Probably naked in profile pics, but showed up to a meet fully dressed.

Sooo disappointing "

It would be !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to be clear and truthful, I don’t carry a power saw with me on meets.

Goddammit

That's you on the block list

I don’t believe it.

One woman on the forum hadn’t blocked me!"

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Significantly different?

Maybe they thought the same about you OP!

Yes maybe they were disappointed with you seeing as they didn’t leave you any verifications as you say the 2 on your profile were ok! "

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"It happened to me too on another site... Very dated pics... Omg it was shock horror

But yea I get the misleading pics too...guys have told me about it on here in meets they`ve had...saying the meets looked absolutely nothing like their photos

Cat-Fish are rife in here apparently...

Always cam before a meet ... simples... "

I will now xx thanks but then I guess it’s how you let people down gently or vice versa if im not what they were expecting x

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Significantly different?

Maybe they thought the same about you OP!

Yes maybe they were disappointed with you seeing as they didn’t leave you any verifications as you say the 2 on your profile were ok!

"

Very possible it goes both ways !!

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)


"Maybe put on your profile what your not looking for!

I’m open to most as personality and confidence are also important xx it’s just disappointing when things don’t turn out as anticipated x

But again how much of that responsibility is on you for 'creating a fantasy' on your head?

We are REAL women, with body history and whilst we all have faces, not all of us will be made up /symmetrical /have stunning eyes

Some of us sound like honking geese.. And maybe a few of us waddle too

But that is us and we need to be accepted for who we are, not what the beholder wishes us to be or has imagined /fantasised

Every person who replies you look 'perfect' triggers a response in us that we have to be something /someone we are not. They pressure is terrible.

"

Given the events of the last 18 months and the much greater acceptance of video calls, I’m surprised that more first meets aren’t on video. I don’t think it takes away from the thrill of meeting someone in real life for the first time but certainly does allow a bit of a ‘warts and all’ view of each other.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"Just to be clear and truthful, I don’t carry a power saw with me on meets."

Oh shucks power tools are a deal breaker aren’t they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to be clear and truthful, I don’t carry a power saw with me on meets.

Oh shucks power tools are a masonry breaker aren’t they? "

Fixed that for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe put on your profile what your not looking for!

I’m open to most as personality and confidence are also important xx it’s just disappointing when things don’t turn out as anticipated x

But again how much of that responsibility is on you for 'creating a fantasy' on your head?

We are REAL women, with body history and whilst we all have faces, not all of us will be made up /symmetrical /have stunning eyes

Some of us sound like honking geese.. And maybe a few of us waddle too

But that is us and we need to be accepted for who we are, not what the beholder wishes us to be or has imagined /fantasised

Every person who replies you look 'perfect' triggers a response in us that we have to be something /someone we are not. They pressure is terrible.

Given the events of the last 18 months and the much greater acceptance of video calls, I’m surprised that more first meets aren’t on video. I don’t think it takes away from the thrill of meeting someone in real life for the first time but certainly does allow a bit of a ‘warts and all’ view of each other."

Yes i agree, if looks are what is important then definitely that would be a great option.. As you know those are not my trigger

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I walked away from someone who looked nothing like his photos. I was not happy he had lied so said hello and goodbye in the same breath. It was only a social meet but I did not even stay for a drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens OP to everyone

I always do a social first so you can make sure you are attracted to the person and get a feel for their rl personality first.

Though there was one exception but we had been talking quite a while first and then she turned out to be more beautiful than her pics.

It’s just one of those risks you take on fab "

Awww shucks hunny

Seriously though... What he said ^^^

Always a social for me, I've been caught out before... Guy was NOTHING like his picture.

And I have to have a connection with someone, otherwise it doesn't work for me.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"It's an interesting Q...what did/do you consider deceitful about what you saw ?

Probably 80% of messages to me are along the lines of 'you have the body of a 30 yo'... And I'm like, err, no i don't... It definitely looks and feels its age

It puts me off meeting as they are likely to be disappointed that I'm not what THEY thought I was as in their head they are already expecting a perfect 30yo

So which side is the deception on? "

Oh god yes. I get a lot of "you're not fat". I beg to differ - I can see myself quite clearly in mirrors.

It does put me off meeting those guys as they're obviously only seeing the flattery of my photos and not the truth of them, no matter what I say.

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I walked away from someone who looked nothing like his photos. I was not happy he had lied so said hello and goodbye in the same breath. It was only a social meet but I did not even stay for a drink."

His loss evidently!!!!

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"It happens OP to everyone

I always do a social first so you can make sure you are attracted to the person and get a feel for their rl personality first.

Though there was one exception but we had been talking quite a while first and then she turned out to be more beautiful than her pics.

It’s just one of those risks you take on fab

Awww shucks hunny

Seriously though... What he said ^^^

Always a social for me, I've been caught out before... Guy was NOTHING like his picture.

