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"If a girl invites you to hers for a drink and a takeaway, is she interested? Just to clarify I’ve already been, it did have a date feel but I’m unsure as to what it was" You could of asked her - but you chose us..... Good luck  | |||
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"If a girl invites you to hers for a drink and a takeaway, is she interested? Just to clarify I’ve already been, it did have a date feel but I’m unsure as to what it was" It could be time to step up and take your chance to make it a date, that is if you wanted it to be a date that is. Good luck  | |||
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"Hmmmm I messaged her and depending on the weather we have arranged to take her little one to the park/go for a walk " If you are being allowed near her child I would take that as a good sign. Be nice to her and respectful. Single mothers deserve to be treated properly with respect.  | |||
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If you have too many dates without trying this you will likely end up in the friend zone.......i am assuming that you want more than that of course? Maybe you just want clarity......then definitely ask the question.
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"We’ve known each other since school so that’s wher the confusion comes in " Tell her you’ll go for a walk but not with her child. Regardless if the fact you’ve known each other for ages. She shouldn’t be introducing people into her child’s life that may not be permanent. It’s a kid for fuck sake not a dog. | |||
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"We’ve known each other since school so that’s wher the confusion comes in Tell her you’ll go for a walk but not with her child. Regardless if the fact you’ve known each other for ages. She shouldn’t be introducing people into her child’s life that may not be permanent. It’s a kid for fuck sake not a dog. " Unfortunately I can’t do do that her child’s under 1 and the dads a dead beat | |||
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"I sympathise as I'm also crap at reading signals. I would echo what's been said above: ask her, find out what she's thinking." But would it not make things weird? | |||
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"I sympathise as I'm also crap at reading signals. I would echo what's been said above: ask her, find out what she's thinking. But would it not make things weird? " Depends on how you ask and what you ask. If you tell her you'd like to throw one up her then yes, it's likely to be weird. If you ask her how she'd feel about going on a date with you then it's likely to be far less weird. | |||
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"Her own place? On your own sounds pretty serious any other signs playing with hair touching sitting very close?" nahhhh she was playin with her hair abit, puttin her glasses on then off | |||
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"Her own place? On your own sounds pretty serious any other signs playing with hair touching sitting very close? nahhhh she was playin with her hair abit, puttin her glasses on then off" yea her own place | |||
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"Her own place? On your own sounds pretty serious any other signs playing with hair touching sitting very close? nahhhh she was playin with her hair abit, puttin her glasses on then offyea her own place " Hmm… still…. Sounds risky. I’d treat it like a friendly visit unless she makes the first move Better safe than sorry | |||
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"Her own place? On your own sounds pretty serious any other signs playing with hair touching sitting very close? nahhhh she was playin with her hair abit, puttin her glasses on then offyea her own place " Just be honest with her better a no than a what if | |||
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"If a girl invites you to hers for a drink and a takeaway, is she interested? Just to clarify I’ve already been, it did have a date feel but I’m unsure as to what it was" Don't take it as she fancies you. She may just like your company. And if you've only just met her it's a bit weird to be out with her kids. I haven't read the whole thing so I might have that bit wrong
Still ......if a bloke I didn't know asked me to go for a walk with his kid i'd run a mile. | |||
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"We’ve known each other since school so that’s wher the confusion comes in " See. I should have read this first. | |||
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"We’ve known each other since school so that’s wher the confusion comes in Tell her you’ll go for a walk but not with her child. Regardless if the fact you’ve known each other for ages. She shouldn’t be introducing people into her child’s life that may not be permanent. It’s a kid for fuck sake not a dog. "
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"Her own place? On your own sounds pretty serious any other signs playing with hair touching sitting very close?" I touch my hair because I eat it otherwise...... It does NOT mean I fancy anyone. Nor does glasses on glasses off..... | |||
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"We’ve known each other since school so that’s wher the confusion comes in Tell her you’ll go for a walk but not with her child. Regardless if the fact you’ve known each other for ages. She shouldn’t be introducing people into her child’s life that may not be permanent. It’s a kid for fuck sake not a dog. Unfortunately I can’t do do that her child’s under 1 and the dads a dead beat" Ahh under 1 they wouldn’t even remember anyway so that kind of walk is cool. Think a child needs to be 3 to be able to recall any kind of memory clearly. | |||
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"We as men need to be better at reading the signals. I get that this thread is taking a lighter hearted approach to men’s inadequacies at reading signals, sadly there are just too many cases where a misunderstood signal has led to unsavoury outcomes for the female involved. I think women need to start making the first move if you want someone don't leave it up to him to make the first move especially nowadays men are terrified of making a move Incase it's completely unwarranted women need to learn men aren't women you need to tell them what you want " | |||
