FabSwingers.com forum: Are you a chaser or do you like being chased?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is a fascinating dynamic and I would love to hear your replies on this.

I know that some people find the thrill of the chase greater than the thrill of catching someone.

So my question is what is more thrilling to you in a ideal world, doing the chasing or being chased?

And let’s keep it hypothetical and play nicely

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t chase.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t chase. "

But do you like someone chasing you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of both is nice.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I like to chase, I always go after what I want

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I love being chased

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I don’t chase.

But do you like someone chasing you?"

Not really. It all sounds a bit game playey to me. People would have no need to chase me as I’m honest in whether I like them from the start. Too old for all that malarkey x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A bit of both is nice. "

Do you instigate the chase?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t chase.

But do you like someone chasing you?

Not really. It all sounds a bit game playey to me. People would have no need to chase me as I’m honest in whether I like them from the start. Too old for all that malarkey x "

Oh, right, I thought we were talking about who approaches who. Not playing hard to get or malarkey.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"This is a fascinating dynamic and I would love to hear your replies on this.

I know that some people find the thrill of the chase greater than the thrill of catching someone.

So my question is what is more thrilling to you in a ideal world, doing the chasing or being chased?

And let’s keep it hypothetical and play nicely

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I dont like either to be fair... i detest being chased... and wont chase. Lol

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I love the chase! On both sides! Guys love it as much as we do don’t they? It’s more them chase me than I do them though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A bit of both is nice.

Do you instigate the chase?"

I message and am messaged. Irl I flirt with strangers and sometimes they flirt with me. We'd need to define chase I guess. If it appears someone isn't interested why proceed further.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I don’t chase.

But do you like someone chasing you?

Not really. It all sounds a bit game playey to me. People would have no need to chase me as I’m honest in whether I like them from the start. Too old for all that malarkey x

Oh, right, I thought we were talking about who approaches who. Not playing hard to get or malarkey."

Perhaps I misinterpreted then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t chase.

But do you like someone chasing you?

Not really. It all sounds a bit game playey to me. People would have no need to chase me as I’m honest in whether I like them from the start. Too old for all that malarkey x

Oh, right, I thought we were talking about who approaches who. Not playing hard to get or malarkey.

Perhaps I misinterpreted then "

Or I did. OP?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Love to be chased x

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London

"I don’t chase.

But do you like someone chasing you?

Not really. It all sounds a bit game playey to me. People would have no need to chase me as I’m honest in whether I like them from the start. Too old for all that malarkey x "

This ^^

It’s frustrating when you want someone, they say they want you but don’t follow through. It makes it difficult to believe them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs defo likes a chase and mr likes to chase and be chased lol

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Neither! Just go with the flow.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t chase.

But do you like someone chasing you?

Not really. It all sounds a bit game playey to me. People would have no need to chase me as I’m honest in whether I like them from the start. Too old for all that malarkey x

Oh, right, I thought we were talking about who approaches who. Not playing hard to get or malarkey.

Perhaps I misinterpreted then "

It’s not about playing games as I don’t do that myself more about sending messages first thing in the morning that kinda thing. Who first says ‘I want you’ etc

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I’m not for either, much prefer things to naturally take their course than play games with anyone.

It is one thing to flirt, make an approach and tease someone before an arranged meet, but those that play games, just wanting their ego stroked (in my view), are kicked to the side quite quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being chased (up to a point)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight, no chaser

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I don’t chase.

But do you like someone chasing you?

Not really. It all sounds a bit game playey to me. People would have no need to chase me as I’m honest in whether I like them from the start. Too old for all that malarkey x

Oh, right, I thought we were talking about who approaches who. Not playing hard to get or malarkey.

Perhaps I misinterpreted then

It’s not about playing games as I don’t do that myself more about sending messages first thing in the morning that kinda thing. Who first says ‘I want you’ etc "

That’s different but I’d always start with ‘Morning’

then maybe a way to wake them up

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I'm not into the chase.

If I like someone I will message them, then the ball is in their court - they either want me or they don't.