And I have to have a connection with someone, otherwise it doesn't work for me.

"

I guess you only know if there’s a connection when you meet x

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We had a single guy meet whose body clearly wasn’t what he posted on his profile, said he’d not been the gym in a while, erm I think a long while haha.

Our photos are as we are as I’d hate to meet with people and they were disappointed in how we look. I think you either have to be very brave or a chancer to give misleading pics before meeting someone who your going to get naked with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be really peed off if someone didn't look like their pics. I do make it clear though that if they don't resemble their pics then I'm quite happy to turn around and go home and not continue with the meet. Luckily I've never met someone without lots of clear recent pics. The only way I can think to avoid this would be a video call before agreeing to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always going to show pictures that are flattering and from the best angles but the viewer can also read the photos if they actually take the time to look at them and use the other information available to them. I'm a short, ample, 50 year old woman...do the maths, look at the carefully placed arm in the photos, the pose which elongates...learn to read between the lines and apply a little logic. That said, if you get as far as potentially meeting us, you'll have seen the full length nude in our friends photos, and seen a couple of face photos so you'll know exactly what you're getting.

But disappointment comes in many forms in all areas of life...I mean have you ever seen an actual Big Mac that looks like it does in a McD's ad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens OP to everyone

I always do a social first so you can make sure you are attracted to the person and get a feel for their rl personality first.

Though there was one exception but we had been talking quite a while first and then she turned out to be more beautiful than her pics.

It’s just one of those risks you take on fab

Awww shucks hunny

Seriously though... What he said ^^^

Always a social for me, I've been caught out before... Guy was NOTHING like his picture.

And I have to have a connection with someone, otherwise it doesn't work for me.

I guess you only know if there’s a connection when you meet x"

You can get a feel for someone via messaging, but yes meeting socially first is a must for me x

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I'd be really peed off if someone didn't look like their pics. I do make it clear though that if they don't resemble their pics then I'm quite happy to turn around and go home and not continue with the meet. Luckily I've never met someone without lots of clear recent pics. The only way I can think to avoid this would be a video call before agreeing to meet. "

Yes video call is the way to go xx but how do you suggest it without sounding shallow ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high."

I think it’s fair to ask for pictures to be recent, and include whatever they wish for if they seek particular things I suppose. Personally, as long as I had an idea of their face and general build, that’s great. Oh, and not filtered, it baffles me why people filter their pictures if it doesn’t reflect what they actually look like.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high."

My cock is significantly bigger in real life than the pictures on my profile would suggest

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"I'd be really peed off if someone didn't look like their pics. I do make it clear though that if they don't resemble their pics then I'm quite happy to turn around and go home and not continue with the meet. Luckily I've never met someone without lots of clear recent pics. The only way I can think to avoid this would be a video call before agreeing to meet.

Yes video call is the way to go xx but how do you suggest it without sounding shallow ?"

I don’t do video calls so don’t expect everyone will

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

My cock is significantly bigger in real life than the pictures on my profile would suggest "

Good for the ladies to know!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m the opposite apparently and was told the other day by a lovely lady that my pics on here don’t do me any justice and I am much better in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens OP to everyone

I always do a social first so you can make sure you are attracted to the person and get a feel for their rl personality first.

Though there was one exception but we had been talking quite a while first and then she turned out to be more beautiful than her pics.

It’s just one of those risks you take on fab "

Exactly this..A social first.Sometimes a video call too even before a social..

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"It happens OP to everyone

I always do a social first so you can make sure you are attracted to the person and get a feel for their rl personality first.

Though there was one exception but we had been talking quite a while first and then she turned out to be more beautiful than her pics.

It’s just one of those risks you take on fab

Exactly this..A social first.Sometimes a video call too even before a social..

"

I can clearly see you wouldn’t be a disappointment!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high."

All my pics are cropped close up so that 90% of me is hidden. Wrinkly cleavage pushed together to appear youthful. Filtered to hide my many flaws. Stocking tops close up and my cankles cropped out of view. How else would I get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's an interesting Q...what did/do you consider deceitful about what you saw ?

Probably 80% of messages to me are along the lines of 'you have the body of a 30 yo'... And I'm like, err, no i don't... It definitely looks and feels its age

It puts me off meeting as they are likely to be disappointed that I'm not what THEY thought I was as in their head they are already expecting a perfect 30yo

So which side is the deception on? "

We just got one that said 'you have the body of a 19 year old'... obvious bullshit/whatever but the funny thing was that on his profile the 30+ year old said he was seeking older women?!

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Only met one person so far for a friendly social/shoulder... She was exactly as she showed herself to be.

We all post good flattering pictures of ourselves on here I think. There is no way I would show off my pretty epic morning hair.

I do think about if it's misleading but frankly it's just me in my pics. Organic and hairy.

