FabSwingers.com forum: Rudeness.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just want to ask fellow forums users that am I wrong in thinking some users on this site are just plaine rude. I know I won't be many peoples cup of tea on here and I can understand that but would it hurt someone to actually just message back to say not interested rather than just delete the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just want to ask fellow forums users that am I wrong in thinking some users on this site are just plaine rude. I know I won't be many peoples cup of tea on here and I can understand that but would it hurt someone to actually just message back to say not interested rather than just delete the message.

yes you are right babes alot on here can be very rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nawwww send me a message!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Already done this tonight.

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/121300

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Already done this tonight.

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/121300"

lol beat me to it

Wolf

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Sorry, but yet another thread about messages being deleted and not replied!

If you receive spam mail (as most is), you do not need to reply, especially if they do not meet your criteria/preferences, so no, it is not rude at all, it is just plain old choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes some people can be rude, but if you had just seen the message we had from a guy you would maybe understand. And even though we did reply (out of politeness), the message back was worse, so can understand why people just delete

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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I am unsure why a reply turning someone down is considered better than no reply. Surely it's the same result.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

The problem is .. I get a message saying hi..!!

or some similar statement..

I look at the profile..and see nothing that appeals to me.. I answer no thank you...

I get back a reply saying i wasnt asking for anything just want to chat..

sometimes believe me it is easier just to ignore. As clearly the person has not read profile and does not fill what i am looking for.

It may seem rude but if you arent what people are looking for just accept and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some people can take offense to being ignored which could lead them to give the person a piece of there mind to which the person who ignored the person messaging will then start going on about being sent abusive messages.

I am not saying that everyone does this as there are some people who message back saying no thanks or not interested, although I am just looking to chat, I respect there decision as they took time to acknowledge my message and reply.

But some people who do reply to others can get nasty messages sent as some can't take no for an answer.

Wonder if this makes sense or if im just blabbering on, lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If someone is abusive because I didn't respond to their message it ends up the same as if they are abusive if I do respond with a no - block!

I know it can be frustrating on here sometimes but we are still people. Being abusive is not on whatever the reason.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

From a female point of view, I do receive a lot of messages, most are of the Hi, How are you variety, now, how would you respond to that?

You look at the profile, and your lucky if there is a few words, again, how enticing is that? (or the dreaded, will fill this out later) GRRR

And then there are the messages, that have totally disregarded your profile text and the what/who/how your preferences are and would like to meet!

And I haven't even started about the No pics on show, or more often than not, god know's how many cock pics, but from different angles....

So guys, to be honest, look at what you are sending in the first instance, look at your own profile (would you contact you if you were female?) Just be honest with yourselves and stop these oh woo is me threads

Here is my answer on a previous thread, hope it all makes sense and puts some things into perspective!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If someone is abusive because I didn't respond to their message it ends up the same as if they are abusive if I do respond with a no - block!

I know it can be frustrating on here sometimes but we are still people. Being abusive is not on whatever the reason."

Agreed, like I said I know I won't be everyones cup of tea, but the people who are abusive for whatever the reason kinda spoils things for the rest of us.

I mean I've had replies back from a different site as I read a profile and seen the said person was into something I liked so I sent them a message asking them who there fave character was etc, and I got a message back asking me if I was being serious and that did I actually think the person would be seen in the street with me?

I know I'm not the best looking guy ever but that was a harsh and uncalled for answer. Luckily I've never had that treatment on here. So can relate to how some people can just ignore others as the shit they normally get when they turn people down. Just as you say gets frustrating.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

The problem is that, although you might think you tick all the boxes on someone's profile, if they don't want to meet you, they won't.

And that person was mean.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From a female point of view, I do receive a lot of messages, most are of the Hi, How are you variety, now, how would you respond to that?

You look at the profile, and your lucky if there is a few words, again, how enticing is that? (or the dreaded, will fill this out later) GRRR

And then there are the messages, that have totally disregarded your profile text and the what/who/how your preferences are and would like to meet!

And I haven't even started about the No pics on show, or more often than not, god know's how many cock pics, but from different angles....

Here is my answer on a previous thread, hope it all makes sense and puts some things into perspective!!"

I can see your point of view in what you are saying, but this wasn't a case of woo is me, I was just asking a simple question asking if I was wrong in thinking that some people on the site can be ignorant.

Yes I can send a message saying hello how are you today/tonight. Even when i phone someone I ask that question, it's just me being polite. I don't think I could ever send someone a message first hand and say hey wanna fuck, or something like that.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Hey speaking to someone and asking how they are is totally different!

Now try this....

You, Hi, are how you? Fancy a chat?

Me, I'm fine thanks

You, ?????

What a great conversation that is, NOT and I will say that is about 95% of the messages I receive, so yes I am just going to ignore them, is it rude? Maybe to you, but to me, they are just wasting my time, sorry if that sounds harsh, but if you have constant messages saying the same things, it just becomes tedious!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That is understandable. Timewasters get on all sites and ruin things for many people who are genuine.

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