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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I offered to do some work for someone on fab, not a big job, then the guy turns round and says his wife doesn't want me to come because I will want sex with her. I feel offended as I wouldn't jeopardise my business in this way. Am I over reacting?

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

No point in feeling offended.

Forget about it and move on.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Well why are you promoting your business on here???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well why are you promoting your business on here???"

I wasn't, I replied to a post they put on asking for an electrician, thinking it was something urgent.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Well why are you promoting your business on here???

I wasn't, I replied to a post they put on asking for an electrician, thinking it was something urgent. "

Ok so no dont see why your offended

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No point in feeling offended.

Forget about it and move on."

just pissed me off, try and help people. they changed their minds when I said I Don jeopardise my business that way, but told them it's best they get someone else if she has concerns

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

People can change their minds

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I can understand your feelings - its kinda implying you are some kinda predator amd that sex was your only goal.

I don't understand why they would look for one on here if then going to say that though!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The husband probably suggested it to his wife, portraying it as something you may want and she didn't take kindly to it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People can change their minds

"

there was multiple messages back and forth about the work, no suggestion of wanting sex, so I was took aback when they said they didn't want me to come, and the reason why.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can understand your feelings - its kinda implying you are some kinda predator amd that sex was your only goal.

I don't understand why they would look for one on here if then going to say that though!? "

exactly my point!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"People can change their minds

there was multiple messages back and forth about the work, no suggestion of wanting sex, so I was took aback when they said they didn't want me to come, and the reason why. "

Move on xxxxx

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Maybe there just wasn't a spark.

Boom, boom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People can change their minds

there was multiple messages back and forth about the work, no suggestion of wanting sex, so I was took aback when they said they didn't want me to come, and the reason why. "

Sounds like the husband setting it up without getting her consent to it first and was fishing for someone to participate in his fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The husband probably suggested it to his wife, portraying it as something you may want and she didn't take kindly to it. "

maybe, who knows. hope they get sorted with someone that doesn't rip them off, I know it won't be me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe there just wasn't a spark.

Boom, boom. "

Ohhhhhh....Boom, boom!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe there just wasn't a spark.

Boom, boom. "

SHOCKING

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The husband probably suggested it to his wife, portraying it as something you may want and she didn't take kindly to it.

maybe, who knows. hope they get sorted with someone that doesn't rip them off, I know it won't be me."

I'm quite sure she had nothing to do with it. It was his fantasy fulfilment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They could have been looking to act out a role play based around reality.

Maybe they were speaking with more than one and the wife made her choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People can change their minds

there was multiple messages back and forth about the work, no suggestion of wanting sex, so I was took aback when they said they didn't want me to come, and the reason why.

Sounds like the husband setting it up without getting her consent to it first and was fishing for someone to participate in his fantasy."

Yep this. Perhaps she doesn't even exist.

He had his wank now. Don't worry about it OP.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I can't understand why this has to come out in the open when the person your talking about also made a post just forget about it and move forward because it sounds like something else that your annoyed with.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

They were obviously conFUSEd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People can change their minds

there was multiple messages back and forth about the work, no suggestion of wanting sex, so I was took aback when they said they didn't want me to come, and the reason why.

Sounds like the husband setting it up without getting her consent to it first and was fishing for someone to participate in his fantasy.

Yep this. Perhaps she doesn't even exist.

He had his wank now. Don't worry about it OP."

You're so cynical. I believed he had a wife, at least.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm putting it down to "crossed wires" lol ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They were obviously conFUSEd. "

Bravo!!! What have you been putting in your cakes!! I want some!!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I'm putting it down to "crossed wires" lol ?? "

Things like this bring you back down to EARTH.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm putting it down to "crossed wires" lol ?? "

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"They were obviously conFUSEd.

Bravo!!! What have you been putting in your cakes!! I want some!! "

Sparkles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm putting it down to "crossed wires" lol ??

Things like this bring you back down to EARTH. "

Gentlemen, put a plug in it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They were obviously conFUSEd.

Bravo!!! What have you been putting in your cakes!! I want some!!

Sparkles. "

What is she doing in your cake???

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I'm putting it down to "crossed wires" lol ??

Things like this bring you back down to EARTH.

Gentlemen, put a plug in it! "

Socket to be big boy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can't understand why this has to come out in the open when the person your talking about also made a post just forget about it and move forward because it sounds like something else that your annoyed with."

being offended a d being annoyed are totally different

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"They were obviously conFUSEd.

Bravo!!! What have you been putting in your cakes!! I want some!!