I guess I've been lucky. But looks aren't everything if you have a connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

My cock is significantly bigger in real life than the pictures on my profile would suggest "

Oh i thought the camera ADDED 5lb

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Maybe ask 4 updated pic before hand ...went on meet with ex the lady in question her pics were at least 4/5 years out of date and she was v pushy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m what way where they different

Probably naked in profile pics, but showed up to a meet fully dressed. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never wore this cowboy hat for a meet

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I’ve never wore this cowboy hat for a meet "

I would insist you did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My photos are taken from the best angle but my profile does state that I am a big woman.

When I’ve met people I’ve always said to them that if I’m not what they were expecting then I won’t be offended if they’d rather not stay.

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"My photos are taken from the best angle but my profile does state that I am a big woman.

When I’ve met people I’ve always said to them that if I’m not what they were expecting then I won’t be offended if they’d rather not stay.

"

That’s what was missing from the profiles I mentioned xx it would be useful to have all the info to make an informed decision xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As with anything on the internet I think you have to almost expect a certain level of embellishment when it comes to profiles, photos and even verifications on here.

At the end of the day nobody is going to post photos from the least flattering angles, or highlight their worst aspects."

"You have to almost expect a certain level of embellishment"

And heron lies the problem. Folk just need to be honest FFS. People are far more accepting of someone who has a few more grey hairs, put on half a stone or is 3 inches shorter than claimed etc than someone who claims to be 5 stone lighter or 10 years younger than they are!

The only thing being selective with the truth does is piss people off.

None of us are perfect, own it and be honest about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My photos are taken from the best angle but my profile does state that I am a big woman.

When I’ve met people I’ve always said to them that if I’m not what they were expecting then I won’t be offended if they’d rather not stay.

That’s what was missing from the profiles I mentioned xx it would be useful to have all the info to make an informed decision xxx"

My pics are genuine!!

In 2010 so that’s not been that deceitful

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"My photos are taken from the best angle but my profile does state that I am a big woman.

When I’ve met people I’ve always said to them that if I’m not what they were expecting then I won’t be offended if they’d rather not stay.

That’s what was missing from the profiles I mentioned xx it would be useful to have all the info to make an informed decision xxx"

If it's that big an issue for you then why not ask them before you meet them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No brainer.

As if they have a recent pic or when was the pic taken and have they put on/off weight etc.

As soon as you meet, if you feel their pic and profile is not what they claimed, make excuses and piss off home.

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"No brainer.

As if they have a recent pic or when was the pic taken and have they put on/off weight etc.

As soon as you meet, if you feel their pic and profile is not what they claimed, make excuses and piss off home."

I know xx it’s just difficult to do it without being rude I guess xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I think about it I don't think we've ever met anybody via here that looked how we'd expected.

Often the pics of the man are very vague so that's always a lottery. I'm doubtful if more than half of them were the age they claimed (and we know for certain that some are a lot older ).

Hasn't been a big deal for what's usually been a quick spur of the moment meet, nobody's been hideous but I don't think I'd ever have much confidence in knowing what to expect via this site. Better to meet at clubs for that.

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"My photos are taken from the best angle but my profile does state that I am a big woman.

When I’ve met people I’ve always said to them that if I’m not what they were expecting then I won’t be offended if they’d rather not stay.

That’s what was missing from the profiles I mentioned xx it would be useful to have all the info to make an informed decision xxx

If it's that big an issue for you then why not ask them before you meet them ? "

I suppose it’s finding how to do it in a tactful way x

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By *dris12345Man
over a year ago

home


"My photos are taken from the best angle but my profile does state that I am a big woman.

When I’ve met people I’ve always said to them that if I’m not what they were expecting then I won’t be offended if they’d rather not stay.

That’s what was missing from the profiles I mentioned xx it would be useful to have all the info to make an informed decision xxx

If it's that big an issue for you then why not ask them before you meet them ?

I suppose it’s finding how to do it in a tactful way x"

Just drop a link to this thread in one if your messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask them to send pics from unflattering angles. Not holding phone on top of the head, not cropped etc. Not wearing make up. Not smoothed. ask for raw and see how comfortable they are with request. Might be putting off for some if you come barging with these requests but will reduce your disappointment.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't meet pics, I meet people.

Always after chatting for a while so I can usually suss out how misleading they are as a person.

That shop window approach to our profiles means we have to have the best display possible to attract others so I've no issue with anyone using the best angles and lighting. I've no time for heavily filtered pics because they all look the same.

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By *oldie_locks33Woman
over a year ago

Durham

Snapchat filters have a lot to answer for these days!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My photos are taken from the best angle but my profile does state that I am a big woman.

When I’ve met people I’ve always said to them that if I’m not what they were expecting then I won’t be offended if they’d rather not stay.

That’s what was missing from the profiles I mentioned xx it would be useful to have all the info to make an informed decision xxx

If it's that big an issue for you then why not ask them before you meet them ?