I'm not subtle enough to play the coquette.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither, I'd have a heart attack I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a bit of being chased

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a balance of both.

Being chased can be overwhelming

Chasing can be boring.

Should be mutual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im asthmatic can I just sit and wait

No use at this running around malarky

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't like to chase or be chased.

If a man feels like he's chasing me then we aren't compatible.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I can't be arsed chasing and I don't run very fast.

Being chased - I don't mind a little teasing, but you have to get to the point soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's when you're both just as interested in each other and it's not more one sided that its best!

Put another way you chase each other equally I guess. That's more likely to be sexy as hell.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Some people think that holding a conversation for longer than a day is chasing someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To old to chase or be chased I’m afraid

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Neither, I don't chase nor do I like to be chased.

Either it's going to happen or it's not.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I ‘ve mailed people who have interested me in the past and have equally been mailed by people who were interested in me too

Some worked out some didn’t but I wouldn’t chase anyone, that’s a bit OTT and I would imagine quite off putting to some

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Chasing seems like so much hard work…. Being chased sounds like game play… I’m too old to buy a long playing album let alone chase someone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some people think that holding a conversation for longer than a day is chasing someone. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chase me, chase me.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I'm not fond of chasing, and hardly ever send a first message. The main exception is if it splits off from a chat on the forums.

It's also a massive confidence boost when someone approaches me

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

In true female form ... it depends

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

My instinct is to say I don't chase. But thinking about it I usually do.

It takes a lot for me to be the one to make the initial contact and I've not done it in the real world since I was a teen. Too scared of rejection.

But once I'm aware there is an attraction, I am often the one that ends up doing the chasing. It can be disheartening sometimes though, it is too easy to convince yourself the other person has lost interest because they wait for you to make contact. Can feel like flogging a dead horse, yet sometimes that horse is just having a nap.

I'm not even sure that made sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the initial chase... But if its handed to me, then I'm "pftt" and lose interest...if they are too keen it's 100% turn off /claustrophobic ... Whereas if i have to work for it, I'm in lol!

A bit like fishing maybe!

I think I'm fairly cool when it comes to chasing... but i really like to flirt /banter (with no expectations).. Apparently this makes me intriguing

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Bit of both, but I soon get bored if they don't let me catch them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh! Tension! Tension is what i like.. Give a little, get a little, pull back a little.... Like an elastic band being stretched

Maybe i need some sleep

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

I won't chase anyone. Never have never will. I will send mail if no response I will not pester further. Never understood the no pride mentality in that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have zero ability to figure out double speak or hints. And do not have the confidence to chase. I prefer men who are clear and assertive up front.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t chase. I also don’t like to be chased. I prefer a healthy method of communication. If we are both interested in each other then we can speak at our leisure.

Chasing kinda seems like the person isn’t interested and the other person is bordering on harassing them..!! I have to block a lot of people on here, who message me over and over. Like where is the decorum, if someone doesn’t respond, what makes you think that you should message them again??

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

Have to admit it, I do like to be the chaser with bbw's.

Lizzy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither.

Although i do find that I like lose interest quite quickly once the object of my desires returns the interest. So maybe I do just enjoy the “chase”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Genuinely neither. If I like someone and vice versa I'd rather we just cracked on with things without any silly games.

If I like you I'll tell you... equally I don't need someone to run around after me to validate their interest. Life is way too short.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

I don’t chase but if there’s is a connection I’m interested in taking further I’ll put the energy into conversations.

And I’ll even wait a little time for conversation to continue but if a “friend” is busy putting up meets to meet others and then decides to contact me because I’m online and no one else has shown interest then no thank you. I’m not anyone’s fall back choice or just in case person. If you want to meet me arrange it with me directly or just don’t bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't chase

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I do like to having to work a little bit, it means I’m consciously deciding I really want someone but detest games and don’t enjoy being chased myself.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"It's when you're both just as interested in each other and it's not more one sided that its best!

Put another way you chase each other equally I guess. That's more likely to be sexy as hell. "

Yes this is the ideal dynamic

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do like to having to work a little bit, it means I’m consciously deciding I really want someone but detest games and don’t enjoy being chased myself."