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"We’ve known each other since school so that’s wher the confusion comes in Tell her you’ll go for a walk but not with her child. Regardless if the fact you’ve known each other for ages. She shouldn’t be introducing people into her child’s life that may not be permanent. It’s a kid for fuck sake not a dog. Unfortunately I can’t do do that her child’s under 1 and the dads a dead beat Ahh under 1 they wouldn’t even remember anyway so that kind of walk is cool. Think a child needs to be 3 to be able to recall any kind of memory clearly. " no but it makes it abit more difficult to do an intimate date night | |||
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"Tbh she could be rubbing her breasts in my face with a hand down my pants and I’d just assume she’d slipped and was trying to steady herself. So, yes, I struggle to read the signs. " FAF ? | |||
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"I’m crap at reading anything OP but I’m pretty blunt so if unsure I just ask "Me too | |||
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"Tbh she could be rubbing her breasts in my face with a hand down my pants and I’d just assume she’d slipped and was trying to steady herself. So, yes, I struggle to read the signs. " Thank fuck I’m not the only one | |||
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"[Signs Removed by poster at 30/09/21 16:16:10 you will just have to guess, good luck!]" | |||
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"We’ve known each other since school so that’s wher the confusion comes in Tell her you’ll go for a walk but not with her child. Regardless if the fact you’ve known each other for ages. She shouldn’t be introducing people into her child’s life that may not be permanent. It’s a kid for fuck sake not a dog. " Isn’t it up to her who she chooses to meet when she’s with her (under the age of 1) child? She’s known the OP since childhood. Irrespective of whether it’s a date or not that seems long enough for her to make her own mind up…. | |||
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"Maybe a good idea to send flowers or buy a little gift . As it may help open up the conversation " Yeaaa when she invited me over I took a bottle of wine, Tbf we had a walk planned on Tuesday she cancelled because the weather was lousy but then invited me to hers, as she’s a single mum I dunno if it’s just for adult company or not | |||
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"Update we’ve arranged to go for lunch today " You could drop into a conversation how much you are enjoying spending time with her. If her eyes glaze over and she smiles you're probably on a winner. | |||
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" the dads a dead beat" Do you know him ? | |||
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"Update we’ve arranged to go for lunch today " Hooray! Hope you both have a great time. For what it's worth I think you're going about things in exactly the right way. So many people are asking at the moment " how can men make women feel safe?" and here you are totally respecting a woman, not pushing her and taking things slowly. | |||
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"We’ve known each other since school so that’s wher the confusion comes in Tell her you’ll go for a walk but not with her child. Regardless if the fact you’ve known each other for ages. She shouldn’t be introducing people into her child’s life that may not be permanent. It’s a kid for fuck sake not a dog. Isn’t it up to her who she chooses to meet when she’s with her (under the age of 1) child? She’s known the OP since childhood. Irrespective of whether it’s a date or not that seems long enough for her to make her own mind up…. " It’s just a bug bear of mine. Stupid women who let any new guy they meet have access to their children. When you’ve worked in the prison service and have seen first hand the amount of men in prison for crimes against children and you read how some of the mothers let guys they’ve basically just met bath their children and shit like that it makes you over sensitive to stuff like this. This is nothing to do with the OP either it’s just something that annoys me in general. | |||
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"We’ve known each other since school so that’s wher the confusion comes in Tell her you’ll go for a walk but not with her child. Regardless if the fact you’ve known each other for ages. She shouldn’t be introducing people into her child’s life that may not be permanent. It’s a kid for fuck sake not a dog. Isn’t it up to her who she chooses to meet when she’s with her (under the age of 1) child? She’s known the OP since childhood. Irrespective of whether it’s a date or not that seems long enough for her to make her own mind up…. It’s just a bug bear of mine. Stupid women who let any new guy they meet have access to their children. When you’ve worked in the prison service and have seen first hand the amount of men in prison for crimes against children and you read how some of the mothers let guys they’ve basically just met bath their children and shit like that it makes you over sensitive to stuff like this. This is nothing to do with the OP either it’s just something that annoys me in general. " I get all of that. But your “advice” was very blunt, very black and white, and directed directly at the OP, who’d already said he’d known her since childhood… | |||
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"A woman can have men friends the same as a female child can. Go for the walk and treat her as you would any friend (and their child). If she asks to keep seeing you, and you want to then she may have a romantic interest in you. Personally, I wouldn't jump in with the is this going to be a relationship question just yet. I like to let things develop naturally. Up to you though, if you need to know what's going through her head." Yeaaa I’ve decided to just go with the flow | |||
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"If a girl invites you to hers for a drink and a takeaway, is she interested? " Did she invite you on Fab or elsewhere? | |||
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"Did you have the conversation?" unfortunately not decided to just go with the flow an see what happens | |||
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