I suppose it’s finding how to do it in a tactful way x"

It's your profile...just say what you want and don't want. Why would you be worried about people potentially taking offence when you don't want to meet them anyway? You can absolutely state your preference quite easily - most of us have some sort of preference - you don't have to be rude or obnoxious about it, just be clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP...Maybe you wasn't what they expected and i bet you still had sex with them..

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Ask them to send pics from unflattering angles. Not holding phone on top of the head, not cropped etc. Not wearing make up. Not smoothed. ask for raw and see how comfortable they are with request. Might be putting off for some if you come barging with these requests but will reduce your disappointment. "

If someone asked me too do that they would be told where to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Snapchat filters have a lot to answer for these days!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask them to send pics from unflattering angles. Not holding phone on top of the head, not cropped etc. Not wearing make up. Not smoothed. ask for raw and see how comfortable they are with request. Might be putting off for some if you come barging with these requests but will reduce your disappointment.

If someone asked me too do that they would be told where to go"

I know. But it's a solution of sorts. I do recall being shocked by some appearances. So I do like to see: "hey I just woke up" pic eventually..

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"Ask them to send pics from unflattering angles. Not holding phone on top of the head, not cropped etc. Not wearing make up. Not smoothed. ask for raw and see how comfortable they are with request. Might be putting off for some if you come barging with these requests but will reduce your disappointment.

If someone asked me too do that they would be told where to go

I know. But it's a solution of sorts. I do recall being shocked by some appearances. So I do like to see: "hey I just woke up" pic eventually.."

Just sent one on Face pic Friday so shameless!!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Ask them to send pics from unflattering angles. Not holding phone on top of the head, not cropped etc. Not wearing make up. Not smoothed. ask for raw and see how comfortable they are with request. Might be putting off for some if you come barging with these requests but will reduce your disappointment.

If someone asked me too do that they would be told where to go"

Same. I don't wear makeup anyway but I don't expect people to jump through hoops for me and I don't want to for them.

Maybe you'll find compatible people who will do it for you OP.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Ask them to send pics from unflattering angles. Not holding phone on top of the head, not cropped etc. Not wearing make up. Not smoothed. ask for raw and see how comfortable they are with request. Might be putting off for some if you come barging with these requests but will reduce your disappointment.

If someone asked me too do that they would be told where to go"

Me too! They would never see me like that anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always videocall prior to a meet. I also give meets my social media handle to verify that I’m a real female and I’m (semi) normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Always videocall prior to a meet. I also give meets my social media handle to verify that I’m a real female and I’m (semi) normal "

I won’t do that either. Hate video calls. If they don’t believe I’m me or trust that I’m me then don’t meet me. No biggie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask them to send pics from unflattering angles. Not holding phone on top of the head, not cropped etc. Not wearing make up. Not smoothed. ask for raw and see how comfortable they are with request. Might be putting off for some if you come barging with these requests but will reduce your disappointment.

If someone asked me too do that they would be told where to go

Me too! They would never see me like that anyway. "

Oh girls. He needs a fix to his "problem". I give him one.. he will soon realise there are bigger disappointments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask them to send pics from unflattering angles. Not holding phone on top of the head, not cropped etc. Not wearing make up. Not smoothed. ask for raw and see how comfortable they are with request. Might be putting off for some if you come barging with these requests but will reduce your disappointment.

If someone asked me too do that they would be told where to go

I know. But it's a solution of sorts. I do recall being shocked by some appearances. So I do like to see: "hey I just woke up" pic eventually..

Just sent one on Face pic Friday so shameless!! "

Haha give it to me

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"Ask them to send pics from unflattering angles. Not holding phone on top of the head, not cropped etc. Not wearing make up. Not smoothed. ask for raw and see how comfortable they are with request. Might be putting off for some if you come barging with these requests but will reduce your disappointment.

If someone asked me too do that they would be told where to go

I know. But it's a solution of sorts. I do recall being shocked by some appearances. So I do like to see: "hey I just woke up" pic eventually..

Just sent one on Face pic Friday so shameless!!

Haha give it to me "

Sent

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By *isspurplechesterWoman
over a year ago

Chester

This is why socials are so important to me, and that’s for both sides! I met a lady last year for a social, and she was the opposite to her images and personal description of herself! Also personality wise! I felt terrible, but she just wasn’t for me!

It’s interesting to see the responses on here, there was another forum post recently Re filters on pics, I was expecting the same responses here, but they’re quite different!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve never wore this cowboy hat for a meet

I would insist you did "

Oh if you insisted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look very different when I smile too when I don’t. (Resting bitch face)

I video chatted with a guy who suddenly said I didn’t look like my pics. I stepped back a bit, gave him a big smile and apparently I then did.

I met him a few days later and he made a point of saying I looked better in the flesh ( I guess he wanted sex or something )

Pics are often poses. We don’t pose much in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve never wore this cowboy hat for a meet

I would insist you did

Oh if you insisted "

I would too. It’s a good look.