This is what I call chasing. And keeping the thrill there not games at all and if someone is too hard to get I give up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t chase but if there’s is a connection I’m interested in taking further I’ll put the energy into conversations.

Agree 100% with this. I've wasted weeks speaking to women (in some cases people on my friends list) only to see their status updates specifically call out other guys on here.

Whilst I appreciate it's a Swingers site I ain't anyone's 2nd best so see you later.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

OK. Who FAF?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t chase.

But do you like someone chasing you?

Not really. It all sounds a bit game playey to me. People would have no need to chase me as I’m honest in whether I like them from the start. Too old for all that malarkey x "

Exactly this

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Nope I’m too blunt for chasing and being chased makes me feel claustrophobic and smothered.

If I like you, you will know about it as I’m about as subtle as a sledgehammer - I like back and forth banter a little of letting the other think there keeping you on your toes but that’s as far as my cat and mouse game goes xx

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

I find it v flattering that some 1 would want 2 chase me x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Nope I’m too blunt for chasing and being chased makes me feel claustrophobic and smothered.

Squeak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t chase but if there’s is a connection I’m interested in taking further I’ll put the energy into conversations.

Agree 100% with this. I've wasted weeks speaking to women (in some cases people on my friends list) only to see their status updates specifically call out other guys on here.

Whilst I appreciate it's a Swingers site I ain't anyone's 2nd best so see you later.

No i don't get that?? ... If it's a swingers site aren't we all someone's second best?? we are all trying to make connections with other people... Not looking for monogamy ?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t chase but if there’s is a connection I’m interested in taking further I’ll put the energy into conversations.

Agree 100% with this. I've wasted weeks speaking to women (in some cases people on my friends list) only to see their status updates specifically call out other guys on here.

Whilst I appreciate it's a Swingers site I ain't anyone's 2nd best so see you later.

No i don't get that?? ... If it's a swingers site aren't we all someone's second best?? we are all trying to make connections with other people... Not looking for monogamy ?!? "

I'm not talking about monogamy. I'm talking about people specifically calling out guys on their status to "come get me" (especially after crying off 2 arranged meets with me barely a few days earlier). I'm not fully expecting to be someone's sole focus of attention on Fab but a little bit of respect would be appreciated.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

We are too unfit to chase or be chased, unless its a sedate waddle.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Surely if there is mutual attraction then neither need to chase at all?

I'm a modern woman and not afraid to go after what I want so If someone caught my eye then I'd mail them but certainly wouldn't call it chasing them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nither no time for those games

Would rather people just be upfront in what they want

Like if they just want a vanilla bang at me say so we get around to it at some point

If they want something more kink wise then say so and we start going though the prossece off building trust and take things from there

If they what a fwb or fb say so and we see how things go

If they want a open or closed relationship then we see how things go

No time for games or not being upfront

Like ooo I want this that the next thing ok then

Have a meet play they get home and message was good but not for me

If they just wanted a bang at me say so it happen

But let me diced if that’s what I am wanting

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I’ve never chased. I’ve got the attention span of a gnat unless I’m being stimulated so I don’t think chasing was ever for me.

I used to find being chased suffocating so I’d be off in the opposite direction.

The whole concept isn’t something I’ve ever got my head around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely don’t chase!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't chase. And one become the alpha in my quest. If it's not my say, I cut ties.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't chase but if I like someone I'll let them know.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"It's when you're both just as interested in each other and it's not more one sided that its best!

Put another way you chase each other equally I guess. That's more likely to be sexy as hell. "

Exactly this.

This is the dynamic that I look for, it should be fun. If I find that I’m chasing then it makes me think that they’re not into me and I’ll stop

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"It's when you're both just as interested in each other and it's not more one sided that its best!

Put another way you chase each other equally I guess. That's more likely to be sexy as hell.

Exactly this.

This is the dynamic that I look for, it should be fun. If I find that I’m chasing then it makes me think that they’re not into me and I’ll stop"

This! This is what I was trying to say! Dammit.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"We are too unfit to chase or be chased, unless its a sedate waddle."