Sparkles.

What is she doing in your cake??? "

Hopefully going to pop out of it (shhh, it's a secret)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm putting it down to "crossed wires" lol ??

Things like this bring you back down to EARTH.

Gentlemen, put a plug in it!

Socket to be big boy. "

I will, LIVE and in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They were obviously conFUSEd.

Bravo!!! What have you been putting in your cakes!! I want some!!

Sparkles.

What is she doing in your cake???

Hopefully going to pop out of it (shhh, it's a secret) "

All right....I'll keep between the three of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't understand why this has to come out in the open when the person your talking about also made a post just forget about it and move forward because it sounds like something else that your annoyed with."

What post?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I can't understand why this has to come out in the open when the person your talking about also made a post just forget about it and move forward because it sounds like something else that your annoyed with.

being offended a d being annoyed are totally different "

It's a rant just forget about it and move on making a post about it it's like it had more effect on you then you speak about to go to the lengths

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By *tevied1976Man
over a year ago

gloucester


"I'm putting it down to "crossed wires" lol ??

Things like this bring you back down to EARTH.

Gentlemen, put a plug in it!

Socket to be big boy.

I will, LIVE and in person. "

I'm trying to remain neutral, but it sounds like the husband was keen for you to come around and the wife felt there was no connection!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never mix business with pleasure ever!

That man assumed and created that situation..

Chin up fella.

He full well know's who he his..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move on to the next job...be professional about it...it happens

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"No point in feeling offended.

Forget about it and move on.

just pissed me off, try and help people. they changed their minds when I said I Don jeopardise my business that way, but told them it's best they get someone else if she has concerns "

Fuck them, their loss, let them pay emergency call out rate

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I can't understand why this has to come out in the open when the person your talking about also made a post just forget about it and move forward because it sounds like something else that your annoyed with.

being offended a d being annoyed are totally different "

But you said earlier you were pissed off.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Think this is a good reminder mot to mix business with fab, no matter how innocent your intentions may be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally understand the husband's point of view. We all know how it goes, person comes to look at wires, gets hot doing said work, takes top off to cool down and before you know it.. balls deep in wife against fridge.

Better safe than sorry, damn horny tradesman.

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Says more about them than you OP.

Can be hard when you are genuine and professional.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most people are not compatible with most other people, including for trade work jobs

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"I offered to do some work for someone on fab, not a big job, then the guy turns round and says his wife doesn't want me to come because I will want sex with her. I feel offended as I wouldn't jeopardise my business in this way. Am I over reacting?"

Simple truth is tbat so many guys come on this site offering to provide some kind of service, take that any ways you like.

Thinking more of so called, photographers, massage experts being tbe top ones. most people know this is ultimately just a scam to get laid.

Some maybe they are looking for that role play, most will just see it as another angle.

This is not yellow pages, Thompson Local, check A Trade.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I totally understand the husband's point of view. We all know how it goes, person comes to look at wires, gets hot doing said work, takes top off to cool down and before you know it.. balls deep in wife against fridge.

Better safe than sorry, damn horny tradesman."

is that from experience? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I offered to do some work for someone on fab, not a big job, then the guy turns round and says his wife doesn't want me to come because I will want sex with her. I feel offended as I wouldn't jeopardise my business in this way. Am I over reacting?"

Look at it this way. Do you want a person like that as a customer? I wouldn’t.

Same way some say no bi guys. I guess it’s incase I look at his fungus or touch or whatever. Now, I’m rather proud of my ability not to touch someone if they ask. But.. like your situation I’d rather not have been there

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

To be fair mate we all know men are untameable animals, so it’s only him trying to be safe. He knows once you saw his wife your toxic male self would surface and it would be a orgy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I offered to do some work for someone on fab, not a big job, then the guy turns round and says his wife doesn't want me to come because I will want sex with her. I feel offended as I wouldn't jeopardise my business in this way. Am I over reacting?"

Wow, she is being rather presumptious! Why on earth would she think you'd be interested in her?

That males you sound like you wouldn't be able to control yourself, how insulting

Sounds like you had a lucky escape there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the man was just trying to see if there was any common GROUND....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has the wife been watching too much dodgy German porn?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I offered to do some work for someone on fab, not a big job, then the guy turns round and says his wife doesn't want me to come because I will want sex with her. I feel offended as I wouldn't jeopardise my business in this way. Am I over reacting?

Look at it this way. Do you want a person like that as a customer? I wouldn’t.