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"I get that people want to look attractive in their pics, they want to look their best, and yes, I’m sure many of us show off our best angles, rather than purposefully posting the bits we don’t like about ourselves but I would hate to think that someone meeting me would feel that I was disappointingly not what they were expecting, it’s a crap way to start things off when you meet someone "

Yes, exactly this^^

Which is why, when I’m chatting to anyone I think might turn into an actual meet, I repeatedly warn them that I’m not very attractive, and that my photos are just extremely good scaffolding and angles/lighting. You can’t polish a turd.

But, saying that, I only meet people I connect mentally with anyway. I don’t think I’ve ever asked any potential meet for a face pic; if I want to meet them it’s because I like who they are. What they look like won’t change that in the slightest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask them to send pics from unflattering angles. Not holding phone on top of the head, not cropped etc. Not wearing make up. Not smoothed. ask for raw and see how comfortable they are with request. Might be putting off for some if you come barging with these requests but will reduce your disappointment.

If someone asked me too do that they would be told where to go

I know. But it's a solution of sorts. I do recall being shocked by some appearances. So I do like to see: "hey I just woke up" pic eventually..

Just sent one on Face pic Friday so shameless!!

Haha give it to me

Sent "

I'm crying ...

But seriously. You can wake me up like this. I'll roll off the bed laughing.

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I look very different when I smile too when I don’t. (Resting bitch face)

I video chatted with a guy who suddenly said I didn’t look like my pics. I stepped back a bit, gave him a big smile and apparently I then did.

I met him a few days later and he made a point of saying I looked better in the flesh ( I guess he wanted sex or something )

Pics are often poses. We don’t pose much in real life. "

Your pics are certainly very impressive and not at all misleading!! Lovely smile as well !!

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

My only social meet this year displayed photos by his own admission 20 years old.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look very different when I smile too when I don’t. (Resting bitch face)

I video chatted with a guy who suddenly said I didn’t look like my pics. I stepped back a bit, gave him a big smile and apparently I then did.

I met him a few days later and he made a point of saying I looked better in the flesh ( I guess he wanted sex or something )

Pics are often poses. We don’t pose much in real life.

Your pics are certainly very impressive and not at all misleading!! Lovely smile as well !!"

But you can only tell if pics are "misleading" if you met someone, no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My only social meet this year displayed photos by his own admission 20 years old."

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Ask them to send pics from unflattering angles. Not holding phone on top of the head, not cropped etc. Not wearing make up. Not smoothed. ask for raw and see how comfortable they are with request. Might be putting off for some if you come barging with these requests but will reduce your disappointment.

If someone asked me too do that they would be told where to go

I know. But it's a solution of sorts. I do recall being shocked by some appearances. So I do like to see: "hey I just woke up" pic eventually..

Just sent one on Face pic Friday so shameless!!

Haha give it to me

Sent "

I wanna see

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

People will always put their best angle photos up.

Some photos my legs look a lot longer than they are, photos don’t move so you don’t see the wobbles, a well placed arm or hand will hide the baby shelf. If you ask for a face pic you’ll get a tired looking, no makeup one and I have a video that shows the belly laughing as it’s grabbed and moved.

It all comes down to communicating honestly with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look very different when I smile too when I don’t. (Resting bitch face)

I video chatted with a guy who suddenly said I didn’t look like my pics. I stepped back a bit, gave him a big smile and apparently I then did.

I met him a few days later and he made a point of saying I looked better in the flesh ( I guess he wanted sex or something )

Pics are often poses. We don’t pose much in real life.

Your pics are certainly very impressive and not at all misleading!! Lovely smile as well !!

But you can only tell if pics are "misleading" if you met someone, no? "

Exactly.

Although there are plenty of pics that are clearly with filters such as snapchat. There’s several that just give you perfect skin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look very different when I smile too when I don’t. (Resting bitch face)

I video chatted with a guy who suddenly said I didn’t look like my pics. I stepped back a bit, gave him a big smile and apparently I then did.

I met him a few days later and he made a point of saying I looked better in the flesh ( I guess he wanted sex or something )

Pics are often poses. We don’t pose much in real life. "

I prefer early socials (within 2 weeks of first chat) for this reason.

That belly laugh at something ridiculous can't be captured in a pic.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I'll admit I'm concious of angles when I'm taking pics, but I'm upfront, I'm a bigger girl and will happily send other pictures to show.

The amount of guys that send oh you have the body of so and so age I just howl with laughter.. just what is their perception of what an certain age should look like.

I've also had meets where I've thought woah, they were old pics and definitely not like they are now, I just don't see the point

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"People will always put their best angle photos up.

Some photos my legs look a lot longer than they are, photos don’t move so you don’t see the wobbles, a well placed arm or hand will hide the baby shelf. If you ask for a face pic you’ll get a tired looking, no makeup one and I have a video that shows the belly laughing as it’s grabbed and moved.

