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Fantasising when having sex

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By *Mupperlip OP   Man
over a year ago

Reading

Is it normal to think about someone else when having sex? Or imagining a more explicit scenario?

Interested to hear thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had guys telling me they were thinking of me when they were banging their birds/Mrs… now, it could be lies. I’m just reporting what they said lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had guys telling me they were thinking of me when they were banging their birds/Mrs… now, it could be lies. I’m just reporting what they said lol x "
I don't think it'll be lies xx

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent


"I’ve had guys telling me they were thinking of me when they were banging their birds/Mrs… now, it could be lies. I’m just reporting what they said lol x "

Can you blame them

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By *Mupperlip OP   Man
over a year ago

Reading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s quite normal. On many occasions Mrs P has talked to me about other guys while fucking, or even moaned their names. We find it exciting

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

I imagine other men while having sex but only about men I'm intending to have sex with at some point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only fantasise about sex cos I can’t get any at the minute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I imagine other men while having sex but only about men I'm intending to have sex with at some point "

Pretty much the same for Mrs P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's normal. Anyway who cares what is "normal".

However if I'd be told every time that someone isn't putting me at the centre of their sex interest and always has fantasies of others which don't include me, I'd not be happy long term.

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By *edonisticHandfulWoman
over a year ago

Mansfield

I suspect it depends how long you have been together in most cases. For new partners where it's all new and exciting you tend to be far more present and checked in. When you have been together a while and you know the person and the sex that's when the fantasies tend to come in I find. So yes, very normal and more normal the longer you have been with someone.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We often do it…think about a past situation or a future one and talk about how exciting it was or is. The common denominator is that we are both or the other person is still in the fantasy.

If you are needing to fantasise about someone other than your partner on a regular basis, then you are probably with the wrong person.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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If you are needing to fantasise about someone other than your partner on a regular basis, then you are probably with the wrong person.

K"

You worded it much better !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to make up naughty little scenarios and speak of them whilst massaging, teasing and building up Mrs Cheeky.

It's a great way to find her buttons, on what she'd really like to experience

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

On the rare occasion we have sex she loves it when I say imagine being fucked while I lick your pussy it’s instant orgasm but she won’t do it keep trying to get her on here with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She fantasises about other guys all time when we are using her toys

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By *Mupperlip OP   Man
over a year ago

Reading

Thanks for your opinion x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been guilty on occasion, maybe to just help getting over the finish line… so to speak

Morning!!!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Only in that I’m usually imagining the person I’m with getting his arse pounded when he’s balls deep in me.

But I keep that to myself.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland


"I like to make up naughty little scenarios and speak of them whilst massaging, teasing and building up Mrs Cheeky.

It's a great way to find her buttons, on what she'd really like to experience"

Same for us, it’s more about seeing what turns the other person in that fantasizing about others

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Sometimes we do and sometimes we don't.

I think in a more passionate session it's all about the one you're with.

When you're just having a shag it's open.

I think it's fine.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

If i started to fantasise about sex with others or she started to fantasise about sex with others, the relationship would definitely be over.

If i am nolonger enough for her or me her then there would be no point

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

I must admit that that when a particularly special lady friend of mine who was a very, very promiscuous teenage nymphomaniac tells me some of the things that she got up to, I get so turned on by the thoughts of reliving some of those scenarios that our sex then becomes mind blowing. What surprised me was that she gets the same effect, with ecstatic orgasms when she thinks about taking part in some of the things that I've told her I got up to. I always considered it an ultimate meeting of minds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do quite often think of others and I'm sure my partner does too. I personally find it normal and healthy up until a certain point.

If it's something that you do every single time because you don't really enjoy sex when focused solely on your partner that's when I think it becomes a problem and you need to explore why you're feeling that way.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"Yes I do quite often think of others and I'm sure my partner does too. I personally find it normal and healthy up until a certain point.

If it's something that you do every single time because you don't really enjoy sex when focused solely on your partner that's when I think it becomes a problem and you need to explore why you're feeling that way.

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I must be an oddball then - I enjoy sex totally and without bounds when I am totally focused on her

I would feel there is a serious problem with a relationship if the only way I could enjoy sex with my partner is to think/fantasise about someone else or something else during sex.

Maybe that's where I have been going wrong all these years, believing it was normal to have a great sexual relationship with my partner without fantasising she was someone else - go figure

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Not sure. Not something I’ve ever done. I tend to focus on the person I’m with. Otherwise I wouldn’t be having sex with them. So to me it’s not the norm no.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Not something I’ve ever done, as I’m enjoying the moment with the person I’m with. If I found my mind wandering to someone else at the time, I’d make excuses and leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We might have got a bit carried away, dirty talking about one of our beautiful forumites yesterday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We might have got a bit carried away, dirty talking about one of our beautiful forumites yesterday "

And what we’d like to do with her

Hippy

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

I can sometimes take ages to cum and have to concentrate/think of stuff that turns me on. I don't even have music on as it's too distracting.

This has always been the way, so nothing personal to my husband.

Katie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often think it’s Justin Bieber f*cking me

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"I can sometimes take ages to cum and have to concentrate/think of stuff that turns me on. I don't even have music on as it's too distracting.

This has always been the way, so nothing personal to my husband.

Katie"

I'd like to add that the scenarios I think of most often are of others joining in, so my husband is very much involved too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The husband directing the wife how to suck me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do quite often think of others and I'm sure my partner does too. I personally find it normal and healthy up until a certain point.

If it's something that you do every single time because you don't really enjoy sex when focused solely on your partner that's when I think it becomes a problem and you need to explore why you're feeling that way.

I must be an oddball then - I enjoy sex totally and without bounds when I am totally focused on her

I would feel there is a serious problem with a relationship if the only way I could enjoy sex with my partner is to think/fantasise about someone else or something else during sex.

Maybe that's where I have been going wrong all these years, believing it was normal to have a great sexual relationship with my partner without fantasising she was someone else - go figure "

I have a fantastic relationship and a great sex life even if others do cross my mind. It's all part of the fun for us and just because I think and talk about others doesn't mean I can't stand my partner.

You're not doing it wrong, but neither am I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still fantasize about having sex, never mind thinking about third parties!

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