Same way some say no bi guys. I guess it’s incase I look at his fungus or touch or whatever. Now, I’m rather proud of my ability not to touch someone if they ask. But.. like your situation I’d rather not have been there"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be fair mate we all know men are untameable animals, so it’s only him trying to be safe. He knows once you saw his wife your toxic male self would surface and it would be a orgy "

believe me, it definitely wouldn't have been!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I offered to do some work for someone on fab, not a big job, then the guy turns round and says his wife doesn't want me to come because I will want sex with her. I feel offended as I wouldn't jeopardise my business in this way. Am I over reacting?

Wow, she is being rather presumptious! Why on earth would she think you'd be interested in her?

That males you sound like you wouldn't be able to control yourself, how insulting

Sounds like you had a lucky escape there "

Definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let the man vent.

He responded to a circumstance of possible employment and who knows there may have been some perks to it (like a free lunch)

He then found the work was cancelled due to another's suspicions about his ability to focus on the job alone.

He is a qualified electrician with his own business who (as far as we are led to understand) was not seeking to first and foremost mix that with pleasure.

Much reasonable back and forth communication had ensued concerning that work.

It's not the cancellation I'm sure jobs have been cancelled before around him.

It's the vulnerability he found himself in through no fault of his own (having a skill) and the useless piece of sh*t who played on that!

I'm with you OP!

* If any of these details are wrong I be pleased to edit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let the man vent.

He responded to a circumstance of possible employment and who knows there may have been some perks to it (like a free lunch)

He then found the work was cancelled due to another's suspicions about his ability to focus on the job alone.

He is a qualified electrician with his own business who (as far as we are led to understand) was not seeking to first and foremost mix that with pleasure.

Much reasonable back and forth communication had ensued concerning that work.

It's not the cancellation I'm sure jobs have been cancelled before around him.

It's the vulnerability he found himself in through no fault of his own (having a skill) and the useless piece of sh*t who played on that!

I'm with you OP!

* If any of these details are wrong I be pleased to edit!"

..I will be pleased to edit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let the man vent.

He responded to a circumstance of possible employment and who knows there may have been some perks to it (like a free lunch)

He then found the work was cancelled due to another's suspicions about his ability to focus on the job alone.

He is a qualified electrician with his own business who (as far as we are led to understand) was not seeking to first and foremost mix that with pleasure.

Much reasonable back and forth communication had ensued concerning that work.

It's not the cancellation I'm sure jobs have been cancelled before around him.

It's the vulnerability he found himself in through no fault of his own (having a skill) and the useless piece of sh*t who played on that!

I'm with you OP!

* If any of these details are wrong I be pleased to edit!"

Agreed and there is a bigger undercurrent here that was completely missed, maybe due to his being a male and everyone knows that males are expected to put up with misandric comments and self entitled attitudes from women. Why should any man put up and shut up with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let the man vent.

He responded to a circumstance of possible employment and who knows there may have been some perks to it (like a free lunch)

He then found the work was cancelled due to another's suspicions about his ability to focus on the job alone.

He is a qualified electrician with his own business who (as far as we are led to understand) was not seeking to first and foremost mix that with pleasure.

Much reasonable back and forth communication had ensued concerning that work.

It's not the cancellation I'm sure jobs have been cancelled before around him.

It's the vulnerability he found himself in through no fault of his own (having a skill) and the useless piece of sh*t who played on that!

I'm with you OP!

* If any of these details are wrong I be pleased to edit!

Agreed and there is a bigger undercurrent here that was completely missed, maybe due to his being a male and everyone knows that males are expected to put up with misandric comments and self entitled attitudes from women. Why should any man put up and shut up with it.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My guess... No wife at all. Horny guy, wanking, wants a guy to come over and creates a story. Horny guy cums, changes his mind, makes up another story to cancel.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

It's a difficult situation to navigate I found.

I'm the kind of person where if I could help someone and make their life a little easier I would. I once needed someone with a van to collect a washing machine for me from a couple of miles away and drop it to mine. I don't drive and couldn't afford to hire anyone to do it at the time (hence a 2nd hand washing machine and not a new one delivered from a shop)

I'd have done it for someone if it wasn't really out of my way. Well, a fella from here who I had spoken to before and knew I was in a bad place mentally (I was mid breakdown) offered. Phew thought me. I'd told him I couldn't afford to pay him but could give a fiver petrol

Anywhoooo, he got the washing machine to me and said he knew I was skint but still wanted paying so it would have to be in the form of giving him a blow job. It ended up getting quite nasty... so I can understand their trepidation

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Let the man vent.