It all comes down to communicating honestly with each other. "

Definitely x some say my profile would be too honest !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look very different when I smile too when I don’t. (Resting bitch face)

I video chatted with a guy who suddenly said I didn’t look like my pics. I stepped back a bit, gave him a big smile and apparently I then did.

I met him a few days later and he made a point of saying I looked better in the flesh ( I guess he wanted sex or something )

Pics are often poses. We don’t pose much in real life.

I prefer early socials (within 2 weeks of first chat) for this reason.

That belly laugh at something ridiculous can't be captured in a pic.

"

I laugh at myself to take my pics, mocking myself for being so ridiculous….. it works for me

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I think it's pretty easy to see that most body pictures are taken from flattering angles, with careful posing and placing of limbs or props. And most of the time face filters are done so heavily that I find it comical that people actually believe it's a natural photo...how many people in their late 40's do you know in everyday life that don't even have a hint of crows feet? I certainly don't know many.

I do think it's deceitful, especially with face pics. And I'm not sure what people that do it hope to achieve if they're actually looking to meet...are they only going to let the other person look at them via their phone screen with the filters turned on?

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"Ask them to send pics from unflattering angles. Not holding phone on top of the head, not cropped etc. Not wearing make up. Not smoothed. ask for raw and see how comfortable they are with request. Might be putting off for some if you come barging with these requests but will reduce your disappointment.

If someone asked me too do that they would be told where to go

I know. But it's a solution of sorts. I do recall being shocked by some appearances. So I do like to see: "hey I just woke up" pic eventually..

Just sent one on Face pic Friday so shameless!!

Haha give it to me

Sent

I wanna see "

Prepare yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve never wore this cowboy hat for a meet

I would insist you did

Oh if you insisted

I would too. It’s a good look. "

Why thank you

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

The trick is to always ask for a recent full length pic

You're welcome & till next time my friends hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's pretty easy to see that most body pictures are taken from flattering angles, with careful posing and placing of limbs or props. And most of the time face filters are done so heavily that I find it comical that people actually believe it's a natural photo...how many people in their late 40's do you know in everyday life that don't even have a hint of crows feet? I certainly don't know many.

I do think it's deceitful, especially with face pics. And I'm not sure what people that do it hope to achieve if they're actually looking to meet...are they only going to let the other person look at them via their phone screen with the filters turned on? "

I’d love a filter to take out my eye bags until I have the surgeon sort them

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Ask them to send pics from unflattering angles. Not holding phone on top of the head, not cropped etc. Not wearing make up. Not smoothed. ask for raw and see how comfortable they are with request. Might be putting off for some if you come barging with these requests but will reduce your disappointment.

If someone asked me too do that they would be told where to go

I know. But it's a solution of sorts. I do recall being shocked by some appearances. So I do like to see: "hey I just woke up" pic eventually..

Just sent one on Face pic Friday so shameless!!

Haha give it to me

Sent

I wanna see

Prepare yourself "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's pretty easy to see that most body pictures are taken from flattering angles, with careful posing and placing of limbs or props. And most of the time face filters are done so heavily that I find it comical that people actually believe it's a natural photo...how many people in their late 40's do you know in everyday life that don't even have a hint of crows feet? I certainly don't know many.

I do think it's deceitful, especially with face pics. And I'm not sure what people that do it hope to achieve if they're actually looking to meet...are they only going to let the other person look at them via their phone screen with the filters turned on? "

Excuse me, they are laughter lines!..All my pics are undoctored. I just rarely share them, well don't now..

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I think it's pretty easy to see that most body pictures are taken from flattering angles, with careful posing and placing of limbs or props. And most of the time face filters are done so heavily that I find it comical that people actually believe it's a natural photo...how many people in their late 40's do you know in everyday life that don't even have a hint of crows feet? I certainly don't know many.

I do think it's deceitful, especially with face pics. And I'm not sure what people that do it hope to achieve if they're actually looking to meet...are they only going to let the other person look at them via their phone screen with the filters turned on? "

Good point well made xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Today pic sent !

Snap chat had absolutely no hand in this pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always videocall prior to a meet. I also give meets my social media handle to verify that I’m a real female and I’m (semi) normal

I won’t do that either. Hate video calls. If they don’t believe I’m me or trust that I’m me then don’t meet me. No biggie. "

Snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve never wore this cowboy hat for a meet

I would insist you did

Oh if you insisted

I would too. It’s a good look.

Why thank you "

A pair of well worn button fly jeans too… heaven.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Today pic sent !

Snap chat had absolutely no hand in this pic

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Doesn’t Snapchat always have the ears on though? I don’t have it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe that’s where I’m going wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today pic sent !