Get waddling

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I don’t chase or like being chased.

If someone piques my interest I’ll send a first message and see where it goes. It can lead to either sexy banter that may lead to more, which it has or friendly conversation.

But chasing someone never.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I enjoy both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like to be Shaun, dark destroyer, Wallace and meet Bradley Walsh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I dont chase, then I would be in the playground sat by myself

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I don't chase, fear of rejection and all that...

I'm chased I guess although sometimes I'm completely oblivious to it

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By *ookie doughMan
over a year ago

leic

I'm to shy to be a chaser lol. But if I'm approached then I'll play my part so to speak

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t chase.

I don’t particularly like being chased either as that tends to feel a bit harrassy after awhile.

Cool confident declaration of interest with a bit of light wooing and chemistry is the way to go.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Neither. I’m a communicator.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

According to the female friends I talk to about this stuff, I’m extremely cut throat and refuse to chase.

I chased a lot when I was younger, and it got me laid a lot, which was cool I guess.

But I just can’t be fucked these days. I’m not playing games. Wanna go silent to see if I’ll chase? Bye. Wanna give short answers to see if I’ll carry the convo? Next. Wanna play any kinda game instead of just being open and honest in your intentions? Blocked.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I do like to having to work a little bit, it means I’m consciously deciding I really want someone but detest games and don’t enjoy being chased myself.

This is what I call chasing. And keeping the thrill there not games at all and if someone is too hard to get I give up

Yup

And you can just ask them straight if unsure…. Am I completely wasting my time ?, before giving up, it’s not hard. Very few women will play you along on that, they will either tell you it ain’t going to happen, or they will be unsure/undecided. Then it’s your move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"According to the female friends I talk to about this stuff, I’m extremely cut throat and refuse to chase.

I chased a lot when I was younger, and it got me laid a lot, which was cool I guess.

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I'm bisexual... I like both

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Neither. I’m a communicator. "

You misspelled cockwomble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t say I like to chase, I’m not into all the games. But I do love getting to know someone, plenty of banter and flirting and when it feels right arrange date for a weekend to meet up. And I’ve been approached by women on here to, that feels good tbh, to have the women make the first move. But I still put the effort in and enjoy getting to know them as much as I would if it was me making the approach xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a bit of both. I need to feel like I want them and that they're a little hard to get, or I'll get bored. But equally, if I'm doing the chasing then I'll think they don't want me, and there's nothing less arousing than feeling undesired.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"Neither. I’m a communicator.

You misspelled cockwomble"

Stop chasing me beanstalk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither. I'm not into games

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit like Benny Hill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naturally love being chased, especially at first. I rarely chase people … if I get very involved then it might be different and might chase too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been both sides.

These days I’m the let’s meet… you can’t… no worries, see you around type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make the move an assertive confident action and move.

Then observe the response and reply.

Pull & push..

Is really what happens between guys and gals.

Seldom some understand the Magnet affect.

80/20..

60/40.

All depends whom are involved and if they understand the silent yet powerful actions at play.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I like being chased. I used to like doing the chasing but I’m more of a chubby house cat than sexy lioness these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a fascinating dynamic and I would love to hear your replies on this.

I know that some people find the thrill of the chase greater than the thrill of catching someone.

So my question is what is more thrilling to you in a ideal world, doing the chasing or being chased?

And let’s keep it hypothetical and play nicely

cooly implemented mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a bit like Benny Hill

Dead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to chase, I always go after what I want

Wow that is very sexy and confidence.

More and more ladies are thinking that way.

Freedom to them i say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a bit like Benny Hill

Dead?

"
may as well be mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like being chased. I used to like doing the chasing but I’m more of a chubby house cat than sexy lioness these days

I’m sure there’s a joke in there about cat flaps

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

I love being chased, hate being the chaser

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Neither. I'm not into games"

I’m not talking about games it’s more to do with flirtatious foreplay

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

As I don't send messages anyone I chat to has to make the first move. I don't expect or want anyone to chase me but at the same time I've had very obvious "chase me" messages where someone is extremely complimentary in an opening message and then withdraws in the hope I will chase. It's a short lived conversation.