He responded to a circumstance of possible employment and who knows there may have been some perks to it (like a free lunch)

He then found the work was cancelled due to another's suspicions about his ability to focus on the job alone.

He is a qualified electrician with his own business who (as far as we are led to understand) was not seeking to first and foremost mix that with pleasure.

Much reasonable back and forth communication had ensued concerning that work.

It's not the cancellation I'm sure jobs have been cancelled before around him.

It's the vulnerability he found himself in through no fault of his own (having a skill) and the useless piece of sh*t who played on that!

I'm with you OP!

* If any of these details are wrong I be pleased to edit!

Agreed and there is a bigger undercurrent here that was completely missed, maybe due to his being a male and everyone knows that males are expected to put up with misandric comments and self entitled attitudes from women. Why should any man put up and shut up with it.

"

This

Too many people making excuses this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need an electrician

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Let the man vent.

He responded to a circumstance of possible employment and who knows there may have been some perks to it (like a free lunch)

He then found the work was cancelled due to another's suspicions about his ability to focus on the job alone.

He is a qualified electrician with his own business who (as far as we are led to understand) was not seeking to first and foremost mix that with pleasure.

Much reasonable back and forth communication had ensued concerning that work.

It's not the cancellation I'm sure jobs have been cancelled before around him.

It's the vulnerability he found himself in through no fault of his own (having a skill) and the useless piece of sh*t who played on that!

I'm with you OP!

* If any of these details are wrong I be pleased to edit!

Agreed and there is a bigger undercurrent here that was completely missed, maybe due to his being a male and everyone knows that males are expected to put up with misandric comments and self entitled attitudes from women. Why should any man put up and shut up with it.

"

. To both the above comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let the man vent.

He responded to a circumstance of possible employment and who knows there may have been some perks to it (like a free lunch)

He then found the work was cancelled due to another's suspicions about his ability to focus on the job alone.

He is a qualified electrician with his own business who (as far as we are led to understand) was not seeking to first and foremost mix that with pleasure.

Much reasonable back and forth communication had ensued concerning that work.

It's not the cancellation I'm sure jobs have been cancelled before around him.

It's the vulnerability he found himself in through no fault of his own (having a skill) and the useless piece of sh*t who played on that!

I'm with you OP!

* If any of these details are wrong I be pleased to edit!

Agreed and there is a bigger undercurrent here that was completely missed, maybe due to his being a male and everyone knows that males are expected to put up with misandric comments and self entitled attitudes from women. Why should any man put up and shut up with it.

This

Too many people making excuses this "

Yep, imagine if a woman posted that! The responses would be totally different. And nobody would be taking the piss for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a lot of lightness about his pain!

Yes, the jokes are very good.

BUT another issue is being easily disregarded here..the idea of what seems to be reasonable engagement with another turning to sh*t!

If people are very comfortable with that?

When there is a clear and reasonable thread of conversation one expects that to continue (That's natural for most of us?) It wasn't a comedy show he was planning on attending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is probably a good lesson in why it's not wise to mix business with fab

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"This is probably a good lesson in why it's not wise to mix business with fab"

This^^^^

Although many know what I do, no secret. I do not mix with FAB offer, I understand the OP, but as said a lot here come on offering services with the expectations of reward. Even if the offer is genuine one i'd never make it here.

Lesson learned

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Let the man vent.

He responded to a circumstance of possible employment and who knows there may have been some perks to it (like a free lunch)

He then found the work was cancelled due to another's suspicions about his ability to focus on the job alone.

He is a qualified electrician with his own business who (as far as we are led to understand) was not seeking to first and foremost mix that with pleasure.

Much reasonable back and forth communication had ensued concerning that work.

It's not the cancellation I'm sure jobs have been cancelled before around him.

It's the vulnerability he found himself in through no fault of his own (having a skill) and the useless piece of sh*t who played on that!

I'm with you OP!

* If any of these details are wrong I be pleased to edit!

Agreed and there is a bigger undercurrent here that was completely missed, maybe due to his being a male and everyone knows that males are expected to put up with misandric comments and self entitled attitudes from women. Why should any man put up and shut up with it.

"

At the end of the day I have a professional business and reputation I have to protect. work comes and goes and I don't have a problem if potential clients go with cheaper quotes, that's the way of the world, but to be told I might turn up expecting sex purely because I'm on fab I find offensive and rude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I need an electrician "

Sorry too far away for me lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need an electrician

Sorry too far away for me lol. "

Haha I wasn’t asking you to come

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a difficult situation to navigate I found.