Snap chat had absolutely no hand in this pic

Doesn’t Snapchat always have the ears on though? I don’t have it. "

No idea what your taking about ?

Completely oblivious!

Don’t use it

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I hope I’m not the only one that doesn’t ask for lots of photos. A nice face pic will do me then chat see if you feel that connection. I’m more bothered about what’s in their head rather than nit picking over their photos

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I don't see the point in putting miss leading pics up, mine are no more than 2 years old at the oldest and 2 to 3 months old in the newest, definitely what you see is what you get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filters the best make up on the market

Had 2 socials a few yrs ago and they looked nothing like their pics and also looked like they'd been brushing their teeth in tar...bad teeth is a big no no for me

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By *pectressWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

A man happily feeding lies to his cheated upon wife bemoaning misleading pics from random strangers- you simply have to love Fab "

Beautifully put

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?


"I think it's pretty easy to see that most body pictures are taken from flattering angles, with careful posing and placing of limbs or props. And most of the time face filters are done so heavily that I find it comical that people actually believe it's a natural photo...how many people in their late 40's do you know in everyday life that don't even have a hint of crows feet? I certainly don't know many.

I do think it's deceitful, especially with face pics. And I'm not sure what people that do it hope to achieve if they're actually looking to meet...are they only going to let the other person look at them via their phone screen with the filters turned on?

Excuse me, they are laughter lines!..All my pics are undoctored. I just rarely share them, well don't now.."

I always say this...my wrinkles show that I've spent my life laughing and smiling...as well as having far too many late nights

Seriously though, when I was looking to meet I'd always send a face pic taken in broad daylight, usually with no makeup, and the only filter I ever use is the black and white one, but I presume people know that I'm not monochrome in person

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Always videocall prior to a meet. I also give meets my social media handle to verify that I’m a real female and I’m (semi) normal

I won’t do that either. Hate video calls. If they don’t believe I’m me or trust that I’m me then don’t meet me. No biggie. "

I'm the same I despise video calls if someone keeps pushing for one they can move on. I don't have to prove I'm genuine or anything else to anyone I tell them when we chat about me if they chose to not believe me that's their problem not mine but I won't video chat especially to people I haven't met I absolutely despise doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't see the point in putting miss leading pics up, mine are no more than 2 years old at the oldest and 2 to 3 months old in the newest, definitely what you see is what you get"

Wish I had this out look !

But I always make it clear my pics are from maybe 6 years ago !

Then I’ll probably come clean and tell the real truth

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

A man happily feeding lies to his cheated upon wife bemoaning misleading pics from random strangers- you simply have to love Fab

Beautifully put "

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

A man happily feeding lies to his cheated upon wife bemoaning misleading pics from random strangers- you simply have to love Fab

Beautifully put "

We all have our reasons to be on fab just thought best to be upfront about it x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

A man happily feeding lies to his cheated upon wife bemoaning misleading pics from random strangers- you simply have to love Fab "

Wow. Judgey much!

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high."

People display their best angles - it's the pretty normal. I have (and ask for) some 'general' vanilla pictures, so as to get a true sense of the person. Cam first might help. I'm also happy to do that. However, too much emphasis on this might kill the atmosphere regardless. Perhaps have a social first. It's perfectly reasonable to say, no thank you (or for someone to say no thank you) after a social.

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

A man happily feeding lies to his cheated upon wife bemoaning misleading pics from random strangers- you simply have to love Fab

Wow. Judgey much! "

Thanks xx it’s not always that clear cut !!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

A man happily feeding lies to his cheated upon wife bemoaning misleading pics from random strangers- you simply have to love Fab

Wow. Judgey much!

Thanks xx it’s not always that clear cut !!"

I know. It is on here though. Tek no notice

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

A man happily feeding lies to his cheated upon wife bemoaning misleading pics from random strangers- you simply have to love Fab

Wow. Judgey much!

Thanks xx it’s not always that clear cut !!

I know. It is on here though. Tek no notice "

I’ll try not to xx thanks xx your pictures are beautiful by the way xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

A man happily feeding lies to his cheated upon wife bemoaning misleading pics from random strangers- you simply have to love Fab

Wow. Judgey much!

Thanks xx it’s not always that clear cut !!

I know. It is on here though. Tek no notice

I’ll try not to xx thanks xx your pictures are beautiful by the way xxx"

I don’t unfortunately!

Who my pics ?

Yeah suppose thanks mate

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

A man happily feeding lies to his cheated upon wife bemoaning misleading pics from random strangers- you simply have to love Fab

Wow. Judgey much!

Thanks xx it’s not always that clear cut !!

I know. It is on here though. Tek no notice

I’ll try not to xx thanks xx your pictures are beautiful by the way xxx

I don’t unfortunately!

Who my pics ?

Yeah suppose thanks mate "

Lol no Nora the Explorers !!!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Always videocall prior to a meet. I also give meets my social media handle to verify that I’m a real female and I’m (semi) normal

I won’t do that either. Hate video calls. If they don’t believe I’m me or trust that I’m me then don’t meet me. No biggie.

