FabSwingers.com forum: When people want to actually meet, they will. When they dont they wiill make excuses.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Human nature says and shows.

When we want to really do something we will find a way.

When we dont want to ,we make every excuse to get away.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

As is their right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But he's in jail and lives in Texas... so what am I meant to do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will reply to this later. Just washing my hair.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

In general, I agree but there are exceptions and life often gets in the way.

It’s a bit myopic to make such broad statements and apply them to everyone

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Amen

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I dont makes excuses i just tell the truth. Which is normally struggling for free time (I have a family and kids that come first) simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But he's in jail and lives in Texas... so what am I meant to do? "

Death row???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But he's in jail and lives in Texas... so what am I meant to do? "

Sorry to hear about your jailbird!

I would say be genuine in your actions, keep visiting and showing support!! .

Only if you think and real it is worth your time longterm..

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"Human nature says and shows.

When we want to really do something we will find a way.

When we dont want to ,we make every excuse to get away. "

Not true in every case.

We often really want to meet only to find there is a totally valid(if upsetting) reason that we can;t on the day.

Impossible to speak for all until you know ALL the circumstances or you are being too judgy.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"I dont makes excuses i just tell the truth. Which is normally struggling for free time (I have a family and kids that come first) simples."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell the truth. It’s much better.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

I have found with some that you end up feeling like you’re on a ‘to do list’ and they say they’ll meet you but put it off/find an excuse

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"I dont makes excuses i just tell the truth. Which is normally struggling for free time (I have a family and kids that come first) simples."

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I will reply to this later. Just washing my hair.

Wash and go go lol. head & shoulders? ,

Maybe Tresemme?

We await your return.

We know you are buying time, to come back with a very good reply,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Human nature says and shows.

When we want to really do something we will find a way.

When we dont want to ,we make every excuse to get away. "

I totally agree and yes sometimes life gets in the way but if you are constantly rescheduling on me then clearly you don't want to meet me.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"But he's in jail and lives in Texas... so what am I meant to do? "

Jail break. I’m sure we could get enough people on here to help you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Human nature says and shows.

When we want to really do something we will find a way.

When we dont want to ,we make every excuse to get away.

Not true in every case.

We often really want to meet only to find there is a totally valid(if upsetting) reason that we can;t on the day.

Impossible to speak for all until you know ALL the circumstances or you are being too judgy."

I hear that. We live in an age we have every tool under the sun. To say our bit, but actions always speak louder than words in my eyes.

Tbh.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Absolutely. In all areas of life too, not just Fab.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

As a single parent that doesn't apply, kids come first no matter what, if he cannot understand that then we are better off not meeting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In general, I agree but there are exceptions and life often gets in the way.

It’s a bit myopic to make such broad statements and apply them to everyone "

Yes we all or most do have the choice of having our say to show our standing and view point at that point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm wary of people who aren't able to make a straightforward plan and stick to it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont makes excuses i just tell the truth. Which is normally struggling for free time (I have a family and kids that come first) simples."

No drama, 1st things 1st family & kids. Prioritise of life and time management is down to us and how we exercise is at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a difference between excuses and reasons. Often it’s down to timing and other commitments

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tell the truth. It’s much better. "

I admire that, and value you that more.

Fine lady you are

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

This may be a massive leap of faith but I'm taking it.

Sometimes life gets in the way. Sometimes you want to but it's not the right time.

And sometimes practical concerns like money scupper things.

Occasionally it's all three (or more reasons).

It's taken a lot for me to believe that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have found with some that you end up feeling like you’re on a ‘to do list’ and they say they’ll meet you but put it off/find an excuse "

Would you give a 2nd chance? If you sensed truly they are making excuses

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Human nature says and shows.

When we want to really do something we will find a way.

When we dont want to ,we make every excuse to get away.

I totally agree and yes sometimes life gets in the way but if you are constantly rescheduling on me then clearly you don't want to meet me."

Yes fully i agree.

then i would leave to the other to step up and forwards to arrange things and contact me and ask for what my schedule is for a precise meet up. Only then maybe they will value the time and company.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm wary of people who aren't able to make a straightforward plan and stick to it "

Iam flexi.

We most do sense, when the pee is being taken or when we allow the Mick to be taken of us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Absolutely. In all areas of life too, not just Fab."

Ditto.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Time is very precious.

Nobody can give extend time, nor buy you time. They can waste your time,show you time, or spend time on you. If wasted for what ever reason then its lost forever never to return.

" use your time wisely and allow others to value it and you value theirs"

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london

"Human nature says and shows.

When we want to really do something we will find a way.

When we dont want to ,we make every excuse to get away. "

Yep

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"I have found with some that you end up feeling like you’re on a ‘to do list’ and they say they’ll meet you but put it off/find an excuse "

" Ill let you know " how many times you hear that old chestnut.. keeping options open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Human nature says and shows.

When we want to really do something we will find a way.

When we dont want to ,we make every excuse to get away. "

Timewasters are timewasters..always were..always will be .. they're only on sites..either here ..or others ...to feed their own ego but never have ANY intention of meeting from the very start at all , those that want to meet as stated by OP will meet.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"I have found with some that you end up feeling like you’re on a ‘to do list’ and they say they’ll meet you but put it off/find an excuse

" Ill let you know " how many times you hear that old chestnut.. keeping options open. "

Yup!

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"I have found with some that you end up feeling like you’re on a ‘to do list’ and they say they’ll meet you but put it off/find an excuse

Would you give a 2nd chance? If you sensed truly they are making excuses

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No. Stupidly did once and won’t make that mistake again. You’re basically showing them it’s ok to walk all over you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those that can, do. And those that cant, don't. Or something

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

There's not a connection between the two and they're not universally true. Reasons vs excuses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But he's in jail and lives in Texas... so what am I meant to do? "

Is he on death row

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Everyone has a calendar , if you really want to meet you just pick a slot in the future when you are both available, it’s not hard, and if things change let them know in advance and re-arrange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think, and this is obviously just my opinion, that if someone is truly interested in meeting, they will make the effort. I make allowances for life happening, but in general after a while if there's no movement despite encouragement on my part, I just move on. There's no point losing sleep over it. I understand why some people find it frustrating, but it's just the way of the world sometimes.

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By *oungJayyMan
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

"Human nature says and shows.

When we want to really do something we will find a way.

When we dont want to ,we make every excuse to get away. "

Although some people are right in what they're saying, you are spot on in saying, alot of people just want to live out some quick fantasy and plan to meet but never do, and string you along, it does happen

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Human nature says and shows.

When we want to really do something we will find a way.

When we dont want to ,we make every excuse to get away.

Yep "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This may be a massive leap of faith but I'm taking it.

Sometimes life gets in the way. Sometimes you want to but it's not the right time.

And sometimes practical concerns like money scupper things.

Occasionally it's all three (or more reasons).

It's taken a lot for me to believe that."

All a Journey heh and we all are still travelling on that journey even now evolving.

When we say it is not the correct time or right time.

There are many factors.

Yet we are in the present moment here and now. The past is gone,we are here,and tommorow is not promised to anybody ever.

Atimes we may overthink things. Life and everything is a risk heh.

Lets live a little.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Human nature says and shows.

When we want to really do something we will find a way.

When we dont want to ,we make every excuse to get away.

Totally agree. Cheers man.

Fear comes from Trauma and our own very fear from deep within. People fill voids with all types of actions. To justify their weaknesses so they feel worthy.

There are only very few types of people. Empathic & non.

Sometimes described in the animal kingdom predator or prey.

But other forms of traits develop because of trauma shock etc...

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