FabSwingers.com forum: Gf challenge

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone fancy a challenge of trying to meet my gf and see if the can chat her up and seduce her.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Would this be with her consent ?

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By *kilfulfingersMan
over a year ago

ipswich

"Would this be with her consent ?"

Doesn't sound like it does it? Sounds alot like "try and trick my gf into cheating".

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No she knows nothing of it.

She is a natural flirt

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"Would this be with her consent ?

Doesn't sound like it does it? Sounds alot like "try and trick my gf into cheating".

I was just wondering if it was her titillation or his.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"No she knows nothing of it.

She is a natural flirt"

Ah, so your aim is to see if she would cross the line and engage sexually with him ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes she has met and dated guys whilst we are together but never had sex with them

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"Yes she has met and dated guys whilst we are together but never had sex with them"

Dated guys ? Were these men aware she was in a committed relationship ?

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By *arol321Woman
over a year ago

Poole

So you want to set her up with the aim of having her cheat on you. Why? So you can call her out on it? This just seems plain nasty to me.

Incidentally does she know you’re on here? Or is this a plan to make it ok when she finds out you’ve cheated on her with another guy?

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"So you want to set her up with the aim of having her cheat on you. Why? So you can call her out on it? This just seems plain nasty to me.

Incidentally does she know you’re on here? Or is this a plan to make it ok when she finds out you’ve cheated on her with another guy? "

I'm guessing he looking to draw her into having sex with other men and swinging lifestyle ?

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By *attooedsmileMan
over a year ago

dudley

"So you want to set her up with the aim of having her cheat on you. Why? So you can call her out on it? This just seems plain nasty to me.

Incidentally does she know you’re on here? Or is this a plan to make it ok when she finds out you’ve cheated on her with another guy? "

Agreed

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By *attooedsmileMan
over a year ago

dudley

"Anyone fancy a challenge of trying to meet my gf and see if the can chat her up and seduce her."

Does she like tattoos and gold teeth…. Send her my way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there even a girlfriend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do I have the image of you saying here’s my girlfriend and walking out the room only to quickly turn back round and walk straight back in putting on a squeaky voice and saying hello

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am not looking for your opinions.

I am looking for some to try my original post

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"I am not looking for your opinions.

I am looking for some to try my original post "

People were trying to gauge whether it was a safe or consensual option. From a man's view I am guessing, it could back fire. He turns up thinking sex is a possibility, she is uncomfortable with a man being what she feels is a bit pushy, slaps him, bad mouths him etc.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"I am not looking for your opinions.

I am looking for some to try my original post

He wants them to try to chat her up. He never promised they’d be successful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone fancy a challenge of trying to meet my gf and see if the can chat her up and seduce her."

OP a question, if i may?

Why? Why do you want this to happen? What's the reasoning behind it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am a type 1 diabetic and suffer with erectile issues.

When I do manage to get reasonably hard I cannot satisfy her and I see the look of disappointment in her face.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou one of the only ones that have read this correctly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a type 1 diabetic and suffer with erectile issues.

When I do manage to get reasonably hard I cannot satisfy her and I see the look of disappointment in her face.

Have you spoken to her sincerely, about your feelings and your anguish at the issue at hand? The approach youre considering, really isnt the best for either of you, my lovely. Have you actually sat with her and had thst deep and important conversation?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have spoke about my issues yes.

Unfortunately after living with her for 20 years and I know that she will never do anything like this if she thinks I know about it. Even though I have told her it's OK.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"I am a type 1 diabetic and suffer with erectile issues.

When I do manage to get reasonably hard I cannot satisfy her and I see the look of disappointment in her face.

Do you not think her finding out that you are trying to set her up unknowingly on a swingers site with a complete stranger might not cause her a lot more than disappointment and may be a complete breach of her trust as she could well see it as you pimping her out. I know if I had a partner who did this they would be kicked to the kerb faster than their feet would touch the ground.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am not pimping her our or setting her up.

I am literally telling someone where and when she will be somewhere.

Hopefully some one with some intelligence may be able to use the information.

As I have said nothing is promised or guaranteed.

For all I know she may be doing this herself already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a type 1 diabetic and suffer with erectile issues.

When I do manage to get reasonably hard I cannot satisfy her and I see the look of disappointment in her face.

This is such a great reply, OP. You need to lay everything on the table and have a conversation that is down to basics, up to the most intricate problems, lay it ALL bare, if you will? Your approach really isnt the right way. Talking it out and putting points across *both of you* are!

Have you also spoken to your GP reguarding meds and treatments etc? A lot of men out there with the same medical issue, have fulfilled and wonderful sex lives, sometimes with a little help from a prescription. I can come up with 2 people off the top of my head who have been helped by their GP (who really are sympathetic to the problems it can cause and have the help available, if its appropriate for you)

Other way is..... "there is more than 1 way to skin a dead cat"!

sex is not just about penetration, but a connection to the other person (s).

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"I am not pimping her our or setting her up.

I am literally telling someone where and when she will be somewhere.

Hopefully some one with some intelligence may be able to use the information.

As I have said nothing is promised or guaranteed.

For all I know she may be doing this herself already"

I suggest you re read your post you are trying to set her up that is exactly what you are looking to do and it sounds like you really don't have her best interests at heart at all by doing this. It is almost like you want her to go off with someone so you can throw it in her face even though you are trying to actually instigate the whole scenario without her consent .You can sugar the pill any way you want to try and justify what you are doing but the truth is it's a low thing to do to an partner especially if you actually are meant to care about them. I hope she finds out before she ends up in a situation like what you are suggesting.

I'd hope men on here would have more decency than to agree to do what you want but I fear there will always be some who will think something like this is okay and acceptable .

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

"We have spoke about my issues yes.

Unfortunately after living with her for 20 years and I know that she will never do anything like this if she thinks I know about it. Even though I have told her it's OK."
so if she would never do anything like this why the fuck would you want to put her in a situation like this and possibly a dangerous situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this a honey trap situation?

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Anyone fancy a challenge of trying to meet my gf and see if the can chat her up and seduce her."

If you click the 'Reply + quote' button on your replies, it's easier to see who you're replying to, OP.

It sounds to me, that if she wanted to cross that line of non-monogamy she would do it with your consent. Setting her up without your explicit consent is underhanded and completely different from the ENM outcomes that some couples find work for them. Have a real honest conversation - with her, and with yourself. Who do you want this for more? Then, accept her decision.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"Why do I have the image of you saying here’s my girlfriend and walking out the room only to quickly turn back round and walk straight back in putting on a squeaky voice and saying hello

Haha yes! This!

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Anyone fancy a challenge of trying to meet my gf and see if the can chat her up and seduce her."

So, you don't know about last night? She said nothing?

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

This sounds like a cuck type situation maybe? But doing it without her being aware or her consent is a massive problem.

You should really talk to her about this in person. If she’s still with you and you don’t have sex she clearly loves you without it.

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