I'm the same I despise video calls if someone keeps pushing for one they can move on. I don't have to prove I'm genuine or anything else to anyone I tell them when we chat about me if they chose to not believe me that's their problem not mine but I won't video chat especially to people I haven't met I absolutely despise doing it. "

I don't even video chat with family and friends. So I know how you feel on that one

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

A man happily feeding lies to his cheated upon wife bemoaning misleading pics from random strangers- you simply have to love Fab

Wow. Judgey much!

Thanks xx it’s not always that clear cut !!"

It is. Your cheating. End of

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I post shit pics on purpose. Under promise, under deliver

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

A man happily feeding lies to his cheated upon wife bemoaning misleading pics from random strangers- you simply have to love Fab

Wow. Judgey much!

Thanks xx it’s not always that clear cut !!

It is. Your cheating. End of"

Ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I post shit pics on purpose. Under promise, under deliver "

Exactly this.

I always under deliver.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Always videocall prior to a meet. I also give meets my social media handle to verify that I’m a real female and I’m (semi) normal

I won’t do that either. Hate video calls. If they don’t believe I’m me or trust that I’m me then don’t meet me. No biggie.

I'm the same I despise video calls if someone keeps pushing for one they can move on. I don't have to prove I'm genuine or anything else to anyone I tell them when we chat about me if they chose to not believe me that's their problem not mine but I won't video chat especially to people I haven't met I absolutely despise doing it. "

I will do a phone call but not a video chat, I hate them. I don’t even do that with family and close friends so a stranger isn’t going to make me do it.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Always videocall prior to a meet. I also give meets my social media handle to verify that I’m a real female and I’m (semi) normal

I won’t do that either. Hate video calls. If they don’t believe I’m me or trust that I’m me then don’t meet me. No biggie.

I'm the same I despise video calls if someone keeps pushing for one they can move on. I don't have to prove I'm genuine or anything else to anyone I tell them when we chat about me if they chose to not believe me that's their problem not mine but I won't video chat especially to people I haven't met I absolutely despise doing it.

I will do a phone call but not a video chat, I hate them. I don’t even do that with family and close friends so a stranger isn’t going to make me do it. "

Me neither. I can’t stand video chats

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I am genuinely tall and fat with nice lips and a big nose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

A man happily feeding lies to his cheated upon wife bemoaning misleading pics from random strangers- you simply have to love Fab

Wow. Judgey much!

Thanks xx it’s not always that clear cut !!

I know. It is on here though. Tek no notice

I’ll try not to xx thanks xx your pictures are beautiful by the way xxx

I don’t unfortunately!

Who my pics ?

Yeah suppose thanks mate

Lol no Nora the Explorers !!!"

Mate you could of at least let me have one !

Fair enough!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am genuinely tall and fat with nice lips and a big nose.

"

I’m in love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today pic sent !

Snap chat had absolutely no hand in this pic

Doesn’t Snapchat always have the ears on though? I don’t have it. "

No. There are a couple of filters that just make the best of you.

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I am genuinely tall and fat with nice lips and a big nose.

"

A lovely clear and concise description!! Fancy a coffee!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high."

Maybe you judge people based on looks. At least they were genuine and didnt no show.

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Get a video message when they are d*unk and they slur and try and make sense… if you still think they are hot then you are onto a winner…

As the saying goes … the only honest thing in the world are d*unks and small children

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By *ames5169 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Morning Where does everyone stand on misleading pictures on profiles ? I’ve had two meets now when the reality has been significantly different than what was expected xx Just a but disappointing when anticipation levels are high.

Maybe you judge people based on looks. At least they were genuine and didnt no show. "

True I did message a lot before meeting abd they were both nice people just didn’t look as I expected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi xx they just looked different xx I know it sounds a bit shallow but it’s difficult to overcome when you have invested time in a meet xx"

Also your a 50+ year old man who has been lucky enough to meet younger women in there 20's and 30's according to your veris so maybe you should be less rude about it. Sorry to sound harsh but chances are you would not have got sexual encounters with those younger women in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to be clear and truthful, I don’t carry a power saw with me on meets."

OMG wasted a mouthful of Yorkshire tea because I read that.

Disappointing tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my pictures could be seen as misleading, from certain angles, I'll look over 6ft when, different lighting/shadows could make me seem more toned. So think best to have social first and let both parties find out from them selves, without awkwardness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi xx they just looked different xx I know it sounds a bit shallow but it’s difficult to overcome when you have invested time in a meet xx"

Very true

I travelled for an hour, to be let down in this way - it was a woman with old body type pics. It was only a social and has happened only once to me in eight years.

Not sure what the answer would be, not everyone wants to video call.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Significantly different?

Maybe they thought the same about you OP!"

Why would you say that?

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