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"This is a fascinating dynamic and I would love to hear your replies on this.

I know that some people find the thrill of the chase greater than the thrill of catching someone.

So my question is what is more thrilling to you in a ideal world, doing the chasing or being chased?

And let’s keep it hypothetical and play nicely

I don't need to chase..

I do like a very well worded approach though...

Approach me on here like you would at a bar & you've got much more chance in enticing me to converse with you...

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over a year ago

"I like a bit of both. I need to feel like I want them and that they're a little hard to get, or I'll get bored. But equally, if I'm doing the chasing then I'll think they don't want me, and there's nothing less arousing than feeling undesired."

Completely are agree with this. Feeling undesired is the worst feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t chase.

But do you like someone chasing you?

Not really. It all sounds a bit game playey to me. People would have no need to chase me as I’m honest in whether I like them from the start. Too old for all that malarkey x

This ^^

It’s frustrating when you want someone, they say they want you but don’t follow through. It makes it difficult to believe them."

Who dares wins in the end.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I don't like chasing or be chased and if i add to this mix playing games then is completely unattractive for my taste as i can't cope with liars .

I like natural , simple, direct and honesty above all.

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over a year ago

"This is a fascinating dynamic and I would love to hear your replies on this.

I know that some people find the thrill of the chase greater than the thrill of catching someone.

So my question is what is more thrilling to you in a ideal world, doing the chasing or being chased?

And let’s keep it hypothetical and play nicely

I don't need to chase..

I do like a very well worded approach though...

Approach me on here like you would at a bar & you've got much more chance in enticing me to converse with you...

Nice I like your mindset. Younglady

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

I don’t like chasing and have never done so as not very confident (in the way of approaching) for starters and have found women usually to be direct with what they want and would just say so if they haven’t they not interested and chasing won’t change mind just my take on it I’m probably wrong haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not for either, much prefer things to naturally take their course than play games with anyone.

It is one thing to flirt, make an approach and tease someone before an arranged meet, but those that play games, just wanting their ego stroked (in my view), are kicked to the side quite quickly. "

110% agree. Do not except silly childish games.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Neither, I'd have a heart attack I think "

So how did you meet your man? Somebody surely had to make the 1st move.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

Yep

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"This is a fascinating dynamic and I would love to hear your replies on this.

I know that some people find the thrill of the chase greater than the thrill of catching someone.

So my question is what is more thrilling to you in a ideal world, doing the chasing or being chased?

And let’s keep it hypothetical and play nicely

I don't need to chase..

I do like a very well worded approach though...

Approach me on here like you would at a bar & you've got much more chance in enticing me to converse with you...

Nice I like your mindset. Younglady"

Why thank you.. It's definitely worked a

For a couple guys..

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

I'm terrible as a chaser (I very easily start to think I'm not wanted) and no one ever chases me (which doesn't help with my chasing issues).

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Neither

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like both. Although my chasing is subtle, it's more like luring them in

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I am a pimp. Women chase me. I do not chase women.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Six of one, half a dozen of the other. If anyone is interested, I will acknowledge, and respect that, very often offering them dinner, or a social meet especially in the real world where someone might be giving me the eye in a supermarket, or at a petrol station. It's also great a great feeling to know that I haven't lost my mo jo. Vice versa, if I fancy someone, I'm not exactly backward at coming forward. Should it be a non starters, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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over a year ago

"This is a fascinating dynamic and I would love to hear your replies on this.

I know that some people find the thrill of the chase greater than the thrill of catching someone.

So my question is what is more thrilling to you in a ideal world, doing the chasing or being chased?

And let’s keep it hypothetical and play nicely

I don’t chase but can flirt and drop hints - I like to know that a man likes me enough to make the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to be chased. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just tired !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the chase , being teased a little, flirted with, if im lucky, for me it all adds to the fun.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I like a little chase but not too much. I’m not desperate. It would be nice if I was chased just once.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Nobody is worth the effort to chase

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Nobody is worth the effort to chase"
Agree!

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