I'm the kind of person where if I could help someone and make their life a little easier I would. I once needed someone with a van to collect a washing machine for me from a couple of miles away and drop it to mine. I don't drive and couldn't afford to hire anyone to do it at the time (hence a 2nd hand washing machine and not a new one delivered from a shop)

I'd have done it for someone if it wasn't really out of my way. Well, a fella from here who I had spoken to before and knew I was in a bad place mentally (I was mid breakdown) offered. Phew thought me. I'd told him I couldn't afford to pay him but could give a fiver petrol

Anywhoooo, he got the washing machine to me and said he knew I was skint but still wanted paying so it would have to be in the form of giving him a blow job. It ended up getting quite nasty... so I can understand their trepidation"

That can't have been a nice experience for you. I've helped loads of people in the past with favours, and never expected payment of any kind.

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over a year ago


"People can change their minds

there was multiple messages back and forth about the work, no suggestion of wanting sex, so I was took aback when they said they didn't want me to come, and the reason why. "

Unfortunately there are a large percentage of male on and off fabs.

Who expect sex from women the moment they enter a club (the I paid for it mentality) or a home… well you invited me here mentality. They prob want to avoid a situation where you do the work and then say don’t worry about paying I will just fuck your wife. Or some other awkward situation. What odd is you must have people change there minds about hiring you within your profession… why has this one made you jump straight on a forum and state how angry and pissed off you are! Unless you did in fact hope that it would turn into a sex for services situation and now your protesting your innocence. It could be anything depending upon who’s frame of reference you looking at it from. I would worry meet or no meet it’s nothing to stress yourself out about.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Let the man vent.

He responded to a circumstance of possible employment and who knows there may have been some perks to it (like a free lunch)

He then found the work was cancelled due to another's suspicions about his ability to focus on the job alone.

He is a qualified electrician with his own business who (as far as we are led to understand) was not seeking to first and foremost mix that with pleasure.

Much reasonable back and forth communication had ensued concerning that work.

It's not the cancellation I'm sure jobs have been cancelled before around him.

It's the vulnerability he found himself in through no fault of his own (having a skill) and the useless piece of sh*t who played on that!

I'm with you OP!

* If any of these details are wrong I be pleased to edit!

Agreed and there is a bigger undercurrent here that was completely missed, maybe due to his being a male and everyone knows that males are expected to put up with misandric comments and self entitled attitudes from women. Why should any man put up and shut up with it.

At the end of the day I have a professional business and reputation I have to protect. work comes and goes and I don't have a problem if potential clients go with cheaper quotes, that's the way of the world, but to be told I might turn up expecting sex purely because I'm on fab I find offensive and rude. "

It is offensive and rude.

Much the same way as women are expected by some men to have sex with them, purely because we're on fab. I think it shows the type of mindset the couple have, but again, going by my own experience I can understand it to a degree. I certainly wouldn't have considered it had I not had the experience I did.

Some peeps simply cannot separate the 2 and think anything fab has to involve everything fab.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"There is a lot of lightness about his pain!

Yes, the jokes are very good.

BUT another issue is being easily disregarded here..the idea of what seems to be reasonable engagement with another turning to sh*t!

If people are very comfortable with that?

When there is a clear and reasonable thread of conversation one expects that to continue (That's natural for most of us?) It wasn't a comedy show he was planning on attending."

Pain

What

Pain

Some one cancelled a meet

Why all the drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it is a site where people connect and talk about sex. So that kinda comes with every chat and meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Similar happened to me. I’m a plumber by trade and a woman invited me round as I said I’d fix her bathroom sink. Was leaking into flat downstairs. Turns out she just wanted to suck my cock instead. I was furious. Fuck all wrong with her sink. So after I shot a load down her throat I put in some new washers anyway. Couldn’t let her away with that kinda behaviour.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Similar happened to me. I’m a plumber by trade and a woman invited me round as I said I’d fix her bathroom sink. Was leaking into flat downstairs. Turns out she just wanted to suck my cock instead. I was furious. Fuck all wrong with her sink. So after I shot a load down her throat I put in some new washers anyway. Couldn’t let her away with that kinda behaviour."

Then you woke up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe there just wasn't a spark.

Boom, boom.

SHOCKING "

Not wired up right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a lot of lightness about his pain!

Yes, the jokes are very good.

BUT another issue is being easily disregarded here..the idea of what seems to be reasonable engagement with another turning to sh*t!

If people are very comfortable with that?

When there is a clear and reasonable thread of conversation one expects that to continue (That's natural for most of us?) It wasn't a comedy show he was planning on attending."

I can't say I have read very much of this thread, hence am unable to comment on the lightness to which you have referred.

I would assume it isn't in reference to the lightness that some of us engaged in with the OP in the very early hours of the night when the Forum was, essentially, empty, I think it helped lighten his mood at a very lonely time day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Similar happened to me. I’m a plumber by trade and a woman invited me round as I said I’d fix her bathroom sink. Was leaking into flat downstairs. Turns out she just wanted to suck my cock instead. I was furious. Fuck all wrong with her sink. So after I shot a load down her throat I put in some new washers anyway. Couldn’t let her away with that kinda behaviour.

Then you woke up?"

Reported for bullying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Similar happened to me. I’m a plumber by trade and a woman invited me round as I said I’d fix her bathroom sink. Was leaking into flat downstairs. Turns out she just wanted to suck my cock instead. I was furious. Fuck all wrong with her sink. So after I shot a load down her throat I put in some new washers anyway. Couldn’t let her away with that kinda behaviour."

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Seems strange to put a post up if you're not looking for a volunteer to help out from off here.

I wouldn't be offended, I wouldn't give it another thought.

And if you replied with a god heart then fair play to you

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Similar happened to me. I’m a plumber by trade and a woman invited me round as I said I’d fix her bathroom sink. Was leaking into flat downstairs. Turns out she just wanted to suck my cock instead. I was furious. Fuck all wrong with her sink. So after I shot a load down her throat I put in some new washers anyway. Couldn’t let her away with that kinda behaviour.

Then you woke up?

Reported for bullying"

Bullying?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Seems strange to put a post up if you're not looking for a volunteer to help out from off here.

I wouldn't be offended, I wouldn't give it another thought.

And if you replied with a god heart then fair play to you "

I explained politely that had no such intentions, that my business is reputable and untarnished and i wish it remain that way and that given her concerns they should find someone else. Good luck to them. As you say, why put a post on here if you don't want to take up the offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems strange to put a post up if you're not looking for a volunteer to help out from off here.

I wouldn't be offended, I wouldn't give it another thought.

And if you replied with a god heart then fair play to you

I explained politely that had no such intentions, that my business is reputable and untarnished and i wish it remain that way and that given her concerns they should find someone else. Good luck to them. As you say, why put a post on here if you don't want to take up the offer."

Probably so they/ he could wank about it.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"It's a difficult situation to navigate I found.

I'm the kind of person where if I could help someone and make their life a little easier I would. I once needed someone with a van to collect a washing machine for me from a couple of miles away and drop it to mine. I don't drive and couldn't afford to hire anyone to do it at the time (hence a 2nd hand washing machine and not a new one delivered from a shop)

I'd have done it for someone if it wasn't really out of my way. Well, a fella from here who I had spoken to before and knew I was in a bad place mentally (I was mid breakdown) offered. Phew thought me. I'd told him I couldn't afford to pay him but could give a fiver petrol

Anywhoooo, he got the washing machine to me and said he knew I was skint but still wanted paying so it would have to be in the form of giving him a blow job. It ended up getting quite nasty... so I can understand their trepidation"

I have no doubt P that you would help out another if possible. What that guy did is disgusting!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Similar happened to me. I’m a plumber by trade and a woman invited me round as I said I’d fix her bathroom sink. Was leaking into flat downstairs. Turns out she just wanted to suck my cock instead. I was furious. Fuck all wrong with her sink. So after I shot a load down her throat I put in some new washers anyway. Couldn’t let her away with that kinda behaviour.

Then you woke up?

Reported for bullying"

Bullying???

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Maybe there just wasn't a spark.

Boom, boom.

SHOCKING

Not wired up right "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems strange to put a post up if you're not looking for a volunteer to help out from off here.

I wouldn't be offended, I wouldn't give it another thought.

And if you replied with a god heart then fair play to you

I explained politely that had no such intentions, that my business is reputable and untarnished and i wish it remain that way and that given her concerns they should find someone else. Good luck to them. As you say, why put a post on here if you don't want to take up the offer."

I can see why you’d be pissed off to be honest.

However I think it’s unwise to mix business with pleasure especially on a site like this. If you value your business like you say it’s probably best to stick to gaining customers the traditional way.

Things get messy easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need an electrician "

I need to catch up with one we promised favours for..

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